I have to say, I am loving the questions I’m getting lately. You people are freaking awesome! Today, Stephanie wants to know: I would like to hear your thoughts on the concept that there are no such things as coincidences. What do you think these circumstances are?

Here’s my answer:

There truly are no coincidences, not in the sense that things just happen randomly, or by chance. Everything that happens is due to the Law of Attraction bringing together matching energy. This is happening whether or not we’re aware of it, which is why events can sometimes seem random. But they’re not.

You create your reality

You are the creator of your own reality. This means that everything in your experience, every object, every person and every event, even the tiniest ones, are a manifestation of yours. Yes, really. So, if the barrista at the coffee shop is friendly to you, that’s a direct reflection of your manifestation. If you’re late for work and your boss is annoyed, that’s a direct reflection of your manifestation. If you get a big raise, that’s a direct manifestation of your vibration. If you have an accident, or step in dog poo, that’s… well, you get the picture. Now, before you drive yourself crazy trying to keep track of all these details (“Why did I step in dog poo?? What does that say about me??), remember that you can clean up a great deal of your vibration by simply focusing on the positives in your life and on feeling good. So stop stressing.

The point is, truly EVERYTHING in your reality has been drawn to you by you. And the same is true for everyone else, as well. And this is where it gets a bit complicated. You see, if the barrista is rude to you, not only does that behavior have to be a vibrational match to you, but she must be a match to that behavior, as well. Everyone has different sides, we can all be in a good mood and in a bad mood, but there are limits. For example, I may get bitchy from time to time, but I seriously doubt that I’ll ever punch someone in the face, no matter how much I’m provoked. And on a day when I’m my happy, shiny, puppy self, there’s really not much anyone could do to elicit a different version of me. So, if I was that barrista, and your vibration was asking for a rude encounter that day, the Law of Attraction could not bring us together. It would have to find someone else to be your mirror, someone who was more willing to play that exact game with you that day.

Now, when you consider that every little detail in everyone’s life has to be a match on both sides (or more!), it gets pretty mindboggling. Luckily, the Law of Attraction can handle it. It can keep track of everyone’s vibration, in real time. If your vibration changes, the LOA will immediately begin to orchestrate a series of “coincidences” and intuitive hits that will guide you to your new match. Only, that analogy isn’t perfect, because it compares the LOA to some outside entity that’s managing everything. That’s a little bit like saying that when you drop a ball, the law of gravity reaches up and pulls it down towards the earth, and that’s not really true.

The Maze

Let’s look at this in another way. We’re all in a really complex Maze. And each of us is given a transceiver, a little handheld device that can send and receive signals. So, there you are, with your little device, and you set it to the frequency of “5”. Now, that transceiver is going to send out that signal, and ONLY that signal. It’s also going to receive the frequency of “5” and nothing else. Everyone around you is also sending and receiving signals. And when your transceiver finds someone else with their device set to “5”, it’s going to turn on its built in GPS and lead you straight to them. It doesn’t matter how far away they are, or how complex the maze is, your little device will tell you exactly where to turn, when to go forward and when to wait, so that you’ll meet up with other people who have set their device to “5”.

You may need a bit of assistance along the way. Perhaps you have to climb up to another level and need a ladder. So, your device leads you to someone who has set their transceiver to “Help the 5’s”. If you take a wrong turn (because you weren’t paying attention to your device), your transceiver will send out a distress call and you’ll meet up with someone who has set their device to “show the 5’s where they’ve gone wrong.”

You always get to choose which signal you want to send and receive, but once you do, you won’t meet up with anyone who’s not a match to that frequency. They will be invisible to you.

Multiple signals

Your brain is that transceiver. It’s constantly sending out and receiving the signals you’ve chosen (even if you didn’t consciously choose them) and guiding you toward people and events that match those signals. Now, of course, we aren’t just ever sending out one signal. We’re a mishmash of many, MANY different frequencies on all kinds of subjects, which is why you could be attracting lots of money (yay!) and horrible love relationships (boo!). It’s never all good or all bad. Changing one frequency to a better one doesn’t necessarily influence the others you’re sending out (although it can), but it does change who and what you meet up with on that particular subject.

The annoying bit

I’m well aware that what I’m saying here could be incredibly annoying. I can hear you asking now, “So, every little thing that happens to me is my own fault?” No. I wouldn’t put it that way. But everything that happens to you is happening in response to your vibration. And that doesn’t have to be annoying, it can be empowering. Think about it. If everything is just sort of happening randomly, then there’s nothing you can do about rude barristas, horrible bosses or poo on your shoe. But if you are the master of your reality, then you can change the signals you’re transmitting until you meet up with friendly service staff, awesome bosses and clean, poo-free streets. It does take a bit of trial and error, just like any new piece of technology you acquire, and unfortunately, there’s no user manual. But once you start to figure it out, your life will never be the same. Tweak a dial here, flip a switch there and watch your reality literally transform around you.

I hope that this post was helpful to you. Share your thoughts in the comments!

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