Jane asks, “Hey Melody, I was wondering (uh oh) if the better we get at deliberate creating, the better we will be at attracting negative things as well as good. It’s like suddenly I’ve a power I don’t know how to use for good not evil :)”
I’ve received this question in various forms over the last few months. One of my clients even recently stopped doing the focusing exercises I gave her, because they worked too well, and she was afraid of her own power. After a lifetime of being told that you’re powerless, that things are just the way they are, and there’s not much you can do, and then suddenly getting a glimpse of the exact opposite – that everything in your reality is there as a direct result of your vibration, something you have complete and total control over, it can be incredibly scary to suddenly reality that you are, in fact, the freaking King or Queen of the world (or rather, your reality, but DiCaprio never said that, so whatever).
The main fear seems to be that if you can just make things happen with your thoughts, that you could easily lose control and start manifesting things that you don’t want. It’s the old “Be careful what you wish for, you just might get it” scenario. We don’t trust ourselves to be able to control such power. Let’s face it, our thoughts are really all over the place. Most of us aren’t very good at controlling our stray thoughts. And now that we’ve gotten a glimpse of just how powerful we are, we’re afraid of losing control and just creating chaos.
If a bit of focusing has gotten your nasty boss to become nice and reasonable over night, will the guy who cut you off in traffic and who you inadvertently wished would spontaneously explode in slow motion so that you could run up to the car and give him the finger just before it went up in a fireball, so that he’d know that he screwed with the wrong damn person, drive off a cliff on the way home? As you wish we had your neighbor’s house, will your powers fun amok, causing her to have to declare bankruptcy and sell you her house for pennies on the dollar? Or, even worse, will you end up with all kinds of manifestations that you don’t want? Will your stray thoughts of gaining weight cause you to tub up to 500 pounds overnight, or your fears of dying alone lead you into an abandoned house filled with cats where you inadvertently choke to death on your gum, leaving you to be eaten by the cats and cockroaches and zombies until you’re nothing but bones, and maybe a teenage stoner finds your skeleton fifty years from now and uses your skull as a bong, which wouldn’t have ever happened, only you read it on this blog and now you can’t get it out of your head so, yeah, that’s probably going to go down?
No. Just No. I can’t even shake my head emphatically enough on this one. OMFG No.
I’ll explain, shall I?
Your worst fear has already come true
The first thing I’d like to point out is that learning how to deliberately receive doesn’t suddenly make you more powerful. You’ve been powerful all along. And you’ve been manifesting all along. That’s right, your stray thoughts have been manifesting like crazy, bringing you, oh, let’s just take stock here, a whole bunch of stuff you didn’t want. That’s why, upon hearing that they create their own reality for the first time, a lot of people say “That can’t possibly be true. I would never create the life I have now.” Well, yes, you would, if you didn’t even know you were creating it, had no clue how you were doing it, and didn’t know how to change it. Your stray thoughts have created the reality you have, the one filled with all the stuff you don’t want. This, Daniel Son, is as bad as it’s going to get. The life you have (or had before you got into LOA) is the direct result of unfocused, out of control creating. This is the damage that your stray thoughts, unfettered by method or structure or awareness, will do.
So, the idea that gaining control of your focus and learning how to deliberately shape your reality could make things worse is, well, bullshit. If you want a crappy life, just observe what’s happening, and focus on all the things you don’t like. Then, watch what happens. Oh wait, you already did that. It’s called “how you grew up”. And, as I recall, you didn’t like it. Which is why you’re here.
Your thoughts or focus don’t create
As I explain in detail in my free e-book 7 Steps of Manifestation, our thoughts don’t create. I’m not sure I even have to repeat this here, since I’m certain that all of you have read the book, right? RIGHT?!?!? Ok, for the one or two of you in the audience who haven’t taken advantage of this offer because a.) you don’t value things that are free (I can charge you $50 if it makes you feel better), b.) it’s your first time here (ok, newbie, you’re forgiven. No go read the damn book), or c.) you clearly aren’t serious about being happy (what other reason could there possibly be?! ;)), I’ll recap: Our thoughts don’t create. This should actually be totally obvious. I mean, how often have you thought of winning the lottery? Did you win? There you go.
Our thoughts and focus merely determine what you line up with. Actually, our dominant thoughts determine what we line up with and experience. This means that you could be thinking a thought (I want to win the lottery), but also inadvertently have a different and much more practiced thought (one which you, knowingly or unknowingly think more often) that you are doomed to be poor forever (or something like that). So, the dominant thought, the one you think more often than any other on the subject, lines you up with being poor. No lottery win for you. And, of course, you can tell which thought you’re thinking by how you feel.
Now, if thinking of winning the lottery every day for years doesn’t line you up with millions, than what makes you think that stray thoughts about strangling your mother in law will lead to her death, eh?
You are infinitely powerful, but…
… you still don’t get to manifest in other people’s realities. This means, you can’t cause someone else to die, become poor, or get the tar beaten out of them, no matter how much they may deserve it. You don’t get to determine what happens in their reality. You don’t cause people to be douchebags or saints. You only get to determine if the douchebags or saints make it into your reality or not, and how you experience them when they do.
The Universe knows what you want
In the post How Exactly Do We Create Our Reality? A Technical Explanation, I explain that your desires (or solutions to problems) are automatically “created” or activated when you focus on what you don’t want. In other words, when the guy cuts you off in traffic, you automatically activate the frequency of nice, courteous drivers. The Universe makes a note of this and basically adds it to the database of stuff you want (like Amazon and their database of preferences. Only way, WAY more accurate, since the Universe has been gathering data for way longer than Amazon. Plus, I’m pretty sure that the Universe has better computers.).
