Awesome Josh asks: “I have been thinking about what I am wanting to do with my life recently, (the future and all that), and I was wondering what your thoughts were on Taking Risks as to Playing it Safe. The reason I ask is because when I have had some opportunities in the past year to change my situation (e.g. work), I have not taken them because I felt in myself they weren’t right for me, but I am partly wondering, as I continue to grow, will I be able to take risks when it matters, and if so, will I know? Any advice/thoughts would be much appreciated on this subject.”

Dear Awesome Josh,

What a great question. This is something that all of us struggle with. LOA teaches us to focus on what we want, clean up the resistance (focus on it in a way that feels good), detach (don’t NEED it to happen in order to feel good), and get out of the way (focus on what you want instead of the fact that it hasn’t shown up yet.) And then, the manifestations will come. But we don’t really ever talk about what happens when they do, do we? Well, let’s change that today.

When wanted manifestations are scary

Yes, you can manifest something that you want, something you’ve wanted for a very long time, and paradoxically, it can scare the crap out of you when it arrives. “But how can this be?” you may be asking. Why would the Universe be so cruel as to finally give you what you want only to do it in a way that’s uncomfortable for you?

Well, the Universe isn’t at fault here. It’s always trying to give you what you want. It’s you who has to let it in or not. Now, when you’re moving from a vibrational state of “Not even remotely ready for this thing I want” to “Pretty damn close to ready”, the manifestations will start to flow in. Sometimes they do so slowly and gently, but if your desire is strong and your energy is therefore fast moving, you may well manifest something that’s just a teensy bit outside of your comfort zone. It’s something you want (or at least a piece of it), but you’re not QUITE ready for it. And so, it evokes just a bit of anxiety or some other sign of resistance. When this happens, what do you do? Do you run like hell, potentially missing out on a great opportunity, or do you dive in, fear be damned?

Is this even something I want?

Before you decide to run and hide or stay and fight, you’ll first want to determine if this manifestation is something that you want or something you don’t want. This is going to be easier than you think! You know what you want. If something is even remotely related to any of that, it’s a “positive” manifestation. Even if it’s scary. It may be a manifestation you’re not quite ready for, but even that will simply be a sign that you’ve got a bit more vibrational cleaning up to do, and the specifics of what scares you will often help you figure out what that is.

Just because it’s scary and a bit uncomfortable, doesn’t mean that something has gone wrong, that you’re not supposed to have what you want, or that this thing you want isn’t going to be good for you (which, it has to be pointed out, is NEVER the case!). It means you’ve still got some negative associations (“This thing I want may come at a high price, which I may not be willing to pay”), and/or, aren’t quite yet ready to believe that what you want is even possible. The Universe is not waiving something you want in your face going “Neener, neener, you want it but you can’t have it” (because the Universe is not an asshole); it’s simply showing you what you still need to shift in order to step fully into what you want.

Don’t ever mistake the fear towards an action as a sign that you can’t have what you want or that this positive manifestation, which seems to lead right to your desire, isn’t a sign that you’re getting closer.

When to stay and when to run

So, if it looks like something that you want, it is. But if there’s fear, there’s obviously resistance. So, when do you go for it and when do you back off? Well, everyone has a different threshold of discomfort they’re willing to deal with. Mine used to be very, very high. I didn’t care about the fear, if there was something with even a hint of what I wanted in my reality, I barreled towards it at full speed. Of course, I got beat up pretty badly in the process. I essentially tried to overcome resistance with action.

For example, if I wasn’t manifesting the promotion I wanted, I’d apply at different companies (not out of inspiration, out of pure force of will) until I was hired into the position I wanted. Of course, I didn’t bother to clean up my vibration first, so many of the issues I’d been dealing with at my old company followed me. I’d have to struggle and fight and learn a whole lot of uncomfortable lessons until I actually fit into the role I’d been given and felt the way I’d wanted to feel all along. I did always end up getting what I wanted, but it was in the hardest way possible. I shoehorned myself into my manifestations well before I was ready for them.

Now, I’m no longer as willing to put up with that much pain. Even when manifestations come, I don’t necessarily take advantage of them if I’m not ready. I know that more opportunities will continue to show up, but it’ll be a lot more comfortable to take advantage of them if I spend just a little more time shifting my vibration.

