Public Service Announcement

A couple of days ago, I was made aware by a reader that I should’ve posted something about the Connecticut tragedy. My silence on the subject had been misinterpreted as not caring, and my happily going on with life was seen by some as disrespectful. I haven’t written a post on the subject on purpose. But I realize now that I maybe should’ve said at least that, so, here I go:

I haven’t written about the events in Connecticut, because I didn’t want to add my considerable focus and yours to the pain. I feel that that right now is not the time to try and shift people’s perspectives on this topic. It’s too painful, too fresh and people aren’t ready to hear what I have to say yet. My words would be taken the wrong way right now and would just give people something to push against, which is never my intent.

The second I heard about what happened, I immediately made sure that I would hear no more. I didn’t look it up on the internet, I got off Facebook and I never watch the news anyway. Because I live in a foreign country, it made it very easy for me not to pay attention to this and work myself right back into a good place.

It’s not that I don’t care. I do. I care deeply. In fact, I care enough to practice what I preach. I won’t add my focus to the painful side of a topic. I won’t add my focus to anything I don’t want more of. I look at what the tragedy is causing us to want instead, and I will publish that view when I feel that people can hear me. Right now, I don’t believe that enough of them can. The time will come when people are sick of feeling badly about this and will be ready to feel better. Right now is not quite that time.

Those who are mired in pain cannot understand anyone who is not. At least not for a little while. It’s natural and understandable and I do respect that enough not to poke at it, so I haven’t.

What we can focus on instead

Having said that, I’d like to point out in really general terms, that if you can’t find a better feeling perspective on a subject, it’s better not to try, but rather to raise your vibration using any other topic you can find. I’d like to offer such a topic here today, and I believe that if we all focus in this positive way, not only will we all feel better, but we can actually influence those around us. The power of this blog audience is considerable. You may have no idea just how influential you all are, especially as a group. But take it from someone who can often feel your collective questions, y’all are atomic, baby!

In keeping with the wonderful energy raised by my recent post on how I do my Year End Review, I thought I’d get us all to focus on all the awesomeness that transpired in 2012. Yes, there were tragedies, but I think they’ve been focused on enough. Let’s deliberately receive more of what we want, instead of what we don’t want, shall we?

Here’s my list of awesome things that happened in 2012:

Gay marriage is legal

As of November 2012, nine states, Connecticut, Iowa, Maine, Maryland, Massachusetts, New Hampshire, New York, Vermont, and Washington, as well as the District of Columbia and two Native American tribes, have legalized same-sex marriage. This puts the United States in the awesome company of the following countries: the Netherlands, Belgium, Spain, Canada, South Africa, Norway, Sweden, Portugal, Iceland, Argentina, and Denmark.

It doesn’t matter if you’re gay or not, this is a triumph for all of human kind. We are becoming more open, less judgmental, more allowing of each other and less dogmatic. And if there was any doubt about that, this legalization is proof that we are, as a people, moving in the right direction.

Marijuana got legalized in two US States

I know this is a touchy subject, but it brought me immense joy. It’s just awesome to see common sense and logic prevail in the legal system. No matter what you think about pot, the fact that it’s illegal, when alcohol and cigarettes do far more damage, makes no sense. Trying to fight this harmless plant (how a plant can be illegal is beyond me…) has cost billions of dollars in the US alone, imprisoned tens of thousands of people who hurt no one, and kept us from making untold medical and industrial advances. And yes, I said harmless. No one has ever overdosed on weed, and law enforcement officials agree that given a choice between legalizing alcohol and marijuana, they’d all choose marijuana, because it doesn’t cause people to become violent. (Note: I’m not saying smoking pot is good for you, I’m saying that keeping it illegal makes no sense to me).

Colorado and Washington have declared marijuana legal for recreational use, and President Obama has stated that he will not interfere. If you’ve read my post about a win-win society and an aligned vision for the future, you’ll know that I advocate as much personal freedom as possible, providing it hurts no one. This decision, in my opinion, pushes us just a bit further in that direction.

Obama got reelected

Let me state here that I’m not political in any sense of the word. I’m not a Democrat and I’m not a Republican. I don’t care what the politicians are claiming to stand for today, because none of them even come close to representing my views. Policies don’t matter. They are merely a representation of the vibration of the collective. And so, my reason for including the Obama re-election in this list has nothing to do with policies or politics. It has to do with vibration.

Love him or hate him, Obama represents hope. He did 4 years ago and he still does today, although perhaps to a slightly diminished extent. Romney represented the fear based choice (as did Bush). I’m not even talking about the vibration of the candidates (that doesn’t really matter), but what the candidates represent to the people around the world. Obama is different, he’s riskier, he’s a leap of faith. He represent a willingness to go into the unknown, to make changes, to feel better. My, haven’t we come a long way?

Spain won the Euro Cup again!

That’s right. I’m including this in my personal awesome list of 2012. Not only do I live in Spain, but I’m a Barca fan and the Spanish national team is basically Barca Light. For you Americans, we’re talking about soccer. The rest of the world knows what the Euro Cup is. πŸ˜‰

The energy that sweeps through a pub or even the city when the national team wins is palpable. The joy just oozes down the street. I adore it and hold on to it for as long as I can.

