Today, I have another extra special treat for you. Awesome reader Nay, whom you may know as a super frequent contributor to the comment section, sent me a beautiful email last week. In it, she described how she shifted her beliefs and affected a dramatic physical healing. I thought the email was an incredible example of “doing it right”, and she graciously agreed to let me publish it here on the blog, so that all of you could benefit from her wisdom. The subheadings are mine (for ease of reading), but the rest is all Nay. Enjoy!!
Here’s Nay:
I have to give you an update on something that I did, and find very cool, and maybe a little exciting. Ok, more than a little exciting, since I find myself wanting to squee with happiness off and on when I think about it. I think I took care of a health issue that I have had for a long time.
A bit of history
I got whooping cough when I was about eight years old. It seemed to affect my lungs pretty bad and for a while, looked like I had asthma. Asthma and emphysema run in my family, and I so didn’t want to go that route. But as I got older, I outgrew most of it. Still had problems, especially around animals, but they were very few and far between. Well about ten years ago, the problems started coming back. Where we were living had an extremely high pollen count one season, and I also got a very bad cold. I ended up on inhalers and meds because I was having such a hard time breathing and was coughing so much.
What made it worse is my job was teaching, and talking seemed to make me cough. Hard to teach when you are constantly coughing when you talk! Well it cleared up after a few months and lots of meds, but it kept returning at about the same time every year. I would get a cold, get past the cold, but hold on to the coughing and wheezing, even though my lungs were clear when the doctors listened to me. I couldn’t seem to shake it without an inhaler and meds, and even then, it lasted for about three to four months.
This year was no exception. I got a good cold, and thought I had come through clean, but not happening. So for the last two months, wheezing and coughing, with nothing coming up, and yes, it was worse when I tried to talk. My husband did suggest, with a very innocent face, that maybe I should just stop talking. 🙂
Since not talking isn’t an option ;), I once again started using the inhaler and meds. But this time I started thinking about it from an LOA stand point. In my mind, sickness is something that is caused by either a blockage in energy, or a belief. So I was thinking about this pretty regularly while trying to hack up a lung. I decided to analyze what feelings I was having during this issue. Put simply, I was annoyed, overwhelmed, out of breath, tired and frustrated. Talking was no fun (the horror!), and I really wondered if I would just keep having this issue, and if it would get worse as time went on.
A pattern emerges
Now this is when it gets interesting! So many things clicked in my head, it amazes me!!! When this started ten years ago, I was teaching. No big deal, until you add how I was feeling about it at the time. I can be a shy person, but have overcome most of that as I’ve grown older. So trust me when I say, I can talk with the best of them. But put me on a stage or in a formal situation, and I was not, and still am not, comfortable speaking in front of people.
Well that’s rough enough, but at that time, I had just gotten to my new job and did not know the material I had to teach. I had about three months before I had to be on podium, and that time included going to the mandatory training required to be a teacher, and THEN learning the material I had to teach. Needless to say, I did not feel prepared to teach, at all. So there I was, having to teach/speak in front of people, covering material I did not know, and feeling pretty much overwhelmed, to say the least.
Added to that, the last three places I had worked, I was in almost the same position. I was working on stuff I didn’t know anything about, so had to learn while I burned. But at least I didn’t have to teach at those jobs! My lack of knowledge was all on me, and I could ask someone else to help me out. But I was ALWAYS feeling like I was behind, or not good enough or knowledgeable enough to really do my job well. And just when I felt I was getting a handle on one job, I would be sent somewhere else, and have to start over again. But the teaching took it to a new level.
Don’t get me wrong. I always accomplished what was needed, and always got good evaluations, because I worked my butt off! I hated being behind and not knowing what I was doing, but that was where I always ended up. And this pattern continued at each job that I was sent to, even after the teaching. It was always something new, always stuff I had never worked with before, and I always had to learn it while working on it. And as I advanced, I had to teach and train more often, and speak in public more often. So it just continued to escalate for me. It became annoying, tiring, and it seemed like it would never end. Hmmm? Can you see LOA here? I just kept manifesting the situations I didn’t want!
