In response to the post Stop Blaming the Parents, which explains that children have just as much creative power as adults do, I received the following excellent question:

If we choose our parents and create our own lives, how can it be that so many people choose to be born in [third world] countries facing hunger and an early death? Or baby’s being raped?

Disclaimer: While I won’t shy away from addressing “darker” subjects such as this, I do want to point out that as always, I’m giving you my view, my understanding and my truth. You’re free to take it if it helps you or leave it if it doesn’t. So, if you disagree, there’s no reason to get upset, k? Consider yourself disclaimered. 🙂

Why do we need the bad stuff at all?

In order to answer this question, it’ll be helpful if I explain why the “bad” stuff exists at all. From an energetic point of view, there is no “good” or “bad”. There is just wanted and unwanted. The Universe (and who we really are, at a pure energetic level) does not judge or assign value to anything. Everything is valuable in one way or another.

When we see something that we want, even if it’s just for a second, it’s immediately and automatically created energetically. And whenever something new is created, the Universe expands. When we see something we don’t want, our inner being, who we really are, knows what we do want (the opposite of what we don’t want), and once again, it’s created immediately and automatically. The Universe (which is a collection of all the energy, including all of us) expands. So, the Universe expands and benefits no matter what we experience. We, as a whole, benefit from both the wanted and the unwanted.

So, why do we need the unwanted stuff? Why can’t we just have the wanted? Because often it’s impossible for us to know what we do want without first experiencing and eliminating what we don’t want. For example, if you were born rich, and never knew what it is to be poor, you can’t really appreciate what it is to be rich. You need something to compare it to. You need its opposite, poverty, to give you perspective. So, poverty in and of itself, isn’t bad. It’s there to spark the desire to be rich, and to help us to truly appreciate it. The unwanted also helps us to define what we want. If you’re going to buy a new car, you’re going to want to test drive a bunch of them. How do you know which one you like, without eliminating the ones you don’t? And how do you know which cars you don’t like without first testing them out?

When you see something you don’t want, it breeds a desire for what you do want, and the more you dislike what you see, the more intense that desire becomes. The more intense your desire, the bigger your creation (you’re adding more energy to it). So being a little bit broke will make you want a bit more money, while being really, really poor will really, really make you want more money.

We’re not supposed to get stuck in the bad stuff

Now, we have the choice to focus on what we want and bring that into our reality, or to focus on what we don’t want and bring that into our reality, and we have a mechanism to tell the difference. Focusing on wanted stuff feels good (positive emotion) and focusing on unwanted stuff feels bad (negative emotion). It’s a perfect system, since, theoretically, no one would ever choose to feel bad, right? We’re built to always strive for a better feeling, to find our way up the emotional scale and find a better feeling thought.

And if we all did that, as we’re designed to do, there would be much less suffering in the world. The only problem is that we’ve convinced ourselves that suffering is somehow virtuous and that we must, at all costs, “face reality”, no matter how painful it is. And then we teach the new little humans that come in that our opinion is more important than their own, so that they can join us in our misery. Basically, we’d all be a lot happier if no one had taught us not to listen to our internal guidance system. Left to our own devices, we will always reach for and work our way up to joy.

The danger of prolonged powerlessness

Now, we’re not supposed to get stuck in the bad stuff, but because of the beliefs we’ve adopted, many of us do. And when someone gets stuck in powerlessness, the worst of all emotions, they will do anything, ANYTHING, to feel better. And prolonged powerlessness can lead to truly monstrous behavior. You’ll grab onto anything, even cruelly hurting others, because power over another feels better than no power at all. This is what causes all the terrible actions in the world. In every case, no exceptions, the perpetrator wants to regain some of their power and does so, the only way they know how to. And the victim, in their own suffering, powerlessness and low vibration, is a match to the incident. Every time.

The process of creating and receiving

We create our reality by focusing on what we want and don’t want. Everything we’ve ever wanted, including the opposite of what we didn’t want, has been created and is waiting for us to receive it. We receive our reality by lining up with its energy. We can receive stuff we like and stuff we don’t like, there’s no judgment and no quality control. You get what you line up with, period. How do you know what you’re lining up with? Well, you can just look around you. Your reality will show you what kind of energy you’re putting out there. But you can also use your early warning system to tell you what you’re about to receive – and those are your emotions again. If you’re feeling positive emotions, you’re lining up with something you want (the feeling of joy is when you’re lining up with your greatest desires). If you’re feeling negative emotions, you’re lining up with something you don’t want. Again, this works beautifully as long as we aren’t willing to feel bad.

It starts before we’re born

The creative process, the creation of our reality, begins before we’re even born. When we’re in the non-physical, we send forth some energy, some intentions that kick off the process of our lives. We do choose our parents, but not in the sense that we pick the actual people and details of our birth or the exact circumstances that we want to grow up in. We choose it all vibrationally and generally. When we look at our future lives from a purely energetic level (which we do form our non-physical point of view), we do not judge any experiences as good or bad. There is just what we want, and that which helps us to define what we want, both of which cause the Universe to expand.

So, let’s say that you’re an ambitious little bugger, floating around in the non-physical, and you want to experience and create as much as possible in the physical. You want to add as much as you can to the expansion of the Universe, and generate huge creations so you have the potential to experience as much joy as you can. You’d want to create an environment that breeds powerful desires, so that lining up with them would give you intense joy. And the best chance of doing that is to surround yourself with stuff you really, really don’t want, which would cause you to define and intensely desire what you do want, generating enormous creations. And the joy of aligning with such creations would rock the whole Universe.