The first patient has been cured of AIDS

AIDS isn’t normally a happy topic, but it’s really worth mentioning that we’ve finally started to line up with real solutions. The first case of a completely cured AIDS patient was reported this year. We’re no longer just “managing the illness”, we’ve broken the barrier to actually eradicating it. And for those of you who think I’m being too optimistic, let me remind you of this:

Up until 1954, no one thought it was possible to run a mile in under 4 minutes. Then, a man named Roger Bannister broke the record. After that, tons of athletes started to run even faster than he did. Once the barrier is broken by even one person, people’s beliefs start to shift. Curing AIDS is suddenly possible.  Don’t be surprised if we see breakthroughs flooding in from now on.

The Space Jump

Felix Baumgartner, an Austrian skydiver, daredevil and BASE jumper, set the world record for skydiving an estimated 39 kilometers (24 miles) on 14 October 2012, and became the first person to break the sound barrier without vehicular power on his descent.

Why is this good news? Because not only was it one of the only widely covered POSITIVE events on the news this year (there really was no way to make this into a bad thing), but it’s yet another example of people making the impossible possible. What is possible is only ever a product of our beliefs. People who continuously prove our beliefs of what we can do wrong, just freaking rock.

I turned 40

While I normally don’t discuss my age, I will today. Why? Because I turned 40 this year, and it means absolutely diddly squat. I’m sharing this because I realize that for much of the world’s female population, that’s not entirely the case. People obsess about the big Four Oh, lord knows that even many of my friends and family tried to make a huge deal about it. I honestly didn’t care. And that made me really happy. It’s all part of my plan to become completely ageless. I have officially reached the point where my age doesn’t matter to me and the way I felt on my 40th birthday was proof of that for me.

I don’t think, act, dress, or live the way society thinks 40 year olds should think, act, dress or live. And guess what? There are many, many others out there who don’t either. I don’t defy my age, I don’t push against it. I don’t dress or try to look or act “younger”. I dress and act the way I want to. In my head, I haven’t aged much since I was about 26. I’ve changed, sure, but I don’t feel “older”. In fact, I have more energy now than I did 20 years ago. I don’t take life nearly as seriously, I play more, laugh more, work less and have a lot more fun doing it. I’ve never been happier.

So, for all of you who write me emails telling me that you feel old at 23 or 30 because your time is running out, relax! It just gets better and better. If you allow it, that is. J

What made you happy in 2012?

You may or may not agree that these events were awesome. It’s MY list. You get to add your own in the comments. But, I’d like to point out that although I normally welcome discussion and even disagreement if it brings clarity, this particular post is one of positivity only. If you disagree with my list or anyone else’s, I advise you to get over it. You can focus more selectively than that. We’re going to be happy today. Add your own positive list. Rejoice in the items you like, the ones that uplift you and leave the rest. Let’s build the momentum of happy, shiny energy, which will influence all of those around us. Share this list with anyone you think will get it and benefit from it. Or, make your own list and share that. Yay!

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  • Hi! I’ve been following your site for some time now and finally got the bravery to go
    ahead and give you a shout out from Houston Tx! Just wanted to say
    keep up the good work!

  • Dear Melody,

    I love the idea of making a list of awesome things of the year. So here’s mine:

    1. I discovered your Deliberate Receiving blog! It has been so helpful in making me see what thoughts I ALLOW myself to wallow in. And because of that…

    2. I discovered how to raise my vibration to a good feeling place w/o ANYTHING changing in my life. Even though I was jobless & single & spending most of my time in bed, I found myself feeling better for absolutely no reason. And it was because I started using all that free time to just close my eyes and think about the great things I wanted. I envisioned myself with the life I want and within a couple of days I noticed my overall mood wasn’t low anymore – yet I was still jobless, single, and in bed. But this feeling led me to get out of bed, and before I knew it I had a job that I barely lifted a finger to get! I basically proved to myself that LOA does indeed work.

    3. I learned that I enjoy teaching AND I’m good at it. I’ve spent since 1995 trying to figure out what I could do for a living that I would enjoy. I finally found it. For now at least. I understand this may change with time. I may be inspired to do something else down the road.

    4. I lost 30lbs! Nuf said.

    5. I spent about 6 months in a relationship that taught me enough to fill 6 years. Even though it didn’t end well and I later learned the man I was with is a sociopath, I feel blessed that I had this short experience because it taught me so much about myself, relationships, intimacy, and fave me a knowledge of the master manipulators out there walking among us. Having never experienced a manipulator before, I was simply so naive (they don’t only exist on tv shows & movies). So I’m proud to be clued in now. I know I will avoid any future relationships of that nature because I’m more in tune with my instincts and I focus on being with a genuine, honest, responsible man.

    6. I met someone new before the end of the year. So far my instincts aren’t warning me of anything. I’m taking it one slow step at a time. He’s from Uruguay which is funny because I always kinda had a feeling I needed to meet a foreign guy.