Connecting the dots
So, what does this have to do with my health problems? Well, let me go over how the health issues made me feel again. Annoyed, overwhelmed, tired and frustrated, talking is no fun, I’m afraid I will just keep having this issue and it will get worse as time goes on. Almost exactly the same feelings that were happening in my career from the start!!! And then it clicked. The health problem started just after I started teaching, and my breathing issues were always worse when I was trying to talk! WHOA!
But the epiphanies continued. I realized it wouldn’t have mattered how well I knew the subjects. In reality, the job I did was always changing, so I would have always been trying to keep up anyway. Yes, if I had stayed with the same type of equipment and my job had expanded with just that equipment, things might have been easier. But I wanted to provide the best when I worked, spoke, or taught, which meant in my mind, I had to know it all. Can you say perfectionist?
Beginning the shifting process
So I started working on this belief. I asked myself if I could ever know it all. That simple question provided the truth. I would never know it ALL. On anything! There is always going to be more. I will never be truly done, because life is ever expanding, whether dealing with a job, or with people, or with knowledge. And then I realized, I truly didn’t want to be done. Being ‘done’ would get boring very fast. I want new experiences, and new information on old subjects. I want to learn more, because that means I am expanding and growing, and I really enjoy learning.
And more importantly, I realized that I can still speak intelligently, even without complete and all encompassing knowledge. In fact, I can speak very well with just a little knowledge, because I now have so much experience doing just that! 😀
The payoff
Now finally, to the point! I did this analyzing and had these epiphanies over a two day period. On the third day, I woke up at four in the morning, coughing like crazy. And it wasn’t the dry wheezy cough I was used to. I was coughing stuff up! And I just kept coughing! I thought I would end up going to the hospital it got so bad. But it ‘only’ lasted about four hours. My chest, back, throat, stomach and lungs hurt, but the coughing slowed way down. By the next day, I was coughing sporadically at most. By the third day, I was only coughing every once in a while, and rarely when I talked, and no wheezing. And what’s even more amazing, the coughing and wheezing had been getting worse just before these epiphanies. It was bad enough my husband was talking hospital emergency room. So that change in three days was huge, not just part of a steady progression of improvement! Now I am almost clear and it’s only been about two weeks. Normally, I would still be in the middle of my episode, and have about a month to go before I started seeing any changes. And I would be using an inhaler constantly and be on meds too, which I’m not.
I have let go of the need for perfect knowledge, because it’s not necessary or possible. I think that realization there is what did it. It was like a huge weight lifted off my chest. I even feel like I can allow myself to talk about something, and not feel like an idiot because I don’t know everything about it.
I’ve also realized I was even feeling pressure just talking to my family, about anything and everything! I wanted to make sure I had all my facts straight and I was making sense, and was providing good information, even with my husband. No pressure there :shock:. When I would talk on the phone, I would pace all over the house, and feel almost out of breath during and after I was done talking. I always wondered why? This last week, I was talking on the phone with my sister, and suddenly realized I was just sitting in the chair talking. No pacing or feeling like I didn’t have enough air. I almost cried!
So I did it! I figured out what was causing this health issue! My wheezy coughing days are over! And even better, I worked through something that I didn’t even know was causing me stress with my family.
Have I mentioned that I love what I have learned through this blog and LOA teachings?!!!
Thank you Nay from the bottom of my heart for allowing me to share this wonderful example with the rest of the community. What a perfect example of
- Getting the point where you’re not willing to “take it anymore”
- Making the decision to do something different (LOA work)
- Figuring out how the coughing (or whatever unwanted event) was feeling emotionally
- Finding the thoughts related to those emotions and
- Deliberately changing those thoughts by questioning if they are still true today.
Ladies and Gentlemen, there you have it. I’m sure Nay would love to hear what you think and have to say in the comments. So would I, naturally. 🙂
Wow! Fantastic example, fellow Nay 😉
Particularly loved the simile “it felt as tho’ a weight was lifted off my chest”. That’s the Universe saying, Hello!
Thanks for this heartwarming tale
This is awesome, Nay! I’ve been recently looking more into my actions that don’t serve me and get to the root cause(s) of them and dismantling those pesky unhelpful belief systems. I didn’t think to do the same with health issues. I’ve been able to self-heal a few acute pains in the past but I need to get to the bottom of this gosh-darn eczema that’s been flaring up on and off as of late. Thank you for sharing your story at such an opportune time in my personal development!
