One of my most popular posts last year was The Vibrational Ladder – How To Feel Better In 4 Simple Steps. I’ve gotten tons of emails on this post and have referred to it many times since, both in blog posts and in my email correspondence with readers. But while this technique is pretty incredible and can lead to amazing changes, there are times when it doesn’t seem to work. Sometimes, people sit down intending to feel better, but simply can’t seem to budge from where they are. Are they doing something wrong? Are there issues that can’t be shifted with the Vibrational Ladder? Are there people who simply won’t respond to this technique? What can you do if the Vibrational Ladder simply doesn’t seem to be working for you?

Not all techniques work for everyone

First of all, everyone is different. Just as not all students will respond to the same teacher, not all women will be attracted to the same man (not even George Clooney. Sorry George.), not everyone loves puppies (haters), not every energy shifting technique is going to resonate with every person. So yes, there are individuals who will not respond to this technique, not because there’s something wrong with them (unless they hate puppies) or the technique, but simply because they resonate more with something else. No big whoop. But, for the sake of this explanation, I’m going to assume that the person who couldn’t shift their vibration to a better feeling place using the Vibrational Ladder, tried it in the first place because they DID resonate with it.

When the Vibrational Ladder doesn’t work for you, it’s generally due to one of two issues:

Too far, too fast

You’re trying to move from the bottom of the ladder to the top, without shifting incrementally. This is called a Quantum Jump and as a general rule, I don’t recommend them, even though I’ve made several myself (click on the links to find out why this does NOT make me a hypocrite).

An example of this issue would be if you’re broke and feeling hopeless about money, and you sat yourself down and started chanting “I’m financially free. Money comes to me easily any time I want.” While you can say those words, you don’t actually have access to the vibration of those thoughts from where you are (“I’m broke”) and trying to reach for them is going to cause a major backlash. You won’t be able to shift to those thoughts and will therefore stay exactly where you are, only now, as well as feeling broke, you’ll also feel like a failure. Nice.

The solution to this issue is simple: Move incrementally. Don’t try to reach for a thought that feels good. Reach for a thought that feels better. So, if you’re currently thinking “I’m broke”, the next thought you CAN reach might be “I am not homeless or starving. I have enough to survive.” Now, while this thought is nowhere near “I’m financially free”, it represents some movement in the right direction and, just as important, it’s reachable. Stop trying to jump from the bottom rung to the top already (*slappity slap slap*), and be willing to move incrementally to the next best feeling thought you can get a hold of. Do this and you’ll work your way up that ladder, rung by rung. Successfully.

Your current vibration has you in its grip

The second reason that the Vibrational Ladder may not be working for you is because the energy of your current pattern of thought is just too big. When you focus on a thought, you activate the energy of it and the law of attraction gathers more energy like it. In short, whatever you focus on grows. This makes the thought you’re focusing on easier and easier to think. When you’ve spent a great deal of time focusing and obsessing over a particular viewpoint, it can grow so big that it’s like a planet with its own orbit. When you try to shift your vibration, it’s like you’re trying to break free from that gravitational pull. The thoughts you’ve been thinking are so practiced (“I’m broke. I’m broke. I’m broke”), that any attempt to move to a different thought can seem futile. You just get sucked right back into that practiced paradigm.

These types of beliefs are the big issues (mega beliefs) – stuff that’s been with you for a long time (sometimes for generations). The mere mention of this type of subject will set you off on a rant that can last for hours. It’s easy for you to find lots and lots of examples that support your point of view, because over the years, you’ll have manifested gobs of evidence that “proves” that belief to be true. If you suffer from lifelong weight issues, physical illness, persistent (and unwanted) singledom or any other condition that seems to have been with you forever and can’t be budged, chances are you’ve been giving A LOT of energy to a limiting belief over the years.

So, what do you do if you’re stuck in your current belief?

Back off

You may be getting déjà vu at this point. Yep, I’ve talked about this before (same damn principles, different topic…). When you’re stuck where you are, you need to back off of the subject for a little bit and just focus on generally feeling good.