    7. I accept me now (or at least a lot more than I used to). In the past, I always said that I was an introvert or not a “people person” since I was more comfortable being alone. Now, in the little computer shop where I work, I love it when people walk in the door. I’ve transformed into a people person. It’s almost like I had a fear before that doesn’t exist now and I believe that’s because I’m more secure with myself. When you’re okay with you, then you end up being okay with everyone else.

    So that’s my list. It’s a great feeling to know you’re on that wave of change that has started this 2012 year.

    Thank you so much Melody for spreading your knowledge,

    • Oh, and I turned 42 this year and I don’t give a rat’s butt either. πŸ˜‰
      Of course, I don’t look my age at all. No drinking, no smoking, no kids and lots of sleep have left me looking significantly younger than I am which is fine by me. But I never lie about my age.

  • Hi Melody

    I have your greetings card from Spain today on Xmas eve. Thank you very much.

    I am going to a Spanish restaurant in Sydney tonight to celebrate.

    Have a good Christmas.



    • You’re so welcome Claire!! Thanks for being part of the DR family! πŸ™‚

      Have a wonderful time (or perhaps you already did… darn time change…)

      Merry Christmas and have a wonderful New Year!!

      Huge hugs,


  • I think some of the awesome things you mentioned above are not really awesome for me. Although we have our own opinions and beliefs but I should be respecting your post. Actually I am not really fan of gay marriage (please don’t get offense) as well as the legalize of marijuana. But anyway, it’s already done so enjoy and have fun who will be enjoying this legalization. πŸ™‚

  • Wow! I don’t know how I’ve missed this blog until now, but I just want to say it is FANTASTIC. I’m so looking forward to really digging in to all the juicy goodness here.

    My 2012 was pretty awesome. I enrolled in an online program to become a certified health coach and I’m really loving the curriculum. I turned 49 (the 40s ROCK, by the way) and can’t wait to see what 50 brings. I came to realize that not only have I survived being suddenly widowed two years ago, but that I’ve come through it a better, stronger, and more loving person. Life is good. πŸ™‚

  • 8th awesome thing of 2012

    I am going to launch my blog on this Christmas πŸ™‚

    wish me luck mell πŸ™‚ πŸ™‚

  • Awww. That 4th kitten isn’t a douchebag…he’s got the mind of a full grown cat already. πŸ™‚ You know how they are. So indifferent…such, well, cats.

    I’m not really offended, I’m just messin’ around. Actually, my cat makes that sound all the time. It actually sounds like that ‘word’ when he does it, but it’s a high pitched, kinda gravelly guttural sound from the throat, not at all bored sound and it’s his “I want (fill in the blank)” It’s usually food, to go out or some attention. Anyway, it made me laugh. He actually has a fairly wide vocabulary for a cat. One morning when he “needed” to go outside, he actually sounded like he was saying my name. Great thing to wake up too… it made me laugh.

    Anyway, I have a few things I’d like to share… as my own list.
    1. I discovered your blog and then met you, Mel. (Perhaps that’s two) πŸ™‚
    2. I was blessed to experience a consultation with you.
    3. Met some really cool like-minded cyber friends here.
    4. I’ve made a few leaps in my self discovery.
    5. Discovered how good of friends two people in my life really are to me.

    Thanks for this post. My list is a bit more personal than yours. However, it was a great exercise in reflection and helped me think more positively about the year, despite the tough time I had gone through. And still dealing with it actually but seeing and using it as more of a tool for growth.

    And to add to the marijuana thing. Most people equate it with smoking it and recreation. But like any other herb it can be used in other ways: eating it of course, (careful with this…it sneaks up and is a much different effect than smoking…not that I’m speaking from experience though.)

    But it can also be made into a tea or a tincture. It does have medicinal properties. It’s just that we’ve come to perceive it as something teens get into to rebel and lots of folks see it as a gateway drug. I’m not arguing one point or another. It probably depends on the person imbibing and their chemistry. For one person it could cause a serious lack of motivation while another will be on the move getting more done than usual.

    Another thing about it is that we get hemp from it. The seeds are a really great source of vegan protein and apparently don’t have the THC level to bring about a ‘high’ and let’s not forget about the awesome stuff you can make from hemp using it as a fabric.

    • Thanks so much for sharing our own list Laura! I’m honored to be on it!! It feels great to focus on what went right, doesn’t it?

      I’ve been pro-legalization for a long, long time. And I know a lot of people (who are not users, by the way) who feel the same way. It’s more about the principle than anything else. We are freedom seeking beings. I’m always going to be pro-freedom. πŸ™‚

      Huge hugs!!


  • At the moment thoughts of the day, wanted to share with you all.

