Ask any productivity or success expert and one of the first things they’ll tell you is this: If you want to be successful, you’ve got to set goals. We’ve read the statistics that tell us that about 80% of people don’t even have goals and that only 1% of the population hits the magic trifecta of setting goals, writing them down and reviewing them regularly. And it’s probably no coincidence that this 1% seems to be the most successful segment of the population. Dozens of books and hundreds of articles have been written about goal setting. So why the hell would I feel the need to add to that mountain of words by writing a post about this topic? Well, because, even though the importance of goal setting has been widely and tirelessly lauded, the statistics haven’t changed. 80% of the population still doesn’t set goals. You would think with all this information out there, with all this apparent proof that the simple act of goal setting can mean the difference between a Bentley and food stamps, that people wouldn’t have to be told twice. You would think that they’d be getting their goddamned goals tattooed on their bootays. But you’d be horribly, horribly wrong.
So, something must be missing – some piece of the equation. And I think I might know what it is: it’s the WHY. Why does goal setting work? How exactly does it help us to become more successful? Enter the Law of Attraction, the theory that explains everything, if you know how to look at it (and I do. Ha!). So yes, this a post on goal setting, but I promise not to give you the same, old, tired crap that you’ve read a hundred times before (instead, I’ll give you all new, shiny crap). Ready? Here we go:
The 3 major components of successful Goal setting (plus 3 optional ones):
I’m going to make this short and sweet, since this will almost certainly be old news to you:
- Set a goal
- Write it down
- Review it
- (optional): Buy a Bentley
- (optional): Drive that Bentley past the house of your 8th grade teacher who said you’d never amount to anything.
- (optional): Have your butler ring the doorbell of said teacher’s house and when they come to the door, proceed to moon them, while your butler uses his posh English Accent to calmly pass on your message: “In your face, mathafakkah. Good day, sir.”
Ok, so fine. We know the steps. And yeah, yeah, yeah, we’ll set some damn goals as soon as we get around to it. Maybe we’ll buy a nice notebook, just for that purpose. And a special pen. Yes, on Monday we’ll go out and buy a notebook and a special pen and we’ll set goals and then we’ll just wait for success to come rolling in. Man, we’re gonna be so rich! And then we get distracted by the dog or the kid or our jobs or the economy or good God! Is that a grey hair?! And suddenly, it’s two years later and we’re reading an article about goal setting and we decide that on Monday morning, we’ll go out and get a special notebook and a funky pen and we’ll set goals and wait for success and Bentleys to come rolling in. Rinse and repeat.
The energetic principles behind goal setting
When goal setting is done right, it IS incredibly effective. This is because the whole concept is actually based on energetic principles – the same ones I talk about all the time on this blog. That’s right, goal setting (again, done the right way), is a tool you can use to align your energy with what you want.
Step 1: Set a goal = Figure out what you want
Most people never figure out what they want. When you ask them what they want, they’ll give you a long list of crap that they DON’T want: They want their boss to grow a pair. They want people on welfare to stop mooching off the system. They want their kids to stop screaming and they want that asshole with the Bentley and the butler who keeps stopping by to moon them to go to hell already.
But when you stop them and ask them what it is that they actually DO want, what they imagine the solutions to all these problems would look and feel like, they usually need to take a moment. Most people have never really thought about the solution angle, but have only ever focused on the problem.
The act of setting a goal is the act of deciding what it is that we DO want, as well as getting into a space of actually believing, even if just a little bit, that this wanted situation could come about. I’m convinced that a lot of people never set goals, not because they’re stupid and lazy, but because they’re afraid: if you don’t believe that you can actually get what you want, then thinking about that desire will be painful.
But as we know, whatever we focus on grows and eventually comes into our physical reality. So, if we continue to focus on what we don’t want, we keep receiving more of that. If we want to change what’s coming into our world, we have to be willing to shift our focus from the crap we don’t like to the stuff that we do like or would like to see.
Seen through the LOA lens, the traditional first step of goal setting is therefore redefined as:
New Goal Setting Step 1:
Define what you actually DO want by using the information of what you don’t want and do it in such a way that at least a small part of you can believe that getting what you want is possible (without adding “when pigs fly”).
Step 2: Write down your goal = Give it more power and fine tune the frequency
When you write down your goal, you bring it into the physical. Bringing something into the physical gives it more energy. This is why merely thinking something isn’t as powerful as speaking it, writing it or representing it with images. The key here is that whatever method you use to make that energy physical feels the same to you as the thought. This means, that as you focus on what you want, you’ll want to get into the feeling of it. Do you want to be rich? What would that feel like? What would financial freedom actually look like on a day to day basis? Really flesh out the fantasy. Now, when you write it down (or draw it or find some representative pictures), make sure that whatever you’re writing (or the images you choose) matches those feelings. When you review what you’ve created, it should evoke the feelings of your goal easily.
