In my post Life After Death, Or How Life Is Like A Video Game, I explored Who We Really Are using a nerdy yet clever analogy (at least I like to think so) about video games. I described the relationship we have with our higher selves and how whatever we do here in the physical, the good stuff and the not so good stuff, benefits our higher selves and the entire non-physical realm. And, I explained why all we really have to do is to find the vibration of our higher selves to manifest whatever we want. So far so good. But y’all had a lot more questions about the dying experience. Given that today is Easter, I thought it fitting to talk about death.  And just to set the tone, because there’s no way I’m going to have a doom and gloom discussion about the Reaper, let me start you off with a joke:

Three knuckleheads died in a car accident and landed in heaven together. God addressed the first one, “Before you are allowed to enter heaven you must answer a question. What can you tell me about Easter?”

The first one looked puzzled for a moment then said, “Oh, I know. That’s the holiday in the fall when you pig out on Turkey and watch football games all day.”

“Wrong!” said God and the first one disappeared in a puff of smoke. God turned to the second one and asked him about Easter.

“Isn’t that the holiday in December when you get gifts and decorate a dead tree?”

“Wrong!” said God and the second one disappeared in a puff of smoke.

The last one looked nervous as God turned to him.

“What can you tell me about Easter?” God asked.

“Well that’s the holiday that occurs in early spring. It begins on the day Jesus was hung on a cross between two criminals and made to wear a crown of thorns. He dies and they bury him in a cave and roll a rock over the entrance to seal it. On the third day, Jesus is supposed to rise from the dead. So they roll the stone away from the cave entrance and if Jesus pops his head out it means six more weeks of winter.”

We take death WAY too seriously

When I read The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying about ten years ago, I got my first glimpse at a different perspective on death – one that didn’t fear dying, didn’t fight it, didn’t see it as something to be avoided at all costs. It dawned on me that we do everything in our power to avoid death and that our fear of it may be creating a whole lot of unnecessary suffering. We hook people up to machines and even when there’s nothing more to be done, we fight like hell to stave off the inevitable for just a couple more days. We see death as a sign of failure – a failure to live. It’s a tragedy. Unless someone was old and frail and hopefully really sick, the fact that they’ve died makes us think that something must’ve gone wrong. Why would God allow a young person to die? Where they being punished? Was it Karma from another life? Did they manifest their death because of their horrible thoughts? Did the Universe reach in and kill them off in order to settle some debt or in order to help someone else’s manifestation along?

We, as a society, have not made our peace with death. And yet, one thing is certain: We’re all going to die. Yes, even you. Possibly even me. Probably not Rock ‘n Roll. Why does that frighten us so much?

Life after death

The more I work on my spiritual development, the lighter and easier my view on death becomes. I’m able to see it as a mere transition – like leaving one awesome party to go to the next. But I’ll admit that this view is hard to explain to someone who doesn’t believe in life after death. The experiences I’ve had, connecting with my higher self, having conversations with Universal Intelligence, connecting with my guides and talking to dead relatives, have convinced me beyond a shadow of a doubt that this physical existence is not all there is. The more I explore my higher self, the less afraid of death I become.

I understand, though, that those who think that when they die they turn into worm food and that’s that, will have a harder time with death. And even those who believe in an afterlife may have been taught that it’s not all sunshine and roses. There’s hell and purgatory and a devil with a pitchfork who will poke you in the hiney for all eternity while making you watch the cast of The Jersey Shore performing Paris Hilton’s greatest hits. If any part of you believes that you will be judged for all your thoughts, words and deeds the second you die, you may not be too keen to have that experience. I get that.

But if you can wrap your head around the idea that we are truly powerful, eternal beings, that there is no judgment, only love, and that who we are in this physical reality is just a small part of Who We Really Are, then making peace with death isn’t that big of a stretch. If any of that resonates even a little bit with you, then this post is for you.

Accepting death does not mean rejecting life

When talking to spiritual people about death, I find that the biggest hurdle isn’t that they can’t believe that we go on after we kick the bucket. It’s the fear that embracing death is the same as rejecting life, as if one necessitates the other. It’s as though if one says “I embrace the idea of death and I’m not afraid of it. I think it’s going to be awesome”, it means the same thing as “I don’t fully appreciate the amazing gift that this life is”, or “I think everyone should just kill themselves right now. In fact, let me grab a chainsaw and help you all along.” It doesn’t.

I cherish life. I want to live it to the fullest. I want to have as many adventures as possible and grow old and wrinkly and have lots of awesome, funny and inappropriately dirty stories to tell. I do not want to die right this second. And yet, I’m not afraid of it. And I do think it will be a beautiful experience when it happens. One can respect and honor life and respect and honor death at the same time.

