If you’ve read the articles The Purpose of Emotions and The Emotional Scale, you’ll know that our emotions serve as a feedback system, letting us know how close or far away we are from Who We Really Are. The closer we are, the better we feel. The further away we are, the worse we feel. Negative emotions are an indicator of vibrational discord. But what exactly do I mean by vibrational discord, and how does that translate into real world examples of how we manifest our reality?

Basically, vibrational discord occurs when you are offering two different frequencies on the same subject. Your vibration on a subject disagrees with the vibration of Who You Really Are (Capital YOU). Your inner being, the pure energy YOU, who you really are at your core, is always emitting a pure, positive, high vibration of love. This YOU looks at every person, being and situation (including yourself), with this love. This YOU is absolutely secure, and knows without a doubt that you can have anything you want. Any thought the physical you (little you) has that doesn’t match this high vibration, will cause vibrational discord, and therefore, negative emotions.

Example 1:

You see a bum on the street. He’s drunk and he’s raving. You look at him and have a variety of thoughts. “Why does there have to be so much poverty in the world?”, “Why are people like this allowed to run around drunk? Someone should do something!”, “I really hope he doesn’t come over here and bother me. He could even hurt me!”, or “I really wish there’s something I could do for people like him. I feel so sorry for him.” Meanwhile, YOU – Who You Really Are – is looking at the bum with infinite love and compassion. This YOU never feels sorry for people, because to do so is to declare them weaker and less powerful than you. Who You Really Are knows that’s not true. This YOU are never scared because it ultimately knows you are always safe. Who You Really Are never feels helpless because it knows just how powerful you really are. Who You Really Are sees that bum as perfect, as whole, as a being in pain, reaching for relief. He is not broken, he is doing the most natural thing in the world – trying to feel better. And Who You Really Are also knows that only from this perspective, can you actually do something to help this person.

Any thought you have that doesn’t agree with the perspective of Who You Really Are, is going to feel bad. Some negative feelings are subtle, some much more intense. But you’ll never feel true joy while disagreeing with your pure, positive, energy self.

Example 2:

You really want a new car. You keep thinking “I want a new car”, but what you’re really giving of vibrationally is “I can’t have a new car. New cars are expensive and I can’t afford it. It’s impossible for me to have a new car.” Meanwhile, YOU know absolutely without a doubt that you can create a new car anytime you want. No sweat. That’s the vibration YOU’RE giving off. The fact that you don’t agree with YOU creates vibrational discord. It feels horrible to want something that you don’t think you can have – because YOU know that you can have it. Your disagreement with what YOU know, with the vibration that YOU are putting out, causes the negative vibration.

Now, Who You Really Are doesn’t care about the car. It just wants you to be happy and it knows what you really want (for example if you don’t really want the car, you’re just hoping it’ll make you more attractive to the opposite sex, and so what you really want is to be loved, YOU will know it). But when you focus your thoughts on that car, YOU and you are both going to send out a vibration on that subject and if vibrational discord exists, you will feel it. Since Who You Really Are always knows what you really want, it makes perfect sense to align your vibration with YOUR’S, in order to manifest all the stuff you want. In other words, it makes sense to actively work on feeling better.

The sum of all of your vibrations constitutes your Core Vibration. This is the basic frequency at which you (notice: little you) are vibrating. The distance of this Core Vibration to Who You Really Are will create your basic emotional state. You can feel better about one subject than another, but if you have a lot of vibrational discord, you’re going to be feeling much worse in general than if you have very little discord.

The emotion you feel on a subject is determined by the distance of your vibration on that subject in relation to the vibration of Who You Really Are. But the intensity of that emotion is determined by the distance of your vibration on that subject in relation to your Core Vibration. Yes, I know this sounds confusing, so let me illustrate. 

If your Core Vibration is one of feeling pretty frustrated, and you think of something that causes you to be angry, that anger isn’t going to be all that painful to you. Anger and frustration aren’t that close apart. You’re probably angry about a lot of things and you’ve kind of gotten used to it – desensitized, if you will.

But, if your Core Vibration is one of joy and hopefulness, and you think of something that makes you angry, that anger is going to be quite painful. Anger and joy are incredibly far apart on the emotional scale. In order for your Core Vibration to be one of joy, you have to have very few angry thoughts; you’re not used to them, and they will feel much worse to you than someone with a lower Core Vibration.

This is why you can raise your vibration and feel better overall, but feel worse about a subject that didn’t bother you as much before you began deliberately working with your emotions.

