I had an interesting experience last night that caused me to take a look at my money vibration. More to the point, I had to make a decision whether or not to spend a rather large amount of money (large enough to make me uncomfortable) on something that I thought I needed. This dilemma led me to remember a valuable lesson that I thought I’d share with you in today’s blog post. Specifically: How do you go shopping and spend money with an attitude of “I can have anything I want”, when your bank account isn’t unlimited?
When we go to clean up our money vibration, we try to work ourselves into a state where we feel the same way that we would if we had as much money as we’d like. I worded that sentence very carefully for a reason. The distinction is important: The goal is not to delude yourself into actually thinking that you’re a millionaire. It’s to be able to think about money and have the same emotional response as you would if you had unlimited funds. The first one might cause you to spend money that you don’t have, while the second is workable on any budget. It’s the emotional response that counts.
For example, I was out shopping for a new winter coat last year and wanted an ankle length, tailored camel hair coat. This proved to be a bit of a challenge, since this particular style isn’t very popular in Europe, where I live. But I didn’t give up (I have LOA on my side, after all…) The Universe delivered the perfect coat to me. It was in the window of Max Mara, and it was gorgeous. It also cost €3000. Did I buy the coat? Nope. But I didn’t feel badly about it. First, I saw it as an indicator that the perfect coat was on its way. The Universe was simply saying “Something like this one?” Second, I could totally see myself spending €3000 or even more on a coat. I’m not doing that right now, but that’s because I choose not to. Sure, when I look at the sacrifices I’d have to make to buy that coat, it would be easy to say “I can’t afford it.” But I don’t. I know that I could buy it, but I choose not to at this moment. This, again, is an important distinction to make in your own mind.
So, I appreciated the beautiful coat, told the Universe “Yes, one like that, only under €300 please”, and continued to shop happily, instead of feeling down about how I couldn’t afford the perfect coat I’d found. Incidentally, I found a really beautiful camel hair coat the very next day. It was the last one and on sale and an absolute bargain. Score!
The point is that if I had a million dollars (or Euros, even better!), I wouldn’t have felt badly about seeing that coat in that window. I might’ve gone in and bought it, or I might’ve chosen not to for some other reason. But I wouldn’t have had a negative emotional response to the idea of paying €3000 for a coat. So the fact that I didn’t, the fact that I felt good about the coat, was an indication of where my money vibration is. That realization made me dance all the way home.
Back to my dilemma from last night. I was interested in getting some training that would help me with my business. I found a great course that promised to be everything I was looking for. Only the cost was a lot higher than I was comfortable with. I hemmed and hawed about it for a bit (it’s always so much harder for me to see this stuff clearly when it comes to myself), and then decided to meditate on it, which brought some clarity. I wasn’t comfortable with the price. I didn’t feel the “Hell yes!” response that I always do when I’m really aligned with something. I was contemplating paying for this training because I thought I needed it. There was even some underlying fear there (if I don’t get the proper training, I might not succeed). There was no joy, no passion. This was not inspired action. So, I let it go.
If that particular course had really been right for me, if it had been in alignment with what I really want and who I really am, it would’ve come in a way that I felt fantastic about. It would’ve resonated with me, it would’ve felt right. And I would’ve been comfortable with the price. I didn’t buy the €3000 coat. I didn’t have to, just to prove to myself that my money vibration was ok. I just had to NOT feel badly about the money. And then I found a beautiful coat, that I immediately loved, for a price even lower than I had expected. I didn’t buy the training. I don’t have to spend more money on training than I’m comfortable with, just to prove to myself that my money vibration is ok. I just have to NOT feel badly about it and see it as an indication that the information I’m looking for is out there, and about to show up in a form that will be right for me.
You see, when you see an item that you want, with a price tag that’s too high for you and you feel badly about it, you’re feeling negative emotion because you just had the thought “I can’t have that.” And your inner being, who you really are, disagrees. So, you have to find a way to change that thought so that you can feel good about the item and the fact that you’re not buying it. You CAN have that. You can have anything you want. You’re just choosing not to purchase this particular item at this particular time. You’re choosing to see it as the Universe asking “Like this one? Is this one ok? Something similar? Anything you’d like us to change on the order before we deliver it?” (because that is generally exactly what it is), and a chance to give the Universe some feedback. You’re choosing to stay positive, to continue to feel good, and to stay open so that your real delivery can take place.
And as you shop, and you see things that you like, you appreciate them. You don’t think about how you can’t have this and can’t have that, you think about how that couch would look great in your living room, or if that watch goes with your wardrobe. You admire and appreciate beautiful things, just as you would if you had gobs of money. And shopping, even just window shopping, becomes fun. That’s how you shop like a law of attraction pro.
Oh, and incidentally, I found the exact training I was looking for, online this morning. For free. Hell yes! 🙂