It’s like when you’re at a party and you’re having a great time. You don’t want to leave, because you’re enjoying yourself, but you know that you’ll have to leave eventually. So, when you get tired, or the party isn’t fun anymore, or you have other plans that necessitate you going to another party, you take off. You don’t stop having a good time ten minutes into the party because you know that at some point you have to leave. And you don’t have a fit when your friend, who has other plans, only stays for an hour and cuts out early. You don’t declare that “Something must have gone wrong!” You enjoy the party while you can, and then you head home. Death is kind of like that.

Death is not a sign of resistance, but a release from it

I’ve gotten a lot of questions about death and the most prevalent is: “Did that person manifest his death? Did they die because of their limiting beliefs?”, as if death is the ultimate manifestation of resistance. After all, if illness is sign of resistance, then why not death? They just built up enough resistance until the Universe dropped a piano on them or sent a bus to run them over.

But that line of thinking doesn’t hold up when you consider what resistance really is. We are always connected to Who We Really Are. That stream of energy is pure and high and full of love and it’s always broadcasting, like radio signal (from the most awesome radio station ever!). Our human bodies are the radios and there’s a little piece of Who We Really Are, like a little man inside the radio, turning the dial. When we have resistance, it’s like we’re introducing interference to that signal of love, we’re turning the dial to a different station. It gets all static-y and messy and we have a harder and harder time hearing the signal of pure love underneath. Saying that resistance causes death is like saying that if the interference gets so bad that the entire signal is blocked, it causes the radio to break down. But that’s not what death is. Death is a release from all resistance, not the result of it. When we die, we let go of all of that interference, all of our fears, all of our stupid, limiting beliefs and we rise up to that pure, high vibration of love. We can either turn the dial back to that station, or the little man inside the radio can decide to leave it and just go to the radio station itself.

Death is a manifestation, but not a bad one. Let’s say that a person has tons of resistance, for example. They’ve hunkered down and have refused to let go of those limiting beliefs and have manifested terminal cancer. They are getting worse and worse, but in that pain and illness, they desire to be well and to feel good like never before. The energy of their healthy self in the non-physical is getting bigger and bigger and in order to move into that state, they have to let go of their resistance. Sometimes, death is simply the “easiest” path to getting what we want. Death is a way to move into alignment. Mind you, it’s not the only way; we don’t have to die to fully attune to the signal of Who We Really Are. It’s just sometimes the most direct path between where we are and where we want to be.

So, you cannot create death for yourself by having “negative” thoughts. But, by having lots of resistance, death may become the only viable way for you to find the frequency of Who You Really Are (meaning, the only way you’ll allow at that point).

Death is just another option on the buffet

This is easier to understand when someone was crotchety, sick and old. But what about a young person who seemed happy and “was taken before their time”?

First of all, no one ever gets taken. They leave. The Universe does not and cannot assert itself into your experience and just kill you off. Death is not a punishment for past deeds or thoughts. People don’t die to teach others a lesson. They die because from a big picture perspective, including the view from non-physical, it’s the next logical step on their path.

We have demonized death to the point where we do not see it as a valid option. No one in their right mind would choose death. It’s an awful, awful thing. It’s the end of the journey and no one wants their journey to end.

You may have bristled at the word “option”. For many people, that brings up thoughts of teenagers and depressed housewives killing themselves indiscriminately. If we make death acceptable, anyone with a problem will just go and off themselves, right? Frankly, I find this line of reasoning ridiculous. No one commits suicide because it’s socially acceptable to do so, and no one is deterred from it because it’s not. Anyone who has ever either tried to commit suicide or been close to someone who did, knows that whether or not it’s legal or socially frowned upon doesn’t even factor into a decision that is made from a place of unbearable pain. (I may do a post on suicide at some point).

When we consider the big picture perspective, when we realize that our time here in the physical is simply a small (but significant and awesome) blip on the path that is our entire, eternal existence, and when we consider that we can come back anytime we want (and do), then we begin to see that death is just one more option to choose from in the great buffet of experiences.

Continuing the adventure

Consider that you’re in a big house with many rooms. And each room is filled with awesome games. You play with the games in the room that you’re in for a while, switching from one to the next as you please. Then, you get an idea to play another game, but you’ll have to go to another room in order to play it. Would you even think twice about it? Of course you wouldn’t. You would go to whatever room you’d need to in order to keep having fun.

Death, as seen from the non-physical, is just like that. It’s not a tragedy – it’s just the next logical step in continuing our journey. It’s the best way, in that moment, for us to continue our adventure and manifest what we want. It’s a means to an end, not something to be rushed into, but not something to be avoided, either. You don’t switch rooms until you want to play with a toy you can’t find in your current room. But no one gets to judge when it’s time for you to make that switch and no one gets to judge what you should want to play with.

