Awesome Dudette’s Burning Question: “The one thing I still don’t understand about Law attraction that makes me doubt the whole thing is how LOA relates to fate and predestined things, and so called Pre-Birth Planning, Soul agreements with other people to play out certain scenarios.

I’ve had things predicted years ahead (very specific things, that were not just vague guesses) and they did come true – some of them. How can there be no fated, predestined events if these visions came true? Example: Let’s say I want to get married now. In the pre-birth plan, though, this event was agreed for when I’m 35. With a specific person (soul). Doesn’t this pre-birth plan override LOA? Or does it somehow work hand in hand? But how?  Thank you a lot.”

Dear Awesome Dudette,

So, you want to know if you actually, truly have free will; if all this talk of being an all-powerful creator is just theoretical (aka, if you didn’t have this pesky pre-birth agreement, you could have whatever you want…); if there isn’t some sub-clause to the Law of Attraction that states that like attracts like, as long as it doesn’t violate your pre-determined destiny. While this theory is a convenient way to explain misery – you can’t have what you want because you or someone else decided, before you were even born, that this life was meant to be miserable – it’s just plain wrong.

We do come into this life with a kind of pre-birth plan, as you call it, but it’s not nearly as specific as you seem to think it is. I’ll explain, shall I?

Our Pre-Birth Intentions

Instead of a plan, which is generally quite detailed, let’s call them pre-birth intentions, ok? We do choose a basic THEME for our lives before we come in, and yes, this theme will affect the choices that are available to us to some extent. And we do have agreements with other soul partners, the people who come into our lives in major ways and play with us in either a positive or “negative” way. But none of these intentions and agreements are limiting. Rather, they serve to provide us with a certain environment, a starting point, which we can then choose to explore in any way we decide to.

The themes we choose to explore are usually linked to certain beliefs – for example, we may decide to play with the concept of scarcity. Such an individual would then be born into a society, culture and/or family where the belief of scarcity is very strong. Exploring this theme wouldn’t mean that this person would have to be poor all their lives, although they would probably start off that way. In fact, the whole challenge of the game would be to shift that belief within themselves and, having experienced poverty, which is one side of scarcity, then allow themselves to experience the other side – abundance. HOW the theme of scarcity is experienced is up to the individual. It can be a stressful life, full of worry and hardship, or it can be a wonderful life. The intention determines into what circumstances the individual is born and what beliefs they are therefore exposed to, but what happens from then on, is all up to us.

“But, aren’t circumstances limiting?”, I can hear you asking. Well, no. Unless you believe that they are. If you truly believe that being born into poverty makes it impossible for you to succeed, then it does. And much of the population believes just that. But there are always going to be people who defy that paradigm and become abundant despite a meager upbringing. The reason we find those people so inspirational is because deep down, we know we can all do the same. Our circumstances don’t limit us. Our beliefs do.

What about agreements with other people?

So, what about these agreements with others? If we have a “contract” to marry some dude at 35, doesn’t that preclude free will? Well yes, it would, if we had such a contract. But we don’t. Agreements with others can be somewhat specific – we choose our parents before we come in, for example. And we certainly will have some soul partners who have chosen to either explore the same theme as us, or simply have a very similar core vibration to us, and will therefore come into our lives in a major way. The nature of that relationship and how it plays out, however, is entirely up to our choices.

Let’s look at an example: Bob and Susie have decided to play together in his lifetime. One of the themes that Susie has chosen to explore is abandonment and she’s decided to be born to a father who left right after she was born. Bob has also chosen to experience abandonment, but has manifested that theme in a different way. His family was emotionally absent. Both environments lead to Bob and Susie experiencing very specific aspects of their theme. And, because both have similar vibrations, they will enter each other’s realities in a significant way. In other words, they will have some kind of relationship.

The nature of that relationship and whether or not they actually choose to spend time with one another, will be up to Susie and Bob in their human forms. They might be life-long friends, for example, supporting each other through a series of experiences. They might become lovers who end up demanding that each makes the other feel safe, leading to a torturous existence which finally ends in a horrible, painful breakup. They might get married and cheat on each other. They might meet and decide they hate each other, and while they don’t actually spend much time together, will spend a significant amount of time focusing on one another in a negative way. They might help each other shift their beliefs and live the rest of their lives in authentic, loving bliss. Their “agreement” states that they will mirror their beliefs back to each other. How that will happen and what they will do with that information is determined entirely by the choices they’ve made.