Lucy
Lucy,
I hope you obliterate the eczema! And if you find a correlation between feelings and/or beliefs and this eczema please share. That would be so awesome!
Here is a very soothing quote of a swami:
“No one else, ever, will be as good at being you as you are. Be true to yourself, to your understanding, to your ideals. Your contribution to humanity, then, will be unique and valuable.”
It was in a post about comparison to others, something we shoud not do!
Cheers!
New quote for my wall… 🙂
Wow, Nay… thank you so much for sharing this. I’m going to be bookmarking this one for ongoing reference and inspiration.
How did you keep focused on shifting your vibration when you started coughing stuff up… I think I would just feel I’d done something “wrong” or it just wasn’t working and get scared that thing were getting worse? I’m not sure it would occur to me that I was releasing something.
In any case, this is really helpful for something I’m dealing with right now, so thank you again, so much. xo
Hi Nathalie!
I’ll be rereading too, because I only really caught on after the fact! I guess it’s important to remember that this was not a new issue for me, so when the coughing escalated, I was used to it. Yeah it was different, but the intensity could vary every year, so I didn’t stress out, just got really annoyed. And that was also key to me starting to work on it. I was tired of it. I was sick of getting sick. Haha! And with all the time I spend thinking about and researching LOA, I figured maybe I could apply some things I learned like, illness is caused by something we believe, or blocked energy, (which I think also comes from a belief), so why not see if I could figure something out.
Which is probably why it worked. I wasn’t stressed about making it work, or wondering all the time if it would work. I just decided to ask a few questions and see what answers popped up. When I started getting answers, and saw how they all tied together with the illness, I was surprised but didn’t try to do anything with the knowledge. I just heard them, thought about it a little, then moved on. Then more answers, and more amazing tie-ins. It was exciting, but I really didn’t have time to dwell on it.
And it DIDN’T occur to me I was releasing, until after I had. When I stopped coughing in just a few days after all the epiphanies, I suddenly knew something had changed. THEN I figured it out. It wasn’t a planned release. More a curious quest to see if I could find emotions that tied to the coughing, which turned into a ‘WHOA, I think I just released something!’
And I didn’t have to go in and WORK at changing a belief. Luckily, my mind heard the ‘I have to know it all’ and called BS! 😉 And it’s not ALL gone. I’m finding that it still lurks in other areas. But for some reason, I hear it easier now when it runs in the background. That I can’t explain, but I’ll just take it and be happy. When I hear it, I pause and deny it, because I no longer accept it, then move on.
Now to work on doing this with beliefs that my mind doesn’t automatically boot to the side…not quite so easy, but I am way more excited about it, because I can see how, and really know, it works.
So don’t stress, just look for the emotions tied to the issue. Then see what beliefs you might have that allow you to feel the way you’re feeling. Hopefully, one of those beliefs will jump out at you as a biggie. Then you can work on figuring out what you would rather believe. If you can start replacing that belief, I truly think the release will happen automatically. Have faith in yourself and your selfknowledge. And remember, YOU CAN’T DO IT WRONG. I tell myself this all the time because I worry about it too! 🙂
Melody!!!
Ooooh, ooooh, OMG! I just had another one! Remember I said this health issue starts up about the same time every year! Well, it always starts up just before the holidays! (Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years) ALWAYS! HOLY SHIT! The holidays are when you are supposed to be so good, and family oriented, and nice, and happy, and, yes here it comes, PERFECT! Oh WOW! Sorry, but I’m freaking here, just a little!
The most wonderful time of the year is when you’re supposed to be showing your thanks, and sharing, and being happy, and having fun. But for me, it is just stress, because hello, I need to show that perfect life and perfect knowing. Having the perfect decorations, the perfect meals prepared, and showing how well I know and understand and love those around me by getting them the perfect presents, and be sure to express all the perfect joy, joy, joy!
It is now even more obvious that this perfectionist mentality is even more pervasive than I thought. That I am so worried about proving to everyone else that I am perfectly in control? So worried about it that I make myself sick? How could I not know or see this as part of it? I need to go and decompress, and think about this some more.