Lack of control

What scares us most about death is that we feel we have no control over it. We fear that we could be in the prime of our lives, all happy and bouncy only to unexpectedly and unfairly be ripped from our physical existence. And the truth is, we can’t control death.

We can’t control if other people around us will die. That’s part of their path, and it involves us only to the extent to which we experience their death (or even the thought of their death). We cannot manifest the death of another person (we cannot cause them to die); it has to be their manifestation. Always. But we can manifest our participation in that experience. For example, when a loved one dies, whatever emotions you go through as a result of that will mirror your beliefs about death, life and often, yourself. Participating in the death experience of another can be a powerful catalyst for growth.

Our own deaths, however, are ALWAYS in line with what we ultimately want. When death becomes the easiest way for us to get what we truly desire, it manifests. Again, this is nearly impossible to believe if we think of death as a punishment or sign that something went wrong.   But when we let go of that perspective and embrace the idea that death is merely a transition, a means to continue the journey, it begins to make a lot more sense.

I think of those Tibetan monks, described in the Tibetan Book of Living and Dying, who, when it’s time for them to transition, simply close their eyes and go. They know it’s coming and they’re ok with it. It’s not an ending as much as it is a new beginning. I think of how they deal with illness and how they peacefully guide those who are dying towards their connection instead of hooking them up to tubes and machines and pleading with them to stay. It’s a peaceful and tranquil transition instead of a stressful one filled with fear and guilt. I think of how those, who are close to death, are often filled with such peace and knowing, how their fear seems to melt away and how they are filled with the energy of love and clarity that they often end up helping their grieving families through the experience.

Ultimately, I can’t convince you of anything and I would never try to. I’m simply giving you my point of view, a perspective I’ve come to accept and one that is still evolving constantly, that allows me to view death in a way that feels good. I no longer fear death and hearing that someone my age has died no longer sends me into a tailspin of insecurity. I don’t get uncomfortable around those who are dying. I no longer see death as a tragedy, or as a failure of some kind. This doesn’t mean that I don’t grieve when I lose someone close to me, of course I do. But I grieve for me, not for them, and that grief is a lot easier to deal with.

I realize that there are so many more aspects on death that need to be covered. In the near future, I’ll be posting about mass deaths (like a Tsunami) and public deaths (like murders that get splashed all over the news) from a Law of Attraction point of view, as well as what happens when we connect with and have conversations with those who have crossed over. I may also write about suicides, the death of a child, and the fear of grief (or pre-grieving, like when you’re afraid your pet will die). Until then, I’d love to hear your thoughts! And Happy Shiny Bunny Hugs!

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  • My 16 year old daughter died after being hit by a car last month.
    There’s nothing and no one here that will mean as much as she does.
    I’m her mother. And everything in me says that I need to be with her.
    I have lots of family that love me. But I don’t love them as much as I do her and never will.
    I just need to hold my baby girl and know that she is safe
    and not scared.
    How do I manifest my death so that I can be with her?

    • Hi Jody,
      I’m so very, very sorry for the pain you’re going through. My heart truly goes out to you.
      As a person who regularly talks to the “dead”, I can tell you that your daughter is not alone (nor has she ever been, and nor are you). She is not scared. I have been able to connect with people just before death and after. I have felt the joy, the warm liquid love that surrounds them, their playfulness, their total lack of worry (even for those “left behind), their KNOWING. And I always know, viscerally, that I’m going able to translate a small percentage of the actual feeling and intensity.

      She’s ok. More than ok, in fact. And she’s still with you. You two have an agreement and she will be with your for the rest of your life. There was a reason that her journey took this left turn, and her higher self (and your higher self) were in on it. I’m not trying to make you feel better. I know that I cannot. But I’m inspired to tell you that you and your daughter are not done. Your joint journey and your relationship will continue, just not in the form you expected it to.

      One of my best friend’s adult son (24) died a few years ago. She is now in regular contact with him and he’s helping her live her mission, which also benefits humanity. She could’ve never predicted the twists and turns her own life has taken since. And while she still experiences pain around his transition, it doesn’t have nearly the same intensity anymore. It will get better. It will never leave you (and you won’t want it to), but it will get better. You will find a way to consciously connect with your daughter. Your love is so great, you will not give up. I know that. And your daughter knows that. She picked a powerful warrior of a mother to go on this journey with. She does not NEED you to connect with her (in time), so she’ll be ok. She’s totally ok. She’s in bliss. But that doesn’t mean she’s not involved. And that there isn’t much to be discovered as you learn to hear her guidance (yes, she is now guiding YOU).

      I am sending you super long hugs. Give yourself time. Let yourself grieve. Don’t try to be strong right now. But also, maybe talk to her. Even if you can’t hear her talking back yet, she is there with you and she will help you. And you may begin to see little signs of communication (if something comes to your attention that makes you think of her, that’s from her!). Validate and accept those little signs and they’ll get larger.