    Love like you’ve never loved before…
    Cry like you’ve never cried before…
    Laugh like you’ve never laughed before…
    Rejoice like you’ve never realised the joys of what mother earth gives us and feel the energy release like a burden buried in you for long now dying to let go…
    We are born to be light spirited being…
    Just be YOU !
    Enjoy the experience like you’ve never before…

    • Hey Claire,

      I’m back January 6th. Until then, I’ll be popping in periodically to keep an eye on things. The coaching calls will be published every Sunday as normal and there will be shorter blog posts until I get back. They’ve all been uploaded and basically, they publish themselves (it’s all automated…). So, don’t worry, you’ll still get your thrice-weekly dose of awesomeness while I’m away. πŸ™‚

      Huge hugs!


    • Thanks SOOO much for sharing that post, Lucy!!! I adored it!

      There really, really is much more good than bad. We just don’t see it on the news as much. But it’s there if we just care to look. πŸ™‚

      BTW, one of my longer terms goals is to create an internet TV show where I go around the world and highlight the good, the awesome and the brilliant. Shine a spotlight on those who are doing it right and all that is going well. Oh yeah. That will happen. πŸ™‚

      Huge hugs!!


  • “Trying to fight this harmless plant (how a plant can be illegal is beyond me…) has cost billions of dollars in the US alone, imprisoned tens of thousands of people who hurt no one, and kept us from making untold medical and industrial advances.”

    I don’t like it, I can’t even smoke a cigarette without choking and wondering how that could be enjoyable.
    I also have too much anxiety to trust drugs, including prescription medication.

    But I strongly feel it should be legal, because antidepressants are legal, and they have worse side-effects. (mass killers are often on psychotropic medication, that makes them worse)
    Also if drugs are legal, they wouldn’t be dodgy, and cut with chemicals, so they would be “cleaner” and maybe if they made it into food, and there was an ambulance standing by, I might see if it helped my depression. ??? Maybe.

    Ok opinion time!

    I won’t comment on the shooting out of “respect” and also because I have some unconvential theories about it and interest in these things, the why, and I think I know why. I didn’t hear about it either, until someone mentioned it to me a week later, I had to google it…. (good sign of my rising vibration or just ignorance?)

    I didn’t look, because anything involving dead children is not going to be fun. It’s someone elses private grief, so you are right that opinions here would just be rude anyway. Like that comment ages back about the poor dead boy. Let’s just butt out already.

    Gays- This is rather American based news…You really should do a survey of your readers, because I don’t think you have as many Americans in proportion to the rest of the universe as you think you do….
    And really should stop catering to the practice of American-centric blog/media focus… This is as old as sexism, people are tired of it, it’d done and dusted. Like the old British empire, people are done with the chanting of USA, USA, and American television everywhere, even American are sick of it.

    We are moving into a global focus, starting from the ninties where Indie music started incorporating symbols from places such as India, Tibet etc fashion into punk/hippie clothing.
    And before then in the 60s’……”Wow there are OTHER countries! Amazing!”—sorry, I’m sounding a tad Michael Moore here…but it’s a true reflection of the feelings of many people, just I am stating it.

    I’m not trying to be mean, just contribute to the push already happening towards a global mindset.
    Even the Oprah trip to Australia, still had people wondering about the kangaroos….

    I see you as a global citizen, and you look more German than anything, and culturally, I think you absorbed Spanish traditions while living there.
    A soul doesn’t really have a “race” does it?

    Good for America though, and this is certainly a positive step for homosexuals in general, because people will point to those places in America, and say “why are we so backwards?”

    Obama—-have to admit, maybe I’m brainwashed, but I like the guy, he seems less creepy than the other choices.
    Also the “binders full of women” meme was spread worldwide, so we are all aware of that. πŸ™‚ Hilarious!

    The cure and space jump were also things that got me excited.

    These are all great things, thanks.

    • btw What is your favourite place in the world you have travelled to? πŸ™‚

      You mention travelling extensively, so you’d have seen many places. Have you seen Tibet?
      What was it like?

      Morocco? Cambodia? Nepal? Tunisia? Japan?

      After Peru, where did you go? Where was the strangest place for you?

      I feel excited, I have a feeling you will open travel up again.

      • Hey Alice,

        I haven’t been to Asia yet (or Australia), but it’s all on my list. Peru was my last big trip, outside of going to the US to visit my family, which I try to do every year or every two years. I didn’t travel at all last year, since I’ve been so focused on building my business, but hope to do a lot more of it again, soon. I’m setting up my business more and more so that I can run it from anywhere. It does take a bit of time, but I’m making really good progress. I can’t wait to take you guys on the road! πŸ™‚

        Huge hugs,


  • With going for the positive of things, as for AIDS, this website has beautiful children looking for a home, I didn’t know people were allowed to put adoption photos up online, like you do with missing pets…crude, but surely effective way to bring the right home to the children.
    I’m sure there are people out there that can’t have kids, well with the population out of control, why don’t we take care of the children that already need homes?

    I’m sure there is a happy ending, to match parents with these kids.

  • Perfect timing! I’ve been thinking all year that this has been a crappy year in oh, so many ways. Then I decided to celebrate what I’m calling The Mayan New Year tonight and this morning made a list of Good Things 2012 Brought Me. Okay, so I thought it was going to be a pretty freakin’ short list. Not so. I was astonished to realize that I have had at least three MAJOR breakthroughs this year — not so surprising, I guess, when you realize my 2012 “Word of the Year” was (wait for it!) “Breakthrough”.