You don’t tell the Universe what you want by focusing on it, visualizing it, making affirmations about it, writing about it in your journal, talking about it, dreaming about it, or writing it on notes and burning them. The Universe knows what you want the second you want it, even before you realize that you want it. And, it never forgets.
All of those activities (visualizing, daydreaming, writing it down, etc.) are just tools to help you focus on what you want in a way that feels good. But again, focusing doesn’t create. Focusing simply lines you up with whatever you’re focusing upon.
You’ve been receiving all along
When you learn to focus deliberately, using whatever method you’ve decided works best for you, you are not suddenly creating more. You’re not suddenly shifting the Universe or your reality in ways you’ve never done before. You’re simply doing it, well, deliberately. So, instead of getting more of what you don’t want, or receiving the same thing over and over again, you’re suddenly and possibly for the first time in your life, getting loads of stuff that you do want. And that’s when you get scared. Only, you’ve been receiving all along. The process has been working all along. You haven’t changed anything except what it is you’re receiving!
It’s a bit like this: You grew up in a small town, which only had one restaurant (that’s right. It’s a food metaphor! Don’t all rush the stage at once). What’s more, no one in your family ever cooked. No one you knew ever cooked. Everyone just went to this one restaurant to eat. All your life, you ate only what was on that menu: hamburgers, pancakes, chicken fried steak, French fries and vanilla ice cream. It didn’t matter if you got sick of what was on that menu, it never changed and you never had any other choices.
Now, as an adult, you move to another city. You get a roommate, who just happens to be in culinary school, studying to be a chef. She suggests that you go the grocery store together, and so you tag along. And you can’t believe your eyes! So many choices! The grocery store has everything you’ve ever dreamed of, and stuff that fulfills desires you couldn’t have even named! Your roomie explains the different foods to you, shows you how to shop and then teaches you to prepare a few, simple dishes (I or any other LOA teacher am the roomie in this scenario, in case you missed it). Your taste buds explode! You never knew that such flavors existed, even though you always yearned for something other than the bland food and limited choices you grew up with.
But then, you get scared. Is it really ok to eat such amazing food? Won’t the sheer pleasure of having chocolate cause you to go on a demented rampage and eat everything in sight, including furniture and the cat (Chocolate: The Gateway Food)? Isn’t there a chance that you’ll lose control?
No. Freaking no. You’ve been eating all your life. Granted, you’ve been eating crap lacking any and all imagination, but you’ve been eating. Just because you are now eating stuff you actually like doesn’t mean you’re going to suddenly go nutso. Just because you’ve not realized that you have control over what you eat and that you’ve always had way more choices than you ever knew (the grocery store was always there…), doesn’t mean you’re going to suddenly start gnawing on doorframes. It’s a bit like that.
The biggest danger
The worst thing that can happen to you when you receive your reality deliberately, is that the wanted manifestations start coming in too fast. So, you end up being flooded with stuff you’ve always wanted at a pace that’s kind of uncomfortable. But, since you have control over what you line up with, guess what? You have control over the pace, too!
Let me give you an example from my own life: A while back, I decided I wanted to manifest more clients. I discovered a blockage and released it. And suddenly, before I could even implement my handy dandy new marketing strategy, fourteen new clients signed up in a week. My reaction? “Holy insert unladylike expletive here shit!” I actually got a bit stressed out. It was just too much and the work load that resulted from taking on that many new people at once was immense. After a few days of feeling like a crack addicted deer in the headlights, I realized that what I wanted was to get new clients, but at a much slower pace. And so, I focused on that, and the influx of clients immediately slowed down (I changed nothing on the site. This was all energy). I’m currently nearing the point where I’ll have to stop taking on new clients, since my schedule is about full, and the last slots have been filling up at a nice, easy pace.
There’s no danger that you’ll become too powerful, or that you’ll suddenly create chaos in your life. When you deliberately focus, you may turn on the spigot a bit too much and get a flood of manifestations at a pace that’s a bit too fast. So, you slow it down. But the idea that you could suddenly line up with all kinds of random crap, that your world could spin completely out of control, forgets to take the stability of our world into account. Think about it, if your normal, random, unaware focus didn’t cause your world to fall apart at the seams, then how is more consistent, aware focus going to cause that?
Also, remember that as you deliberately focus in a way that feels good, you line up with what you want, which includes getting it in a way you want it. So, if things start coming in too quickly, or in some other uncomfortable way, you simply adjust your vibration a little. You’re in the driver’s seat. You can hit the gas, ease up on the gas, or hit the brakes. You can also use the steering wheel. You have control over your reality, every aspect of your reality. Realizing just how much power you have won’t suddenly fill that reality with chaos (did you WANT the chaos?!). In fact, it’ll fill your reality with more and more stuff you want. And, as you learn to wield that power, you’ll be able to fill in your reality with more and more wanted details. It will just get more and more perfect. Going back to the food metaphor, it’s like your cooking skills will just get better and better. You’ll learn to differentiate between spices. You’ll get more sensitive to the subtleties of the flavors. You will NOT suddenly take a bite out of the couch cushion.
Have I convinced you that having loads of power is a good thing? Have you had to overcome the fear of being too powerful? Let me know in the comments!
I guess I can post this thought that came to me here. I know you love the show “How I met your mother” and I do too, but more for the fect that they depict the universe’s role in all things associated in life. It takes years for Ted to meet the mother and become a vibrational match to her, after all his experiences, escapades, setbacks, triumphs, etc.
It takes time to shift energy. We humans are slow at this and we need to take steps to do it, because that is how most of us operate. But, when we do, awesome things happen! However, we learn from our experiences and we need those experiences. If Ted stayed home in a bubble, he would not have been open to meeting his future wife or even been in that mindset. Also, throughout the show, we see things connected to his future wife, clues, if you will, to what he will be led to.