My own, personal litmus test is this: If it feels scary but exciting, move forward. If it feels terrifying and like someone is twisting your intestines into a knot, back off.

If you’re not ready, you’re not ready

If the fear is too great, if it feels terrifying or the idea of moving forward causes anger in you and makes you feel like you want to punch someone, accept it. Don’t worry, this doesn’t mean that you have to give up on what you want. You don’t. You simply have to back off a bit, soothe your fears, visualize a bit more and gently shift your energy closer to what you want.

Some of you may know that I used to be in a blues band. I’ve been singing all my life, and always excelled at it. I adored singing. Well, a few years ago, while I was still in the corporate environment, I lost my voice. I was simply no longer able to sing. I don’t mean that I couldn’t sing as well, and my perfectionist self deemed it unacceptable; I mean my voice was gone. There was either no sound at all when I tried to sing, or it honestly sounded like a cat being tortured to death. I was devastated and tried really hard to ignore the pain. After all, I was too busy to perform anyway. But merely listening to female singers performing a song that would’ve been perfect for my old voice reduced me to tears. It’s taken me a long time to make peace with the fact that this may, in fact, be a healing experience, and that the journey to get my voice back will bear a lot more fruit than just being able to sing again (and this is actually turning out to be the case).

I’ve been on the journey to get my voice back for quite some time now. I realized a while ago that this was not one issue, but a whole host of them all smooshed together. This wasn’t going to be an easy fix. Last year, I met an intuitive voice teacher who lives in my building. It seemed like the perfect manifestation! I’d book some sessions with her and she’d fix me right up! This was it! I was going to get my voice back. Only, I couldn’t seem to make myself book a session. I’d set the intention to but would always procrastinate. Months went by, and I still hadn’t called her. Finally, I had to admit that I simply wasn’t ready and stopped pushing myself to be. I backed off. It was clearly still too scary for me to move forward.

Two weeks ago, as I was taking a shower, I found myself spontaneously singing a little bluesy number. I was halfway through it before I realized what I was doing. And although my voice wasn’t great, and nowhere near where it used to be, it was a voice. There was control, there was warmth, there was expression. I was singing. This was only the second time I’ve sung since I lost my voice (the first was during a Shamanic Ceremony), and the first time “on my own” (i.e. while not being helped by anyone else’s energy). This was clearly a sign that I’m on the right track. I’m still not quite ready to book those lessons, but I’m much closer than I’ve ever been.

Not pushing through the massive fear is not going to stop you from moving forward. It simply means moving forward in a way that will get you where you want to go in one piece. It means less suffering.

If you do decide to step forward despite the fear

Having said that, it’s absolutely ok to step into a manifestation for which you’re not quite ready yet. If you’re close to being ready, you may feel a bit of fear, but it’ll pass quickly as you move forward. If you’re further away from being ready, you’ll experience a bumpy ride. But either way, you will, eventually, come to a place where you’re comfortable with the situation that’s manifested. You’ll acclimate. Let me give you an example:

I’ve written several times about how my business exploded last year, after I shifted some energy. I wanted more clients and more success, but I still had a wee bit of resistance. One of my biggest fears was that I’d get locked into being a total workaholic again. So, when the explosion came, it was awesome, but it also triggered this fear, big time. In fact, I actually experienced several bouts of anxiety, which wasn’t pleasant. I soothed my fears and kept on working on feeling better. I discovered different ways to organize myself. I acclimated to the new work load. It didn’t seem as hard to handle anymore. I relaxed and was able to enjoy the ride again.

Until… my business exploded again (I’m an ambitious little bugger). As soon as I hit my comfort level, I was torn out of it again (because the second I get comfy, I get bored and I ask for more. It’s my own fault this roller coaster ride, and honestly, I don’t think I’d have it any other way…). Suddenly, that bit of time I’d carved out was gone. I felt totally overwhelmed again. I’m actually still recovering from that growth spurt, still finding ways to acclimate and make my life easier. I’m building systems that will make it easier for me to bring in help, have automated several processes, have stopped doing certain things, and have re-prioritized. All of this is helping me to feel much more comfortable with the level of business I’ve achieved, and incidentally, helping me to get ready for the next stage, something I’m also already working on (I’ve got to be me).

