Coaching Call #022 is out today! The topic of today’s call is: Healing Childhood Abuse + Powerful Healing Meditation.

This is, quite possibly, the most powerful coaching call I’ve ever published. The client originally applied for a coaching call in order to figure out why she kept manifesting recurring financial disasters. What came to light very quickly, was that the setbacks were a manifestation of the powerlessness she felt, which has been caused by childhood abuse, something she thought she’d long since dealt with.

I took the client through a healing visualization, and she shifted so much energy so quickly, I have to admit, it even surprised me a bit. I decided not to edit the visualization process, even though there are some periods of silence, so that anyone listening could follow along and benefit from the massive energy produced on the call. Even if you haven’t suffered from childhood abuse, this technique can be applied to a variety general or specific situations. Let your intuition guide you.

I really look forward to your feedback on this one. See the Call Summary Here.

I’ve mentioned many, many times that I’m a huge fan of Abraham, and consider them to be my most influential teachers to date, surpassed only by my own guides (whom I have incidentally dubbed my “Superfriends”, Southpark fans rejoice). And because my understanding of the Law of Attraction has been so heavily influenced by Abe, I get a lot of questions from people asking me to clarify statements that Abraham has made. I’ve decided to start publishing some of these questions, along with my answers. It’s taken me a while to do this because, well, I had a few concerns to overcome.

I was a bit worried that people might think I’m trying to infringe on Esther Hick’s territory (as if that were possible…) I’m totally not. I want to make it clear that I’m not talking FOR Abe (although, they have recently joined my Superfriends and I converse with them regularly, something any of us can do). So, I can’t tell you for sure what Abe meant when they sent that block of energy to Esther, or why she chose to translate it in the way she did. That would be impossible. We don’t know what the energy of the original question really was, and it’s changed by now, anyhow. What I can give you is my own take on the question, as it pertains to the energy of the people who are NOW reading this blog. In other words, you may sometimes elicit a slightly different answer through me than the original asker did through Esther. (If this paragraph didn’t make much sense to you, don’t worry about it. It was directed more towards Abers than anyone else.) So, with that disclaimer in mind, here we go:

Is Negative Emotion Really Always About Me?

Awesome Dudette asks: “I have a question about the quote below. How is my emotion always about my personal desire? What if I see someone mistreated and feel bad? Or a helpless animal? How is it about my relationship with my own desire, Melody?”

Abe Quote: “Your emotion, your indicator of vibration, is indicating the ratio between your currently focused desire and any other belief or thought that you hold about same. When you feel negative emotion, anger about something, or fear… the name of the emotion does not matter, it always means that there is a desire within you that, in this moment, you are contradicting with some other thought. Your emotions are always about your relationship with your own desire, and nothing else.” – Abraham

First off, read the following two articles, which fully explain what your emotions are and what vibrational discord is. Go on, I’ll wait here.

The Purpose of Our Emotions

Vibrational Discord Explained

Done? Ok, good. The way that “desire” is used here, pertains to ALL of your desires. When we talk about the essence of all that we want, we can also refer to that as Who We Really Are, because Who We Really Are evolves to become the version of us that has ALL that we really want in each and every moment. Vibrationally, the two (your true desires and Who You Really Are) are a total match.

So, when you look at something in a way that causes you to experience negative emotion, you are, in that moment, focusing on a frequency that contradicts (or really doesn’t match) the vibration of Who You Really Are, or something that you want.

If you see someone being mistreated, and it feels bad to you, the reason it feels bad is because of the way that you’re looking at it. This can be confusing. How could you look at someone being mistreated and feel good? Well, you can’t. Your Inner Being isn’t looking at the mistreatment. She is seeing the Inner Beings of the people involved and focusing completely and totally on their safety, happiness and well being. This feels good. Does that mean we should just ignore people who are being mistreated? Nope. It means that we should notice how “off” the mistreatment feels and then determine what we want instead and focus on that. And, often, as we do that, we are then inspired to solutions – we may step in and stop the mistreatment, or we may rally others to do that, or we may come up with ways to prevent future mistreatment.

The big difference between aligning with the solution and being inspired to action and trying to stop the mistreatment so that it will stop the pain (and really, it’s our own pain and discomfort we wish to stop) is that one really, really works (the mistreatment actually gets less) and the other often leads to even bigger problems (more powerlessness, more pain, more abuse).