Just a thought on why it takes so much time for some of us. We should not feel bad for this, though. We just need to hang on, keep focusing, which is what we do best. That is all we’ve got, so no need to lower your vibration being frustrated. Remember you are truly awesome and enjoy the ride, hang on and eventually you’ll get there.
OOps… not that anything is really a “setback”. We just label it as such, but this is a conclusion set forth by skewed vision. I have seen people make great use out of what others supposed as setbacks. They used them as opportunities and stepping stones on their path instead of crying over them and throwing in the towel. So, their vision was not that of others. I did not mean to use that particular word “setback”, but they all fall under the umbrella term of experiences, which is the very thing we signed up for in the first place.
Absolutely Kat! I adore, also, that a show that depicts this premise is so popular! What we choose to inundate ourselves with does influence us. And so, watching TV like that, can help people think of what’s possible in a more positive light, even if they don’t study LOA deliberately. 🙂
Huge happy shiny puppy hugs,
After reading some of the comments and conversations here, I will declare that this Deliberate Blog will be my sanctuary when I need a shot of love to keep me vibrating at a higher level.
Thank you everyone and Melody for being the person who brought us all together.
Thanks so much Fonzy! Your comment made me do a happy dance. 🙂
I Lol’d in a lot of places while reading this. Thank you so much for that. I love love love your sense of humor and it’s such an awesome way to raise vibes.
I actually originally got to this post via the link in my email that was actually “supposed” to go to “Does Modern Medicine Make Things Worse?”
Not sure what happened but it’s the only reason I became aware of both posts so ’tis a good thing.
Both are resonating a pretty deep message for what’s going on for me right now, so well, I’m gonna go with synchronicity.
I have more to say, but will probably say it in the other post but first want to go back and reread everything. I don’t know, maybe I’ll create a post of my own elsewhere to sift through all the stuff within.
I think I’m pretty afraid of my own power (among some other stuff). It’s keeping me stuck.
As usual…awesome Mel.
But you know what? I think I’m getting more and more out of your stuff with each post. Yay, that’s really exciting.
The more you inundate yourself with this stuff and these ideas, the more clarity you get. Of course. LOA keeps bringing you more of what you’re focusing on.
As usual, I love this! The fear you out is one I’ve experienced, especially these days when thing seem to be manifesting so quickly! But I have been reassured by the idea that the Universe is paying attention to everything and knows just how to put it all together. I love how this happens!
One funny thing I noticed just recently has to do with my business, Terra Cotta Pendants. We put out a special on Tuesday via Facebook and our Contact List and immediately received orders from people who were not on either list! Seems we don’t actually have to HAVE a Special – we only have to THINK about one because this happens every time we have a Special – EVERY TIME! Makes you wonder at the effort you put into things when it isn’t effort at all that’s required.
Read ‘The Happy Place’ and was floored! You state so perfectly, emotions and thoughts that have gone on in my own life. Amazing read, and I love your ‘words’ technique! It is similar to what I try to do all the time, and you just made it clearer!!!
Thank you for sharing such an emotional journey and your techniques. To be able to express so clearly a way for dealing with emotions that seem to control your life!
Thanks so much – I’m glad you enjoyed The Happy Place! I was very touched to read this – yes, you made my day!
Nice story, Lori. I’m glad visiting Greece changed your perspective. It served its purpose, for it is a mystical place, covered is a veil of mystery after all. 🙂
Thanks Kat! Greece is amazing!It really was a beautiful setting for a life-changing experience!
LOL Lori. The same thing happened to me with the clients. They flooded in before I could implement a marketing plan, simply because I changed how I looked at attracting clients. We make it so much harder on ourselves than we need to, don’t we? 😉
melody i have a question.
ok so you say we cant create in someone elses reality. but..according to the stuff given on neville websites, u CAN make people say or do the things you want by intending it super forcefully. how so? even abraham gives this account of a real estate broken who intended that his clients give him the deal AFTER he met them. he dint attract em into his life. they were there.how so?
the same thing is also mentioned in a way on another website.
do explain !
I don’t know this neville website, so can’t comment on it. In the case of the real estate agent, if the clients he was working with did not have it in them to match his desire, then they would’ve gravitated out. His desire for the deal didn’t get born that day, he simply lined up with it deliberately that day. The clients he attracted were able to match his doubts as well as his desire. The jump between those two states wasn’t too big. People often have the ability to show you very different versions of themselves. Changing your vibration doesn’t always mean that you’ll get all new people to play with. Often, it’s the same people, matching your new vibration and showing you very different behavior. You just have to allow it. It’s not about controlling others, it’s about lining up with what you want and letting your reality and the people in it, mirror that back to you.
I hope that makes sense.
There’s a dark spot on this I-want-to-realize-my-power procedure.
People beware. You will not be able to watch a movie again.
I explain. I tried to watch an episode of Star Wars which is one of my favourites.
I saw Yoda saying: “the dark side covers e-v-e-rything! I shall meditate on this”.
Somehow, I agreed. It seemed to make sense. When I saw the movie for the first time, I had very much respect for this little green creature. He was supposed to be the top Jedi alive, kicking butt and taking names, he was not supposed to be questioned.
But the last time I saw this episode, I thought otherwise. I wanted to throw the potato chips on the screen. What Yoda actually said is “hey Palpatine, I don’t have a clue, but since I don’t know how to be a farmer I’ll stick to the Jedi order and I’ll pretend that I’m doing something”.
Yoda go home. From the tension of your face when you speak that line, it looks like you don’t even know what the force is. It sure doesn’t look like tension, like lifting weights and supposing you are doing it with your body. You are closing the force with your body. You put effort to think. Your resistance doesn’t allow your mind to take the leap and allign. You give meditation and relaxation a bad name. You have no business with the Jedi order. Take your bathroom towell and go to your cave.