Why? Let’s say that all vibration can be measured on a scale of 1 to 100. Your current belief about money is at a 3. You feel totally broke, your entire family has always been broke and you can’t even imagine not feeling utterly and completely broke. If money were the sun, you’d be a vampire. And not the cool daywalker kind from Blade. The From Dusk Till Dawn kind that explode in sunlight. If money were a single man, you’d be a drunk, toothless, 39 year old, desperate chick, with one remaining ovary threatening to dry up, grasping his arm in a death grip, screaming “Make me a baby!!!!” I think you get the picture.

So, your money vibration is stuck at a 3 and no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to shift that energy the teensiest bit. Even a 4 is unreachable for you. But when you back off of your “problem” vibration and move to another subject that already makes you feel better, you raise your vibration. Your money vibration may be at a 3, but your adorable nephew/puppy/funny movie/happy hubby/eating ice cream in the nude vibration may be at an 85. When you focus on a subject that you already feel good about, you raise your vibration to that level. You cannot do that while focusing on money, though. You have to forget about that subject for a little bit. And once you’ve achieved a higher vibration, it will be much easier for you to find better feeling thoughts on ANY subject.

Get a really long hook

In order to shift a belief using any technique, you have to connect with the frequency of that belief and “pull it up” from there (at least that has been my experience.) There’s no point denying how you feel about money. Your money vibration is at a three. So this is where you have to start.  But how do you do that when the energy of what you’re trying to shift has become like a black hole, without getting sucked in?

If you wanted to pull something out of the middle of a raging fire, you wouldn’t just stick your hand in there and grab a hold of it. You’d use some kind of tool to do the job for you without getting too close. That’s what we’re going to use – a hook. We want to get a hold of the energy of the subject we’re trying to shift, while keeping our distance. And the way to do that is to get really, really general. When you talk about a subject generally, but while matching the feeling of your current belief about that subject, you activate that vibration enough to shift it, without getting sucked in by it. Then, while keeping that distance, you can work your way up the ladder until you’ve moved it to a better feeling place.

Let’s look at an example

Your current belief about money: “I’m broke. I’ve always been broke. I’ll always be broke. I can’t pay my rent of $1500. My car is crap. I can’t afford to buy XYZ. My car payment is $400/month. I only earn $25.000/year. No one is hiring contractors right now.” – Notice how specific these statements are. When you’re bitching about something you hate, you tend to really get into the details of it.

Back off and go play with puppies or something until you feel well and truly better. Now, from this much higher vibration, come back to work on this subject.

You’ll want to focus on the subject of money and connect with the feeling of where your current vibration is, while keeping your distance. This means that you’ll want to take those specific statements and make them really general.

  • “I wish I had more money.”  – Notice that there is no actual amount involved. It’s more general.
  • “I have a lot of bills.” – You’re not listing them.
  • “I’d love to get a better job, but I’m afraid that I can’t in this economy.” – Again, there’s no mention of the actual job or industry.

Ok, at this point, you won’t feel all that great. These statements are still quite negative, but general enough so that you should be able to affect a bit of movement. Now, try to make statements that are incrementally more positive, but still very general:

  • “Things could be a lot worse. I’m not homeless and I do have food to eat. At least I have a job. There are a lot of people out there who are much worse off than I am.” – This statement isn’t exactly positive, but it gives a little perspective. Things aren’t as bad as they could be.
  • “The quality of my life isn’t actually that bad. I have friends, an awesome dog, a wonderful wife…” – You’re focusing on ways in which your life is going well, that aren’t tied to your income.
  • “I don’t have to figure this out all at once. I don’t have to have all the solutions to this problem right now. I know that I can figure out a way to fix this in time. I’ve found solutions to lots of things in the past. Like X, Y, Z.” – You’re taking some of the pressure off now. At this point, you’ll start to feel a bit better already.
  • “I may not be able to affect my financial situation right this second, but I can affect the way I feel. I’m feeling a bit better already.” – This is giving you a sense of control. You’re not powerless here. There is something you can do.
  • “I have been able to afford some nice things. I have a TV, a place to live, heating so I don’t get cold, a car…” – Now that you feel a bit better, you can start to zero in on the subject of money more specifically. Focusing on what’s going well in your life in terms of finances would’ve been impossible for you before, but these thoughts are now reachable. And they feel a lot better.
  • “There are some jobs out there. People are still building stuff and giving out contracts. So it’s not true that there are no jobs.” – You’re feeling some hope now. Solutions do exist, even if you’re not yet sure how to access them.
  • “Who says that I can’t get a couple of those contracts? If others can do it, maybe so can I?” – You know that solutions exist and you’re going to start looking for them. This is a far cry from where you started.

