It’s time for another Q&A Video! Today’s awesome question comes to us from Panchi, who writes:
I’ve been using LOA for lot of things… and I’ve gotten almost everything I asked for.
But a problem arises when I want to manifest a lover…
I made a list with his qualities… appearance, profession, like he should be 5 feet 9, a professional athlete, fair, loving, caring, friendly, and loves to spend time with me. I’ve met a lot of guys who had some of the qualities on the list. One guy in particular is crazy in love with me, is loving, caring, friendly, and loves to spend time with me. He treats me like his princess. But he’s a bit too short, not that fair or well built, and not in the profession I wanted. At times I think I should wait for the perfect guy, and sometimes I feel, what if the perfect guy doesn’t show up? Is it better to take the guy that is here right now?
Should I grab what’s here right now… or wait for what I really want?
Watch the video to find out how I answered this question.
The Universe knows exactly what you want. Every time you looked at a man and thought “I like that quality”, the Universe noted it down. Every time you saw a quality in a man you didn’t like, the Universe noted that down, too. It’s like a giant database that knows exactly what you want and don’t want, and it knows it better than you do.
This data is the TRUTH, what you really want. It contains none of your fears, protective mechanisms or limiting beliefs.
It’s ok to have a list. But many of the qualities we put on our list are there because we made an association at some point – someone we were attracted to had those qualities. But these characteristics don’t have much to do with actual attraction. We have “chemistry” with people when there’s a vibrational match.
There are two possibilities:
- You are not attracted to this man. He’s perfect or nearly perfect on paper, but your heart and other assorted body parts aren’t playing along. Let him go. It’s not fair to keep this man as your Plan B.
- You are attracted to him and he’s hitting a little too close to home. This is a man you could really fall in love with, a man you could really have a deep connection with and it’s scaring the hell out of you. So, you come up with all kinds of very specific reasons not to allow this connection to happen (he has to be 5′ 9″, be a professional athlete). This is called resistance.
This man is in your life for a reason. He’s a mirror to at least part of your vibration. Perhaps he’s here to help you further define what you want. Or, perhaps he’s here to help you overcome the resistance you have to getting what you REALLY want (a deep connection and wonderful relationship).
The action plan, either way, is the same. Focus on the qualities that you LIKE about him, and not the ones you don’t like about him. This will align you with the energy of what you truly want, instead of keeping you aligned with what you don’t want. And when you do that, the perfect man will come into your reality. You may find that this man is the one you’ve been waiting for, you just couldn’t see it.
Do you have any advice for Panchi? Let me know in the comments!