(in other words: How to continue staying negative while pretending being spiritual-but now with no guilt OR How to be a spiritual-hooligan)
LOL! Tony, I was thinking about Star Wars just the other day in relation to LOA — how funny! I thought about Yoda and Anakin, and then I found myself thinking, “There is no dark side, or light side, there is only the Force!” 🙂
I mean, I think the movies illustrate very clearly that Anakin became Vader out of a desire to FEEL BETTER. haha!
Oh dear Tony. You’ve surpassed Yoda! The galaxy will never be the same again, lol.
Love it. I very rarely watch older movies. I find that even those which once made me feel good, actually feel really off to me just a few years later. It’s the same with music. We evolve past the ideas, past the vibrations that we once resonated with.
I haven’t seen Star Wars in years. Perhaps I never will again. We have to remember that the dialogue was written by people. And they could only write what they could line up with at the time. Still, it was pretty lofty stuff for the day…
based on being powerful if I make a decision about an outcome for someone else (my decision was good and coming from my vibration and LOA) and someone in a higher position at work decides they want the opposite decision (based on fear – which I have learnt its fear from LOA). Will this mean I can stop consequences happening to me from said higher positioned person at work. I believe I made the right decision but they believe I made the wrong decision. ie. I decided action should not be taken against a member of staff – my boss believes further severe action should have been taken. My boss’s decision could now be to take further action with me for making what he believed was the wrong decision. (this would be normal practice for my boss thats the reason for my question)
Hope this does not sound too confusing xx
Focus less on the specifics of what happened and your fear of what will now be done and more on the general core of what you want – a happy, peaceful work environment, to feel successful, to feel a connection with the people around you (stay away from specific people), to feel appreciated, etc. Then, let your specifics line up with that. This could mean that your boss changes (yes, this does happen frequently), that you get a different boss, that your boss fires you and you get a WAY better job, etc. Line up with what you want and let it fill in for you. If you stuck to what felt good to you and your boss disagrees, then you have two choices: Do what your boss wants and feel bad, or keep doing what feels good and trust that everything will line up with that. Just don’t be afraid of change. 🙂
Hmmm… Maybe I just missed the memo, or didn’t “get” it when I read about this concept before, but when you say, “your desires (or solutions to problems) are automatically “created” or activated when you focus on what you don’t want. In other words, when the guy cuts you off in traffic, you automatically activate the frequency of nice, courteous drivers.” How are we activating this frequency when we’re pissed off? 🙂 Isn’t that activating the frequency of having more situations that would piss someone (me) off?
Can the same be said when I check my bank account and *surprise!* my account is overdrawn and I’m super upset? Is the Universe “seeing” that I’m upset, and adding to the database that I don’t want this? Or is it best that I work to release the blockage that caused me to have the “lack” of money in the first place? Or both? Which would help me manifest what I DO want faster? Thanks, Melody, you’re the best!
As Abe like to say, “Every subject is actually two subjects. The wanted and the lack of wanted.” Your inner being and the Universe know the difference. So, when you see something you don’t want, the rude driver, you may be focusing on the side of that subject that you don’t want, but your inner being never does. She focuses on the side of the subject that you do want – the nice driver, or the full, abundant bank account.
When you feel negative emotion, ask yourself “ok, that’s what I don’t want. What is it that I DO want?”. This can be a hard question to answer for a lot of people, because they don’t have a lot of practice focusing on what they actually want. It can take some time to get off the negative side and onto the positive one. But, if you can do that and then focus on the positive side in a way that feels good, in other words, if you can believe that it could happen and get into the feeling of what a full bank account would actually be like, without trying to answer the question of HOW that will come about, then you are lining up with it. The process of getting into that feeling will automatically entail letting go of the blockages, because those blockages will keep you from fully having that feeling. So, you just work at it until you can actually achieve it.
I hope that all makes sense. 🙂
Great article and comments!
Seriously, your intro cracked me up! I guess I’ve been wondering this too without realizing it. Great couple of articles this week, Melody! Thank you.
Ok, I have to admit, I have been thinking of it as ‘creating’ most of the time. I know, I know, I’ve read it a hundred times, minimum, but it just didn’t sink in in quite the way it has here! But I still feel like I’m on the edge of something that is essential to really getting’ it. I just can’t put my finger on it! I get so much, but am just missing something? I mean, I am by no means creating so much it’s overwhelming!!! Yeah, things are happening, but…there’s just something…ok, let me elaborate.
It’s all already created. All desires are there waiting for me to line up with them. Like line of sight. If it’s not in my line of sight, I’ll never see it until I turn in the direction that it (my desire) is in. So there it is, just waiting for me to see it. But in LOA, my feelings are what I have to work on in order to ‘see’ it. If I feel good about what I want, accept that I want it, accept that I can have it, accept that it is already there for me, then I can get it. Only when I feel good about having what I want can I line up with it. And in order to feel good, what I think about and focus on is the determining factor.
I get this, but it’s like there’s a little chink in the thought process and I can’t quite wrap my mind around it. So I guess what I’m missing is something between the desired thing and the feelings. I focus on the desire and making sure it’s perfect, while feeling good about it. And I have seen that when I work at feeling good, I just start feeling better. But I can’t seem to get the, ‘I want this specifically’ down. It’s like I can’t even wrap my head around it. What am I missing???? Is it that I keep putting the thing ahead of the feelings? Do I have it backwards, or am I still missing something? I feel better, but I haven’t decisively manifested anything ‘specific’ that I want.