      And no. You cannot manifest your death before ALL of you agrees to the timing. So, if you want to die, intend to die. If you then don’t die, you’re not done. This can be such a harsh truth to accept when you’re in tremendous amounts of pain. But if you can’t die, then there must be something else. And I believe that part of that journey is for you and your daughter to work together in some way.

      Sending you love and light and many hugs. You are in my thoughts,

  • I have a question about pet deaths. This is a bit long, but it’s so very important to me, so please bear with me!

    I had a cute little mouse (Mousey) who accidentally got loose from her cage. For 3 days she was gone and I sincerely hoped she would come back like another mouse I have, did a few years ago. Well, in 3 days time, she did come back and let me catch her (after some effort, just like the other mouse!) She was thirsty, hungry, and so happy to be back in her digs. I noticed a chirping noise after a few days went by (which could be a sign of an upper respiratory infection.) I had noticed it a few days before she got loose, so I went to the pet store to get some specific antibiotic for it and was told they they no longer sell that particular medicine. The lady I spoke with went on and on, raving about a vet that cares for their small mammals. I have never taken any of my mice to a vet, but she seemed so sure of him that I made an appointment over the phone. The secretary tried to make the appt for a Saturday with another vet since the raved-about vet would not be back to work til the following week and I was almost going to schedule it (just so I could get the medication.) The mouse vet overheard the conversation and he was willing to see me on his clinic day off, which was the next day. So, the next day, mousey sounded much better, but I still wanted to bring her in just to find out what the noise was. She was great, grooming herself, eating, curious, not scared while going in the car or in the waiting room with dogs barking.

    I finally saw the vet and he listened to the noise and said it was true vocalizations, not an upper respiratory infection. Then he picked her up with a washcloth to do more of the exam and all of the sudden, he said she stopped moving and took her in the “back.” When he came out in about 10 minutes, he said she was dead. I could not believe it. He then said she had a respiratory infection (he took x-rays) and that was the cause of death. Uh – no. HE was the cause of death. Her problem, which is common, could have been easily remedied with medication. I found out later that not only did he originally misdiagnose her, but that he mishandled her (vets are not supposed to catch & hold mice in that manner because prey animals have what is called a mercy mechanism, which basically kicks in when they perceive imminent harm/injury and they die before they suffer…

    So. I am trying to understand why this unfortunate series of coincidences resulted in that vet more or less killing my mouse. If mousy was supposed to die, why not when she got away? I was prepared to deal with a possible outcome like that. I was NOT prepared to deal with a happy, relieved mouse back in her little house and her dying literally in the hands of an incompetent vet because I took her to him. Needless to say, I sent her little body for a necropsy (pet version of autopsy.) I don’t have the results yet and I don’t know if I should file a complaint against the vet or “let it go?”

    Today, I asked out loud, “why did Mousy die?” A few hours later, I got to this website. I think my answer may be found here. QM, LOA, and tons of consciousness raising books describe and explain quite a bit – but I have not been satisfied with the explanations of death as it relates to innocent dependent sentient beings, like pets or children – who have no say in their own life, and who 100% rely on another human being for their care….when they are harmed/killed by those we entrust to care for them — like a physician, teacher, priest, vet, babysitter, etc…)

    Thank you so much for allowing this space for comments or questions.


  • I need help. You’re exactly right about suicide. I don’t want to die, I just want the pain to go away. I lost the love of my life, my soulmate. I was unfaithful, and although I didn’t physically cheat….I did emotionally through text. It was really bad. And she saw everything. I manifested everything that happened to me. Some people say once a cheater always a cheater, that is untrue. It was honestly the biggest mistake I have ever made in my life. The best thing that has ever happened to me is gone. I knew the love was real, because she took me back and we lasted 7-8 months but it wasn’t the same.

    I am so lost. 24/hours out of the day I’m living in emotional pain, and I can’t imagine living the rest of my life like this. I’m 26 years old. I’m looking for a miracle. Any help will be much appreciated.

    • Hi San,

      I’m not sure how much help I can be in a comment. You’re not a cheater. People don’t stray without a really good reason. You had one. Think about what it was. It’s not that you’re stupid or careless or bad. Your reasons, whatever they were, were valid. They ALWAYS are. When you find them, your behaviour will make sense to you.

      And when you get that clarity, perhaps you’ll be better able to explain to your love what happened and have an open, authentic conversation. She may just understand. The key is to figure out what really drove you to your behaviour.

      Good luck,


  • Without even writing the word “suicide” I got this in a search somehow:

    So there are no coincidences…

    I also heard a funny story years ago on the “Powerful Intentions” forum that someone gave the “The Secret” to a suicidal friend and they decided to sit there with that book and try to manifest their own death!
    Now that’s irony! (Is it?)

