Awesome Dude’s Burning Question: “If someone has mastered the LOA and vibrates at a higher level does this mean that random unintended bad luck cannot happen? I don’t hold with what I feel is an opt out answer ‘the bad event is only happening to teach us something’; if this is the case we are not in charge any more than if Karma or fate is really in control. Also the same lessons can be learned from a good event as well as bad. Sorry if the question has been asked before.”
Dear Awesome Dude,
Here’s the thing: there’s no such thing as unintended, bad luck. There are also no lessons to learn. Both of those perspectives are based on the concept of powerlessness.
If there is luck, then random stuff can just happen to us, and we have no control. If we are in a type of school, with lessons being imposed upon us against our will, we may have more control (how to view those lessons, for example), but ultimately, we’re still following someone else’s plan. And yes, I get that one could state that we are following out own plan, set by our higher selves, but that would still make our experience here one of powerlessness. After all, if you don’t get let in on the plan, or you don’t agree that the plan is “for your own good”, it still feels a lot like a parent/child relationship than the experience of a powerful creator. Which, incidentally, is what you are.
But, when you state that the same lessons can be learned from a good event as well as a bad one (and we can reframe that into “the same message can be delivered via a “good” event as well as a “bad” one), I’ll have to disagree with you. If that was the case, you’d never experience a “bad” event.
Why bad crap happens to you
I prefer to use the terms wanted/unwanted, instead of good/bad, because there is no judgment as far as the Universe is concerned. We are the ones that, through our observation and perspective, determine if we like something or not. And we are the ones that declare anything we don’t like to be “bad”, as if our opinion was a universal one. I do get, however, that if you crash your car, calling it an unwanted event instead of just yelling “goddammit” won’t bring you much relief.
Nevertheless, it’s an important distinction to make when it comes to explaining why “shit happens”. The Universe is not designed to give you negative experiences. It’s designed to give you experiences, period. You are the one who chooses (yes chooses), through your focus, which experiences to have. This hasn’t, until now, generally happened consciously, mind you, but that’s still how it works. Whether or not those experiences are then wanted or unwanted, is determined by YOUR perspective.
We are actually, like all living things, designed to move away from pain and towards pleasure. This is part of the genius structure of the Universe. We are also powerful creators, who have come here to experience the whole spectrum of physical reality. Now, if we were to simply follow that structure (and had no screwy limiting beliefs), we would constantly be playing and determining what we want to bring into our reality next. We would see something unwanted, for example, feel some slight discomfort, and determine what we would like instead. That simple shift would cause us to line up with a reality where the wanted scenario was present, and the unwanted was no longer available to us.
Look at it this way: Every possible scenario is available to you at all times, but you filter out most of them. If you didn’t it would be really overwhelming, and you wouldn’t really be able to experience anything. You don’t want to listen to all the songs ever written at once. It’s much more enjoyable to listen to one at a time. So, what you experience is actually determined by which filters you’re using. Change your filters and you change the experience.
What “negative” manifestations are
We can filter out anything we choose to. Or, we can let it through. When we have our filters set to let through unwanted things, we experience negative feedback. When you eat something you don’t like, it tastes bad. When you hear music you don’t like, you feel uncomfortable. When it’s too hot or too cold, your body reacts. When you touch a hot stove that will damage your hand, it hurts. If you don’t want to end up with a charred hand, stop doing that thing that makes you go “ouchy!”.
Now, this brilliant mechanism lets us know when we’re focusing on something unwanted by making it feel uncomfortable. If we don’t notice the discomfort, because we’re not paying attention, the annoyance will get a bit bigger. Like a child, who starts off softly saying your name in an attempt to get your attention, but who, when ignored, gets ever louder until he’s screaming your name (at which point you may admonish him for yelling, even though he didn’t start off that way – he only yelled because he had to…), the Universe only ever “yells” as loudly as it has to, in order to get your attention.