If at any point during this process you find yourself sliding into a bitching session full of specific details, back off, and get more general. If you can’t seem to do that, go play with puppies again until you’ve successfully raised your vibration and try again. Keep in mind that I’ve greatly simplified the amount of statements and  time it will take to shift such a large amount of energy. Sometimes, you can go days or even weeks between rungs of the ladder. In very severe cases, it can take months. Shift as quickly or as slowly as you need to. If you find yourself wanting to run screaming from the room, you’re pushing yourself too hard. Moving up the ladder successfully feels like relief not panic. Pushing yourself into territory that you’re not willing to go into will not make this process easier and will only create a backlash.

Was this explanation helpful to you? Are you or have you gotten stuck in one of these megabeliefs in the past? How did you address it? Share in the comments!

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  • Melody,

    This was most helpful. I will print it out and stick it on my wall so that I can follow this procedure when my vibration lowers when I start groaning, without even realizing it sometimes! 🙂

  • I don’t hate puppies but would surely love to raise a lion cub if the law permits me.

    I guess we all have moments when we feel really down and wish I had an exciting life full of money and just crashing in casinos filled with stash of money and be in the limelight. But that happens in movies and one should be realistic and take a break from hectic life and let the mind relax. I’m planning to take a break this summer and visit the mountains to relax.

    • Wow James! A lion cub, eh? You are aware that they turn into full blown lions, right? LOL. There are states where you can keep lions (Nevada, for example).

      It all depends on why you want to crash in casinos. Most people want that because it seems exciting and represents a carefree escape from their lives that they aren’t all that happy with. I lived in Vegas for 5 years, and I can attest to the fact that when the sun comes up, the whole crashing in casinos thing seems a lot less exciting and a whole lot more sad. That having been said, I do love me a good game of blackjack, but can only handle the environment for short periods of time. The energy in casinos is simply too low for me to withstand for very long.

      Hanging out in the mountains is awesome. The energy there is stellar and you feel better just by being there. Good for you!!!


  • Hi Melody,

    Great example you show here.

    I believe you are absolutely right. Going for the quantum jump is a great dream and it sometimes spontaneously happens in life, but in general it is not the case. Going for the slow and steady change cost less energy in the long run. Ok ok it IS slower, but the result is also more sure.

    For me, getting in the state of gratitude, based on looking what I already have, is the best method for getting the most natural pace of growing.

    Thanks for sharing

    • Hey Marc,

      Gratitude is an awesome vibration and one that is quite close to the state of allowing, which makes room for resistance to come up and be released more easily. There’s no pushing and no judging. And, with just a little bit of practice, it’s generally an easy state to get into, at least on certain subjects (everyone has something they can feel grateful for).

      Thanks for stopping by!


  • Another great article Melody!
    I loved how you described the scale as 1- 100. I often think of the scale as 1-10. By enlarging the scale it makes so much more room to break down the issue into little, tiny steps and I don’t feel like I have to go from feeling absolutely awful at a 1 and then have to somehow feel 100% wonderful by 10.
    I also found the comparison of being a mere 3 in one area and a 85 in another a wonderful reminder. So often I forget that I have multiple vibration levels, I tend to look at my lowest vibe and start to feel hopeless at the idea of ever reaching a higher vibration!
    As a side note I’ve found that by incorporating E.F.T. into my efforts to raise my vibrations has helped allot, I make more progress, it helps me keep the work broken down into small chunks and it helps me clear any energy blocks.

    Have a lovely evening!