Yes, I have manifested better feelings, improved my health in an amazing way, but I haven’t made anything ‘out there’ manifest. I know it’s not ‘out there’ really, but that seems to be where I stick. I haven’t manifested anything that doesn’t have to do with my body or my feelings. I guess that’s where I’m having the sticking point. What am I missing?
Have you noticed people entering and leaving your life? How about the attitude of the members of your family? Are things way better with them? Colleagues? People you walk past in the street? Do strangers come up and talk to you? I am mentioning this becasue, with this work, people sure respond better to one’s presence. for example, I just got a free hot chocolate this evening. These are just a few examples that things are going well and in the right direction because energy was shifted. Just some examples you are on the right track. I just wanted to share these significant instances along with the feeling that you are walking on a cloud. 🙂
Kat, yes!! thank you for the reminder to NOTICE these things — I’ve not been very consistent about that, lately. 🙂
I have noticed some of this, but that’s it. I know I sound grumpy, but I’m not! 🙂 It’s just that seems to be the extent of my changes outside of my health issue and inner feelings. No new relations or interesting meetings. Most of the time, people respond to me pretty well, so I haven’t noticed any significant change in that. Mostly I’ve noticed that how I feel is better. Less on guard, more free to express myself without wondering if others see me as an idiot. (Yes, I used to think this more often than I realized. Weird, I know, but at least it has faded!)
But it’s like I’m in stall mode and I can’t seem to get beyond this point. Impatient much?! Feeling better about me and life in general; check. Able to sense relations between emotions and health; check. Able to decide, ‘I want this’ and see things start to move towards it; not so much. 😉
I feel like I’m just skimming the surface of LOA and would really like to dive in deeper. And because I don’t seem to be getting any deeper, I feel like I’m missing something! Maybe I am, and maybe I’m just impatient. But I so often feel this little brush of an idea or feeling, then it just slips away. It’s like a hint of a broader perspective, but I can’t quite grasp it.
But I know LOA is changing things! I just think there is a lot more that I could be changing and experiencing. But at least I am so happy, and have someone (yes you!!!) who can help me through when I’m dragging a bit… 😀
Thank you, doll. That is good, noticing all that stuff. They are steps, albeit baby ones, but it is a process, after all.
For me, personally, I have been in a 2-year rut so just noticing these signs and feeling familiar feelings again is fantastic! I realize that nothing can be done in a rut. I also watch the Adam to He-man transformation on youtube which jumpstarts my day!
I am working on reacting to what goes on outside of myself every day. That was the way I was taught and grew up after all, but when I ditch that, it’s all good! 🙂
Oh, yeah, you know, speaking of which. I was unrecognizable during that time. And speaking of He-man, viewers observed that Adam and He-man looked exactly alike, except He-man had a tan. Well, since he was the empowered and glowing version of Adam, that would make perfect sense. When you are empowered, you just glow and people see you differently. Of course, he was the most powerful man in the universe and can literally move mountains, but I take that metaphorically as well. People “glow” when they tap into source energy and work from it rather than being detached from it where it is pretty tought to work well.
I can totally relate to the feeling of “missing something.” I get that too and it’s “louder” than ever these days. I’ll have a moment where I’ll feel like I got it (understand it)…all of it. But then it’s like whatever it was that was missing slips away.
I don’t know, I think sometimes it’s an acceptance thing and then other times I think it’s a letting go thing. But as I write, those two things feel like one in the same.
I also think, for me anyway, I tend to doubt my intuition, or feel like I need to have everything worked out first before taking one step, feeling the need to have all the steps worked out. And that’s my control issues making their usual appearance. Again, comes back to letting go.
I don’t know if any of this is what you’re reaching for. But just your thought process kinda made me think of trying to force something when maybe you’ve reached a point of “you’ve DONE all you can do.” Now it’s just a matter of letting go and accepting what is and what will come.
Just my 2 pennies…FWIW.
You said it…’I tend to doubt my intuition, or feel like I need to have everything worked out first before taking one step, feeling the need to have all the steps worked out.’
I do have a horrible habit of wanting to know everything…OHHH SHIT! 😯 I think this just linked up with my need to know it all issue. I know I don’t know it all in LOA, and because I don’t, I keep getting this sense that I must be missing something or don’t know enough so can’t possibly be doing it right. Sheesh!! I obviously need to go into this more. This just keeps popping up! Which makes me realize there’s probably a deeper issue here.
Thank you Laura, for helping to point it out to me! Maybe if we can just let go of this need to know it all, then we’ll stop pausing and wondering if we’re missing something and get on with our lives? Hahaha 🙂
I am very interested to read melody’s answer to this, bc I feel as if I am stuck on the same thing. 🙂
Except, I did notice today that I feel more … certain and expectant, rather than confounded or confused, towards all my “stuff”. I have been doing a lot of work — okay, a little bit of work but it seems like a lot of work bc the payoff has been so big! — in releasing some outdated beliefs, and lately I feel .. happy anticipation. Like when I was a kid and I was all excited about Christmas — now, I feel as if my life is Christmas and I just know there’s good stuff under the tree! I am so excited about unwrapping those presents! I asked for specific toys as I sat on Santa’s lap and now I can’t wait to play with them! (they are right there — all wrapped up!!! I almost can’t stand the anticipation!!) And there are presents I didn’t specifically ask for, but those are just incredibly fun surprises! Except for the box of socks and panties my mom put under the tree every year (I know, right?), I already know I want everything under the tree!
but, now, how do I physically manifest this awesome stuff! i know it’s out there, waiting to be unwrapped! so, when do I get to unwrap and play with it? I echo you, Nay: what am I missing?
PS I can’t thank you enough for allowing Melody to publish your health story — I keep going back and re-reading it, as if it were a guidebook. 🙂 (I’m not kidding.) I have started working on shifting a deeply held but false belief and using your story as my step-by-step instruction manual. 🙂 Thank you!!