    One of them is that every single time — every time, without exception — that I have made a decision, big or small (everything from where to live & where to work to which pair of shoes to buy), based on moving away from something out of fear instead of moving toward something out of desire and love, I have regretted it in a big way. Every. Single. Time. This is a serious life-changer.

    The second is: you can chose to do it easy, or to do it hard. “Ease” is the very foundation of LOA, in my opinion (well, now it’s my opinion; a few months ago, I never gave it much thought). Every single time I have just thrown my hands up in the air and said, oh hell, Universe, I give up, do it your way, things have almost instantly fallen into place and worked out for me. Since August I have been consciously taking a deep breath about 67 times a day and reminding myself: let it be with ease. Julia Hamrick calls it choosing to live in Easy World. And man, does it ever work. My stress levels have bottomed out, my sense of humor has returned, almost all my LOA desires have or are falling into place and I am just so much calmer and happier I can’t even express it.

    The third thing is more personal and distills down to the mind-opening realization that dealing with someone suffering from NPD — Narcissistic Personality Disorder — is impossible. No amount of patience or understanding or reasonable discussion is going to change the behaviour of someone for whom nothing matters but his own immediate needs. Can’t happen. They’re just not capable, as sad as that is. You have the choice of living with that, or extricating yourself from the situation (not a romantic relationship in my case, thank goodness!)

    Oh, and while this isn’t a new realization, I have finally managed to truly understand it and put it into daily practice: we have choice in every moment of every day. Believing we have no choice is a choice. Choose consciously.

    So, yeah. 2012 was a very good year — a life changing year — on many levels. And 2013 can only be better . . .

    • Wow Susann! I love your insights!! They’re so powerful!! And spot on.

      Sometimes, all you can do is walk away my dear. Holding on to someone who isn’t a match to you is painful. Let them go with love, but let them go.

      Thanks so much for sharing.

      Huge hugs,


  • high points of the year: talking with Melody on Skype; 200 year old tree did not fall on my house – stayed on the neighbor’s property; I found medical insurance and they accepted me; I just feel better everyday; signed up for Qigong class; my partner got a hearing aid and it works (even answers the phone!); I went on several wonderful car trips and just felt the beauty of nature; took an intuitive painting class; my partner got a bonus at work this year that paid off a bill that was WORK not to focus on; and I just know 100 pounds are going to come off my body as I get healthier and healthier…found at least 1000 moments of joy and felt it all over.

    Congrats on your prize – YAY!

    Have set aside a whole morning to read all the posts I have missed recently.
    Enjoy being here and wishing everyone some happiness right now.

    • That’s really good Patricia, I’m always rooting for you, as you are often doing it the hardest of the regulars here, some people don’t get the complication of health, and how it cuts your ability to earn, and snowballs into money issues, which others can get over because they are healthy!

      So I’m always happy for every little succes you have, and going for you, where others may take for granted,and you are doing so well.

      Big Hugs to you!

    • That’s wonderful Patricia! And thanks so much for the mention. πŸ™‚ Writing this list had to make you feel wonderful. It certainly uplifted me just reading it!!

      Huge happy shiny puppy hugs for you and your little dog, too. Ha.


  • Melody, I freakin LOVE this post! and I Love you! All of your points are spot on, and I especially like that you included Felix Baumgartner because he is delicious (and so.damn. badass!).
    Although the Newtown tragedy pulled so deeply at my Heart, i couldn’t much find the words to express what I wanted either, in an online venue (and I don’t think anyone should tell you it’s necessary just because you have a public blog). I simply hold them in my Heart with Love.
    Stumbling upon your blog was definitely one of the GREAT things that I have discovered in 2012. I am so happy to be shifting into feeling good and looking forward to what gives me more of the feelings that I want.
    You’re amazing! Thanks for everything. :))

  • Well, good morning to you, Snarky Puppy Chick…here is my list, and it is pretty good and I think it might be long as well, much to my own surprise

    1) FINALLY realized that I need to divorce this man
    2) FINALLY realized that my life Path is here, in Los Angeles, and not in SanBerdo
    3) Met the guy who I wrote about over and over again through these last 4 years
    4) Decided to get help and support for the emotional wounding I suffered for 2 decades
    5) Decided that my life’s work is what it has always revealed itself to be, which is in
    service to others through my Spiritual Gifts and my communicative abilities
    6) Turned 42 (had to say it lol…I PROMISE this side of 40 ROCKS !! You’ve seen my pics)
    7) Started my Soul Coaching Practice
    8) Learned to accept things as they are
    9) Learned that accepting things is not setting them in stone but is just accepting them
    10) …I am sure there is way more, but I would say that this list is pretty good even
    though it is mighty short

    Love You !!!
    Rabid Feral Kitten

  • Hi!

