911. Columbine. The 2004 Tsunami. The London and Madrid Bombings. The Connecticut School Shootings. The Boston Marathon. Every time a major tragedy happens, I get a lot of questions asking me how something like this could’ve happened. Many of my coaching clients have struggled with these kinds of events. And while I was happy to provide each of them with a tailored response, I couldn’t seem to write a blog post meant for a larger audience. I felt that the incidents were just too recent. People were still too raw. They wouldn’t be able to hear the perspective I would offer, and would find my comments disrespectful and hurtful. It’s never my intention to poke at people’s pain, and so, I held off.

And even though we just had another tragedy, the Boston Marathon, I somehow feel that the time is right. Perhaps people have become a little more desensitized. Perhaps the sheer volume of pain has worn them down to the point where they are willing to accept a different, better feeling point of view.

I obviously received the following question a few months ago, but I feel it perfectly represents all the mails I’ve received about this topic.

Awesome Susan asks: “I’ve had a question on my mind since the Connecticut school shooting last week. I don’t understand how LOA applies to horrific acts such as these. And I also don’t generally understand how it applies to children – there is no way I can believe that they “attracted” getting shot and killed. Makes no sense. But I’m guessing my view is way zoomed in or something.”

Death is not a punishment

Before I can properly explain how and why these kinds of tragedies happen, it’s important to spend a little time on the general subject of death. In the post, Dear LOA: How Do We Manifest Death?, I explain that Death is not a negative manifestation. Particularly Western society makes death out to be something horrible, a mistake, a tragedy. When someone whom we have deemed to be “too young” dies, we ask “what did he do to deserve this?” But that question is based on an enormous fallacy.

We don’t die because we did something wrong. We don’t even die because we have a lot of resistance. If that were the case, unhappy people would be dropping like flies, while the happy people would live forever. But that’s not the case, is it? The Germans have a saying: “Unkraut vergeht nicht”, which loosely translates to “Bad weeds never die.” It’s an expression often cited to explain why nasty people live so damn long and speaks to a deep seeded belief of unfairness. The good die young. The bad will outlive us all. And isn’t that just horrible.

Only, here’s the thing: death isn’t a negative manifestation. You don’t die because you deserved it, did something or didn’t do something. You die when you’re ready to continue your journey in the non-physical. It’s a transition, not an ending. It can be a relief from suffering, but it doesn’t happen because you suffered enough or too much. Death is not a manifestation, at all, really. It’s a means to an end. You die as a way of continuing your journey in a way that’s most conducive to what you want. We shift into a different dimension (we don’t actually go anywhere. We’re still here. Just not as obviously perceptible) because that new dimension is more conducive to us continuing to manifest what we want and play in the way we want to.

When someone dies, it’s not because anything went wrong. And the fact that they died says absolutely nothing about what kind of person they were, what they deserved (we all deserve joy, no matter what), or what they did or didn’t do. HOW they died, however, does carry a great deal of information.

The experience of death is a co-creation

When someone dies, they do so because it was time for them to transition. The death itself is not a co-creation. No one can cause another person to die (No, not even by murder). So, your grandfather’s death was not your fault. You can’t manifest the death of another. But you can manifest your experience of it.

Everyone who experiences a death is a part of the co-creation of that experience. When a grandfather dies, the entire family experiences it. Perhaps some friends of the family do, as well. Each person will experience this death in their own way. The way that gramps transitioned, will be the perfect manifestation for all involved.

For example, if someone falls into a coma for a few weeks before passing on, it usually means that they were giving the family enough time to say goodbye. It makes for a more gentle transition for those “left behind” than a sudden death. Comas are a way of detaching. They can be healing or a way to mostly transition before fully withdrawing focus. Often, the dying person holds on until all of the living who are involved are ready to let go.

When someone dies tragically, the death is usually experienced with a great deal more pain. The experience of such a death will mirror the incredibly false and powerless beliefs that each “surviving” individual has about death. And, in overcoming that pain, each person will have the opportunity to release those beliefs and find more peace around the idea of death.