    I’m pretty sure that would work too. 🙂

    • Hey Kane,

      You’re right. There are no coincidences. 🙂

      When someone wants to die, what they really want is a release from their pain. If death is the path of least resistance for them to get that, they will die. But if not, then another manifestation will come. What you think you want and what you really want are often two very different things.

      Huge hugs!

  • It’s amazing how easily this changed my perspective. No resistance at all. It was like I was just waiting to hear it.

    Ironically, the same day I read this, I talked with someone who knew about LOA & he brought up how Esther Hick’s husband died months ago from cancer. When I looked it up, I was shocked how many people were suddenly skeptical of LOA & questioning why he couldnt (insert person’s idea of perfect death here). They should all read this post 🙂

    • Hey Mike,

      Jerry Hicks’ passing was a wonderful opportunity for more people to make their peace with death. I heard, on a recent recording, how Abraham explained how Jerry’s cancer came about. Why would he manifest cancer to bring about his transition? For him, due to beliefs about cancer (it was in his family, he had strong beliefs that the medical system had no incentive to actually find a cure…) it was simply the path of least resistance. Nothing at all went wrong. But people had strong reactions to his death, which allowed them (if they so chose) to examine the beliefs that caused those reactions and release them.

      Personally, if dying in a certain way could help a lot of people find more of their alignment, I would be willing to do it. 🙂

      Huge hugs!


  • This article was a miracle for me today. My beautiful mother had been in the hospital this past week, and although I’d had a positive view on passing on, and was comfortable with the idea of “death”, it was very difficult not to feel sadness. I asked God, my mom, and the universe to give me strength and ease my mind, to return to that comfortability. As I was reading this article this morning, it started to make me feel better again. And when I got to the part that said… “like leaving one awesome party to go to the next,” my Dad quietly said “She’s gone.” I looked up and she had passed. This is extremely profound to me, because my Mom wanted me to be in the right headspace before she left. Thank you for this.

    • Wow J. Thank you SO much for sharing this very personal story with us. Our loved ones often wait to pass on, until their family members can “handle it”.

      I am so honored and touched that my post was able to assist you in this way. Your mother has just released all of her resistance – all of her fears, her worries, her pain, etc. She is now enjoying everything she ever created but didn’t allow herself to line up with in the physical. It’s truly the party of a lifetime.
      It’s ok to grieve and to miss her. But know that you are really grieving for yourself. She’s not really gone. You can access her any time you like, but you must go where she is, vibrationally.

      I’m sending you huge happy shiny puppy hugs and a ton of loving energy.


  • Hi Melody,

    Beautiful post. Interestingly, even way before I started studying the laws of the universe I can’t say that I have ever really been afraid of death. Maybe it’s because I was raised by a mother who actually thought that death was not the worse thing that can happen to someone like some people, a lot of people think.

    As you mentioned, we live in a society that sees death as the worse of the worse. Yeah, better be hooked to tubes and totally unconscious than be dead. Or those people on death row, better putting them gently to sleep to death than letting them live in 6×4 cell for the rest of their natural life. That’s the kind of society we live in. No wonder most people fear death or see death as as some kind of punishment.

    Thanks you for helping those who fear death to see it under a different light.

    • Hey Sylviane,

      I’ve heard Abraham say: “If you knew what the death experience really was, you wouldn’t punish your criminals with it.” The point was that we’re actually kind of rewarding those on death row by giving them death. It’s a very different perspective on death.
      I love that your mother raised you not to be afraid of death. I can’t really remember being all that afraid of death myself. I remember that when I was little, one of the nuns at my school died and they laid her out for a few days in the church. We kept daring each other to touch her (we never did. It was just a bit too scary). But at no point did it make me sad or horrified. I kind of just knew that this body wasn’t alive but that the essence of the person inside was something different. I was quite young then.
      When my grandmother died, I was terrified to view the body (as you know, in Europe, they don’t embalm the dead. There’s no makeup or anything. It’s truly a dead body). But when I did, I immediately felt relieved. It was so apparent that this dead shell was not my grandmother. I actually said “that’s not her”. It was her former body, but it wasn’t her, and that feeling was palpable.

      I also sometimes wonder why people who view life primarily as suffering don’t view death as a release from that (not something I agree with, since I don’t agree that life has to be about suffering). It’s a paradox: Those who enjoy life the most tend to be the least afraid of death and vice versa.

      Huge hugs!