Wow, Nay, yeah the circumstances are irrelevant. It’s how you feel about them. Yes, holidays are supposed to be fun, but being so worried about stuff can make you sick. It is possible. That is what we have to try to prevent because it can become debilitating.
Kitty-Kat
Hey Kitty Kat 🙂
What keeps surprising me is that I don’t KNOW I’m thinking these stressful thoughts! Yea, now that I realize it’s there I seem to hear it more, but it amazes me that I didn’t ‘hear’ it before. Once again, AWARENESS! It’s become the keystone to so much.
Cheers!
Hell yes Nay! And the shifts just keep coming. You’ve opened a door here and everything related is going to come spilling out, lol. Good job! You know, so many people have this perfectionism streak and it does come out in technicolor detail during the holiday season. Let’s see how this Christmas is different for you now that you’ve had this revelation. 🙂
Huge hugs!!
Melody
Love it Nay. Way to go! This totally has inspired me to look at any issues with a more emotional perspective. What a way to solve a problem. It’s like being your own special dectective & just that reframing alone helps shift energy from focusing on the symptoms to figuring out the cause. Very awesome. Keep us posted on more breakthroughs! All the best 🙂 Mike
Well Mike,
Read below and you can see my next breakthrough. I was answering Mary Carol above, and right after I posted my reply, BAM! So, I’m feeling a bit umm…DUH, is the best I can come up with.
But truly, thanks for your encouragement! 🙂
Hi Nay,
What a wonderful breakthrough! And thank you for giving Melody permission to share your story here. Each of us has patterns and beliefs that aren’t helping us, and finding and releasing one is huge. Go Nay!
Huge hugs,
Mary Carol
MC,
I didn’t even realize I was releasing anything until the coughing fit started, then faded away. That’s when it hit me that I had really accomplished something! And when I could finally tie it all together, WOW!
And I’m still getting feedback from it. Thanksgiving was busy, and the day before, I felt my chest getting tight and I started coughing a little. Once I realized it, I caught the thought, ‘Me and my daughter are preparing food for 20 people, and it has to be perfect!’ As soon as I heard it, I just laughed and shook my head. Old patterns are really strong around family, and this one tried to start back up. But as soon as I recognized it, my chest relaxed and I relaxed. Awareness! 😀
Thanks MC!
I have to say yay to Nay!
What most impressed me was how Nay slowed down enough to get deep into prior experiences . . . It was as if she slowed time down so that she could peer into herself. Most of us would race on mentally.
And Kat! I so agree with you when you quoted Nay on giving up on the need for perfect knowledge. My little heart did a backflip over that insight.
Happy sparkly puppy stuff to you Melody for posting this consciousness breakthrough. Please share more of these. (In fact, collect them in a book — ! — since I so badly want to be able to buy a book of yours to give out to others . . . . .)
Warmly gratefully —
Evan
Hey Evan,
Yeah, the slowing down and really thinking it through is the hardest part usually, but this time, it wasn’t difficult. It kinda just opened up for me. I had been thinking about figuring out if I could tie my health issue with an emotional issue, for about two weeks give or take. But when the epiphanies started, they just rolled in. One would come in and I would think about it, then let it go. Then another would pop up, and another, and another… But like you said, the big ‘need to know all’ cinched it. 🙂
And yep, if Melody wrote a book about her experiences, it would be amazing! Of course, I figure this blog has at least five books in it… 😀
LOL Evan! Believe me, I’m thinking about it. I get a lot of requests… And I’m so grateful to Nay for sharing her insights here. I’d be happy to publish more of these if people send them in! 🙂
Huge hugs,
Melody
How do you explain the emotion of “tired”/”exhausted” if it makes you feel tired and exhausted? Or you can’t figure out why or when? Then you kinda do, but that info doesn’t help?
Hey Custard,
In very general terms, being tired or exhausted all the time means that you have a lot of resistance. If you can’t figure out why, then just back off. Whatever it is you’re doing, you’re pushing too hard. So back off, meditate more, rest more, do more easy breezy things and see if your energy doesn’t come back a little. If you raise your vibration, you may well then get the clarity you’re after.