From the non-physical, we trust completely in our guidance system. We know that our emotions will guide us towards aligning with what we want and that our inner being will continue to call us onward and upward. All we have to do is listen.

I realize that someone might read this and conclude that I’m saying that child abuse and starvation could be a good thing. I’m not saying that. I’m saying from an energetic point of view, it’s not good or bad, it just is. And only by truly accepting that can we begin to shift to a world where such extremes are no longer necessary (or at least won’t last very long.) Let me explain:

The First World view:

Let’s say that I was born into an abusive home (I wasn’t), with drug addled relatives, guns and beatings galore. This enormous quantity of unwanted stuff would have caused me to create an enormous quantity of wanted stuff, which I could align with anytime.

But I was born into a world where the belief that suffering is good is still very, very present, and was taught not to follow my guidance system, but look for external validation instead. So, when someone in my presence told me that I was a good girl, that I was worthy, I’d feel good. And when they weren’t happy with me, I learned not to be happy, either. I learned that how I felt was dependent on other people’s opinions of me, and stopped trusting my emotions to guide me.

So, what could have been a relatively short period of “unwanted”, leading to an aligning with and receiving of a huge pile of “wanted”, turned into a life-long misery where I continue to face my “reality” and can’t let go of the trauma of my past.

Now, I have two choices: I can keep looking at my past and present situation and blame the world, God, my parents, fate, or whatever, and continue to stay stuck in my current reality, or I can decide to finally begin to feel better and move out of it, the way I’d always intended.

By pushing against my past, the government, society and all people who are like me (poor, addicted to drugs, etc.), I continue to stay stuck in that vibration and nothing will change. But if I can find a way out of this situation, if I can feel better and begin to receive some of the amazing creations that are waiting for me, not only will my own reality change drastically, but I’ll be in a position to show others, who haven’t yet realized their own power, how to do it.

And as I, and others like me, wake up and realize our own power and that our guidance system is the only thing we ever need to listen to, we can begin to teach others and stop screwing up the new little humans. This is how we can change the world.

The Third World view:

But what about the third world? Am I saying that those people could snap their fingers and become millionaires?

Not likely, no, although it is theoretically possible (the kid Madonna adopted, for example). Different vibrations exist in different parts of the world. A soul who chooses to be born into an environment of heavy vibrations, in other words, into a huge pile of unwanted, for example, may end up in a war zone, because that’s the reality that matches its vibrational intentions.

Now, the mere fact that these souls have incarnated into an environment that breeds such huge desires and therefore such huge expansion, benefits the whole. But these individuals did not come here to suffer on our behalf. They have set themselves up with more challenges to overcome (for the purpose of producing bigger desires, creations and expansion), but they always intended to find joy. Our awareness of and insistent focus on their suffering doesn’t help – it only adds to the energy of their suffering, making it even harder for them to hear their guidance system.

But as we wake up, as we raise the vibration of the whole planet, and as we focus on solutions instead of pushing against the problem, the vibration of those locations will be raised as well. This will make it easier for people in the third world (and the first world) to find their own power and to begin to receive more of their wanted manifestations.

We can already see this happening. Such strong desire has been building over decades or even longer, and as it’s gathered more and more energy, the call of that energy, the call of each person’s inner being, has gotten louder, until it finally cannot be drowned out by the misguided opinions of others anymore. That’s when you see revolutions, mostly bloody in the past, put increasingly peaceful (due to higher and higher vibrations). Just look at what happened in Egypt. Women in the Middle East and Asia are becoming more and more empowered. The “little people” are no longer willing to be under someone’s thumb. And they’re fighting back. They’re rising up. They’re taking over. You can find examples everywhere.

It’s all good

On an energetic level, everything is happening perfectly. The global vibration is always rising, and each individual has their own guidance system and the ability to create their reality in every moment. The potential for each of us to rise up to any height we want is there. Nothing is broken. We’ve gotten a bit of misinformation, but this can be cleared up. And it’s about time we did so.

Should we help the third world?

So, if everything is going so perfectly, does that mean that we have no obligation to help those who are less fortunate? Well, actually no, we don’t. Motivating people to help by making them feel guilty about being more fortunate is misguided to say the least. You can’t get poor enough to make the third world richer. And helping people out of a sense of obligation, will not align you with the energy of those who are ready for your help. If you’ve ever heard of a charity with good intentions but which doesn’t seem to actually be improving anything, you’ve seen evidence of this misalignment.

Helping others because you want to instead of because you think you have to, and following your intuition so that you’re aligned with those who are ready for it, will make a huge impact, however. We can certainly assist those in the third world (or anywhere) who are an energetic match to it (notice how that takes our judgment of who “needs” our help or who is “worthy” of it, out of the equation). But in order to do so, we have to find a high vibration ourselves first, focus on the solution and use our intuition. Our help must come from a place of seeing their power, instead of seeing them as less fortunate or less able. True help empowers the other to help themselves. Teach a man to fish, and all that…

So, there you have it. What do you think? Has this explanation helped you in any way? Do you agree or disagree? Let me know in the comments.

Learn more:

About the rising Global Vibration: There is no Destiny, only Evolution

About helping others:

Why Having Empathy is the Last Way to Help Someone

Helping Those Who Don’t Want To Be Helped