Keeping this in mind, it’s worth recognizing that EVERYONE who comes into your life in a significant way is your soul partner; even those who annoy the crap out of you. This doesn’t just include those who are in your life for years and years, either. Soul partners can come into your life for a short, but significant amount of time and then gravitate right out. Romantic relationships that end horribly but serve as major catalysts for growth usually involve soul partners.

After I cleared a significant issue involving my already deceased grandfather one day, I was a bit shocked to be visited by both my non-physical grandparents, people who had been dysfunctionally married for decades in life, holding hands and acting like the best of friends. They explained to me that they were just that – best friends. Even though their lives together hadn’t exactly been what you’d call blissful, they had come in together to explore some really challenging themes. Of course they were friends. They were partners, soul mates. They had come to play the game together. And now, after death, they understood that it had been a game and, like two actors coming off the stage, held nothing but appreciation for what their characters had done. After all, you don’t hate the dude that plays the bad guy in the movie.

But what about future predictions?

So, if there’s no specific soul plan, then how could someone have predicted some of your life events so specifically? Well, I actually explored predictions in-depth in the following post: Everything You’ve Ever Wanted To Know About Psychics. The gist of it though, is that no one can predict the future. All we can ever do is to read the energy where it is right now, and give you the outcome that you’re most likely to line up with, providing you stay on the same course. The very act of telling you that prediction, however, can change it. Think about it: If I told you that you would win the lottery tomorrow, but you then chose not to buy a ticket, that would change the prediction.

Anyone who predicts your future with accuracy was not reading a soul agreement. They were reading your energy in the moment, and yes, you always have the choice to change that outcome, if you wish. In the example you gave – that you want to get married now, you are not limited to a certain age by your pre-birth agreements. You do, however, still have to be a match to getting married. And, the man you marry will reflect your current vibration. In other words, if you’re currently meeting a bunch of douchebags, maybe don’t marry one. Shift your vibration first and become a match to awesome men, then marry one of those. Yes, this will slow things down a bit, but it’s worth the delay. Someone could then read your energy and see that you are, at your current rate, most likely to shift into a vibration that matches the relationship you truly want, around age 35. And, they could then tell you that this was due to some soul agreement. But that wouldn’t be correct (if it gives you peace to believe this, however, then go for it).

The themes we come to explore

Now, it may seem like the themes we come to explore are all about suffering. But that’s not true. Every theme has two sides. One will be aligned with Who You Really Are, and one will be resistant to Who You Really Are. As in my first example, there’s scarcity and abundance. These are two sides of the same coin. Your challenge is generally going to be to shift from the resistant side of the theme to the aligned one. The more difficult your start in life, the more ambitious you are. The more absence of something you’ve experienced, the more you’ll be able to appreciate its presence. You’ll see details and nuances that others don’t, for example.

Many of us have also come in to shift not only energy for ourselves, but for the whole globe. We take on massive amounts of resistance and do our best to shift it as much as possible. Often, we continue this progression over generations (families can explore certain themes together), with each generation experiencing a bit less of the limiting belief until someone in the lineage finally manages to shift it altogether (many of those final shifts are happening now). Something well worth noting is that, contrary to what many believe, we are not junior souls, here on Earth to learn our lessons. We are master creators, here to set ourselves challenges worthy of our skill. When masters play the game, they don’t want it easy.

It’s through this shifting of energy from lower to higher states that we explore every facet of these vibrations, adding to the experience of the whole – God experiencing herself. We’ve experienced the darkest of energies, the worst possible resistance and have, over time, lifted and shaped the global vibration to where it is today. Sure, there still exists a great deal of contrast, more than at any other time, in fact. The variety of experiences one can have on the Earth today is greater than it’s ever been. But all in all, we have a higher vibration than we’ve ever had. And now, we’re waking up to the knowledge, the memory, of Who We Really Are. We’re remembering that this is a game, that we are powerful, master creators, and that we don’t have to suffer. And in so doing, we allow ourselves to move out of the darkness and into the light, out of suffering and into more and more joy, into a state where “contrast” becomes subtle, the difference between “Yea!” and “Hell Yea!”  This is the ascension that many religions talk about. We are not all going to die. But we are all changing quite drastically, dropping the masks, becoming more of ourselves, stepping into our power and revealing Who We Really Are – who we’ve been all along. This is our overriding theme, our collective intention.

Now, it’s up to you – what part do you want to play in that game? You have your starting point. You have your theme. What will you do with it? How will you choose to experience it? Because, while it might be comforting to some to blame the fact that they aren’t happy on a pre-life plan rather than facing their fears, it really is that simple – just choose. It’s up to you.