  • That is what we meant to do! Make up stories which feels right 🙂 We are free to believe whatever we want 🙂 That is creation. That freedom guided me to LOA . In LOA I can be me. I never found it before, I was always told what should I be like. I chose LOA and I believed it, faith and trust is very important but when I made a decision I somehow stopped needing faith, and I started to know. I tattooed LOA in my soul and it is me now, it is obvious. Believe changed into knowledge. And now it is a principle. I understand now that I am responsible for my own life, for my choices, if I am not happy about something I know that I can change it, it is not God’s fault or my parent’s fault or anyone’s fault, it was my choice, I don’t like it anymore, so I can change it, focus on new. LOA is balance, it always comes from me, I am the magnet of events brought to me by Universe, each event takes me closer to my goal 🙂 That is the path I am walking and it makes so much sesnse, anwsers my questions and makes me feel really trully awesome!
    And Melody thank you very very much for your blog, thanks to you i am able to share with people that I know will understand me! That gave me so much confidence! Just to share and be accepted! Thank you Melody and all the readers and members just for beeing there, that is a huge support!!!!!

    Lots of Love


    • Hey Anya,

      Thank you so much for your wonderful words. I set out to create a space where people could find answers, both from me and from others here, and to find a safe place to connect with like minded individuals. To hear that it has become that for someone makes me a Happy Shiny Puppy. 😀

      It’s so empowering, isn’t it? To truly feel that you can receive your own reality. To feel and see the evidence of that. To know that you can control how you feel and you can choose to feel good. Best. Realization. Ever. 🙂

      Huge hugs!

  • So far, I like this version of death the best. No one really knows and we, humans, in our attempt to feel better about things, like to make up stories to make it seem like we’ve got it all figured out. I find it amusing that we all do this and get so attached to the stories we make up.

    I have a question about the number of souls out there (while we’re making up stories). If we’re recycled, are the same number of souls recycled? Or is the growing human population the reincarnation of all the animal and plant souls whose bodies the humans are busy killing off? If there’s a set number, where and when did they start and who/what created them? If the number changes, what happens to the ones that disappear/merge? Or are they all part of an energetic blob that creates little droplets to inhabit physical forms?

    • Hey Paige,

      I like that. We’re all making up stories. So, if that’s true, then why not make up stories that feel good? 🙂

      We’re not recycled. The false premise in that belief is that we are either non-physical or physical. We’re either dead of alive. But that’s not the case. We are both physical and non-physical and we can even project ourselves into more than one physical body at a time. Yes, we’re that good.

      From what I know, and this is severely limited given the depth of the questions you’re asking, we are not limited in number. We are infinite and yet, we are also all one. Whenever I go anywhere near trying to understand this subject further, I get a sense of such infinite expansion, such grandeur that I struggle to comprehend it. So this is all I can tell you now (I’ll probably know more tomorrow. And the next day. And the next…) 😉

      We are non-physical consciousness. We are individual consciousness that is also all connected. And each one of us can project into as many life forms as we like. We don’t always project into the same number. One of your characters doesn’t have to die in order for you to decide to be born into another. You get to play as many games as you like. Or not.

      I hope that answered your excellent question. Wow.

      Huge hugs!

  • Hey there!

    Great post Melody!!!! For me death is simply a transformation, going back to where I came from. Before birth I was there and when I will die I will go back, I know that place I just don’t remember it, but I have got a feeling it is awesome! God is there in person for chats and stuff!! I forgot it for a reason. My choice was to live, experience and create as Anya. I chose to forget, to discover who I really am. So here I am doing exactly that 🙂 I wonder do we sometimes remember? Or do we always forget? We have the choice for sure. That is my point of view. I totally agree we don’t have to be scared at all 🙂

    Lots of love!!!!!!


    • Hey Anya,

      I love that: “My choice was to live, experience and create as Anya.” Exactly!

      I do think that some people, a very few, remember who they are, or at least to some degree. People like Jesus, Buddah, and others perhaps remembered their real selves to a larger degree than we do. But we are all in the process of remembering now. 🙂

      Huge hugs!

    • Thanks Steve!!! This was a hard post to write (the subject of death is just so big!!) but I’m happy with the result. Thanks so much for this wonderful feedback. 🙂

      Huge hugs!

    • Thanks so much Angela! The physical experience can be so delicious! I really wonder, if someone is afraid of death, living their lives on the assumption that this is all there is, wouldn’t they live life to the fullest? Wouldn’t they take MORE risks and have more fun? But it seems that the greater the fear of death, the less joyful the life… Paradox.

      Huge hugs!

  • I write about death all the time because I do family history and genealogy. I have a lot of fun with it.
    I do believe we all chose to be here and have to honor the bodies we’ve been given and the mission that is ours alone to live. Any fears or regrets about death are related, I believe, to the knowledge that we haven’t done either of those two things. Even if we don’t do our best, if we live with gratitude for our life, we’ll feel peaceful unless we’ve been taught or influenced differently.
    I love to talk about death and especially to people who have “lost” loved ones.

    • Hey Betsy! Welcome to Deliberate Receiving!