When someone dies painfully (and they experience that pain), they are experiencing their own resistance. It isn’t the death that mirrors the resistance, but the pain of letting go. In death, there is no resistance. As soon as we’re “dead”, we let go of all our resistance and rise to an incredibly high vibration. But, some people have a really hard time letting go of their fears and limiting beliefs, even at the end. This is then mirrored by the way they experience their own death.

When deaths are public

When someone dies in a public way, or their death becomes public for some reason or another, the incident is mirroring back the energy of a great many people. Racially motivated shootings stir up our beliefs about racism, and in doing so, give us the opportunity to shift into a different perspective. Believing that someone was killed simply for their race causes us to want peace more than ever. Those who are steeped in powerless beliefs will first move into anger (anger is the emotion that pulls us out of powerlessness, and there are no beliefs that evoke greater powerlessness than the ones we carry about death), but in doing so, they are actually taking the first step towards lining up with a world filled with fairness, equality, peace and love.

When a large number of people hold on to limiting beliefs and have done so for a long time, the mass manifestations will get worse and worse (just as it happens in our own lives, on an individual basis). The pain becomes greater and greater, until we’ve finally had enough and are willing to let go of the beliefs that are causing the pain. Mass manifestations aren’t any different than individual manifestations. They just happen on a bigger level.

You cannot know how someone experienced their death

Another aspect that’s hard for us to make peace with, is the suffering of innocents. When children die, we cannot reconcile why they were made to suffer. You may be thinking “even if I can accept that these tragedies were designed as a kind of “wake up call”, and even if I can get my head around the idea that death is not the end and not really a tragedy, I still can’t fathom how the suffering of children could possibly be helpful in any way.”

The answer is: it’s not. The Universe doesn’t require children to suffer. And no matter how low a society’s or community’s vibration happens to be, it CANNOT manifest suffering into the life of a child, or anyone else. Remember that every person manifests their own reality and their own experience. If someone experiences suffering as they die, it is a manifestation of their own resistance (NOT a punishment, but simply an unwillingness to let go. When you fight the energy of Who You Really Are in life or death, it hurts). If you perceive someone’s death to have been full of suffering, that’s your manifestation.

The truth is, you cannot ever really know how someone experienced their death. You can guess, you can assume, you can even imagine how you would experience that death, but you can’t know their experience. Ever.

In the absence of resistance, there is no pain in dying. This means that a happy child, who carried little resistance (and didn’t come here to pick any up and shift it) will NOT have suffered in death, no matter what it looks like. The spirit can withdraw from the physical enough so that the body can continue to function, even look lucid, but little or no physical sensation actually remains. A person who is not a match to terror and pain cannot manifest terror and pain. It’s entirely possible for someone who got shot to have withdrawn enough from the physical to not have experienced the incident at all. Their body would’ve continued on auto-pilot, playing the part that was necessary for the mass vibration it was designed to mirror, but the majority of that individual’s focus would’ve already been in the non-physical. It’s like dialing down your awareness to a really low level.

If you’ve ever had the experience of coming home and knowing that you drove but not actually remembering the drive at all, you’ll have glimpsed a bit of this auto-pilot. You were there but not really aware. Or, if you’ve ever woken up to realize that you’ve been sleeping on your arm, but don’t feel the pain of it until you’re fully aware, you’ll get the idea of what it’s like to be aware of the body, but feel no sensation. I’m not saying that no one who dies tragically feels pain, but I am saying that those who are not a match to pain CANNOT manifest it.

Why are happy children dying?

People often point out to me that the children and young people who died often seemed to have been free of resistance. They were happy shiny puppies, full of life and joy, an inspiration to all who met them. People describe them as angels. Why would particularly these kinds of light workers choose to transition, and often in such horrific ways?