    “I was made aware by a reader that I should’ve posted something about the Connecticut tragedy”

    My thoughts:
    1) If you were made aware of that incident, maybe it’s because you are still programmed to detect what causes pain to those you care. I’m happy you are doing that. As long as you do that, you may still keep your vibration down but we get a lot of useful information. So, thank you very much.
    2) Why should they expect from you to analyse such a tragedy (what we perceive as a tragedy, it’s something that happened to people we wouldn’t give them money if they asked but we bother analysing that because we are afraid that it might happen to us). Perhaps it’s your expectation that they expect you to analyse what makes them uncomfortable.

    “The time will come when people are sick of feeling badly about this”

    3) To be more exact, the time will come for us not to feel obliged to feel bad when we see others go desperate (and stop making that outcome a high priority in our heads, perhaps with a new thinking which automatically detects this danger, without offering resistance and choosing something else instead).

    “Those who are mired in pain cannot understand anyone who is not”

    4)That’s not true. That’s our perception. If we know that the leader has already suffered and he knows what he is talking about, it is a lot easier to have respect for him and follow blindly even when we don’t fully understand what he says. The leader can also tell lies, but that’s another sad story. I think that people in pain are like sheeps or soldiers. When we don’t know how to come out of the “pain&frustration” territory, we just follow others, only if we trust that they won’t lead us only to more suffering. Perhaps a little more suffering in another direction is essential, perhaps it’s not. It becomes clear that it was our intention that matters, but hey, we aren’t supposed to think that much, we might not be acceptable..acceptable from whom? That’s interesting. What invisible force is playing with our minds?

    “this legalization is proof that we are, as a people, moving in the right direction”

    5)I don’t agree with gay marriages because I have a different meaning for marriage in my head. If they want to live together, who cares? A law can’t change what people feel. A law cannot protect people from murder, how can it protect them from not being discriminated? The only valid point I can see is that a law can protect them from the reaction of the official state if they want to adopt and raise children. My opinion on this matter is that politicians do silly things to convince people in pain that they are acceptable (even when they aren’t). If what makes us equal is just doing what others do without exceptions, then we should all pay our taxes first.

    What made you happy in 2012?
    6)The truth? What made me happy was the realisation that I can at last rely on my thinking. I had a hard time figuring out the differencies between what’s solid and what’s thinking (and how the two of them mix to give a new reality).
    7) Also a joke made me happy: 3 prostitutes were drinking coffee while taking a break. The third was shocked hearing that the other two were getting paid for their services.

    • Hey Tony,

      I can still be aware of things that are happening in the world without letting them totally destroy my vibration. Holding a high vibration doesn’t mean I won’t hear about stuff, it just means it won’t affect me the same way any more.

      I think, and it humbles me greatly to realize this, that this blog and its community have become a kind of positive oasis for people. They expect to come here and feel better. I love the thought of that. And, to tell you the truth, the whole exchange turned into a really positive experience for me. There was no negativity to it at all. I wasn’t triggered, but did get some new clarity. And I was grateful for it. This post came out of that experience, as well and people seem to be really liking it. So, win-win. πŸ™‚

      When someone is in the midst of being triggered, it makes no sense to try and change their momentum right then and there. Trying to make them feel better will backfire. I’m not talking about any pain, just the fresh, it just happened pain. But when they have calmed a bit, they are ready to hear different perspectives. Many people are already there, so I think I’ll be able to publish the post I want to write just after the holidays. My intuition will tell me when.

      And thanks for sharing your list with us. It’s so very Tony. πŸ™‚

      Huge hugs,


    • Tony,

      I laughed out loud after reading that joke, which drew eyes on me on the bus, but hey, a happy shiny puppy does not shy from that!

  • I love the list. Here’s some of mine:

    Obama got re-elected. For the reasons you said. Also because it was so inconceivable that he would get elected in the first place. Another of those barriers that once broken, is hard to believe it ever existed.

    Also here, in the US, the Supreme Court upheld the healthcare law. The best thing about it is the chief justice voted to uphold it, proving that he is not just following the conservative party line. Also, lots more people will get healthcare!

    After the US Embassy got attacked, some people from both the US and Libya created a US-Libya friendship group on facebook. Lots of people sharing their lives and goodwill over the internet.

    I’m personally feeling amazed at how much good the internet is bringing into my life. It allows me to run a business. This year I’ve gotten more international orders which is fun. I’m connecting with people all over the world.

    Another blessing the internet has brought me is your site. This is definitely exactly what I needed to help make my life better. I had felt suspicious of the law of attraction proponents. Your humor and down to earth explanations have helped me be open to this information and get the help I need. Thank-you!

  • Exactly! I feel the same way Melody. In fact I live in America, in a fairly close proximity to Connecticut. I don’t watch the news at all. The sad thing is that I found out about this tragedy from my children who were told about it by their teacher in school. Which made me quite upset because I don’t want them knowing about such things. I choose to keep them in a happy “life is good” bubble. I don’t choose to watch the news because the large majority is bad and I don’t want my vibration lowered. If there is something that directly affects me I will know. Not to mention that, as you stated, it gives attention to it.