When you see something you don’t like and it hurts you, it’s because your Inner Being has already asked “What do I want instead?” and is focusing there. The negative emotion you feel is your indicator that it’s time for you to do the same.

Did Abe Recommend Unethical Sales Practices?

Awesome Joy (whose name I love!) asks: “I was watching an old DVD from Abraham-Hicks about LOA and money. The Gentleman said how, as a realtor, he told his clients to hold off for a few years on buying homes because he felt prices would be lower. He felt it was a service because it was honest of him. He looked at what was happening logically and obviously, he was right. He told his customers this in ’06 and ’07. She [Esther/Abe] said if you look at the bigger picture it means improvement will come. The people that focus on what’s wrong are adding to it. She asked, was he going to add negatively to what’s coming? She said he needed to decide what part of the economic game he wanted to play. That it takes strength to separate himself from the predominate reality and everything is about the vibration each individual gives out. So from that and other things she said, he responded that by being honest and putting off business, it was not a service. That he could instead serve a higher purpose of letting everyone control their own economic reality. She said yes, don’t let the truth of something be the criteria of whether you give it your attention. How it feels is what matters, not the truth. I kind of feel like she’s saying they’re SOL [Shit Out of Luck].

I work in a lingerie store and do bra fittings. Some of the people I work with put people in ill fitting bras intentionally. I, instead, tell people the truth if we do not have their size and recommend places I use to find that perfect fit. While I do feel nervous and a bit scared telling them because I know how women are about their bodies, I’d rather them know the truth and have a better fit, because that’s what I wanted for myself and was happy when I had it. With Abraham-Hicks saying that, I may be interpreting it wrong, I was surprised and slightly disgusted. If I, instead, did not tell the truth because of the initial vibrations and he didn’t either, isn’t that a bit selfish and wrong? What if their intuition led them to us for that purpose? To tell them something they don’t know to confirm that feeling their intuition is giving them. What are your thoughts on that?”

Alright, yes, there’s a misinterpretation here. Abe wasn’t saying that you should be a selfish bitch, treat people in a way that makes you uncomfortable and excuse it all by declaring that they got whatever they vibrationally deserved. 😉

The original realtor was doing what felt right to him – he was warning people that the market would decrease and that if they wanted a good deal, they should wait. There was nothing wrong with that. The tweaking that occurred was in the perspective he had that caused him to think that he needed to be warning people – that the only available reality was one where prices would go down and the only way for people to get a good deal was to wait. He hadn’t considered that he could line up with good deals NOW, that LOA could bring awesome deals to him and his clients at any time, regardless of what the economy was doing. He was acting off of a limited and false assumption.

Of course he’s not responsible for the vibrations of his clients. But he is responsible for his own. He was creating, aligning with and adding focus to a future with an economic downturn. So, he was adding negatively to what’s to come. If he were to (theoretically) advise the clients he attracted with THAT SAME VIBRATION to do something else, that would’ve been unethical. It would’ve gone against his desire to serve others and provide them with the best deals he could. It would’ve felt off to him. But, if he changed his own vibration so that he would align with real estate that would increase in value, with deals that were awesome NOW, then he could attract clients (different clients, obviously) who were a match to THAT, and close all the sales he wanted NOW. And, he’d be adding to the energy of economic prosperity at the same time.

You don’t attract the same customers as your colleagues do. You may think that it’s random and that you just get whatever customer comes through the door next, but I assure you, it’s all precisely arranged by LOA. Your customers are a match to being told the truth and being sold well fitting bras (and, as a woman, I can attest that ill-fitting bras should have a special place in hell reserved for them). The clients that your colleagues attract are a match to wearing pinchy torturous monstrosities that give them back boobs. They are not your problem. Your own vibration is. So, if you wanted to do some tweaking, you could focus on attracting clients who will find a well fitting bra in your shop. That way, you don’t have to send them to other shops, but they still find the perfect bra. You could even get the reputation as the go to person for finding the perfect bra! And of course, LOA would only bring you those customers who were a match to that. 🙂

Got Questions about what Abe said?

Well, I hope that was as much fun for you as it was for me. I have several more questions about Abe statements that I’ll answer in future posts. If you listen to Abraham and have some confusion about one of their statements (and you resonate with my answers and clarifications), feel free to Contact Me, and I’ll add your question to the list.