We are each here for various reasons. At our core, we’re here to experience joy. But, we also know that there are obstacles to that joy – resistance. We know before we come here that there are beliefs that we will pick up at birth and beyond, that will contradict what we want. Some of us choose to be born into pockets of massive resistance. Yes, we CHOOSE this. It’s an ambitious endeavor. We come with a massive desire to uplift and be happy, so massive that we know that it will help us overcome this resistance. Of course, when a huge amount of resistance meets a huge desire for joy, there’s going to be a massive clash. It’s going to be a painful first few years. But, this is how the world is changed. This is how evolution happens. Bit by bit, belief by belief, we each shift and transmute energy from a lower level to a higher one. Some people come in to shift a bit, and some people come in to shift a lot. We each play our part. A painful childhood does not have to mean a painful adulthood. And it’s in the realization of that, and the choosing of a happier life despite what has come before that the Universe and everything in it expands, evolves, becomes more, bigger, better. This is what causes the Universal vibration to keep rising.

Now, some of us don’t come in to change the world by transmuting energy. Some of us come in to mirror the energy of others, like our families, or society. Why would a child come in, pick up almost no resistance (and therefore just be happy all the time and uplift everyone around them) and then die? Because picking up resistance and shifting it wasn’t part of this leg of their journey. They came with the express purpose of transitioning in a way that would mirror some really powerless beliefs to a larger number of people. It makes perfect sense to me that those who transition at a young age are often the brightest lights amongst us. Again, to fully grasp this point, you MUST get over the idea that death, in and of itself, is a bad thing.

Do NOT spend time thinking of your own kids’ deaths!

Nothing shakes us up more than seeing kids die. And that’s precisely why it happens. These kids didn’t attract a horrible death. They were going to transition no matter what and, from a non-physical point of view, chose to do so in a way that would push the most buttons and have the potential of waking a great many people up.

Having said that, it’s not necessary for any parents out there to think of their kids dying and somehow make peace with that idea. For the great majority of you, that bridge will never come, so don’t cross it if you don’t need to. A much larger number of people experienced the deaths of the Columbine and Connecticut students than were actually personally involved in those events. But for each person who heard about such “tragedies” and had a negative emotional reaction of any kind, the event was a mirror. In other words, we don’t all need to lose our own children in order to partake in such a manifestation and have the chance to release whatever particular resistance lies within us. The pain you feel when hearing of someone else’s child dying IS your manifestation. And as you find a way to feel better and succeed, you are shifting your energy (and in a way, the energy of the whole planet, making it easier and easier for everyone to feel better, and ultimately making it less and less necessary for us to manifest these kinds of events).

I’d also like to state that as hard as it may be to hear this, those who do directly experience their own child’s death are always equipped to do so. I don’t mean that they don’t experience massive pain. Of course they do. But they have the ability to overcome that pain. It may take them years to do so, but the ability is there. I’ve worked with enough people in grief to know that as they shift their perspective on death and therefore life, they discover levels of clarity, understanding, and yes, joy that they never knew were possible before. These are levels they could not have attained without the experience of death. There was no other manifestation that would’ve gotten them to let go of the beliefs they so desperately wanted to let go of.

The most awesome bottom line ever

Make peace with death. Make peace with the idea that people will die. Because it’s going to keep happening, both on an individual level and as part of mass co-creations. But don’t try to start with your own family. Start with the general idea of death and work your way inward to more specifics from there. You may never make peace with the idea that your own loved ones will die and that’s ok, too. You may never need to. Cross that bridge when you come to it. You don’t need to deal with hypothetical manifestations that haven’t yet happened. But it will serve you well if you can find a way to look at mass “tragedies” in a way that makes sense to you, doesn’t disempower you, and doesn’t bring you to your knees. In doing so, you are dealing with a current manifestation – the pain you felt when you observed those events. The people involved didn’t die because they deserved to. That idea is based on a complete misunderstanding of what death is. They died because their journey would be better served from the non-physical. And they died in a way that was designed to ultimately uplift the world.