Yep, I feel it too. But at the same time, I feel like I am just on the edge of something more. Like I can feel or sense a breakthrough or a different way of looking at things, but it keeps slipping away. So I know I have the general idea, and I know things are happening, but I feel like I can do so much more. Like I’m missing something important and once I get it, it will take me over another step, because I know it’s a continual process! So I’ll just keep on working on it.
And I keep referencing my story too! 😆 It was all so simple, but it’s easy to forget what I was thinking and doing, even after writing it down. But I’m really very thankful and yeah, excited, if it helps you or anyone else in any way! It makes me blush and giggle stupidly! 😳
I’m right there with you, Nay! It’s funny, I feel like my manifestations are little…but they’re there and that’s what I have to remember. For example, my biggest issue is financial…I want more money! But why? How will I feel once I have that money? For everyone it’s different. For me it’s freedeom, a big weight being lifted off of me…so Melody taught me a technique which consisted of visualizing something that gave me the FEELING of freedom, no worries. That night before going to bed I started thinking about skydiving, something I’ve been wanting to do forever. I visualized being in the plane, jumping out and what I’d feel like up in the air with the clouds and it felt amazing! Well that same weekend I got a check in the mail from a bank I used to be a member of for some sort of lawsuit/settlement that they were issuing! It was for $128. OMG, I totally manifested it. So that’s one example of my little manifestations but I need more now, LOL. I’m feeling a little stuck, stagnant…I think what it probably boils down to is a blockage somewhere, some negative belief or thought but I can’t figure out which or what it is so I just continue to do my visualizations and hope that my blockage will come to the surface so that I can release it. I too feel like I’m so close, Nay! Let’s continue to hang in there cuz it sounds like we’re on the right path! 🙂
I would love to have more money, but that’s one thing that hasn’t changed at all except one time when I got a check from an insurance company I was with, just like you! It was great, but no changes since. 🙁 But I know it’s all about the feelings.
So like you I keep looking for that feeling. And good God it’s like a ton of different feelings! I’ll be safe, I’ll be secure, I’ll be free, I’ll be capable, I’ll be funner…and the list goes on and on! And luckily I think I know where so many of these beliefs came from, but haven’t been able to work through them all, yet.
So I’m on the right path, but feel like it’s a narrow path…with the limited view due to fog…and big boulders that keep getting in the way. 😆 I just know that it gets wider and clearer if I can just clear my lens!
Yes, I hear you with the boulders! For me, those were things instilled in me in my youth by my family. I was thinking, I had been asked to pose, even nude, so many times in my life, yet could not do so due to those beliefs. That would have been money and no harm done. But i was brought up thinking its dirty and no one would want to marry you. Yet, Those who pose not only become successful, they still get married, actually to some great guys, and make more people’s day with what they do, you know? Think about it. That’s what I thought, too, but the boulder stopped me. Ok, maybe this is a silly example, but in essence it really isn’t. At least I’m sure there my original thinking was okay. parents just try to protect you, but overprotection doesn’t do so much as to maybe hold someone back? The posing is just an example that can be applied to other things.
If it is inspired action, then great!
Yes, so much shame and negativity instilled early in life, on so many things. And nudity is a perfect example. Why are we taught to be ashamed of our bodies? I honestly don’t understand it, yet it’s well instilled in my psychy. And those who do display their bodies are so often envied and get huge amounts of attention, but can also be scorned at the same time. We are so contradictory. And how much of this is what resides running in our background, holding us back due to the fear?
I’ll give you a funny story to go with this. I always told myself I would never have any nude pictures of myself taken, cause I just knew it would come back to bite me, because it’s just not DONE!! Weeellllll…When I got pregnant I decided to video the changes in me as I got bigger. So I started with me standing on the bed in just thong underwear and my hubby videoing as I told how far along I was. (Remember, I’m skinny and not voloptuous so have always been a bit disappopinted about the bod. 🙂 ) But I convinced myself, with a lot of fear, that for the pregnancy, it was no big deal and pretty cool when I thought of looking back and seeing the changes.
Well, a few years later me and hubby are watching old videos with my father inlaw, and guess what is suddenly on the screen… Yep, me prancing around on the bed. Needless to say, I froze instantly, then frantically tried to stop the video with the remote, only to hit fast forward so I was now speed prancer on the bed.
I did finally got it to stop, but I can’t tell you how mortified I was. Of all people, my father inlaw!!! And I had only really met him like 4 times. He just kinda smiled and said, ‘I woulda stopped that sooner if I were you’, then walked out of the room. My husband collapsed on the floor laughing and I just fell on the couch, feeling like I was going to die!!!! Almost my worst fear. It hadn’t gone public, but I can’t really think of anyone I would less like to see me pretty much naked, than my father inlaw. Hahahahaha!!!! It’s sooooo funny now, but man it wasn’t at the time.
So your post made me wonder, if I had been inspired instead of feeling it was something I had to be wary of, would this have been an issue for me? Would it have even happened? Probably not, but because it was such a huge no no in my head to ever have anything on picture or video that could be that embarrassing, LOA just offered it up for me. It made sure that fear was realized. But that fear is so tid into being ashamed of our bodies in some way. Too big, too small, too fat, too skinny. So often we have the thoughts that we are never good enough or that it’s not acceptable to be proud of ourselves or our bodies. So many things we have been taught to find wrong, which now can be so capable of blocking our path to happiness.
Thanks for sharing Kat. I personally find it totally cool that you’ve been asked to pose! Hopefully you took those requests as compliments, no matter what the circumstances and no matter you chose not to do it. Like you said, you didn’t feel inspired so it wasn’t the right choice at the time. But it’s obviously something that you have realized is a block, a fear, and now you can work on it.