    • Hey Adrienne,

      I’m so glad you found this post valuable. I think the 1-10 scale is too limiting, too. It doesn’t allow for the vibrational complexities that exist in our world. Even 1-100 doesn’t even come close to reality, but it does a better job. 🙂

      EFT often allows the releasing of layers, as well. It’s a very gentle technique. And, I’ve found that when you’re not ready to release something, EFT simply doesn’t work, but doesn’t really push. There’s less discomfort than with some other techniques.

      Have a lovely week! 🙂


  • O.k., what do we do instinctively, if we don´t know about the vibrational ladder, when being in a mess of a situation?
    We fret, we regurgitate our used arguments, we let off steam, we try to clear up, taking a walk, sleeping over it, gain new energy, rethink the issue again, and at some point, we drop it to let it be worked out by itself. If the situation is a chronic problem, we do the same, plus trying to find strategies to put into action to change our situation.
    It´s a process of strain and alleviation, in which we find out about our own position on the issue and become receptive to a solution.

    I don´t know why I haven´t applied the vibrational ladder yet on my problems, maybe I´m too lazy to control the whole process, but I guess there is more to it.
    One thing I found out about myself in the process of trying to align with the vibration of financial independency, what I find rather substancial! One of my major resistance to it seems to be the insight that with money I´ll loose a position from where I can see who stands by me in dire straits and who doesn´t.
    Answers to questions like: does love definitely fly out of the window, when poverty comes in? Is everything really about economics? are more important to me at the moment. I´m really entertaining them.

    Maybe the vibrational ladder as a fixed technical concept (like other “techniques”) dupes us to rather reach (vibrational) states, we are not really ready for and/or doesn´t allow us to find our own conclusions and insights out of our situation. There are so many opportunities dealing with adversity which lead the way to ourselves, when we dare to stay with our feelings and not try to manipulate or get control over them.

    As I have written before, I think that the process of figuring out what we want is already the process of alignment (and eventually manifestation). And reversed this means, that when we aren´t aligned with what we mean to want (“I´m broke (fear), conclusion: I want money (fear)”), we are right where we are supposed to be, and the journey is our goal (excitement, trust, devotion). We don´t know where it takes us yet.
    Vibrational techniques, as any other guideline, are tools to check out for resonance, when in need. Life itself can´t be captured or guided by any approach anyway.


    • Hi Sara,

      I couldn’t agree more. If you’re not ready to release a piece of resistance, the ladder or any other technique won’t help you. In fact, it will be a very uncomfortable process, because you’re trying to drag yourself way too far out of your comfort zone. It takes a bit of patience sometimes to allow ourselves to be ready for the releasing. The incremental approach allows for this, too. Sometimes it takes minutes to shift a bunch of energy and sometimes it takes years. It’s an incredibly personal concept.

      It think becoming aware of the process (whichever process we use) and applying deliberate techniques CAN get us to our goals faster than if we just allow it to happen naturally. This is because we’ve set up a lot of barriers to the natural process, that cause us to stop ourselves. The deliberate process simply aims to remove these barriers so that we can naturally do what we are supposed to. 🙂

      Huge hugs!

  • I took your advice and ate some ice cream in the nude; I feel so much better now. However, next time I might not do it on the front porch, I’m not sure if my neighbors appreciated how good I was feeling……….

    You make a good point about refocusing and shifting on something good and positive. Too often we end up dwelling on the negative to the point is does become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

    I usually can compartmentalize these thoughts and feelings and it does allow me to focus on the positive and the things that truly matter.

    Thanks for sharing, I hope your weekend is going well.

    • Thanks Bill!

      Weekend has been fabulous, although I’ve been taking massive action. I’ve got big news in today’s blog post! 🙂

      It really is just training and programming. Once we make it a habit to look for the positive instead of the negative, the whole world gets more beautiful. Problems become so much easier to solve, because we’re looking for the solution for a change. And yep, it’s like a downward or an upward spiral. Whatever you focus on, you get more of, you see more of.