A lot of people who get into this work, for example, experience their problems getting bigger once they begin meditating and focusing on better feeling thoughts. Often they decide that it was their work with the Law of Attraction that made their issues worse and they want to abandon that path.

Their problems aren’t actually getting bigger, however. They have simply raised their Core Vibration, which causes lower frequencies which are still around to feel worse than they did before. They simply notice those lower frequencies more. It’s like if you have a headache and you smash your thumb with a hammer. The headache barely bothers you because your thumb is really throbbing. A doctor fixes your thumb and it stops hurting. But once the pain is gone, you begin to notice the headache more. Sure, you could decide to blame the doctor for the headache. After all, if he hadn’t fixed your thumb, you wouldn’t have ever felt the pain in your head. Or, you could realize that the headache was always there, be happy that your thumb is better and get to work on fixing the ache that’s left.

So, pay attention to how you feel, both overall and on any given subject. If you’re feeling anything less than joyful and secure, you’re not agreeing with Who You Really Are. Not only is feeling good a worthy reward in and of itself, but you’ll also get so much closer to manifesting what you really want.

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  • I am just getting more crazy about you the more I read!! I’ve decided to read each blog of yours that resonates with me from beginning to end. My theory being: a blog a day will keep the negative thoughts away!!
    I had recently raised my vibration quite a bit over the past 2 months, but then not so great things started to happen financially and I was getting frustrated. I started my blog-a-day theory last night. And in the past 24 hours I manifested all the money I needed to put me back on the LOA wagon. And mind you it’s not so much having $$$ as it is KNOWING I can manifest it and be on that vibrational peak!
    But reading your blogs helps me find that vibration happy shinny puppy feeling! That space I need to be in and THIS one in particular really explained all those (crappy) emotions I was feeling after I felt I had come so far! So thank you, thank you, thank you!!!

  • Awesome, as usual. I was just thinking about why the same thoughts or situations will feel worse to different people or even the same person at different times in their lives. I was trying to make sense of the example that Abraham gave of Esther falling to her knees when she saw some people suffering through a terrible experience and Abraham told her that those people weren’t feeling as badly about it as she was. I couldn’t understand why, since our emotions are feedback on the vibrational difference between you and YOU, those people’s perspective made a difference. Wouldn’t the the thought be just as far away from those people’s Inner Being’s thoughts on the subject as it was from Esther’s? But your explanation makes perfect sense.
    This article clicked everything into place. And gave me more to think about. ๐Ÿ™‚
    Thank you!

  • Oh and there’s one other thing I forgot to include…(sorry)…

    What about the continuous act of getting distracted? Is that a sign of resistance? I get interested in something (I touched on it above but didn’t elaborate), and then get distracted from something else that seems to fit better as a first step. “Oh I should do that first then come back to that other thing. Or it’s just simply just another shiny object that has temporarily caught my attention.

    A really good example is in the subject of self development. I read one book and start to do the exercises then come across another program, start that one or maybe I don’t even start. It sits on my hard drive and I never look at it again and I do it again with yet another thing that has a great sales page but then get discouraged after the first chapter or after trying the meditation once. This is majorly frustrating. What is that all about? Because after a while, it’s so overwhelming to have all these products and projects planned to do, but everything just sits and gathers dust, because all overwhelm gets me is paralyzed.

    • Partially, it’s a sign of resistance and partially it’s a sign of split focus. But it still comes down to you focusing WAY too much on the action. You’re not jumping from desire to desire, you’re jumping from action to action – the action that you think you have to take in order to get what you want. And what you want isn’t a blog, it’s to be financially stable while doing something that you’re passionate about. You want to feel fulfilled. You want to feel good. Like you’re making a difference. Something you’re good at.

      Focus on that and don’t take action on anything until you literally can’t stop yourself. That kind of passion doesn’t dissipate after a few days. ๐Ÿ™‚


  • This helps me make sense of quite a few things in life. I must say I got here through a few other links and reading your articles, is very enlightening. I got an aha moment from the grief article and how we reach to feel good. Something from my personal life now makes more sense than ever, so thank you for that. But there was a feeling of discomfort from the neediness part of it too.

    Reading certain things can serve to makes me feel better, but unfortunately, most of the time it hits the intellectual part of me and doesn’t last. I revert back to grieving or not feeling great simply because the person I am “needing” isn’t here or I am not doing something I enjoy.

