In this Law of Attraction work, we talk a lot about how to manifest our reality, how to release beliefs, and which techniques are the best for raising our vibration. I get questions every day from people wanting to find a lover, earn more money, lose weight, or win the lottery. They all ask me “What should I do?” And while I provide long (very long) and detailed answers to all of these questions, explaining the mechanics of how the Law of Attraction works and how or why each technique will bring about results (or not), they all boil down to pretty much the same thing: Find a way to feel better and the solutions and answers will come.

But this answer isn’t satisfying. “What do you mean, find a way to feel better!? That’s exactly what I’m trying to do! If I get a boyfriend, I’ll feel better.” But there’s a huge fallacy in that statement. It’s not our fault. We’ve been taught to look at our world and react to it. Our physical reality, other people and circumstances all determine how we feel. So, obviously, we have to change the circumstances in order to change the way we feel. Everybody knows that! And sure, it’s hard, it takes tremendous effort to make even the smallest of changes, but hard work is a virtue. And so is suffering, apparently. And so what if we may never get what we want? So what if, in our perpetual unhappiness, we keep chasing a carrot that we may never catch? That doesn’t mean that we should question whether or not there might be a huge flaw in our thinking. Does it? Damn right it does.

The truth is, we’ve been going about things the hard way. Yes, yes, we’ve always been doing it this way, but if that were a reason to continue on, we’d still have slavery, women wouldn’t be able to vote and we’d all be communicating via smoke signals. It’s called progress. And it’s time we moved on.

Let me tell you a little story

It’s a beautiful morning and you’re walking along a road. The weather is beautiful, there are butterflies and rainbows and you’re just strolling along, feeling great. Then you meet some other people. They have all of these rocks that they’re carrying with them. They have some pretty convincing arguments as to why you should carry those rocks, too, and so you decide to pick some up and put them in your pockets. As you walk along the road, you see more rocks. Some rocks can’t be carried alone; they come in groups. But the people you’re meeting are so convincing and you don’t want to be left out, so you keep picking them up.

The longer you’re on the road, the more rocks you pick up. Walking is becoming harder. The weight of the rocks is slowing you down. It takes a lot more effort to take a step. “What do I do?” you ask. And the people around you tell you to “Just work harder.” They tell you that suffering is virtuous and that this is just the way it is. They invent all kinds of contraptions to help them carry more rocks. And so, you not only keep the rocks you have, but you keep picking up more.

And then you get to a hill. Rumor has it that if you reach the top of that hill, you won’t have to carry the rocks anymore.  You get to just run around all day, free, light and happy. And so, you decide that you’re going to figure out how to get up that hill. You speak with engineers. There must be a device which will allow you to carry your rocks up the hillside. You try design after design, but noting works. You try to get others to help you with your rocks, but their own pockets are already full, so they can’t really help you.

At the end of the day, you sit down, exhausted and spent, and you cry out to the hill: “All I ever wanted was to run free and be happy. Why did they make it so hard to get up that hill?” And when you fall asleep, your rocks fall out of your pockets, waiting for the next idiot to come along and pick them up.

The moral of the story

I’m sure you’ve figured out by now that this story is a metaphor for life. We’re born, all light and free, and then we’re trained into believing that things are a certain way. Life is supposed to be hard. The only way to get anything done is to put your nose to the grindstone. Feeling good is something you do after the real work has been done. The limiting beliefs we carry around with us are our rocks.

We run through life, looking for a way to be happy. We’ve come to believe that if we just find the perfect wife or husband, drive the perfect car, discover the perfect career, get on the perfect path, then happiness shall be ours. When all we ever had to do was to drop the freaking rocks.

Your natural, default vibration is one of joy

This is where you belong and where you’ll naturally go if you allow it. There is nothing you actually have to do to raise your vibration. All you really have to do is stop doing the things you’re doing that are keeping that vibration down. All you have to do is drop the rocks.

Being happy isn’t hard

We’ve just convinced ourselves that it is. But when we release the beliefs that hold us back, when we figure out that happiness doesn’t come from attaining stuff, we can finally see clearly: All we have to do is relax, let go and allow ourselves to be happy. It’s our natural state. If we drop the rocks, we’ll be free.

Choose to be happy. Choose to feel good. There is no obligation to work as hard as you can. There is no Universal directive for suffering. We made all of that up. But those beliefs don’t serve us anymore. Perhaps they did at one time. Perhaps, there was a time, when those beliefs represented progress. But not anymore. It’s time to move on. It’s time to evolve. Can’t you hear it? That little voice that keeps niggling at you: “You’re supposed to be happy. It doesn’t have to be this hard. Life is supposed to be fun.” And even though your rocks have been with you for a long time, aren’t you tired of carrying around all that weight? Aren’t you tired of struggling to move forward, to make any progress, of chasing stuff? Aren’t you just tired?

Drop the rocks

Because here’s the dirty little secret: Once you do, you’ll get everything you’ve ever wanted. When you find happiness, all the things which you’ve associated with happiness show up. These things aren’t the key to opening the door to joy, but they do live in the same room. So go for happiness. Go for joy. Go for easy and simple and light. That’s all you’ve ever really wanted anyway.

So, which rock are you going to drop first?