      I’m proud of you Bill! It’s so easy to feel better isn’t it? And don’t worry about your neighbors. They’re just jealous of your hawtness. Happens to me all the time. Next time, just walk over and offer them some ice cream. 😉


  • Hi Melody,

    This was a tough one for me for YEARS. I would say all the right kinds of things, but I couldn’t get my thoughts (or worse, my feelings & emotions) to line up with what I was saying. I think there are several reasons – most of which you said better than I can articulate. I think it takes time to reprogram our subconscious, particularly after years and even decades of old thought patterns and listening to everybody else. Some people are early-adopters and can change their thoughts with a snap, and others take time to really shift their thought patterns. They’re STILL saying the right things and should continue to. But understand that there is a lot of hurt and pain behind those years of unchange.

    I do believe people can bounce back QUICKLY and change, because once I figured it out, it became a formula. But everybody has to get there in their own time. And unless they get there themselves, it won’t make the impact it needs to.

    Great post! Now I have to go read your initial post that inspired this one. 🙂

    • Hi Bryan,

      You’re so right. We all have to get there ourselves. And we can’t move any faster up that ladder than we can. Each of us has their own pace (and it can vary from issue to issue), but trying to speed that up actually keeps us stuck where we are. That’s a hard lesson to learn over and over. 😉 It’s about letting go, not pushing through. Just allowing ourselves to feel better, bit by bit.

      For me, it really comes down to the size and depth of the issue. I can usually pivot in seconds on something smaller. It happens so automatically that I don’t even have to think about it anymore. Slightly bigger issues take some deliberate effort, but might take me 20 minutes or a few hours. But mega beliefs? They can take days, weeks, months, depending. The triggers can be months apart, but when they come, the best I can do is t release another layer, until I’ve whittled it down to a manageable size and I can finally release the rest of it. It’s a fascinating process, really, when seen objectively.

      Huge hugs!!

  • Hi Melody,

    It’s been a while since I’ve stopped by and commented, so forgive my absence 🙂

    I like how you take the approach of using that ladder to move in small steps or goals rather than attempt one monumental leap. I believe one of the most important processes in making the LOA work is “believing.” And believing that financial wealth/abundance is right around the corner when one has been poor their whole life and been plagued with money woes their entire life is a rather large pill to swallow. While the idea may be encouraging the ole nemesis “ego” will always be there to squash our attempts to thinking and feeling positive about money. So you give some great advice about taking it in slow steps, I couldn’t agree more.

    • Hi Todd!
      Happy New Year buddy! There’s nothing to forgive. When a blog post is useful to you, you’ll be drawn here. It’s all perfect.

      We always want everything to be instant, but in cases like this, we have to take it slow. The backlash from pushing against a mega belief is just too great. It can keep us stuck for years. But inching our way out of it can break that cycle and give us freedom. Finally.

      Huge hugs!

  • Hi Melody,

    Sensational post here. Kelli tipped me off and I knew it had been a while since I visited, and I’m happy I did 🙂

    Most are not prepared to make a quantum leap, going for a quantum flop, instead. Baby steps works well. Start vague as heck, then as you begin to feel better it’s OK to drill down a bit in terms of details. But only if you feel better from where you are in the moment.

    Point Blank: virtually all people trust appearances as realities, basing their belief systems on appearances. Outside of the 4 or 5 spiritual masters of the world, or a select few instant manifestors, take the steps to begin creating a dream life. In truth we are all instant manifestors, plus blockages…and most have tons of blocks to remove before creating exactly what they want to create. Dissolve the blocks 1 little step at a time.

    Thanks for sharing Melody!


    • Ha, Ha, Ryan. “Quantum flop”. I love it!

      You make an excellent point. When we focus on what we want and then allow it (as explained in the Secret behind The Secret post), we could manifest instantly. If only…we had absolutely no resistance. The trick, I think, is not to see this resistance as anything negative. It’s this resistance that helps us to grow, that keeps us evolving all the time. So, it’s focus, allow, release. Focus higher (from the new, higher vantage point), allow, release. Focus even higher, allow release. Rinse and repeat. 🙂

      Huge hugs!