Huge hugs,
Melody
This is a heart warming post thank you for sharing it. LOA is something that I have been living for a while. One think I found difficult to fully believe was that I’m a vibrational being. I wanted to believe it all the time but sometimes it didn’t always feel real. Last week I asked ‘myself’ show me something so I can believe without question. So LOA decided to show me. Twice in a 4 day period something happened that brought an awful feeling of fear and anxiety. (No real physical danger but a feeling of OMG if that happens I’m ******) Both times I have worked myself up the vibrational ladder and both times the OMG if that happens I’m ****** situation didn’t happen. The ‘proof’ I asked for happened – in a way for me to understand and GET IT
Exactly Lorraine!
I’ve had a few things that have helped me know that I was getting LOA, but this was so much more for me. Like you said, it doesn’t always feel real and you want that little boost to help you along. Doubt is so insidious! And you’re so right! We need it in a way that WE get it. Something that helps us see it, even if no one else can see it.
May we keep living LOA, and keep GETTING IT. 🙂
Wonderful and encouraging post. It’s so uplifting to hear the success stories. You’re all doing it out there. Loving it 🙂
‘All’ being the operative word… 😀
Thank you Nay – I’m glad you were successful in getting in the shift and overcoming the health issue. You made it sound so easy but when we’re ready and everything is clicking it seems to be! 🙂
Brilliant Nay. What a fantastic awareness…what I call a ‘cosmic aha’ it’s so blooming powerful. And what a great inspiration for everyone…I’m so sorry you were hurting so much…but am truly grateful you shared your experience with us. It’s wonderfully encouraging to everyone to learn of your success.
Love Elle
xoxo
Hi Elle,
I hope it’s inspiring for others, because blogs like yours and Melody’s are what have made this possible for me. I needed the messages in the blogs, and I needed the input from commentors and their experiences. For me it has all worked together to give me this awareness. And ‘cosmic aha’ is perfect!
Thanks Elle
What a profoundly Being You experience Nay! Exquisitely, explosively, powerfully You.
And yes, yes, yes! Plenty of lessons in here for us all.
Thank you so much for sharing your light.
Huge tender hugs
:]
Thank you Dawnstar!
For me it was a lesson that I plan on relearning over and over and over, until it becomes my norm. To really see how emotions affected me health-wise was exactly as you said…PROFOUND! Now, what else can I work on?! Hahaha!
I love it! Just yesterday I had an “off” day b/c I couldn’t go to yoga and both my husband and 5 year old stayed home from work/school (which = 5 days in row at home b/c of Thanskgiving… I needed/wanted my solace!). I was getting annoyed w/ my lack of alone time and later discovered my neck was hurting. I laughed b/c I realized they were a pain in my neck; I had not embraced the situation but resisted it with my own foul mood and POOF. Got a pain in my neck. 🙂 I always find it interesting how these things occur!
Good one, Karen!
Hahahaha!
I have these reoccuring pains in my back, neck and shoulder. They have faded but haven’t gone away completely yet. You have just given me a new idea on where to look! 😉 And just like you, I need my alone time. Without it, we all suffer! 👿
I’m going to be reading this a few more times — whew! I started crying right here:
“So I started working on this belief. I asked myself if I could ever know it all. ”
and rereading that, I just started crying again! Obviously, this is … jeez, Nay, it is simply amazing and beautiful and has triggered something in me that I can’t wait to explore!
Thank you thank you thank you for sharing!!!!
Nay, I know i just said thank you but I’m saying it again — I recently manifested a horrible health thingy (not terminal, just horrible) and though I’m treating the symptoms, I know the cause is my energy/my resistance/my beliefs.
I’m going to be asking myself “how do I *feel* (emotionally)” .. not, “what do I think is causing this?”
Thank you, Nay!!!!
KimS!!!!
Don’t make me cry! Ok, go ahead, because it’s a good cry and I can’t help it anyways. 😀 And it’s all because of Melody and this blog that I am where I am, so I send her all my thanks too! If this does anything for you, I would be ecstatic?! (such a weak word!)
And yes, how you feel emotionally in regards to your health issue, was key for me. If you can remember when it started and any event and/or feelings that were occuring at about the same time, I think it helps. I don’t think it’s ‘necessary,’ but it helped for me. I could tie how I felt during the health issue to how I felt about past events occuring in my life when that issue started. But the key was the underlying problem. All my ‘negative’ feelings were tied to my desire for knowing it all.