    Knowing that part of the vibrational discord in my last relationship was in part due to my so called neediness is what created some serious discomfort and I felt I needed to analyze myself into feeling better about it. Of course there was much more to it and I understand those things too. But sometimes it feels so complicated and resistance kicks in. I also feel ashamed since I know hanging on was not healthy for either one of us and letting go would be scary, well because he’d just go and be with someone else and I don’t want that. But what’s the big deal of that if I don’t ‘really’ want him and know very well that we are not a good match?

    That also brings me to another question of letting go…How? How does one really let go so that she can feel good again? Is it that I have to stop thinking about whatever it is I want to let go of? I just don’t know how to do that while still caring that the situation didn’t work out, etc.

    And then how do I go about raising my vibe? Right now I’m in a place of no job nor am I feeling much purpose. How do I get to a point where I can know what that purpose is? There is too much conscious mind wrapped up in this dilemma. I don’t know what it is I truly want, except a high level income so I can be secure and not worry about things that depend on finances. But doing something for the sake of income?

    That’s not what I want either. The vehicle in which I accomplish that matters. I have sporadic feelings of passion but they don’t last. I’ve started a few blogs in the realm of pet information. I was a pet sitter and I liked it at times and other times I hated it. But I love animals, but taking care of others pets is exhausting full time. I start blogs and I get an article or two out there and then I lose motivation and feel absolutely no inspiration. And I stop writing and feel absolutely no pull to do so again. It’s happening again and I don’t feel like doing anything, except reading email and this blog. ๐Ÿ™‚

    I am in need (and yes there’s that word again) of an income but feel no inspiration to go out and get a j.o.b. But there are bills to pay and responsibilities to take care of. Do I simply bite the bullet and go out and get a position at a local convenience store so that I can have a paycheck until I can “figure out” what it is I am on this planet to do?

    Ugh…tired of being stuck. I am now on my way to read more here. I just love your brand of humor.

    • Hi Laura,

      The main issue in your question is this: You are trying to take action WAY too soon. You keep looking for action to take that will bring you the results you want. But that’s the heard way to go about it. If you spend a little more time focusing on feeling good first, just for the sake of feeling good, the right ideas and passion will come to you. Ideas are manifestations, too.

      If you’re worried about money, and getting some kind of meaningless job would help you feel better and more secure so that it would be easier for you to do this energy work, then by all means do that. You know that it’s just temporary and just to relieve the pressure for now so that it’s easier for you to get into a good feeling place, where the real beef is. ๐Ÿ™‚

      How do you let go of someone? First and foremost, you cannot let go as long as you keep focusing on “What went wrong”. My advice would be to go and distract yourself with a different subject for a while, something that makes you feel good but doesn’t trigger the boyfriend issue. When you feel better, you can clean up those beliefs. You’ll have access to much better feeling thoughts. The short answer is, you let go by shifting your perspective and by focusing on thoughts that feel good. You are only holding on to this man because you think that if you got him back you’d feel good. That’s a false belief, too, since this man wasn’t all that nice to you. So, you’ve associated a fantasy with him and THAT’s what you’re longing for.
      You can have what that fantasy would provide – you can feel good and you don’t need your ex to do that (nor would it actually help).
      Focus on thoughts that allow you to feel better – not good (that’s too far of a reach right at first), just better. Focus on relief.

      So, if getting a quick job feels better to you than not having a job, do that. It’s not the end goal, but it will feel better NOW. If thinking of your ex as an a-hole whose face you’d love to punch in feels better than wondering what’s wrong with you, then do that. From there, you’ll be able to access the next better feeling thought. Perhaps you’ll realize that his behavior had less to do with you and more to do with how he felt about himself. These still aren’t happy thoughts, they’re just BETTER thoughts. Work your way up incrementally and you’ll get there much faster than you think you can. ๐Ÿ™‚

      Huge hugs!

  • Hey Awesome Melody,

    This one is again which speaks about basic math about LOA. Felt like I am very genius in LOA after reading it ๐Ÿ˜‰

    You are Super LOA women!

    Huge Hugs & Love,

  • Wow Melody! This article is so clear! Thank you. I knew that with raising vibrations, bad stuff “comes out.” Your explanation of a greater discord on specific issues makes so much sense, and will really help me deal with negative emotions when they come up.

    I also especially like your example of the homeless man. “Help” to me implies a power imbalance. Who can say what will actually help? But unconditional gifting, even a smile or a hello, from an attitude of respect and acknowledgement of soul — yes! Now to go back and read the link…

    Huge thanks and appreciation! And hugs,

    Mary Carol

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