As you may have just realized, there are many ways to create a physical representation of your goals. You can write them down in a journal, or on snippets of paper which you place in a special treasure box. You can make a vision board or sand painting (using natural objects to represent different aspects of what you want). It doesn’t matter how you do it, as long as your representation evokes the feelings of what you truly want. By going through the process of finding just the right words, images or objects, you are fine tuning yourself – you are refining the frequency you’re looking for and training yourself to attune to it. Do not underestimate the power of this step.
When you take the time to flesh out the details of your goal, you also have the opportunity to discover any resistance you may have. For example, let’s say that your goal is to be rich. Any goal setting guru will tell you this is far too general: How rich, exactly? Well, you may then think, “I want to earn a million dollars a year.” But as you think about this goal, you realize that all kinds of limiting thoughts are coming up. How will you manage all that money? Won’t greedy relatives come out of the woodwork asking for handouts? How the hell do you open an offshore account? When you have sex with Paris Hilton, do you leave the money on the pillow or have your accountant wire it to her? (Answer: Go check yourself into a hospital and ask them to marinate you in their finest anti-biotic/disinfectant/pesticide cocktail for at least 24 hours.) You have no idea how to handle that amount of money and the very idea of it makes you sweat. What you’re doing here is trying to make a quantum leap, something most of you know that I generally advise against. You’re trying to move too far, too fast. If you’re currently making $30.000/year, a million dollars a year might be a bit of as stretch. But what about $100.000/year? That may seem a lot more comfortable. Yes, that feels good. You can see how you’d spend that kind of money. You could easily manage it, upgrade your life in many ways and you don’t see any real issues arising – at least not any you couldn’t handle.
In this example, you’ve just discovered that you have a great deal of resistance around the idea of earning a million dollars a year, but that you can much more easily envision yourself earning a bit less (but still much more than you currently earn.) Knowing this, you’d refine your goal from “Become rich” to “I earn $100.000/year” (and NOT “I earn $1.000.000/year, which would cause you a lot of discomfort and probably make you abandon the whole exercise.)
Do you have to define HOW you’ll get that money? No, you don’t, and in fact, you’d be much better off if you didn’t. But this can be tricky. If you find yourself worrying about how you’ll make that kind of money, and wondering if the Universe might even bring it to you in a way that you don’t like, like an evil genie that twists your dreams into nightmares, then feel free to add a caveat to the goal: “I earn $100.000/year, easily and in a way that makes me happy.” The Universe doesn’t need you to do this. It knows exactly what you want. But if you’re worried about any aspect of your goal, you’re going to be emitting a conflicting vibration, essentially stopping your desire from coming to you. So write whatever you need to in order to give yourself some peace of mind. Remember that you can always set new and bigger goals when you’ve achieved these.
New Goal Setting Step 2:
Flesh out your dream. Define the specifics of WHAT you want, leaving the HOW to the Universe. Pay attention to how you feel, and refine your goal (and/or reword it) until you’re completely comfortable with it.
Step 3: Review your goals regularly = tip the scale
If you’ve taken the time to perform Steps 1 and 2 properly, then Step 3 should be a breeze and actually, a lot of fun. All you’re doing here is taking the time on a regular basis (preferably daily) to spend a few minutes focusing on the frequency of what you want. The physical representation you created in Step 2 should help you to easily get into the right emotional state (your proof that you’re aligning with the correct energy).
It’s important to note that you don’t actually have to do this to receive what you want. As long as you’re not emitting any conflicting vibrations, as long as you don’t have any thoughts that negate what you want, it will come to you automatically. But if you do have some fears, stray thoughts that aren’t serving you, or outright resistance, then spending even just a few minutes every day focusing on the pure frequency of what you want, will help you to tip the scale in favor of your desire. Remember that your dominant vibration receives your reality – so as long as you give MORE energy to what you want than to what you don’t want, you’re good to go.
New Goal Setting Step 3:
Spend a few minutes every day focusing on the physical representation of what you want and getting into the feeling of it. The better you feel, the more closely aligned you are with the energy of your goal.
That’s it, in a (rather giant) nutshell. Now you know how to set goals the right way. And yes, it really is that simple. Follow these steps and you can manifest anything you want.
What are your goals? What is it that you want to manifest? Don’t procrastinate (again). Take this opportunity to make your list in the comments. Here are 3 of mine to get you started. I like to word them as though they’ve already happened:
- I’ve successfully transferred my entire business online and built it up to make $10.000/month
- I’ve upgraded my apartment to one that’s about three times as big as the old one. It has a Jacuzzi on the terrace. Also, there’s a rooftop garden. The gardener comes on Thursdays. He’s Australian and really hunky. Sometimes, he sits in the Jacuzzi with me and feeds me champagne.
- I have a butler, who may or may not be named James (giving the Universe some leeway there. I don’t want to be too picky…) James is British (or really good at doing a British accent), and sounds posh but has a wicked sense of humor.
See how easy it is? Now it’s your turn!
“James?! Get me my loose pants and bring the Bentley around. We’re going for another ride…!”