This is Part 2 of the series on “Indigo Children”. In Part 1, I explain what Indigo children are and how they came about. If you haven’t read that post, I highly suggest you do so first. Otherwise, you might get a bit confused. Here’s a test: There’s no such thing as Indigo children. True or False? If you said false, you’re clearly confused. See? I did warn you. For the rest of you who actually did your homework, and providing you’re willing to listen to parenting advice from someone who has no kids (but who does understand the energy behind all this), let me present Part deux: Tadaaaaaaaa!
Parenting and education need to change
Today’s kids need to be parented and educated differently. Of course, that statement would have been just as relevant 50 or 100 years ago. Every generation needed to be parented and educated a little differently than the last. But again, the gap is getting wider, so the differences are getting more glaring. And because not all children have the same vibration, some children (these would be the “Indigo Children”) will demand those changes a little more fervently than others.
Chances are very good that if you’re the parent of an “indigo child”, nothing I’m about to say will surprise you. You’ll have figured it all out already, and you’ll be nodding your head while you read. That’s because you don’t just get assigned a child in some big, random lottery. You and your child are a perfect vibrational match to each other. That means, that you are the perfect parent for that child (just as your parents were perfect for you), and you’re both a match to what you and your child each intended before you even got here. Even though you may not always know what to do, you have the ability to figure it out and your child will teach you. Some lessons are easier to learn than others, but it’ll take a lot to make your kid give up (a lot more than it took for you to give up). This is why every generation of parents will treat their kids just a little differently than the one before. You’re probably a little more lenient than your parents were. A little more respectful. A little more understanding. A little more open to trying new things. You are parenting in a higher vibration than your parents did.
But while parents are usually more willing to adjust their style, the educational system is lagging woefully behind. The current system is based on an antiquated paradigm, born out of an old, now completely obsolete vibration, and it simply no longer works. The idea that children must be trained, controlled and formed into predetermined shapes, was great for the industrial age, but it just no longer applies. Today’s kids are demanding to be treated differently, and while you can certainly shut that down for a time with medication, it will not last. When the majority of the kids in the classroom have to be medicated in order to fit the system, isn’t it better to change the freaking system?
But enough with the theory. Let’s get into the nitty-gritty, shall we? How do you actually deal with these kids today?
They all have attention deficit
So did you before it was trained out of you. A lot of today’s kids don’t have an attention deficit disorder. They are simply unwilling to focus on something they don’t give a crap about. Where older generations were willing to be trained into memorizing seemingly useless facts to please their parents and teachers, these kids aren’t willing to learn or even pay attention to anything that isn’t relevant to them. “Why do I have to learn this?” can’t be answered with “Because I said so”, or “Because it’ll be relevant someday”. It has to be relevant NOW. It has to make sense NOW. And think about it: Don’t you also learn best when you truly care about the subject? No kid wants to study physics, learn formulas and equations. But if that same kid wants to build a skateboard ramp, he will learn the physics he needs in order to do that easily. Whenever I speak with a parent whose child has been diagnosed with ADD or ADHD, I always ask them if their child has the ability to focus if it cares about something. And the answer so far has always been “Yes, of course! And how! You can’t get him off the subject.” There you go. Everyone has attention deficit. These little bastards are just a lot more stubborn about it. Good for them.
[Note: There are a small number of kids who actually do have an inability to focus and medication can be useful for them, but they are BY FAR in the minority.]
They demand a real explanation that makes sense
When a child today asks “Why”, you can’t just fob them off with some wishy-washy answer. You need to explain things to them, and that explanation had better make sense. Kids have always been curious, of course, but these kids dissect everything until they really get it. I know this phenomenon well, I was the same way and it nearly killed my teachers. The problem is that it forces you, the adult, to actually think about your rules. When you set a bed time, you’d better have a good reason for why you picked that time. And the fact that it was your bedtime when you were that age isn’t good enough. But if you explain to the child that they have to go to bed at that time to get enough sleep, and then point out how tired they are when the bedtime was missed (proof!), they will have an easier time wrapping their heads around it. Of course, if your child doesn’t actually need 9 hours of sleep and feels just fine with 7, you’ll most likely be fighting a losing battle. Again, it has to make sense.