  • I admit to still being a skeptic about a lot of this but I also see many advantages to having a positive attitude. It makes much more sense to me to approach things with a smile instead of a frown.

    • Hi Jack!

      No worries. You do not need to become a “believer”, LOL. The concept behind positive thinking or a positive attitude is the same exact one that I talk about here, only with different words. I could talk about psychology instead of energy and come to the same conclusion. Does it matter what way we use to get there? Nope. Not from my point of view. What matters is that we feel good. Do you like the way you feel? Don’t change a thing. If you don’t, there are a myriad of ways to improve that (this blog is one, there are thousands of others).

      So, it’s ok to be skeptic. Just be a happy skeptic. He, he, he.


  • Awesome post, Melody! So glad I found this.

    Abraham-hicks talks about this all the time, and over and over, but I like the details you went into.

    I especially enjoyed your Back Off – money at 3, but new-puppy at 85, example.

    Great stuff 🙂

    • Hey Jason!

      Welcome to Deliberate Receiving. Yeah… I was really trying not to rip Abraham off. Kind of hard to do when they’re just so freaking wise… 🙂 I’m glad you found additional value. Phew!

      Huge hugs!


      • Thanks for the warm welcome! 🙂

        While it’s certainly nice to be ‘original’, (I love fresh things) anytime you’re sharing info from Abe in a different circle or audience, and through your own filters, it’s cool.

        You could aim to copy them verbatim, and you’d still end up different enough to be valuable to many that Abe doesn’t reach directly.

        • Thanks Jason!

          You’re right, of course. When the info wants to come out, it should come out. And if Abe is saying the same thing? So much the better. Truth is truth. 🙂

          Huge hugs!

          • Whenever something I’m saying lines up with something Abe says, I’m pretty happy ’cause they’re “just so freaking wise.” – I love wisdom, and I’m looking forward to receiving more through your blog 🙂

  • Hi, Mel. I especially like what you say at the end of the post: “Moving up the ladder successfully feels like relief not panic. Pushing yourself into territory that you’re not willing to go into will not make this process easier and will only create a backlash.”

    Simply profound. I always believe and teach that the process of anything you implement to provide real incremental improvement and growth should be joyful and make you feel light and expansive. If it seems like a daunting task, you’re going about it the wrong way. Whatever technique or method you implement should FEEL true to you as an individual and won’t seem like “work” at all.

    As always, great post!


    – Ronnie

    • Hiya Ronnie!

      Thank you so much!
      We have such a penchant for suffering that we often don’t realize that we’re pushing way too hard, even when we do this kind of energy work (which is designed to make us feel good.) Sometimes we need a bit of a wake up call to remind us that suffering really isn’t necessary. Feel a little better, feel a little better, feel a little better, feel good. 🙂

      Huge hugs!

  • Hi Melody
    This was an EXCELLENT post for so many reasons. I think a big problem with the Law of Attraction stuff is that while we can attract anything we want and make leaps and bounds from our current situation, our current vibrations, limiting beliefs and what not are so strong that delving right into big things will delay our progress because we are at a point where we cannot fully embrace that magnitude of change. Starting off smaller is in no way limiting ourselves or expressing we do not have full faith in the concepts, it is simply a way to condition our minds to this new way of thinking. Failure to acknowledge all of this gets people off on the wrong foot with this whole attracting process and then they give up, concluding it does not work.

    • Hey Kelli!

      Beautifully stated! It’s so true. But we do that with a lot of things. We want to lose 100 lbs in 30 days, make a million dollars in the next 2 months, find our perfect lover in record time. We’re always looking for the quick fix, not really willing to take the journey to get there. The only fallacy in that thinking is that we assume the journey will be torturous and awful. But it can be fun and in fact, it’s supposed to be awesome. Goals are just goals. When we reach them, we’ll be happy for a nano second. And then we’ll go another journey. So, realizing that it’s all about enjoying that journey is huge and life changing.

      Huge hugs to you and happy travels!