So, you start off feeling a slight bit of discomfort, not even enough to call it “negative emotion”, but over time, going unnoticed, the feeling will get bigger and worse. Eventually, that little bit of annoyance will bloom into massive amounts of negative feelings, and, if you continue to suppress it, become a physical manifestation. Other people will say things to you that make you angry, things will start to go wrong, and eventually, you may even become ill.
NONE of this is happening randomly. And none of this is designed to teach you a lesson for your own good. The simple truth is, you’re actively engaging in something that’s hurting you, and the feedback you’re getting is telling you that if you keep holding your hand on that hotplate, you’re going to do some serious damage. The longer you hold your hand there, the worse the pain gets. And you want it to. Without this feedback, we’d have died out long ago.
The stupid belief that screws it all up
And yes, it really is that simple. This rather elegant solution should have ensured that we never really feel a lot of pain. I mean, who in their right mind would continue to do something that hurts them? Well, it turns out, we would. The “in their right mind” bit is debatable.
Many people aren’t willing to stop doing something uncomfortable until it gets so painful that they have no choice. We’ve convinced ourselves that pain is a good thing. That suffering is valuable. That we have no choice. We put up with the pain, ignore it, even anesthetize ourselves against it. We drink and do drugs and take pharmaceuticals and distract ourselves with mindless activities every second of the day, all so we don’t have to feel the discomfort of not doing what we came here to do – be joyful. Basically, we’re refusing to feel good.
We’re not doing this on purpose, of course. We’ve been taught that joy is an often unattainable luxury, not available to most. We’ve been taught that the world is a horrible, hostile place and the most we can ever hope for is to keep the danger at bay. We protect ourselves. We shield ourselves from anything that could remind us of Who We Really Are (although it’s always bled through and this is, of course, changing right now). We segregate ourselves from nature, from each other, from our spirit. And all because we’ve convinced ourselves that “this is how it is”. But it doesn’t have to be that way.
We are the only species on this planet that will run towards pain and keep ourselves there voluntarily. Even one celled organisms won’t do that. But we will. And we’ll even be proud of it. Hell, there was a time when even I used to boast about how much crap I was able to put up with. I thought I was tough and strong. Of course, I was also in massive amounts of pain, and nearly worked myself into a nervous breakdown, twice, but so what? I was succeeding. I was making money. I was getting promoted. I was getting praised. I was the perfect embodiment of someone who “had it all” and, like many others in the same situation, I was on the verge of collapse.
When things finally got too painful to bear, I realized that I couldn’t live my life that way anymore. And that’s when I began to realize the ridiculousness of doing so in the first place. That view, however, wasn’t available to me while I was buried under the noise of my busy, busy life, my workaholism, my need to keep up, to impress, to be ever productive, to be strong and tough and a good little worker.
So, what happens when we raise our vibration?
This is the belief system that we’ve been operating on up until now. But, many of us are waking up to the idea that this way of life is not only no longer sustainable (we can only bear so much pain before we give it up), but also unnecessary and totally unwanted. We’re starting to question why we ever put up with that much pain in the first place, and we’re having a hard time finding satisfactory answers.
When you become a higher vibrational person, you could also say that you’re becoming more sensitive with a much lower tolerance for discomfort. Basically, it means that you’re aware of how you feel (no more ignoring pain), and you’re unwilling to keep doing stuff that feels bad. You move away from pain and towards pleasure, and no justification is worth any amount of pain. The higher your vibe, the less tolerance for crap you have. Or, perhaps it’s more accurate to state that the less tolerance for crap you have, the higher your vibration rises.
You asked if a high vibing person would still experience random, unwanted events? Well, since nothing is random, that would never be true, so let me restate your question this way: If a person is operating at a high vibration, do they still experience unexpected and volatile unwanted events? The answer is no, but…
The more aware you are, the less “unexpected” any event you experience is. While nothing is random, you can, in your unawareness (also called “denial”), fail to see the crap coming. When you’re paying attention, you’ll notice the negative feedback in the early stages and you’ll change direction. You’ll stop doing the thing that’s causing the pain. You’ll take your hand off the damn stove. When you get really good at this, you’ll notice the heat emanating from the stove before you even touch it, decide to trust that feeling (you don’t have to touch it to figure out if it’s really hot), and avoid getting burned altogether.