You know, and I know that I’m going off on a bit of a tangent here, but my intuition says “Do it!”… It occurs to me that if Jesus really lived (and I think he did), then his death would’ve mirrored back the resistance of billions of people (over time), and continues to do so today. We’re taught that he died for our sins – and that we should feel forever guilty about it and indebted to him. That really never made sense to me. But given what we discovered together here today, it might be fair to say that he died in a way that ultimately gave us the opportunity to shift out of our “sins”, or our beliefs that contradict what Who We Really Are or God, if you will, thinks about us. Just as many individuals continue to do every day. How awesome is that?

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  • My younger brother(13 year old) was kidnapped & murdered for ransom.His wrists werr cut with a kitchen knife,his throat was slit & later he was burnt alive.Its been 2 weeks & i still cannot believe it.i need some one to talk….please help

  • It all sounds like a bunch of crap…if u want to change your life, pray for it patiently and work for it. It is vanity to think that u can have whatever u want. U will say that it is my choice to think like that. Well, it is reality knocking on your door. Think about it before u will colapse into nervous breakdown, because u r doing things wrong.

  • “Chose to transition”? So during the Holocaust 6 million Jewish people made that decision all at once, collectively? Wow!

  • I hope more people would read this article. Not only read but understand and accept the truth about death.
    The following is one of my experiences with my mom.

    Notes from a Nursery called Alzheimer’s

    A little while back I had a vividly clear vision of doctors splicing open my left breast. This image stayed with me, and followed me for years to come; until, twenty three years later I found myself on an operating table, getting ready for surgery to remove a cancerous lump out of my left breast.

    A little while back a different vision began to haunt me, this time, I am walking around a long corridor an expecting mother, she doesn’t seem to be bale to give birth, and I am trying, patiently, to calm her down and get her ready. Another time, I am the midwife, greeting a new born child into the world.

    Today I had a conversation with my mother, which lead me to stop and think, that it is a well known fact that there are no such things are birth or death, but instead, there are mere passages from one plane to the next. The goal for some individuals is to facilitate this transition, as a midwife helps receive a new born child. The process of birth is very cut and clear- ones those contractions start to come, there is no looking back- you are having this kid! What some may mistakenly perceive as death, an error made simply by the boundaries of our consciousness and where human languages fall short, is a mere process of birth, but backwards. All we can do in this instance is to help the individual be reborn and ensure a safe journey back home… To be born is to be give birth by the birth giver. And, in their own being, birth givers teach us plenty. Through this process we ourselves are reborn with them, and for this lesson we must bow down with respect for this lesson.

    I came to visit my mother at the nursing home. She was in the armchair in the common room of the facility, sleeping. I didn’t wake her, but instead, I sat down next to her. However, after a minute, decided to wake her up. She looked at me with an almost detached gaze. But in her eyes I did not see sickness. Instead, there was something else, something that is difficult to explain. In her eyes I saw peace.

    “Oh, I was just there!” – Were the first words to be spoken by her.

    “There? Where?”- I asked.

    “You know, there! On the other side!”- Mother replied, without any worry or sadness.

    “And how is it over there, on the other side? Wonderful?”

    “It differs. You should answer a better question- am I already dead?”

    “No, not yet. But it will happen eventually.”

    “Yes, yes of course. Because, you see, I am already not here…”

    Then we gave a call to Rosa, mom’s eldest sister. She spoke about cottage cheese and sandwiches. Mother said, “This… This isn’t it at all, not at all…”

  • Death is a beginning ,as per the eastern spiritual discipline.that’s why it is not to be mourned or shrunk from.Infact the holistic comprehension of death and the dying process is insisted upon.It is also a form of meditation.
    Death is always regarded as another beginning for the soul on it’s endless progress towards final salvation.Detachment is the path.

  • Hi Melody,

    Today’s quote from Jeshua, I do not know if you saw it already:

    Ones who are courageous enough to release the body in support of their beliefs already have a soul plan to return and live in the space that they believe in. They are making way for something new, and they will return and live in that new space. So even while it looks to be tragic, horrific, there is much to be celebrated.