    • Hey Chennell,

      I love that. Keep your kids in a happy shiny bubble. But, they will attract their own contrast. You can’t stop that and you don’t want to. They have to figure out how to focus on what they want, even when there’s stuff they don’t want flying about. They should make that a class in schools – Focusing 101. Ha.

      Huge hugs,


  • I don’t watch the news either. I have spent the better part of the last 10 years trying to avoid as much negativity as possible. It’s not that I don’t care, it’s not that I am not aware of the suffering in the world…it’s that I choose to do as you said, focus on the good feelings. I am compassionate, but that does not mean I have to dwell constatly over the bad things that happen in the world.
    This has been a crazy year. The tradedy in CT is heartwrenching to say the very least. I am sadded to hear that people in the community are taking down their Christmas decorations to pay tribute. I have said to many people, we do not honor those who have passed, by NOT living ourselves. My heart breaks for each and every person in that community. It just reminds me how incredibly precious our lives are, and to cherish our loved ones every single moment.

    I agree about the pot. However I hope they do not illigelize wine…I do enjoy my wine.

    Gay marriage rocks!!

    As for the age thing…Haha. I actually enjoy telling people my age. 42! soon to be 43. I don’t look feel or act what I thought you would at my age either. I think you and I would be total BFF’s if we lived in the same town. Just sayn’. πŸ˜‰

    Another awesome post. Bring on 2013!!!

    • Hey Dawn,

      Oh no! I didn’t mean they should take the wine! Or the champagne! I only drink a couple of times a year, but then I love me some bubbly. πŸ™‚

      Thanks so much for sharing your list here. And I totally agree. How does it help the situation to cancel Christmas! You’d think that people in that town need the joy of Christmas now, more than ever. How does feeling sad honor anyone or respect them more? And how is happiness disrespectful? We cannot get sad enough to bring back the dead. Or to make those who are sad happy again. That’s just not how it works.

      *steps down off soapbox*

      Huge smooshy hugs,


  • I Love your list, it gave me a great pick-me-up and I needed it because I was highly annoyed that someone felt it was appropriate to tell you what you *should* write about, and when, on your blog.
    Back to my happy place, my own personal highlights of 2012 included starting a meditation practice, finding your blog and services, getting my pets, getting a new job, gaining a new level of spiritual understanding, having some of my most important friendships deepen, and meeting new people that held up the mirror and allowed me to clean up more resistance. 2012 has totally rocked!

    • Hey Jennifer,

      LOL, don’t you worry. I write what I feel like writing. I use my intuition. But this wasn’t a demand for a post. It was simply an emotional response to a complex situation. The person was looking for relief and came to my blog (which, I guess, is actually kind of flattering). They didn’t get it and got mad at me (misplaced anger, but still, anger is healthy). They calmed right down once I explained that what I was doing WAS providing relief – by not poking at the big, ugly sore with a bright and shiny stick.

      Thanks for sharing your list! And I’m honored to be on it! πŸ™‚

      Huge hugs,


  • Great post! Thanks Melody, and congrats again on the win!

    I’ve noticed in the last few days that many people are posting happy messages on Facebook. It’s like there’s a whole happy shiny puppy army out there who don’t even know yet that they’re official happy shiny puppies – they just are. Woohoo!

    My two cents worth from Mexico: We won the Olympics in men’s soccer!! Awesome!

    And even better, on Dec 5, the Mexican Supreme Court struck down a ban on same sex marriage. GONE! They ruled that the ban ‘violates the principle of equality.’ Add Mexico to the list of enlightened countries! Happy dancing in the streets!

    For me personally, the list is so long I could write for pages. Most of my highs (and lows – hee hee) have been explored here in guest posts, so I’ll just say a giant thank you to Melody for welcoming me to the DR family!

    Hugs, everyone,

    Mary Carol

    • Thanks so much Mary Carol! I know! I love the response this post is getting, too. It seems people are much more ready to move back into a positive state than they ever were (makes sense). The speed with which stuff is happening lately is just mind blowing. People keep surprising me in positive ways. And I have a pretty positive expectation, but they keep surpassing it!

      Huge hugs,


  • Dear Old Girl – 40 wow , looking at you in your photo above I would’ve thought that maybe 30 at most but definately not 40 but still that’s good news for me and hopefully one day I will have the opportunity of explaining in person exactly what I mean by that.

    Now to the real reason for my reply – how bloody dare anyone saying or implying that you are uncaring , in my humble opinion (and for what it’s worth) you would have to be one of the most caring individuals I have ever had the privilege of knowing , anyone who has taken the time to read your posts and read them between the lines would know and feel the caring attitude oozing out and would know it beyond any doubt.

    That’s all for now , I’ve vented a bit so I’m going to finish reading the rest of your post and cool off a bit before I punch a hole in my wall (which I’ll then have to fix) – back soon

    • Thanks John.

      Oh how cute. You’re getting all protective. πŸ˜‰ But no worries. I wasn’t offended. In fact, it was a really good opportunity to get into a great discussion on Facebook. And it led to more clarity all around. This is one of the reasons I hadn’t published anything yet. Imagine if a lack of saying anything got interpreted in a negative way, what my response would’ve done? Although, I have to say, I think the time is near. I’ll probably write up something right after the holidays.