I have other issues that I can’t remember when they started, so will be running blind. But I am so excited because the feelings are so obviously a guide, and simple questions can lead me. Why would I be feeling these things? What underlying, or basic issue are these feelings built on? I figure if I ask these questions, the answers will come. And maybe that answer will also tie the issue to a past event and I’ll have even bigger epiphanies!!!
So I’ll just cheer you on, and cry a few more happy tears. 😥 😆 Go Kim, Go Kim, Go Kim!!! I have total faith you will figure this out! If I can do it, even just once, ANYONE can do it…no, really!
Thank you for sharing your amazing story, Nay! It was great, I read it with much anticipation and excitement 🙂 Now I’m sitting here taking notes! Personally, I find myself scratching my head and being confused with all of my beliefs and which ones are tied to what situations in my life (financial woes)…although I feel closer to releasing them one by one I think I’m stuck. I love how you were able to see your negative pattern, SO important. I too see my pattern and…that’s about as far as I’ve gotten, LOL. Gonna keep working on it and, of course, my vibration! I know when it’s time to shift focus and I’ve definitely been putting in work so I have to give myself some credit! Thanks again, Nay and Melody!!
Marjorie
Marjorie!
I know! I can so often see patterns, but never get anywhere with them. But this time, BAM! It almost laid itself out for me. Obviously the time was right, and I was in the right frame of mind, or should I say vibration. 😉
But I have been working on my vibration steadily for at least six months, and I figure I just hit a level where this worked. Nothing else has been nearly as dramatic, but I am seeing changes in me, in how I feel, which is amazing enough as far as I amd concerned. So like you, I’ll just keep on plugging along.
And I’ll be taking notes too, because when I re-read it, I still want to cry and giggle stupidly, because it seems like I knew what I was doing, AND it worked! 😆
Cheers!
That’s a wonderful story Nay, thanks for sharing! (and thanks for sending it to us Melody) it’s amazing how we can get all caught up in the physical thing we’re dealing with and how it can pervade our entire lives. It’s desperately trying to get our attention but so often we ignore the message!
So cool that you came to the conclusion that you could never (and didn’t need to) know it all. No need to try to forcefully try to control everything. That’s such a specious desire, isn’t it? I could be wrong but the beginning of change for you occurred once you came to an awareness. You observed yourself and it seems you finally let go of judgment and allowed the awareness itself to reveal the truth.
Awesome life story. 🙂 And good for you!
Hi Carmelo,
Yes, my change started once realization started kicking in. It was like a little light went on when I realized half of my issues had been because I felt like I had to know it all before I could ever be any good at something, or even think about sharing or teaching someone else. I could get by, but it was so stressful and overwhelming to me because I just didn’t feel good enough.
What I didn’t realize was how it was affecting so much of my life. I felt like I had to prove or show how intelligent or together I was all the time, even with family! All that judgement on myself. Always on guard about how I talked about things, so I could hopefully at least seem intelligent even though I just knew I didn’t know enough on anything, because I didn’t know it all. So much pressure, all coming from me, and I wasn’t really even aware of it!
Awareness was obviously the key, and my feelings were definitely guiding the way, once I paid attention to them. Or as you said, once I got tired enough of dealing with this health issue that was begging for my attention. Now, my goal is to add to this story in so many other things!!
Thanks Carmelo!
Cool post nay and melody !
Its freaky how you described stuff..I was like..whoa !
Also its interesting how we have these experiences and beliefs that we swaddle and keep at the back of our minds and then forget about! I’ve had some similar experiences too ( well, kinda 😛 )
Will post it too !
Thanks for posting this nay !
And thanks for the blog ( !!!) Melody !
Hey mopeychild,
Trust me, it was freaky to me too! When things first started clicking, I was shocked at how it all tied together. But I didn’t think much of it, especially when I started getting worse for those last few days. I thought I was just doing my normal thing. But when I realized I was not coughing as much, and then almost not at all in only those few days, even more started clicking together. The realization that I had done something…it was A.M.A.ZING!