Since big, volatile events only happen after a rather lengthy build up with corresponding manifestations along the way, you have the ability to notice those manifestations and change direction to something that feels much better (and therefore serves you) at any moment along that path. You don’t have to let it get big and ugly, but of course, you can. You have free will, after all, and no one will take that away from you. No one can stop you from creating massive pain if that’s what you choose, just as no one can stop you from creating massive joy if that’s what you choose.
How empowerment becomes limitation
However, even a highly aware person will not be aware of everything. To know everything you have to fully move into God consciousness. In this physical reality, we’ve chosen to have a rather specific experience, which requires us to have a more narrow focus than ALL THAT IS. This means, we only ever have access to a range of vibration. And ranges have limits – a higher limit and a lower limit. There’s always going to be a “lowest frequency” in your range. As you raise your vibration, you’re continuously going to have to release that lowest frequency. Basically, the highest vibration you can reach today, will be tomorrow’s lowest.
This is how a belief that was once empowering turns into a limiting belief. Notice that “limiting” is not a bad thing. It’s just a thing. Just like -1 isn’t a “worse” number than +1. In this context, “limiting” simply means “not expansive”, it’s a perspective that’s old and no longer supports you in your efforts of going further. Just like going to Kindergarten was once exciting to you and taught you many new things, there came a point at which it was simply no longer interesting. Spending time in Kindergarten after you’d moved past it would’ve kept you from experiencing more exciting subjects.
Or, if you want to get away from the “learning” paradigm completely (because it’s not about learning, it’s about experiencing), let’s say that you love to go mountain climbing. When you first start, you climb an artificial wall with ropes and a spotter, so you can get the basics and feel safe. Over time, you graduate to actual mountains. But over time, if you kept climbing the same cliff, you’d get bored. As you get used to climbing rocks, you get more skilled, and you want to tackle bigger and bigger challenges. Easy climbs, which used to be fun, just don’t excite you anymore. You want the challenge.
But, now let’s say that you were climbing and your ankle hurt. If you chose to ignore it, you could end up with a serious problem, especially if you were climbing a really tough mountain. The bigger the challenge, the more mindful you have to be of the state of your body, your equipment, the weather conditions, etc. You might be able to get away with a sprained ankle on a beginner’s rock formation, but not on the advanced ones.
The higher your vibration, the more sensitive you become to negative feedback. Not only do you notice it earlier in the game, but refusing to notice it will lead to those negative manifestation becoming bigger faster. Like the mountain climber, you can’t afford to climb with bad equipment at the advanced level. Of course, at that point in the process, you also have the skill and practice to be able to notice faulty equipment easily.
When you fully understand the significance of “negative” manifestations, you’ll be able to see the correlation between the unwanted event and the build-up that came before. You’ll see the progression, the signs telling you to turn around. And you’ll be able to determine why you ignored them all, allowing you to not do so in the future. Nothing is random and bad shit doesn’t happen to you to teach you a lesson or because you deserve it. You’re supposed to be a happy shiny puppy. That’s always open to you. But you won’t be forced into it.
What we’ve done is convinced ourselves that the burns we inflicted by keeping our hands on the stove are random, and that there’s no correlation between the ever increasing pain and the smell of barbequed fingers. No, no, obviously, it’s the stove manufacturer’s fault. Or, maybe we’re just meant to burn ourselves continuously. Life is cruel. Shit happens. There’s nothing we can do.
Pay attention to the feedback. Notice the pain and take your hand off the damn stove. If there’s any lesson here that needs to be learned, and again, we’re the only species on earth that requires this lesson, it’s this: Stop doing shit that feels bad. Start doing shit that feels good. That may be the most important thing I’ve ever taught anyone. Ever. You’re welcome.