  • Melody – you picked a difficult topic and your words couldn’t have been expressed with more depth and compassion. I’ve struggled with death most of my life and understand my blocks and resistance. We get so conditioned to emotional beliefs handed down and those we witness and buy into it.

    Like all, I’ve felt the loss and death of loved ones, animals and felt the ache in my heart. I’ve also experienced the spiritual side and known at an early age that transitions were more than physical.

    Though I’ve had difficulty in dealing with death, there is the soul part of me that would have never been touched. I would have never had that awareness had there not been deaths I’ve known. So, there’s a form of Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde going on pulling me back and forth. Fortunately, the two are coming closer together and I’m finding more peace with it.

    There is a wonderful spiritual newsletter by John Cali and this is one where he shares the subject of death (http://www.greatwesternpublishing.org/the-fear-of-death-by-john-cali/). I think this may go along with what you’re saying Melody. ~~ Thank you! <3

  • Ok. I get it about children dying. But what about when they are sexually abused, kidnapped or suffer in events like these but don’t die? How could a 4 year old child attract an agressive situation like this.. I’m not talking about deaths. I’m talking about traumatic events experienced in a childhood? How could they attract something like this?

  • I appreciate your perspective on this very much, Melody. I have experienced the loss of many loved ones in my life, both elders and babies. One of those was my beloved Grandma. I had the privilege of being with her as she transitioned. It was a spiritual experience I will never forget. She had Alzheimer’s and was very ill, but she kept hanging on. She’d been in the hospital for a few months. On the day she moved on, I was holding her hand and looking into her blue eyes. She seemed incoherent. Intuitively, I had an inkling. I said to her, “Grandma, I know you see that light and you want to go into it. But I know you’re also afraid to leave. You don’t know what is going to happen to us and to Grandpa. He is going to be all right. We will take care of him. We love you. I love you. It’s all right if you need to let go.” Ohhh, gosh… within just a moment, there was a long exhale, and I saw her spirit leaving her body. It was a beautiful experience. I felt her spirit hug me and I felt the lightness of it, and strangely to me in this moment of grief, in her release, I felt her joy. What a woman she was, and definitely a shero of mine. I think that by being at peace with her passing, it was easier then to sense her presence when she made it known to me not long after and in the times I have needed her strength.
    Losing my father was much harder. It was sudden and there was no time, but he seemed somehow to know, and he did make a point to call and tell me he loved me a few days prior. I see that in hindsight now, but then, it made no sense to see his life end when it did. And I think I agree with what you said about how we have lessons to learn in this too. After time, I could see that his lessons were learned, and his mark was left on the world in a positive way. His passing profoundly affected me, both in grieving and in rebirth. I am not the same person I was before. I don’t know if I for one would have been motivated to do the things I have done since otherwise. I do view death much differently now and I certainly don’t feel as afraid of it as I did.

  • The thing that kept gnawing at me while reading this, was the question about the other kids who didn’t transition in these incidents. I understand it’s a manifestation for all involved…the kids who passed, the parents, the teachers.

    But how awful it must’ve been for the kids who survived. What they must have gone through during the event and then what they must be going through after the fact. Humans are effected physically, emotionally, mentally and spiritually by trauma. The events of watching their classmates and friends would be an ultimate devastation, causing trauma and most likely Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. It’s way too much for their little bodies to absorb and too tragic for their not yet developed minds, and emotions to comprehend.

    I guess my question would be more along the lines of: How did these little people who SURVIVED this devastating life changing event, manifest THAT…to have to watch such a thing, feel the threat of their own safety being violated and be put in such a situation where the fear is so intense that they would come out feeling like an adult soldier comes out of violent combat.