  • Hi Melody,

    I love puppies, I love kittens, never been attracted by George Clooney… How am I doing? 🙂

    This is a great post which gives some avenues to those who are struggling with deep beliefs that bring their vibrations down… those who can record over that subconscious negative tape.

    For such individuals just telling them to start thinking they are millionaires driving their Mercedes is just about as far fetch as telling them to go ride on the moon with bicycle. There’s got to be a stepping stone that will guide them there. Thank you for this 🙂

    • Hey Sylviane,

      Yep. This is why affirmations often don’t work, either. If you try to reach a thought that’s too far removed from where you are, it just ends up sounding ridiculous. I like that: stepping stones. So many metaphors, so little time… LOL.


  • Hi Melody,

    This is a really helpful post! Thank you!

    I lived for a long time with “the universe is out to get me.” I was afraid of anything good that happened, because something awful would follow. The belief seemed to be reinforced over and over (me attracting it…). Yucky place to be.

    Lately I’ve realized that I’ve shifted a little. Now it’s “the universe isn’t out to get me.” Woohoo! I can envision the ladder in front of me. Feels like the next step might be, “the universe is on my side.” And a final fabulous step will be “the universe takes care of me.” And you know what? I’m receiving more and more evidence of the positive!

    It took me the last year or so of feeling a lot happier in general to shift up the first step, and I didn’t realize it was happening until it had happened. From this one-step-up perspective, I feel like I can see my way clearer from here to the top.

    Your most useful advice, to me, is to let go of the problem or issue and just feel better overall. Snuggle with the dog. Eat chocolate… I try not to think at all about whatever the immediate issue might be. If my vibration feels off, I imagine burning “the crap” (nothing specific) to ashes and then washing it away in a flood of clear, fresh water. No work, no “deal with it,” just burn and flush.

    Thank you again for being here for those of us who are trying to let go of resistance, wanting to climb a ladder, but having difficulty even imagining that first step. You give us the right words at just the right moment.


    Mary Carol

    • Hi Mary Carol,

      That’s an awesome visualization. I really like that – burn it up and flush it away. It’s takes the emphasis off of having to deal with it right now. Perfect.

      You’re so welcome, lady! Thank you so much for your wonderful feedback. 🙂


  • I am very stuck…so I focused on the rainbow and my new shoes on the walk this morning…rain and sunshine coming and going…beautiful…then had to correct a tech problem on the blog and do corrections on a guest post for next week….still okay…
    puppy barking at squirrel laughter…

    I could not read this whole post…still need to back away…I will come back.

    I am finding writing my thank you notes is helping me….
    but forcing myself to get out of bed….

    Stopped reading book about awareness – just making me fall down….and I think it should not…
    Hope you will come over and listen to my 2 minute audio clip….a little gift that is making me smile?
    Thanks…I will come back – you know I will

    • Hey Patricia,

      Don’t worry. It’s ok to take even the reading of posts like this incrementally. Don’t try to do too much. If you are feeling uncomfortable and overwhelmed, you’re pushing too hard. I know you want to get to the heart of this, and you want to just get it over and done with (I’m the same way. I tend to push. That’s why I understand this perfectly), but it’s not until you stop pushing that you actually start to feel better. So focus more on the rainbow and the shoes and just go with that for a while. This backing off isn’t just for a few minutes. Sometimes it takes days or even weeks. Come back to the “issues” you want to work on when you feel well and truly better overall. 🙂

      Huge hug,


      P.S.: Will head over to your blog shortly. 🙂

  • Hi Melody,

    Interesting post. It seems that the idea is to take things slowly and one step at a time. Sounds like good advice. It is difficult to go from one frame of mind to another in a short period. I will go back and read your original post as well.

    • Hi Cathy,

      That’s precisely the idea. Some beliefs can be shifted completely in minutes. But the big ones, the ones we really care about, generally take much longer. We just have to move incrementally, little by little. Otherwise it becomes a very uncomfortable journey.

      Huge hugs!

  • heyy mell….,
    that was so good….
    you know an hour ago i was feeling very bad because of some reason and i was searching something that could make me happy …
    and see i am ecstatic now..
    its only because of this post of yours…
    thank you so much mell..

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