I just want to say THANK YOU at every post, so helpful all of it!
I wonder if I’m placing my hand on the hot stove or not. I’m not sure if I am releasing frustration or self pitying which will create more situations for self pity.
I recently experienced my first heartbreak despite my age (39). Two years prior to that 20 of my family rejected /abandoned me. I don’t normally put it that way. Usually I remind myself when that story crosses my mind that I was moving up the vibrational ladder and they weren’t … I had out-vibed them which is a better story to say.
When the close male friend left (in the most dismissive cruel way), I used that energy to exercise and lose a significant amount of weight. I’ve since attracted a great new crew, get a lot of attention from males and females who want to befriend me and from people who have the same life style as me but I’m still missing that closeness we had. I think of him often and how much I want to say. I want us to be friendly (not necessarily have a friendship). It’s been 1.5 years.
Are crying sessions which sometimes feel good “hot-stoving” or is the release of tears good for me. I “THINK” it feels good because perhaps I’ve watched too many Disney movies which makes me think the pain will result in a happy ending.
Would you continue to cry out the pain or just remind yourself their loss and I’m a great person despite what the reality-based-evidence before me says. It’s important him and I at least be friendly with each other and I’m not sure why this is soooo important to me.
I’ve asked the universe to show me more compassion when I and a close person stops vibing at the same frequency and it heard my request. My best friend and I moved apart amicably and it was such a relief from my previous experience.
Melody, you normally say “you’re welcome” so I’m going to say “thanks for your response/s in advance”.
Things happen, experiences, for us, as vehicles for growth. Sure they kinda suck at times but if you can listen to your SPOT ON advice, and learn how to set up a kinda neutral view of life, seeing all as experiences, you’ll realize the growth aspect of everything we experience.
As for the work thing in the past Melody, I hear ya 😉 Been there, done that, flipped out, and I myself punched walls, went bonkers and did other stuff that made me a lot less intelligent, than a 1 celled organism lol! Great post, thanks!
Hi Melody – thanks for this explanation. You mentioned that our we are experiencing rather than learning. I thought experience was all about learning otherwise would it not simply be just observing without engaging? I understand the idea of no such thing as a bad experience and personal perspective however if I were to focus on something I want to create, connect with a really happy feeling towards this outcome, continue to keep the focus and keep getting positive feeling feedback about this ‘want’ but start to receive a negative unexplained feeling when I am not thinking about the wanted result (when I am just plodding on in everyday stuff) and definitely not focusing on any negative stuff. This is probably the unconscious in play …. but 1/ is it the negative feeling ‘telling’ me there is unwanted stuff coming up/ there/ahead or 2/am I creating the unwanted stuff by feeling negative even though I am not consciously doing so and cannot see the cause? If it is (1) then am I really creating in virgin country? if it is (2) How can anyone understand their Id to the extent of stopping the little devil from spoiling the life we want to have, free of experiencing negative feelings? Thanks for giving your insight into this I really appreciate it.
“…spoiling the life we want to have, free of experiencing negative feelings?”
Negative feelings are not bad. They are actually quite good =)
Negative emotions are our guide, our friend, our messengers and teachers.
They exist to let us know when we are not in alignment with our Higher Self.
So, if you are feeling a negative emotion, that means you are thinking a thought that Source does not think. You’re focusing on what is unwanted, and what your Higher Self does not focus on, which is why it does not feel good.
The purpose of negative emotions is a messenger, saying,
“Hey Patrick, just so you know, you’re focusing and holding onto a limiting belief that is not in alignment with your Higher Self. You may want to replace it with a more empowering belief that is in alignment with Source and your Higher Self.”
That’s it. That’s their job.
Also, as a basic guide:
When you feel positive emotion, you know you are attracting what you do want.
When you feel negative emotion, you know you are attracting what you don’t want.
I forgot to add that this post is, as usual, an awesome explanation of LOA principles! Thank you, Melody!