That’s why I wrote to Melody. It was just another step down the road that showed me this stuff does work! And that it all tied to my feelings was even more proof. Like you say, we lock things up in the back of our minds, letting them run in the background, and until we re-assess, little flags come up all the time, reminding us its there, and that we need to evaluate and get rid of whatever we’re holding onto.
Can’t wait to see your post! 🙂
@melody, nay, everyone, anyone…I have a question :
Thing is, we understand if we are truly aliogned if the physical manifestation shows up, right?
But thing is, ‘ checking’ for the manifestation itself drives the process backwards, and undoes the good we have done so far in terms of the thought pattern..
So, how do u balance between the both?
Hmmm,
I think it depends on how you are checking. Yes you can push it away, especially if you are ‘looking’ for your manifestations with a sense of stress or worry that it’s not there yet.
So try to look at it another way. If you look for signs of your manifestations with a sense of excitement and expectation, I truly believe that changes your whole vibe. THE manifestation may not be there yet, but the signs can and often will be there if you expect to see signs.
And to me, (remember this is just my opinion) in the beginning of shifting your vibration, doubt is there. It sucks but it is. It’s not so much getting rid of the doubt completely as having more positive thoughts than negative. Go ahead and look, just figure out a way to look with a sense of expectation. Think of it like a balance scale. You can be positive while you check, or negative. Which ever side you put the most weight into will be the side it tips towards.
So equal amounts of doubt and positive will balance the scale, but it can tip either way, depending on your vibration, or focus as I prefer. If you move your focus towards more positive things, then the scale tips towards the positive. Things will come into your focus that are closer or leading towards your desires. Sometimes they are obvious, sometimes they’re not. It doesn’t mean the doubt is gone. Just that it isn’t the dominant or heaviest focus.
Or think of magnets. Say you have two magnets with you at all times. One draws on the positive, one draws on the negative. If they’re equal, they balance each other and nothing moves. But if one gets stronger, say the negative, it attracts more negative. If the stronger is the positive, it attracts more positive. Your focus is the magnets and you attract which ever one you focus on, the negative or the positive.
It would be perfect if the negative disappeared, but since it usually doesn’t right away, you need to focus more on the positive so that’s what you attract. Look for what you think would be signs of your desired manifestation. Truly expect to see those positive signs. And as you attract more and more positive, the doubt and negatives get smaller and smaller. It’s a process.
So ‘looking’ for your manifestations isn’t bad. It’s your vibration/focus, or the feelings you have, that are important when you are looking. But remember, as your general vibration improves, (aka, you just feel better in general), you will be moving towards what you want.
Hope that helps a little. Like I said, this is just how I work with it. It’s my visual and mental assist, if you will! 😉
OMG, Nay!!!!!!!!!!!! That was beautiful and thank you so much for sharing this, partner in our journey! Melody, thank you for posting! Wow! This had me crying throughout! I had to read this today.
“I have let go of the need for perfect knowledge, because it’s not necessary or possible. I think that realization there is what did it. It was like a huge weight lifted off my chest. I even feel like I can allow myself to talk about something, and not feel like an idiot because I don’t know everything about it”.
Indeed, I have felt this, too, and it is so, so draining! But the quote above made me shift, becasue oit is the truth.
How can we do this, though, when we go though a freakin school system that chastises one for not knowing something, even if you love learning and expanding? Especially in graduate school, you are really rebuked for not knowing something and the emotion of fear dominates. Knowing details of the details is how it goes, but I have always felt that the professors were really insecure.
Perhaps just relaxing and enjoying the ride is the name of the game, but how about all those details? How best to handle?
Thanks Kat!!!
Let me tell you, when I tied how I was feeling when I was sick, to my past feelings, it was HUGE!!! And realizing my need to be perfect was just as big. Knowledge is power has always run in the back of my head. So if I wasn’t very knowledgabe, I had no power. So I wanted to know it all, perfectly so I never slipped up, or looked stupid, because then I would be helpless. Funny enough, I still slipped up and in my mind often looked and felt stupid, which just made me feel powerless.
So many things have tied into this! My stress around family, when I want to do something new, when I meet new people, when I have to produce or react quickly…all of it can just wear me down, because I want to be perfect, or have perfect knowledge so I can avoid feeling like I was less. But it just isn’t possible! To really accept that, to really, really know that, just let out the air. The pressure eased so much!
