Will there be a Tsunami in Florida?

Awesome Dudette asks: “I have a friend who lives in Florida and has had “visions” that came true in the past regarding hurricanes and tsunamis.  She had a vision in the last year that Florida will have a huge tsunami from the mid eastern Atlantic ridge. Could this be true?”

First off, just a bit of a disclaimer: I don’t read people’s futures (or future events). That’s not what I do. So I can’t tell you for sure if Florida will have a Tsunami or not. I can tell you that when I think of that scenario it doesn’t feel true to me. But then, that’s MY reality, so… 😉

Whatever happens to you MUST be a vibrational match to you. So, the real question is: “What kinds of experiences are you currently a match to?” You’re clearly afraid of being caught in a devastating event. You’re afraid of suffering. Do you think you’re a match to that? Is suffering showing up in greater and greater ways in your life? Or, is it more likely that you’ve got a bit of fear going, most likely a fear of losing control in some way, and that this encounter with your friend has triggered that fear?

This experience of talking to your friend is your manifestation, my dear.

But, let’s just say, for the sake of argument, that there is going to be a Tsunami in Florida, or anywhere else. If there is, and you’re not a match to pain and suffering, your experience of that event won’t be full of pain and suffering. You’ll be inspired to leave before the wave hits, or you’ll be in a position to help others. You could be empowered, finding solutions and supplies when others can’t. Or, you may be thousands of miles away, having had the sudden strong urge to go visit a relative.

Being afraid of a natural disaster doesn’t serve you. But there is a message here: Why did you line up with a conversation that scared you so much? What is it that you’re afraid of? What bullshit thoughts are floating around in your head that this experience can make you aware of?

If, however, you can’t shift this fear, then I’d advise you to leave the state even if you’re not driven to do so naturally. Because if you continue to live in that kind of fear, you’re going to keep manifesting more and more experiences that match it. You won’t need a Tsunami for that, either. You could just be the victim of a good old fashioned robbery. So, stay and feel good or leave and feel good. Don’t stay and feel bad. That won’t serve you no matter what.

“In the Middle of Difficulty Lies Opportunity” – What does that mean?

Awesome Kat asks: “I have always loved Einstein’s empowering quote “In the middle of difficulty lies opportunity”, but have wondered the true meaning of his statement. 

Did he mean that no matter how shitty we see things, they really aren’t that bad?  Or it is in difficulty that we expand?  It is in this manner, through difficulty, that we can truly learn, even though LOA says that easy is peasy, i.e. there’s no reason to make things hard.  Or is it in difficulty that we can be open to other avenues that we may not have noticed before?  Perhaps all of the above?” 

Here’s my take on the quote: Difficulty can be another way of describing a “negative or unwanted manifestation”. So, when life gets hard or the shit hits the fan, you’ve got difficulty. Negative manifestations always have two purposes: The first is to mirror some kind of resistance back to you in such a perfect way that you can figure out what it is. So, if you have a scary experience that makes you feel vulnerable, you may well have some limiting beliefs that make you feel vulnerable, as well. The message is in how the experience feels.

The second purpose of negative manifestations is that they also ALWAYS provide us with the perfect opportunity to overcome that resistance. By doing so, we are able to catch up with the energy of Who We Really Are and receive whatever that little piece of resistance was standing in the way of. As we move towards what we want, any beliefs we hold that contradict that desire, those obstacles that are keeping us from getting what we want, are going to manifest so that we can release them and get what we want. So, the resistance is manifesting to serve us.

A simple, but perfect example is when you get the flu because you don’t like your job. Not only is the flu going to make you feel even more overwhelmed and scared of losing your job (the mirror), but it’s also giving you an opportunity  to rest, to take it easy, to get away from work and shift your perspective. By being forced to take a break, you end up realizing just how much you’ve been pushing yourself and just how unhappy you’ve been, which causes you to start the process of changing your situation. There was massive opportunity in that there flu.

I don’t want my soul mate to die!

Awesome Bret asks: “I want to attract a soul mate but sometimes I get thoughts about them dying early and me breaking down completely.  So I was thinking I should do affirmations that state what I want in my soul mate AND include that I want them to live a long and healthy life with me. What are your thoughts about this?”

It’s clearly time for me to break out the sarcasm. But I assure you, I do it with love and only to make a point. 😉 Ready?

So… what you’re essentially asking for in your affirmation is that the love of your life adjust her lifespan so that you can feel good? My question to you is, why do you assume that you would break down completely if your partner died before you? What fear is being triggered by that thought?

You can’t control how long someone lives. None of us can do that. But thinking that your happiness is tied to the lifespan of another gives all your power away. You’re actually expecting to be unhappy forever if someone great were to come into your life and leave for some reason. You’re also kind of expecting the Universe to be an a-hole and bring you some amazing woman only to kill her off shortly thereafter. By focusing on that fear, however, you’re almost certainly keeping the most amazing women away from you. Your fear won’t let them in. It thinks it’s better to be single than to go through that kind of pain.

Let me tell you something: No matter who you end up with, she’s going to die. So will you. There’s no avoiding that. But, is it really better to sit alone in the playground, or only play with the gross kid who eats his boogers, because you’re too afraid to get attached to the fun kids in case they go home an hour earlier than you? Or, would you rather play with the funnest kids available, trusting that if they do leave, you can find other fun kids to play with, or even have a great time climbing the jungle gym by yourself? Do you really want to miss out on all that awesomeness, watching as others live it up while you send sad glances their way, unwilling to take the risk, just in case? Do you honestly want to be that guy? Of course you don’t.

Living life instead of existing means taking risks. And once you understand that you truly create your own experience, meaning that if Ms. Awesome dies on you or leaves in some other way, there’s no reason you can’t attract the Ms. Spectacular that Ms. Awesome prepared you for, then the risk isn’t even all that great. Do you sit down with your favorite meal and ruin it by lamenting the fact that it’ll be eaten and gone soon? Or do you enjoy every bite, while you’re eating it? Well, don’t go looking for the woman of your dreams while focusing on how awful it’ll be when she dies. I promise you, even if you could find her with that mindset, your life with her wouldn’t be the one you’re dreaming of.

Focus on how you will feel at your happiest and trust that as you hold that vibration, you’ll line up with more and more experiences that feel that way. When  you focus in your soul mate living a long life, you’re almost certainly focusing on your fear instead, so stay away from that whole subject. Don’t go too far into the future. Focus on thoughts that feel truly good. As you do that, a future that feel the same way will start to come into focus. And then Ms. Amazing will show up. With her twin sister, Ms Spectacular. Or, if you prefer, you can think of her as Ms. Backup.