They demand R-E-S-P-E-C-T
I’ve heard parents say things like, “I don’t owe my child an explanation” or “I don’t have to justify my decisions. I’m the parent.” Yeah… that’s not going to fly anymore. Think about it. How do you feel when your boss says something like that to you? Even if you disagree with a decision, you can accept it much more easily if the thought process behind it makes sense to you. Kids today will REBEL against what they perceive to be injustice. And because they understand their own power so much more than any generation before them, they will not accept being treated as lesser members of society or the family. Yes, they are children and no, they don’t know everything. You don’t have to turn your home into a democracy. You can still be the parent, just as your boss at work is still your boss. But that doesn’t mean that you have to treat children as the proletariat, or like little idiots. These kids have a need to understand things, how everything works, and how you think. Why do you make the decisions you make? What is your thought process? And, as stated before, that thought process had better make sense. Again, this forces adults to actually think about why they do things, instead of continuing to function on auto pilot. If you find yourself getting angry at a child for challenging your decision, it may well be a sign that this decision doesn’t make any sense to you, either. Instead of insisting that the kid blindly yield to your authority, reevaluate and figure out what really makes sense to you. You’ll then have a much easier time explaining it to the child.
They demand to be recognized as individuals
The children of today remember Who They Really Are more fully than any generation before them. And they will make it harder for anyone to squash that individuality. They know that they have a right to their own opinion and the thoughts of adults are not worth more, simply because they are adults. The key here is that two people can have differing opinions, and yet neither of them has to be wrong. It’s entirely possible to allow the other person the right to their point of view, and even consider it valid, without taking on that point of view. I wrote about this extensively in the post You’re Right! And So Are They. Now, of course adults have a much larger perspective, and so will generally have a great deal more knowledge than children do. It’s not so much about acknowledging that your kids are right, as it is about recognizing that their opinion, from their point of view is valid. They will have come to their conclusions based on observations and will defend them with as much vigor as you will. If you dismiss the opinion of a kid today, you’re bound to get quite an ugly reaction. It’s better to discuss the issue with them and introduce new evidence, allowing them to come to a new conclusion, rather than simply declaring them to be wrong.
They are more intuitive than any generation before them
All kids are born with the ability to perceive non-physical energy. A newborn will read its mother’s energy without being able to understand her spoken works. Some adapt to the lower vibration they’re born into much faster, and some hold on to their abilities into toddlerhood and beyond. This has always been the case. But because of the higher vibration of this time, kids are losing those abilities more slowly or not at all. And whereas past generations would shut down their abilities in order to conform to their parents’ and society’s wishes and rules, kids today are much less likely to do so. So, you may have been able to see “ghosts” (your translation of energy) as a child, but when told by your parents to stop imagining things that weren’t there, you turned off your ability to perceive that frequency. Your child, if put in the same situation, is more likely to continue to perceive that energy, but will simply stop telling you about it.
When you read about the “Superpowers” of Indigo children, this is basically what’s being referred to. Children don’t have abilities that adults don’t. We all have the ability to perceive non-physical energy. Most adults have simply forgotten how to consciously do that. But while most adults no longer actually “see” or “hear” non-physical energy, that doesn’t mean they’re no longer translating those frequencies. When you get a gut feeling about someone, you’re reading their energy. When you get an ominous feeling, you’re reading energy. Your intuition is you, using your ability to read non-physical energy. Don’t kid yourself. You have superpowers, too.