    • I’ve been wondering about that too, Laura. It’s one thing to hear about it or see it on the news. But to witness this horror happening to other children your own age whom you’ve grown accustomed to seeing every day, and the terror that you might be next… To say this is heart-wrenching is a vast understatement. Post-traumatic stress disorder is a very real condition and its effects can and do manifest in ugly ways. These children should not have to learn a lesson of this magnitude at such a young age. It will certainly take much love, support, and the right kind of balance to get them to a point in which they can feel fully happy without fear. I wonder, considering what they have witnessed, if this is possible. I pray it is.

  • Hey Melody!

    Very insighful! Was actually thinking of a couple of topics you touch upon before I came across this. Like, do bad seeds really live longer and prosper, or is this just a pervading belief? They feel powerless, and therfore wreak havoc on others to regain their power, so can’t we say that they are really suffering and would like to take down with them everyone they feel caused this feeling in them? How to put a stop to them if they are affecting others, ignoring them, despite the damage they do because it involves family, taking them to court, even jailing them, won’t do.

    I was also thinking of Jesus while reading the post. Very good example. He had an agenda, like every soul, especially as a master, so he pre-planned and pre-paved everything.

    Like Dominique, I do wonder about missing terribly a loved one who goes from here. Is this more a reflection of the indivudual, though, not the occurence? I read an account of an inspirational speaker who had lost her mom as a teen-ager. This prompted her to finish school and inspire others. She knew she was loved and this love had propelled her. She was stoic about it and learned from the experience, but others not so much.

    This dimension sure seems an interesting one for souls. Even what appears to be a short time here fulfills a certain purpose.

  • Hi Melody – a brave and highly evolved perspective as always. However, as well as due to resistance and limiting beliefs etc. Isn’t the feeling of emotional pain also just because we care deeply about something or someone? A by-product or flip-side of love? Isn’t it as simple as that? Didn’t Khalil Gibran write about being ‘wounded’ by our own understanding of love? And isn’t love a high vibration? I think what you’ve said is right, from a very evolved soul’s perspective, but sometimes my mind also just throws up a very human perspective as well.
    Much love,

    • Hi Dominique. I like this perspective…It sounds like you’re talking about empathy and you raise a really good point. Also, your comment spurred another thought for me.

      If someone passes/transitions there is no more pain for them in a physical sense so there is no need to be feeling FOR them right? I hope that doesn’t sound too callous. It’s truly not meant to be as I definitely empathize with others.

      I wonder how much of our emotional pain when we lose someone to death though isn’t from our own attachment to that person and our feelings of not being happy without them in our physical lives any longer.

      • Hi Laura

        I agree with you that the emotional pain is to do with our loss and attachment rather than necessarily empathising with the other, who may not be in the ‘same place’ as ourselves. I think the main point for me is that I believe some emotional pain is simply the flip-side of love. It’s as though the seeds of pain are contained in the seeds of love – I feel they’re inseparable – one is the product of the other – and is that the same as pain that is caused by resistance? I don’t know – I’m just exploring.

  • Once upon a time, I almost bought it, and I remembered the experience. I wrote about it not long ago on my blog. It wasn’t “easy to remember”. Since I covered that there, I won’t go into that here.

    What I’ve learned is that there is nothing that does not happen that is not supposed to happen. However, having said that, there are lots of ways FOR something to happen and in the end, on average, things advance where they should be.

    The reason the pain is there is sometimes because of one’s own limiting beliefs, and sometimes because of the limiting beliefs of others. In other words, if we experience tragedy, we aren’t feeling “sad” for no good reason. The sad is there as a compass point to let us know that SOMETHING is off perhaps with us, perhaps with those around us. There is an individual psyche, and a collective psyche and the two don’t always mesh together. In the realm of co-creation, one has to bear in mind that yes, you can co-create with the universe, but you also have to co-create with people. Some folks are more advanced. (Jesus, Buddha) Some are stuck more in fear. (Hitler, Just about every Dictator) If the mass is also stuck in fear, therein problems lie.

    Terrorism, like the Boston Marathon, is about moving the mass into fear and anxiety. Once that happens, one limits the range of possibilities the canvas can assume as more individuals succumb to the nastiness. The fight isn’t for safety. The fight is for a version of reality where people can be happy.