Wow! I just read this entire post! I had not read the whole thing before my coaching session with you earlier today. I am amazed at how the themes in your post are very similar energetically to realizations/insights/breakthroughs I had this week, and that we discussed in the coaching session. This process of co-creation is really awesome!
Melody, THANK YOU! Mostly after I read your posts, I feel like I just attended a glam party, kind of like the one Kuradji dreamed about. 😉 I also feel so happy, I cannot explain it. I want to dance now. And there’s music playing outside so I just might! And one last thing, I do think I got real freaking lucky when I connected with you. I still believe in luck because I really really got lucky and fact that I’m still here makes me feel like the luckiest human alive. And also, oh God, you are SO funnnnnnyyyyyyyyyyyyy. I don’t laugh even during my favorite stand up comedies this much. I get those deep belly laughs, like continuously. SO FUNNY. Please please please write an ONLY FUNNY post someday, no LOA, nothing, JUST FUNNY. LOL It’s so GOOODDD! Okay, now I’m going to dance. 🙂 Thank YOU!!!! (Macarena is what’s playing.lol)
Perfect message at the right time.. for me.
thank you Melody.
Thank you Melody, for this post. It’s clear and concise. Out of the previous posts I’ve read, this one seems to be (in this moment) the most direct when it comes to explaining LOA and how we chose to be powerless in the first place. I also extend gratitude to the dude who asked this question. It always helps to have a good question to manifest a good answer. 🙂
I have just been offered the best job in the world based on who I will be working with and what the business is all about. If I was a millionaire I would still say YES to this job. Gonna love LOA
Congratulations, Lorraine! I think I can almost feel your happy energy!
Congratulations Lorraine! 😉
That’s awesome Lorraine! Congrats! 🙂
I finally found a comments section which wasn’t closed so I could say something! It’s not really related to this particular post however I just wanted to say that I have spent the last few days reading through all your articles and they have helped me SOOO much. At the age of 46 and having started life from a very low vibration and grown gradually throughout my life I still didn’t really get this law of attraction business. Then an unpleasant situation recently made me realise that dwelling on it made me feel bad and NOT thinking about it (and thinking about what I did want) made me feel better. I also started to meditate for 20 mins a day on things I wanted to manifest and I cut out movies/news/tv shows that didn’t make me laugh or feel good. That was about 6 weeks ago and I am really starting to feel my vibration rise and things shift, then I found your articles and this time all that LOA stuff really made sense finally. Also for the last 5 nights I have happened to look at the clock at 11:11 – that’s starting to creep me out a bit. Anyway other than your generosity with sharing your wisdom, I really love your sense of humour. It’s made learning so much more entertaining. Peace 🙂
I am also 40’s and learned about LOA maybe about 2 years ago, but the “feeling” side of things only really became clear since I started reading Melody earlier this year. I used to do endless internet searches for clarification – stumbled upon Melody and this is my one-stop now. Looking forward to the blogs 2x a week already raises my vibe. I am involved with somebody not available – right or wrong I don’t know or care but I am enjoying now what this relationship offers me and learn from it while looking forward to, feeling and visualising a perfect, exclusive relationship of my own. I see it as waiting for my bread to bake, already smelling how wonderful it can be, enjoying the baking process and knowing when the bread is just right, it will come out the oven. Or enjoying peach blossoms, their beauty and fragrance and knowing all the same what I actually want is the fruit, but it will be ready in its own good time. Funny thing, you see 11.11 and Melody called it messages to ourselves. What I see, especially when I am down, is my special person’s name. I would turn around and it would be a clothing shop in a mall’s name. I would glance to the right in traffic and his name will be on the vehicle on my side. A worker in an overall will step in front of me, this special name will be printed on the back. I would open facebook and a random person with the same name would be at the top. Scrolling down, many posts with this name. Then somebody inbox me with the same name. His name appears as part of longer words. I would think of him at a work meeting and somebody would introduce themselves with the same name at that exact moment. In the end two people at the meeting has this magic name. I would browse in a bookshop and see a whole row of books in large, beautiful print by an author with the same name, look to the top of the shelve, another book with the name on the spine. Watching a dvd the credentials of movies would role by, I would do something else, chatting etc and the moment I glance at the names, this one would appear. Once I was angry at him, plotting revenge – and then reading a newspaper article had his name prominent, it made me change my bad vibe and then our conversation turned out positive. Countless examples of how seeing this name comforts me. Seeing this name and this “not ready, not perfect yet” relationship is me smelling bread. I do not know what kind of bread, if it is my specific bread I am smelling, but I know, somewhere there is a bread getting ready for me, while I enjoy the smell of the one I can smell now. And by the way, this name is not Tom, Dick or Harry…or John or Peter 😉
Oh my goodness! Me too! I’ve been reading almost every blog from the very beginning! I skip some that don’t resonate. I’ve set it up on my phone so that I’ve been able to read sequentially! I’ve been dying to finally be able to comment and join the fun!! Melodys blog have brought me to a whole new happy shinny puppy reality! I love it here (my new reality and the blog) ????????