      That’s a great point! The more joyfully, fearlessly and authentically people have lived their lives, the less fear they tend to have of dying. I shared an article on Facebook just recently about the top 5 regrets that people have when they die. It was things like “I shouldn’t have worked so much.”, and “I wish I’d been more authentic, gone after my dreams, honored myself more”, etc. If you don’t feel like you’ve really lived, like your whole life was about obligation and joy always came last (and usually never), I can imagine that the idea of leaving would be much harder to take. But we can change that. If we don’t want to regret our lives when we’re dying, we should start really living now. What have we got to lose, really? 🙂

      Huge hugs!

  • Hi Melody,

    An awesome post again. I love all your analogies and many of them I have used myself as well. I think life is all about experience so you can also see life as a theatrical performance. When the actors have ended the performance they get a huge applause from the audience. And I think that the villain in the play rarely gets hauled of the stage in order to be tried and punished for his crimes! So much for (the fear of) hell. As far as the last judgment is concerned, I think that is an evaluation of the life you just left that you do yourself, maybe together with some friends or advisors, and then you decide what you want to play next. And where.

    As far as not knowing what happens after death is concerned, when you have realized that it all starts with consciousness and that consciousness creates matter and not the other way around, then it is obvious that our spirit was there long before our body, so when we lay down the body, the spirit is still there, only many experiences wiser. I have learned that the Dutch word for body, lichaam, derives from the Gothic language and originally meant something like ‘fleshcloth’ or ‘fleshgarment’. You know, the costume you put on for your act in the theatre. So our forebears knew already what it is all about.

    To me death is a doorway into another dimension, another world, as is birth. It is both at the same time because always you die in one world and are simultaneously born into the other one. Maybe until you have totally mastered everything in and around all your bodies (spirit, mental, emotional, physical) and can manifest every vibration at will. Then you can manifest yourself anywhere and even anywhere at the same time without having to be born there and die somewhere else. That is what I call Resurrection, it being Easter and all.

    Love to all of you,


    • Hey Anny,

      I love that!!! The idea that the villain in the play never gets prosecuted in “real life”. I may have to steal that. 😛
      I remember reading in the Tibetan Book of Living and Dying that they do see death as a birth, and they liken it to the birth of a child, which we celebrate. So why not celebrate a person’s birth into the next world? I wonder what our funerals would be like if we did that?

      I’ve used a theater analogy before, but you took it to a new level. Love the thought sharing here.

      Huge smushy hugs!

      • Hi Melody,

        You’re very welcome to use the analogy. I personally thought it makes things very clear indeed. That is what analogies often do. And it is important that people start acknowledging these things in their hearts.

        As far as celebrating someone’s birth into the next world, that is what my husband and I, and our children, did more or less when my mother died. We could not really share that yet with the family but we did make the service before the funeral about thankfulness for and celebration of her life. And we felt her presence and that of my father and other ‘dead’ family members, celebrating with us. It really was a most beautiful experience. And it became even better. I invited her (silently, the family could not take that yet) to take all the flowers we and everyone else had brought with her to her new home. I never thought of that any more until months later, when I visited a friend who channels, my father suddenly spoke to her and told her that my mam was fine, that she had a great time and that she still had the flowers! I had never, ever, mentioned it to anyone, so she could not have heard it from the living. All of this helped so much in dealing with the loss of her presence here, and all it took really was the decision to turn it all into something positive and beautiful.



        • Wow Anny, that’s just beautiful! I’ll bet your mom had a great time at her funeral. I remember at my grandmother’s funeral, we were in this cold church (they do not heat the churches in Germany) and the priest was talking and we were all so sad. Then, as I looked at the coffin, I could see my grandmother’s energy with my third eye. She wasn’t in corporal form (I didn’t see her body), but I knew it was her. She was so happy and joyful and playful. Happy Shiny Puppy Energy. I didn’t dare tell my family, because I thought they’d see it as me trivializing the pain (this was several years ago and I wasn’t as “out” about my beliefs then).

          The next day, we were talking and I just felt that I should say something. It turned out that both my sister and my aunt had seen my grandmother in the exact same spot, but hadn’t said anything for fear of appearing weird. Boy, I just realized how much my family has changed since then, he, he. Anyway, that and the way her energy felt, so joyous and happy, really helped us all shift into a better feeling place about her death. And started to talk about her life, her joys instead of her pain, her accomplishments instead of what she missed out on. And it made all the difference. :o)

          Huge hugs,

  • M – please give me the heads up on which buffet they’re serving death up at! I’d like to know that ahead of time so I can be prepared. lol And be sure to pay that check after that meal!!

    The fear of death does have a lot to do with control. We seem to want to control everything in our life and death is the last big ‘to do’ item we want control over. Thinking of death as a continuation, evolution and manifestation does make death sound more palatable!