      No punching the wall. Punch the couch. It hurts less and sounds funnier.

      Huge hugs!


      • My apologies if you felt my comments were cute and I was being over protective they were not intended to be , I was just pissed because as humans we tend to put others in boxes or categories before knowing the real person , we have a tendency to assume that we know the person and what their reactions should be in certain circumstances but that assumption is only based on what our own reactions and the reactions of the majority would be , thinking that the other person should be a clone of us and forgetting that each person is an individual and may have a different view on things for good reasons which only they know – as the american indians saying goes “do not assume you know me until you have walked in my moccasins for a while” or something to that effect. I honestly didn’t mean to offend you I was just defending your right to have your own view on things and I would do it again for anyone in the same situation.

          • Not really, it means the same thing-

            -cute puppies, things that have big eyes and whatnot are cute. (according to taste/opinion) I think that some insects are cute, so it’s subjective, but mostly puppies and kittens.

            -cute people, such as young Brad Pitt where he looks very innocent, Ville Valo and his cherub face, Dakota Fanning, you know people with pleasant faces and big or engaging eyes. Young Natalie Imbruglia. You know CUTE like Tweety bird, or some Tim Burton character.

            Some teenagers may also use cute to describe “hot” people, so that would include typical attractive types like Johnny Depp that may not be cherub like, hmmm more cute in a different sense, according to personal likes or dislikes, so Antonio Banderas in his human form, not as Puss in Boots, which is the better definition of cute, (the cat, wearing a hat)
            I think this cute=hot was picked up from the 80’s onwards from American pop-culture.

            Rare use of cute mainly in older men from generation X and above, especially Baby Boomers-
            Cute could mean something sarcastic, like oh “cute” as in a trite attempt etc

            I love words!

          • More cute!


            Attractive in an innocent manner—that’s what I think it is, lovable, adorable.

            Can also mean clever in a charming manner. Precious, quaint…

            My grandmother said one old meaning was “ugly but interesting”
            That meaning is now obsolete.

            And according to the “ask men” message boards, here are some amusing comments on being called cute:

            “It would only bother me if she looked at my dick and said “that’s cute”

            “No one would call Daniel Craig cute.”

            Urban dictionary:

            “Used to describe someone or an act that’s sweet, nice.”

            “A person who is either physically good looking or does warm deeds”

            (warm deeds…)

            “something that isn’t just adorable, but is also eccentric and artistically unusual.”

            There you go. That was fun!

  • “What is possible is only ever a product of our beliefs.” So, anything is possible in my book.

    and thank you for mentioning the age thing. You look much younger and your energy is certainly more than a few 20-year-olds combined! That’s the important thing.

    I’ve come a long way this year, for sure! This blog rocks and we should just continue the awesomeness!

    • Swami’s quote for today fits the topic if the post and will keep me going:

      “As you begin this day, tell yourself, β€œToday I am incarnated anew! I am released from the hypnosis of my old habits and mistakes! Everything that I have long dreamed of doing I will accomplish in this, my new life.”

  • Allow me to once again tell you how much I love you and your attitude. In this one life we have to live (unless we’re cats, which I am not. And I don’t intend to be a…er….kitten… either). The phrase that stood out most for me in this post is: “if you allow it, that is”. That just about sums up the solution for me for every problem in life πŸ˜€

    I consider every year an awesome one, simply because I’ve moved forward in many ways by the end of the year, let go of things that were merde (pardon my frrrench) and learned a heckuva lot of lessons – and I know that any mistakes I make in the future are going to be brand new shiny ones.

    And so, 2012 has also been a great year so far – when I think of where I was in Jan 2012 and where I am now, I have no problem looking in the mirror and saying my I love yous. πŸ™‚ I am definitely looking ahead with happiness at 2013.

    Huge happy shiny puppy hugs to you!

    And dear readers of this blog – I am sure many of you read others’ comments – I do – Melody is the winner – No.1 – in the Top 50 personal development blogs of 2012 list. Because she’s awesome like that. Hip hip….hurray!

  • I’ve started really listening to my body and have radically changed my eating habits because of it. No more bloated tummy from foods that don’t agree with me! And, as an unexpected baby bonus, the last of the baby weight from baby#2 melted off all on its own in less than a month! If this keeps up, I’ll be back to my pre- baby#1 weight soon, too! πŸ™‚

    One of my designs sold amazingly well this season — sold out twice, in fact (the second time it even sold out in advance sales to people who wanted to secure one of their own before my supplies had even arrived!) Waiting for yet another supply shipment, it is now passed Christmas shipping deadlines, and I am still getting inquiries about the design. And it’s been selling to people all over the world. Very exciting. πŸ™‚

    Those are just the first things I thought off — I’ll think of more and come back later!

  • Hey Mel,

    Just wanted you to know that it made perfect sense to me when you were silent on the school tragedy. I was a teacher and I guess I just could resist some attention spent. You were a perfect example of a where focus is better placed. Thanks for being the rock, as in YOU ROCK.

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