We really do create our reality. I know this, but it stills stuns me almost every day. Some time back I decided I wanted to do more “interesting” stuff. I wanted to go to the theatre and to live performances and “social” occasions. I started buying clothes, shoes and handbags suitable for standing around looking glamorous in and sipping “champagne-dharling”…. it occurs to me that tomorrow I am going to the opening of an art exhibition by a B grade celebrity. It was a whole cartwheel of co-incidences that brought about the invitation – and yes, I will be wearing one of the glamour dresses, using one of the handbags and strutting around in the high-high heels with a champagne in my hand, kind of like how I have rehearsed in my mirror for the past few months. Dharling!
HA HA Kuradji! SO COOL! HAVE FUN at your glam party!!!
This is definitely one of those posts that can bring someone’s understanding of LOA to the next level. Like you say in so many posts, it is all about how we feel, and by simply learning to let go of doing the crap that makes us feel badly, and develop the faith that we will get what we want so long as we feel good, we can create miracles. Like you said, too many of us thrive on challenges and stress, and take pride in how much crap we can take, all the while being miserable. This post really cleared up some things that were well, not clear 🙂 Thanks for your awesomeness.
Melody, thank you so much for the soulful way you explain everything! And to top it off its free! Wow! You are a wonderful human being! I can’t wait till you start doing workshops!
it would be an awesome bumper sticker lol
“stop doing shit that feels bad.start doing shit that feels good’
I agree, fs! An awesome bumper sticker! (:
I would totally buy that bumper sticker, if I had a car..
I’ll take a couple of those bumper stickers thanks.
Awesome post as usual! Thank you!
Perfect timing! As always! Sometimes I wonder what in the world is going on in my life. It’s easy to forget that instead of getting all upset, all you have to do is simply turn in the other direction. It is really cool when you look back at an “unwanted” event and figure out what led up to that and the signs you were ignoring before. It really is almost like decoding the matrix. Awesome stuff Melody! 🙂
Hi Melody! I agree with Christopher above that this is an excellent and thorough post about how LOA really works in all of our lives. You provided some excellent examples that helped make this so very clear. It is so very important to remember that there is no scheme in the Universe that insists on our “learning” to “overcome” the negative by grading and testing us as we go along. But because so many of us have been raised in that environment, everything from our schooling to our government, we tend to “create by default” rather than deliberately and we end up with all sort of crap that we think we deserve–as though we are being “graded” by how well we do. As you say, “Stop doing shit that feels bad.” Thank you!
Melody, this is by far, one of the best blog posts I have read from your site. Of course every blog you post is full of great wisdom. Maybe it was the great question that caused this wonderful blog post. Either or, you always present the most crystal information in a comprehensive manner so all of your shiny puppies can read and digest. Some of the above scenarios you have mentioned are totally relatable to me! Thankyou very much!