Show me someone perfect, with perfect knowledge, and then maybe I’ll stress again. 🙂 Even if they are my teacher, I know, since I’ve taught and been around many other teachers, nobody knows it all, and they can screw it up just like me. Not that this helped me at the time, because I was too focused on what I didn’t know, how bad I could screw it up. I seriously thought everyone knew more than I did.
Now I’m learning, it really doesn’t matter what everyone else knows, or what anyone else thinks about me and what I know. I can only do the best I can. And my best was good enough before, even when I didn’t believe it. It wasn’t perfect, but it was good enough. I think I finally know that now. And it feels amazing!
Cool! I am listinging to a tape of Abe on not taking things personally, which we should practice, and Abe says that we are all smart. We should look for the positives even in those places where there aren’t many, so when we have a run-in with somone, we shine our light on them and, when this happens, they feel better and do not drag us down with anything they say, so it does not matter what they say.
Abe even mentioned teachers in this one who teach stuff their students are not ready to hear and are annoyed with the teacher. But they, the teacher, must focus on what they want instead for LOA to bring that to them. But vibration can be shifted to bring forth other indicators to match what you are wanting. So, everything in our reality is an indicator to what we feel and carry inside. And the whole point is to feel good no matter what.
These are my “notes” for today’s session. I am ever closer to operating how I once did, thanks to you and this blog!
Do you still do the “writing on the wall, or in the drawer by the bed, or on the desk”, practice? I am feeling good about it all.
Kitty Kat, (sorry I couldn’t help it!)
Of course I still have my fun, free and easy by my bed!
‘And the whole point is to feel good no matter what.’ I just keep reaching for that. I nose dive, and have really bad days. Then I jump back up. I figure, if it ain’t constant yet, I’m good with waves. I’m just looking to make the waves smaller and smaller so the lows and highs aren’t quite so exagerated, if you know what I mean!
And of course, people are too often the biggest instigators in my nose dives. I haven’t got the whole ‘It doesn’t matter what others think, do or say’ down yet. I’m better, but still have a ways to go!
Cheers partner!
Your know its interesting how we have beliefs that concretize in our head and we don’t even know it ! Case in point : ‘ knowledge is power’
I had something similar. I believed that if I were pretty ( I was told repeatedly what an unpleasant looking child I was) as I grew up, life would be perfect for me. I velieved for so long ( and to a certain extent still do..umm..pesky belief) if I looked great. And now that I’ve grown up and become the pretty adult I always wanted to be..I fgiure it dosent matter..you don’t get the perfect relationship just cuz ur pretty..and heartbreak is just as painful for a normal looking person as it is for a hot one.
Took me SO long to finally let that in !
Yes, you got it. Gorgeous, popular, funny and wealthy folks all get divorced, so it certainly is not the reason.
It is not how you look, but how you feel. It’s always what you vibrate. I am sure you are stunning!!! I know Melody attracts good looking people here. Stunning people are also spiritual, as we have said before and I imagine Jesus was a babe. Feeling super inside is even more important. Good thoughts, pure feelings, these are the way.
‘Jesus was a babe.’ That just cracks me up, and I don’t know why. Just sayin’.
Wow Mopey,
Always the desire to be pretty. I too wonder if I will ever get past that. I feel tons better than I used to, but there’s always that, ‘Wouldn’t life be great if I was like ‘BEAUTIFUL!’ Even though I know in my head it’s not true.
I’ve had friends who were beautiful, and their lives were not really that much different than mine. I’ve had overweight friends who had guys all over them, and skinny friends who couldn’t get a date, beautiful friends that guys never asked out, and plain jane friends who always had a date.
And I’ve seen it with guys. The awesome looking guy is the one who draws your eye first, but then you get to know him and don’t want anything to do with him. Then there’s the plain guy who at first seemed just, blah, but as time went on, he became more and more attractive.
Now I know why. It was all their vibration. It wasn’t what they looked like that was attractive or not. It is how they came across that drew or repelled people. And this realization is what gives me such a different outlook. I don’t have to be beautiful on the outside, if I’m beautiful on the inside. Because that’s what comes through in the long run anyways!