Who knows, if you work through this you could become the next body icon! Get emm girl! 😉
What a story! now you know exactly what im talking about! Exactly!!!!!! I would have made money rather quickly and would have been proud. There is nothing wrong with that. I agree!!!
But it’s not just us. It’s also the other people and if some pervs go crazy seeing that. Some men are really deprived and seeing that can break up a marriage but whose fault is that? Obviously the two were not vibrational matches for one another as many marriages are.
Man, I have realized that my fears are not even my own but those of others. How do we block that? I think by melding with our inner being and allowing iinspired action as you say.
See Kat, that is where I get what Melody says, but am not great at really acccepting! ItT isn’t just us in this world, but it is all about us. That makes total sense. But I don’t know yet, how to not let others actions effect me.
Like you, I see others reactions to me or around me and can’t seem to block it or not see it as a part of my reality. Which it is, but if I don’t want it to be a part, I can’t quite let it go. And yeah, I now I’m only seeing it because I’m a vibrational match, but I can’t seem to stop seeing it.
Say you had posed, and the reality of it effecting others in a negative way manifested. That could only happen/manifest if you were a vibrational match to it. And because you feared it, it would have manifested. It couldn’t do anything else, because that is what you expected. As you said, other peoples fears, but your belief in them.
So this makes so much sense to me! But I don’t know how to turn it off. I don’t know how to not see it or expect it. Which is where I also think my stall is. I don’t know quite how to see things in a different way outside of myself, or when dealing with other people.
Since I can’t seem to see past my current reality, I’m not getting any inspired action, so not much is happening. I can understand it, but not really having much effect on changing it. So I will keep working at looking for the better, trying to see through the eyes of my inner being, when looking at the life around me!
Yes, turning it off is what I need to work on as well. That takes practice.
Since we are obviously expanding and now keeping up with that expansion, our reality will change, as it does with those who actually go through with what we discussed as an example. Thanks!
Hey, speaking if which, if still interested, here are swami’s words for today:
“In any effort to improve your life, work first on improving yourself. To depend on others’ good treatment of you is a slave’s attitude. Become a cause in your life, not an effect. Self-dependence is the mark of heroism.”
Rock stars are some my heroes because they have always followed their heart and defied limiting beliefs whose power no longer affected them when they carved their own path.
This is what swami kriyananda had to say about money in his daily words of wisdom:
“To attract abundance, see money as a flow of energy, not as a static quantity. See life as a flow also, not as a fixed pattern. Think of life as a glass, and of abundance as a flow of water. Water can fill the glass only in liquid form, not as a block of ice.”
He also mentioned that the less we are attached to things, the more abundance will flow to us. Those who are undaunted in the midst if failure are the best off.
Thank you so much for your reply! I keep reading it and each time it makes a little more sense! You are so sweet, I love how we all share stories and support each other…very much like a family 🙂 hope you’re having a groovy weekend so far!!
Like!!!! I need to do these visualizations!
Whatever you are missing, meaning, whatever piece of resistance is stuck that you can’t see right now, don’t worry about it. If you keep triggering it, it will manifest in bigger and bigger ways until it gets your attention. When you feel stuck, you can do two things to get unstuck. Raise your vibration using whatever subject does it for you and stay there as long as you can (meaning, longer than a few minutes before checking if your whole world has morphed yet), or, poke at what’s bothering you and THEN go raise your vibration (which will speed it up and cause the manifestation of the resistance to come quicker so you can see it). You can poke at it by very briefly shoring up what’s bothering you. By doing that, by really defining what it is that feels “off”, and then feeling it more so you can actually identify the feelings, you get a better idea of what you DO want and then you can turn it around.
What is it that you haven’t manifested? I’m sure there are some specifics you could look at, but which you’ve been trying not to, since you don’t want to look at what’s bothering you. Well, you have to acknowledge the dark feelings too, just don’t harp on them. Not harping on them isn’t the same as NEVER looking at them, though. So, poke away a bit, and then deliberately back off and go do something else. The clarity you want will come. 🙂
Let us say that you are bothered by the fact that you do not have enough money that is needed to get certain things done. In the meantime, you feel great about money. No problem there. Do you continue with this particular feeling to eventually manifest a job, let’s say, that is perfect for you at this time and will bring you the necessary money? It can also come from other sources. Is this what you mean here? I am just wondering on why we get stuck on certain things.
If you are bothered by the fact that you don’t have enough money, you don’t feel great about money. You can’t feel both at the same time.
So, if you are currently worries about money, you are not feeling good about money. You have to actually get into a better feeling about it, or get off the subject completely and feel better. If you can get into the feeling of trusting that more money is coming, then in that very moment, you cannot ALSO be worried about money. And you don’t have to get specific about it, either. The money can come in a variety of ways. If thinking about specific jobs, makes you feel a bit more worried, don’t do that. If thinking about money in general makes you feel even a tiny bit of negative emotion, go do something else that feels really good. The subject you focus on doesn’t matter. The feeling does.
So, being apathetic, feeling nothing and not caring about money is actually a better state than feeling worried about it. I have met many people lately who just do not care about such things nor do they trouble their mind or heart about them, and they are better off overall for it. This reminds me of how I used to be.
I was sent pictures of those days, and I felt the universe was trying to tell me something. Excess worry just does not do it.
I wouldn’t say that being apathetic is a good feeling. People who don’t seem to worry about money aren’t apathetic about it. They just don’t worry about it. They trust that things will work out on that front. That’s not apathy.