The best thing you can do is to validate your child’s intuitive hits (and honor your own while you’re at it.) If your nephew hates your new boyfriend, you may want to evaluate if you’ve been dismissing some doubts about him as illogical. If your child is afraid to go into a building, don’t dismiss their reaction as irrational. Check it out (or leave). Your child has a much easier time reading this energy than you do. What they’re still learning is how to interpret the information. For example, they may get an uncomfortable feeling around an adult. But this doesn’t necessarily mean that his adult has evil intentions. They could also be picking up on the fact that this adult is in the midst of an ugly divorce and is therefore currently in a really dark place. Teach your child to interpret this information by being open to it yourself and looking for real world validation. In doing so, you’ll regain your own ability to discern non-physical energy, making your own intuition stronger and more accurate.
These kids are powerful teachers
While I debunked the idea that today’s kids are here to save the world in Part 1 of this series, I do believe that they are here to teach us – just as every generation of children has taught their parents. Because of the faster moving energy, however, those lessons are getting bigger. Because control issues are still so prevalent in this time (we’re all basically control freaks), many of today’s children are teaching their parents that there are some things that cannot be controlled. According to Abraham-Hicks, this is the reason that so many children are choosing to be born with autism, a theory that resonates with me. Autistic children will find their connection, and will stubbornly hold to it no matter what the parents do. They are powerful teachers. I’ve had many conversations with parents of autistic kids and they’ve all confirmed that their kids have made them happier, more relaxed, less controlling people. They have changed their parents in positive ways, even if those lessons were hard won.
If you’re a parent of one of these new kids (basically, if you’re a parent), and you’ve been worrying that you’re somehow going to mess them up, that your ineptitude will squash their incredible potential and keep them from shining their bright light all over the world, stop it. Your kids are a lot more powerful than you’re giving them credit for, and they know it. You’re the one who may need reminding. You can’t mess them up. If you’re reading blog posts like this, you care way too much to do any real damage. Your kids chose you and you chose them. You are the perfect guide for them and they will teach you how to parent them. Use your intuition and you’ll know when to push and when to let go. You don’t need me to explain your kids to you. All you really ever need is for someone to tell you every once in a while that you’re doing ok, and to remind you of what you already know: these kids are different. But then, so you are you. How perfect is that?
And if i told you iv had dreams come true… doesnt seem to be mentioned here
Oh my gosh – you are WONDERFUL. =)
Thanks Andrea! So are you! 🙂
Happy shiny puppy hugs,
I enjoyed reading your posting. I can totally related to it. Today when I was trying to tell my 6 year old daughter ( Who is indigo) about “indigo” and I show her some videos from the internet about it. She was absolutely not interested learning and hearing about that subject, and told me to “turn that off”. What you think about that?
I was little confused.
Welcome to Deliberate Receiving!
LOL. That’s great. I think that your daughter shows little interest in learning about Indigo kids because this information isn’t special to her. She doesn’t see any difference between “Indigos” and anyone else. It’s just normal to her. Who wants to watch a boring documentary about normal people? You see the difference and so the information fascinates you. She has no idea what you were like as a child, and doesn’t have the perspective. What’s special to you is just normal for her. She was essentially saying “What’s the big deal?” Isn’t that great? 🙂
Huge hugs to you and your little one!
Thanks Melody. This is great stuff. You sound like an expert in this area. How old are you? I am a teacher you know, but you seem to have more than I have.
I like the the fact that you consider all kids ADHD. That will shut all my teacher colleagues up. They always tend to think that these children are trouble makers when in fact they are just trying to tell us that they need to learn differently.
Coming to seeking answers and respect, I think they are entitled to them. They will not respect you if you try and BS your way through their questions. But they will surely respect you if you say “I dont know and I am going to find out” when you really dont know. It just shows that we are all humans, just like these kids. We are all learning along the way.
Recently Steve Jobs passed away. He is definitely a special person who have his own interest. Similarly, our indigo kids must be crazy enough to be allowed to go for their dreams. The biggest obstacles are us parents and elders. We will always fix them for our own goals. We want them to achieve something we never did. I think I am developing a more open sort of teaching philosophy whereby we encouraged learning. We must be willing to support them even if their interest is something out of the ordinary.