You’re never going to be completely ready

The point is that both of these influxes of energy (business explosions) came just before I was ready for them. In fact, they helped me to get ready for them. The manifestations helped to get me ready for the manifestations. Think about it: how can you really be ready for something if you’ve never experienced it? How can you truly be prepared for an epic relationship if you’ve never had one? There’s always going to be some level of un-readiness you’ll have to overcome, and what better way than to get into an epic (or near epic) relationship and work through your fears as you go? The key, of course, being that the fears can’t be so great that they cause you to curl up into the fetal position.

If you’re reaching for growth, for new experiences, you’re never going to be 100% ready for them. If you were, it would mean that you’ve had that experience before, and then it wouldn’t be nearly as exciting, would it? The act of having the experience is what gets you ready for it. So, when you reach just outside your comfort zone (not WAY outside, just outside), you get to feel exhilarated, a bit off balance, a bit anxious, but also really, really excited. Are you ready for that? 😉

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  • Interesting as always 🙂

    I recently had the same feeling. I’ve been wanting to manifest an awesome romantic story in my life the past months. So in this course that I am in I met a guy who has somethings in common with me with regards professional ambitions. He is good looking and has a very kind vibration.
    However, something held me back and I new that some were my insecurities of not being good enough, afraid of rejection, being judged, etc..
    I decided to let go, and just enjoy the presence and take it in a rythm that felt good for me. He also gave some clues about appreciating stuff about me. Then I recognized that I was a bit fixating on the guy, and thus not dealing with the levels of resistance and fears that came to surface in a first time of moving to a different country and recognized that my enfatuation didn’t feel good and came from a place of pain.
    Then the guy – who I still consider to be nice, but seems a bit “fishy” – made an odd comment about someone’s more easygoing clothing style: “He seems like he came from a can of trash” and other things that I know in a short/medium time would really annoy me and make me feel apathetic in being with him.
    Then a girl, a colleague of mine, decided to be with him, and they are together. I still enjoy his qualities and I feel that everything is in its right place, and the best is yet to come – and the only thing I’ll have to overcome is just some shyness in maintaining/entailing a conversation. And I think they are a good match and may bring the best of eachother, even though when looking at them a little melancholy may surface on missing the feeling of “this is making perfect sense” when meeting a person, but I know how to deal with that 🙂

    Huge “happy shiny puppy hugs”!

  • Hi
    I think that If you take too many though, at some point, most likely you’re gonna take a face-plant. They’re called risks for a reason. That’s why it is that you hear the stories of people who had nothing, made a fortune, and then lost it all… you gotta take risks to progress, but you have to be smart about it if you want it to pay out.
    Thank you so much for this great article .

  • Hi Melody,

    I’ve always been a leaper. People have said I’m brave, but it’s never felt particularly brave to me. You want something, you just do it. People told me I was crazy to move to Mexico. Working out great! Some things scare me *&%less, but a lot of stuff most people find scary, I find fun. Like public speaking, Nay!

    What I’ve never liked is having my hand forced, which is probably my mechanism for expressing too much resistance. Hadn’t thought of it that way before. Hmmm… Thanks Melody!



  • Great article! The idea of moving through fear with less suffering is very helpful. Taking it a slower and visualizing a little more to move closer to the end result, very good. Take the extra time to change the vibration to ensure an easier shift so nothing from the old follows you over is probably some of the best advice I heard in a long time. Thank you for this.


  • Great article! This article is the answer I asked for yesterday! We are at a turning point and it is something we have always wanted but it came in a way that isn’t exactly really comfortable… we lost our way of income unexpectedly and are launching a new business right now. We expected to have a bit more time and more money set aside to “make the leap” but now we just need to go ahead and go for it. Very exciting!
    Thank you Melody for the inspiration!
    Hugs, Adrienne

  • Meldoy,

    ‘Not pushing through the massive fear is not going to stop you from moving forward.’ I can and have often pushed through fear, but as you said, very bumpy and painful ride. And of course, I would end up doing the same thing each time an ‘opportunity’ I wanted yet feared would come up, because I had done nothing to clean up my vibration!

    But the realization that even if I don’t ‘go for it’ I am still moving forward is something I think I hadn’t really thought about or accepted in this context.

    Thanks for your awesomeness, as always!


    • waitaminute waitaminute, wha?