If you care about money, you can’t not care. But you can feel better about it. You can even feel good about it. Don’t try to not care. That won’t go well. You can’t shut down your desire. But, you can keep soothing yourself that it will work out. You can focus on all the times it has worked out and all the ways in which it can work out. You can feel hopeful and positive. And then, you get to the point where someone asks you about money and you can honestly say “I’m not the least bit worried about it.” 🙂
‘Grumpy, grumpy…grumble grumble. Ok, enough. I will feel better! Close eyes, meditate. Whoosa, whoosa, whoosa. Ahhh, that feels so much better…I feel so much better!’…… Open eyes… O_O Hey! Where the hell is my perfect world?!!!’
Nay’s problem, in a nut shell! Hahahaha 😆 But I kinda like that poke at the resistance to speed things up and/or get unstuck, even if it means I will become a holy terror for a short while!
Thank you so much as always Melody!
Feeling is most definitely the secret Melody and I will confess right here and now, lo those many years ago when I began to study and practice I can remember having the thought, wow, this is too much of a responsibility. Do I really want to do this stuff deliberately? Which made me lol because I was doing it already. These principles operate all the time and our choice, as you say is where we’ll place our energy.
Love your metaphors ~ you rock girl.
Thanks so much Elle! I think we all battle with this issue at one time or another. I certainly did. Is it real? If it is real, how powerful am I, really? Oh crap, if I’m that powerful, can I be trusted with that much power? And so on… It’s just a releasing of all the BS we’ve been fed over the years about how corrupt and powerless we are. There’s always this fear that things will go horribly, horribly wrong. It’s such a relief to realize that things are always going wonderfully right! 🙂 Yay!
I had a very upsetting experience that I can’t explain. I have an autoimmune disorder that I was focused on healing. Although I had wanted to lose weight I decided I was going to focus on getting healthier and leaner, and not only did I get worse, I got physically bigger through swelling and bloating and some weight gain, which was something I was also trying to reduce. I can’t explain it.
This is actually quite common: you thought you were focusing on what you wanted, but were actually activating the unwanted. I would venture a strong guess that the autoimmune disorder and the weight are vibrationally connected, all part of the same manifestation. If I were you, I’d focus first and foremost on generally raising my vibration, using a different subject, NOT related to the body. Then, very generally start to flow some love to your body from that higher place. If you get too specific, by focusing on the weight and your immune system, you will trigger the resistance instead. Back way off. Remember, as long as you feel good, emotionally, you are lining up with what you want. You don’t have to focus on your body to heal your body. Just feel good.
I hope that’s helpful.
The very fact that I’m now being coached by you confirms that I am creating my reality in a positive way as the universe clearly listened and I cant even remember now how I found you! A funny thing happened to me today which shows again the powerful manifestations we can make.. A few months back I went into the sea for a swim and afterwards I noticed the emerald stone in my engagement ring was missing!! Whoops my husband was there and we both thought is this a sign ( terminal) about our marriage ( realising you have created your own reality has interesting challenges!!) but then I thought sweet universe it knows I’ve always wanted to upgrade the stone! We bought it 19 years ago when we were broke and don’t get me wrong it did cost DP a months salary but we may have been sold a bit of a dud as it was a bit too clody and seemed to have developed a fracture.anyways… We have for the last 18 years been paying insurance so I realised the universe was providing me with the perfect way to get it upgraded!! It arrived in the post today and I nearly dropped it with shock as now looking at me was a deep sparkling emerald!! It’s clever and it did know my desire and made it all possible!! By taking my emerald into the waves! And I’m delighted that your schedule is good!!! Xx
What a great story Bernie! I’m happy you have a beautiful new ring!
Thankyou Melody for a wonderful post, it’s something I had worried about also.
Life is a beautiful amazing blissful journey! Thankyou everyone for assisting me in realizing this!!
Yay!!!!! Today is so beautiful 🙂 🙂 🙂
That’s awesome!! I love this story!! And you so clearly demonstrated how you could choose to see something in a negative light, or a positive light. You guys looked at both and chose the positive and then received it. Yay! Great work!!!
And thanks for your kind words. It’s so good, I got totally behind on comments, lol.
Wow… and you didn’t question that there could possibly be another reason why you’re paying insurance for years.
Wow… truly mind-blowing, Bernie. Truly mind-blowing… the Universe is surely a smart and clever schemer. 😀
All new things,my”not yet shown up” super love and relationship or happiness have been feeling disturbing to me.The very idea of such vast great bliss can be scary but now after reading the metaphor,it seemed so pointless to me :):)
The idea of bliss can sound scary, yes. Particularly because we’ve been taught that bliss is “unrealistic” or going to be really hard to obtain (what a bunch of BS!).
But when we open ourselves up to bliss, to happiness, to getting all that we want and then let it flow into our reality, it’s worth having overcome that fear for. 🙂
Nice one, Melody!
“Particularly because we’ve been taught that bliss is “unrealistic” or going to be really hard to obtain (what a bunch of BS!).”
It gave me a WWE Smackdown on the head! I didn’t realize that I was starting to believe that bliss is hard even though I have access to it every moment. (Probably uncovered a limiting belief right there).
Wow… so reading other people’s comments do help. Gee…
Sometimes, the comments are better than the post, Fonzy. 🙂
Thanks Melody I needed to hear this ‘So, if things start coming in too quickly, or in some other uncomfortable way, you simply adjust your vibration a little. ‘ wise words again.
You’re welcome Jane! That seems to be one of the biggest fears people have. If they turn on the manifesting spigot, everything will just come rushing in at once. It won’t. Everything comes to us in perfect timing, and we get to determine that timing in each moment. 🙂
Great post again, Melody.
Keep up the good stuff! Where do you get your images?? They’re so damn cool! 😀
I usually get the main image from icanhascheezburger.com and then add the captions and stuff to it. They’re pretty much there just to make me laugh. But you can enjoy them, too, lol. 😉