My kids teach me more each day. When they entered our lives, I have since changed tremendously and am still changing. I could not imagine myself to be this current person five years ago. I have given up drinking. I have become a family focused man. I have started personal development. I have started looking for better prospects. I have given up partying. If these are not lessons that they teach, I do not know what is. Gosh they are less than 4. I wonder what else will they teach me in the coming years.
Here’s why I won’t tell you my age. Ha.
OMG, you’ve made such good points. The idea of telling a child “I don’t know” used to be unheard of. But why? What do we really have to prove? It’s a sign of our own insecurity, really, if we have a hard time with that.
Thank you so, SO much for adding your incredibly valuable perspective here, both as a parent and as a teacher.
I liked this 2 part series it was very validating of my parenting style when the rest of the world was so critical.
I home schooled my children through most of the middle years – they all wanted to go to High School to learn the science and math I could not teach them or afford any more tutoring for…
My youngest child had a cleft palate with a corresponding lesion in her pre-frontal cortex
she was very hyper active – also she could hyper focus as when she was playing the piano or tennis…but she could not sit still to read….or do math problems….we just worked on that behavior and how to retrieve information from the brain/ because once it went into long term memory it was impossible to retrieve. Teaching moral lessons was very hard…and after summer vacation she did not remember the kids in her class
I just worked and worked at how to overcome this problem….and help her be a success. I studied strokes…putting information in 3 different ways….she has now graduated college, has a manager job at a car rental firm at a local airport, can drive, can play the piano well, and reads….she can control herself and her being….she loves psychic readings/palm readings and realized that she could have become a doctor herself and didn’t just need to date fellows who were on the medical track! ( she’s in communications)
My oldest is a math/computer genius lovely person
My middle is a librarian who is a pied piper to children and just got her first teaching job… very intuitive….
I did a good job…and it was work….but worth it.
I liked what you shared here – it was very validating on a day that I am very ill and losing hope Thank you
You sound like an awesome mom, one who simply would not give up and force her kids to conform to a system she didn’t agree with. I know that parents who think like that have a much harder time, but I also believe that this is changing. Bucking the system is hard, but it ultimately pays off and parents like you were the catalyst for that change. So, thank you.
I think a lot of the problem is that structure where society is concerned has gotten stale. It’s become more all about the benjamins and a little less about some of the things that make life liveable. One of my least favorite subjects in school was always math. The reason I didn’t care for it was because there wasn’t really a “good reason” why a lot of the stuff within it was as it was–and the simplifications imposed on reality I didn’t particularly like either. I never “trusted” it fully, because it felt like sticking things into a black box on hunches–which in hindsight I suppose it was.
It wasn’t until many years later when listening to Feynman that I began to understand it more the way it was intended–a handy tool–not necessarily a why but a how. Most teachers had confused how with why, much to my annoyance.
Huh. One of my favorite subjects was math… 😉 Because it made sense. It was logical and black and white. Oh, and I was really good at it. That probably helped. He, he. Interesting how we see the same subject so differently. But yes, I agree that the teaching methodology was flawed. I was naturally good at math, and I just couldn’t understand why everyone didn’t love it or get it the way I did. Later, I looked at how it was taught and realized that unless you had a natural passion for the subject, it was simply not made relevant to anything you cared about.
You seem to have overcome your aversion though. 🙂
The school system is America is so stuck in the old paradigm. My wife is a teacher and school is all about getting kids to pass state exams. It sounds so awful when I hear her tell me what school is like. It was just boring when i went there and now it is stressful, but I digress.
I like the saying, “We can disagree but we don’t have to be disagreeable”.
I know what you mean. It’s hard not to get depressed when I listen to what today’s teachers have to go through. Many of them really hate their jobs and taking that kind of energy into the classroom doesn’t help, either. But I truly believe that major changes are coming. Tell your wife to hang in there. 🙂
Lol. This part made me crack up: “They are simply unwilling to focus on something they don’t give a crap about.”