      But isn’t ‘Pushing through the fear” kinda squashing the negative belief? When we front our fear is when we conquer it, no?

      So why the hell do we have to go through the shit over and over again?

      No fair. Want my money back.

      • lili

        Not sure if your reply was for me or you replied in the wrong spot. But I’ll add my two cents worth. 🙂

        As you said, I thought pushing through the fear would squash it, but it rarely works for me. I seem to build on the fear in some things; like public speaking. I taught for 4 years and still can feel like crumbling when I have to speak in public. So facing the fear obviously didn’t work in the ‘squashing the negative belief’ department. Which is probably why this post makes so much sense to me! 😉

        I can see where working on my vibration would probably do me much more good then dragging myself through the bumpy ride of just forcing myself to do something despite the fear. And if I ‘avoid’ public speaking, it doesn’t mean I’m not moving forward because I didn’t ‘push through’ the fear. I can instead choose to work on improving my feelings (vibration) in general, and also on public speaking, so maybe the next time I may have smoothed out my vibration at least a little.

        But obviously, everyone is very different. Some people do very well when they push through fear, and many probably do end up overcoming many negative beliefs this way, like Melody says she did for a long time. And more power to them I say if they can handle the bumps and pains. But I kinda like the idea of not tearing myself up in order to face down a fear. But maybe I’m just a lot more whimpy in that arena. 😆

      • Oh, and I almost forgot. In some areas, I’m fine pushing through fear. Like many physical activities. If it’s some obstacle that’s physical and I have some fear facing it, I usually can push right through it. I may not be sure I’ll be able to do it, but I have no problem going for it despite the fear. And once I’ve done something like this, I don’t feel the same fear the next time, unlike in public speaking. Go figure. *shrug*

        Which obviously tells me that my beliefs in my physical abilities as opposed to my speaking abilities are very, very different.

        • Yes Nay, the post was for both you and M.

          But I’m not sure about a Universal Law working for one and not for another.

          Then it wouldn’t be a “law”, wouldn’t it?

          So “facing the fear is the way to conquer it” is not true, huh.

          Making notes.

          • lili,

            So true. It makes perfect sense that it can’t be a law, but it can definitely be a belief. I didn’t think of it that way. So maybe it works for some people because they are actually more generally aligned when they do it or, they just have no issue with or believe that to get what they want they must take the difficult path? Or maybe it’s simply all about belief in what you are capable of and what you have to do in order to change or get what you want.

            Me, I want to change how I face something new or that I fear, and instead go into it with a sense of excitement and eagerness for the experience and growth…not quiver in fear but force myself to dive in despite the terror. So really I’m changing my vibration about how I handle a new or uncomfortable situation, not forcing myself to deal with the fear. Yeah, I like that much better.


  • AWESOME Melody.

    Thank you soooo much for answering my question. Lots of Shiny Puppy Hugs for you.

    Josh x

  • Great posting Melody!!.
    Thank you so much, as always it is just what I needed to hear or read ;). I am so glad for having you in my journey. Yesterday I hit a big bump on the road, I was upset, angry and all these negative things you can list until this morning. After few minutes of been up, I told myself, it is all good. It is a new day, a new beginning; a lot great things happened after that big bump and I am grateful to all of them. I know more clear what is it that I want and the BEST of all is… that BIG Bump allowed me to apply what now I know and not letting the fear to keep me in a corner.
    Thanks Melody once again.

    Big hugs to you! ?

    • Hey Marisa,

      Congrats on your moment of clarity! The big bumps are awesome, because when we get through them (providing we allow the emotions to come out), we generally get rewarded with tons of insights. Yay!

      I’m glad you’re part of my journey, too. 🙂

      Huge hugs,


  • Be a risk taker or rather..more of an opportunist! I’m 17 and if I hadn’t taken up a job I was offered, I would still be on my ass playing video games! and I later find out that my company would be starting a gaming site. I guess what I’m trying to say is that, sometimes you have to take the initiative to take chances instead of waiting for the universe to give you obvious signals. And its better to make mistakes now (when you’re young) than when you’re old :3 Juts keep your mind wide open! 🙂

    • Hey Michelle,

      It sounds like you’re manifesting quite nicely! But you make a great point – if you’re scared and you make the “wrong” choice, nothing is really going wrong. You can always just choose again. 🙂

      Huge hugs,


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