    You make even death sound inviting!! lol (or at least not that bad)

    • He, he, he, Vishnu. That would be an interesting buffet…

      It does take a bit of time, but sitting with this point of view, particularly whenever I’m faced with death, has brought me enormous relief. I’m so happy if it can do the same for others. 🙂

      Huge hugs!

  • Live this life fully till you die. And then commit to living your next life too just as fully:-)

    Melody, I loved the analogy of playing games in lots of different rooms. All I can say is bring it on! I just hope that the next “game” is just as much fun…

    • Hey Arvind,

      I think that it just keeps getting better and better. We’re always evolving and that means that our capacity and potential for joy are also constantly growing. All we have to do is keep up. 😀

      Huge hugs!

  • Hi Melody,

    What a wonderful post! The part that resonates most with me is that death is not failure. We see illness and death as bad and health and life as good, and in the big picture neither state is good or bad. It just is.

    You’re so right that we fear the loss of control that death implies. It’s the possibility of the unexpected that freaks people out. It’s like death is the ultimate reminder that we really don’t control anything. Which sounds like a contradiction of LOA, but really isn’t. It’s the physical, unconnected part of ourselves that feels out of control. When we connect to our non-physical selves, to the Universe itself, we relax and realize there’s nothing to control and nothing to fear.

    From the whole Jesus story, the part that makes the most sense to me is his blessing the people who killed him. Connected to Spirit, he saw that everything was happening as it should. His last conscious act was to try to help them feel the connection to Love.

    Happy Easter! I hope you’re eating lots of chocolate!

    Mary Carol

    • Hey Mary Carol,

      For me, the answer is in getting a large enough perspective. If we focus only on the small picture – our physical existence, it’s easy to think that this is all there is and that anything that threatens that (illness, death) must be bad. But when we see this life as just a part of a much larger journey, it takes the fear out of it. It also takes the pressure of. You can take more risks. Because you can’t mess it up. It’s all about the experience. Why not try something a bit scary? Why not try something exciting? Why not open a business or learn how to fence or jump out of airplanes or kiss your crush?

      Oh yay! I’m having such a wonderful day. And I always at chocolate. 😛

      Huge hugs!

  • Hi Melody,

    Great post that emphasizes our all-too-human concern with fear…in this case, fear of the unknown after “death”.

    I’ve been happy to learn who I am and that I am just here for a while, but am ready to enjoy my next experience…wherever! I really resonated with your writing about enjoying this adventurous party of life on Planet Earth. What fun this all is!

    Love your work…Cynthia

    • Thanks so much Cynthia! It really is a party, isn’t it? I’m collecting adventures. Someday, when I’m old and gray and still totally awesome, I want to have lots of adventurous stories to tell. Of course, I’ll still be creating new ones, as well. I can just see it now: the first 120-year old woman to bungee jump. Ha!

      Huge hugs,

  • Hi Melody,

    We do so grieve for not only the person that has died, but for ourselves because if they were close, we will feel their loss for years to come. I like this line – “It’s not a tragedy – it’s just the next logical step in continuing our journey.” Well said, and makes death seem less of a subject of our anxiety to one looked at more reasonably. You explanation lessens our fear of death, and lets us accept it as a natural part of life, which it is. Thanks for sharing.

    • Thanks so much Cathy. That was my goal – to try to lessen the fear of death. No small feat… 🙂 I find that people often take things to extremes – like if we are truly at peace with death, then we should no longer grieve. I don’t agree. I think it’s all about balance. We can grieve and acknowledge our perception of loss, but realize that this is simply our perception and then work our way out of that. That’s a far cry from feeling that someone is “gone” and something has gone horribly wrong.

      Huge hugs!

  • Such an interesting read for me Melody. When my late husband was pronounced terminally ill, some years ago now, I did not believe in life after death. Not even a smidegen. Equally, I knew nothing of LOA or any spiritual principles.

    During his illness I had an experience as though someone had turned over a corner of the carpet of infinity, showing me a glimpse of what awaited him. It was amazing and I felt the most incredible level of love that also was his. The love was indescribable, akin to what people who have near death experiences talk of, although I wasn’t in that state.

    I don’t know what was in my consciousness, or his, that drew that experience, all I know it was one of the biggest blessings of my life.

    • Hey Elle,

      That’s awesome! Thanks so much for sharing your story here. This is a perfect example of how profoundly and positively we can be affected when we take part in someone else’s death experience. Bravo! 🙂

      Huge hugs!

  • Please learn this one lesson: there is no death. The Tibetan and Egyptian Books of the Dead were about what we term life. It was a guide for those who are alive, but not living. All that ever was, is and will be, is here now, and forever, and that means YOU!

  • I don’t think you should worry about death. You need to live your life without fear or worry. Nobody knows about death or the afterlife for sure. You will get there when you get there.

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