That is SO true! Of course, I was always good at buckling down and focusing, even on stuff I didn’t care about. But these days, I pretty much ignore whatever I don’t like.
If I’m not interested in it, why spend time on it?
I’ve felt for a while now that the educational system doesn’t really apply to exceptional people like Indigo Children. Google would teach them much better after a certain point, say, grade school.
Of course, there’s really no way to automate this or choose who it might work for, but high school/college drop-outs who go on to become millionaires (or successes in other ways) are good examples.
Yay Melody! Good post.
There are alternative schools out there that cater to the new kids and are proving to be highly effective. Waldorf schools are one example. I believe that schooling like this will become more and more prevalent. It will require that we treat our teachers differently (actually allowing them to teach, more money, smaller student to teacher ratio…) It will also require that we get rid of standardized testing, which essentially requires the education system to cater to the lowest common denominator. But all of this will eventually fix itself. Even bureaucrats have to listen to reason eventually. 🙂
I just love your writing, Melody. It leaves me laughing after every paragraph. 🙂 I am hearing more and more mentions about Indigo Children. I sincerely hope that people take this concept seriously. It could lead to serious growth opportunities for the current generation of children.
Thanks so much for your kind words. I don’t think that people will have a choice – these kids will demand the changes that will eventually completely restructure our educational system. It might take a bit of time, but we can see more and more evidence right now of the old system breaking down.
Oh Melody, this was perfect. Perfect! You live at my house, right?
I died laughing at the photo, because that IS my 3 year old (the one I was told was Indigo, which I discounted entirely).
As far as the older one goes, the school situation and ADHD business is accurate – they actually have an issue with him where they are finally realizing that kids who test off the charts as far as IQ etc have the Exact Same Behaviors as ADHD kids (and presumably, indigos in general). The behaviors you described above.
Don’t know if you’re ever planning to become a Mom but you certainly have accurately tied up the whole shebang in a neat package with a bow.
Want to come over and explain to the older one why he has to write his Reader Response by hand tonight?
P.S. I linked to my article on my older one which you might find amusing in light of this discussion.
I think I may be at your home. I’m currently staying with my sister, whose two little ones are giving me quite a bit of inspiration. I love studying kids and parents and well, anything really. Who decided that kids have to sit still in order to answer questions? This comes from the “kids should be seen and not heard” era. I used to get up and pace back and forth while on conference calls. It helped to keep me focused. I still do that when I need to work out some concept. I talk aloud to myself and wear a path in the rug. Or I get on the treadmill. This doesn’t mean I’m not thinking; quite the contrary.
I loved your article! Especially how you typed out your son’s paper to help him express himself in a way he could not yet do. His thought process was ahead of his verbal skills. The understanding that these kids have of processes is astounding. I just can’t wait to see what they grow up to be! 🙂
Hugs to you and your little “Calvins”,
Great post! You know last night I was thinking a lot about my deceased father who my 3 year old has never met. Out of the blue this morning, she told me that she had 2 grandfathers and told me his name. This was eery because we hadn’t talked about him in a very long time. I wonder if she can see him?
After reading this post this really makes me want to pry into their little heads and encourage them to use their insight, intuition and self expression.
Ahaha Kim, “pry into their little heads”. Love it.
Your 3 year old could well be aware of your father’s energy, especially if you were thinking about him a lot. You gave energy to that frequency, which she would’ve connected with, but because she has less resistance (she doesn’t “miss” him and has less resistance to the idea of connecting with someone who’s “dead”), she would’ve tuned into that frequency and received it, while you weren’t quite able to attune yourself (you can, but never from a place of pain or missing someone. You have to focus on love and the knowledge that they are just fine.) Your daughter just remembers how to do this, while you’ve forgotten. That’s all. See? Kids are teachers. 🙂
Hugs to you and your intuitive little one,