    Yet, the end result is already known–a given. More light. Whatever action or actions are picked, therein the arrow points.

  • I had some passing thoughts about this topic yesterday and this morning. I am enjoying the synchronicity of questions being answered within a very short period of time after briefly (very briefly) “thinking” about them.

  • Hi Melody!

    I’ve been waiting to read this piece as I had a feeling you would write about this subject one day and yes like a few others, I will re-read it a few times i think to get it absorbed fully!I am inspired by parents who have lost children that have responded and I think you have done an amazing job here! Your reference to Jesus in the end is spot on and I see ‘sins’ as what Ekhart tolle calls ‘unconsciousness ‘, so all happenings are to help those ‘asleep’ wake up to who they really are. Thank you and love and light to all that read this 🙂 xx

  • One other comment. I just love the picture/graphic at the beginning of the post! Wonderful expression of the essence of your article!


  • Thank you, Melody, for this wonderful post! I agree 100% that death is not a negative manifestation! As you say, it is just a shift to a different dimension. I think more and more people are beginning to accept that view of death. This shift in societal perspective on death is a very gradual thing, but I do believe it is happening. Your own blog, and articles like this one, contribute greatly to that shift!

    Huge hugs,


  • Aw Melody, You know I read this from an intensely personal perspective on death (of a child). I’m so glad you followed your intuition and wrote this – you did an awesome job!
    One part (perhaps the whole point?!!) resonated with me most because of something my daughter said to me the other day. You said death has “the potential of waking a great many people up.” She recognizes something now that I had felt months ago – this experience for her, of losing her brother, has set her on a spiritual path. She’s saying “journey” – how exciting.

    Another part I felt you hit a painful nail on the head:that experiencing death of a close loved one brings up a feeling of powerlessness. As a mother I sought to keep my children safe. Losing Alex made me feel as if I’d failed, and that I didn’t manifest well for this to have happened. But I understand now how that all wasn’t true. Thanks to you!

  • Thank you so much for this article. Yes, the timing does feel right to me too.
    I’ll have to reread and reread it, but it certainly helps a lot on first reading!
    I am so in line with your stuff and believe it 100%, and would love to be able to explain it to other people, but the it’s all like spaghetti in my head at the moment! But I’ll get there.
    Love n’ hugs n’ stuff!

  • Thanks Melody, for following your vibration to write and publish such a wonderful article. You could have not picked a better time than you did, to talk about young children dying. On March 20, 2005, I lost my son tragically. He fell from tree behind my house near a creek he was playing in. I struggled with his death for a long time. I think the reason why his death hurt so me bad it happen so suddenly. I blamed myself for not being there to protect him. Before reading this article I had the same feeling, ask the same question you talked about. Had it not been for my faith in God I don’t know if I would have made. Now, that I have read this I believe that I can let go of a lot negative feeling I have been carrying around.

  • Melody… I am trying very hard to understand death from an LOA perspective right now. My father has taken a very serious downturn — two days after I wrote the post in my communtluv, he was in the ER in massive pain, is now taking morphine to control that pain, and is also turning yellow as jaundice sets in, no doubt because of the tumours in his liver.

    I understand, intellectually, that no one dies before they are ready to transition, but how does someone who is ready to move on manifest that kind of pain? He’s still there, Melody… he’s at home and aware and functioning, and still himself, and I can feel him still there, so he hasn’t withdrawn anywhere… but he is in pain.

    • Yes, it’s a good question. Melodie’s article seems to suggest that people are only in pain because they are resisting it?? Or he has manifested the pain because he is afraid of it?? Not sure. Yes, maybe it is possible to relax into the pain, without fighting it somehow. Acceptance does bring relaxation. Who knows? And I don’t really want to find out or put it to the test on myself! However, there might be something in that, and I wish you and your father all the best. Hope Melodie can give you a reply.

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