It’s that time of the year! You get together with your family, you eat wonderful food, you unwrap the presents, and you try your best not to punch anyone in the face. Yep! These are the people you love the most, but they also have the ability to drive you nuts in a way that no one else can. Can you survive the holidays and (gasp!) possibly even enjoy them? Well of course you can. Watch today’s video to get my advice.
Hello My Puppies! In today’s video I’d like to discuss “How To Survive Your Family Over The Holidays!” Yes, it’s that season; Happy Holidays to everybody, whether you’re celebrating or not!
Generally at the end of the year we tend to get together with our loved ones, our family and friends. And it can be a wonderful thing, but it can also be the worst time of the year, because these are the people that drive us absolutely up the wall, and they push our buttons the way that nobody else can. How do you go about surviving that season and how do you enjoy it?
Here’s my tip from a Law of Attraction perspective
First of all, do a little bit of pre-paving. Do not assume that when you go home you are going to have a horrible time and be thinking, “OMG, I’m going to see that Aunt again; and I hate her; and I know she’s going to ask me that question – why I’m no married yet, and blah, blah, blah…”.
Don’t worry about that! You are there to show up, be who you really are, feel the way that you feel and talk about whatever you want to talk about. Go ahead and play some of the scenarios in your head that you are afraid of, and have some good comebacks so that you can feel a little bit better going into it. Get yourself into a good feeling space before you go, and if you can, the beautiful thing to be able to do would be to get yourself into a loving space about everybody in your family. I know this will not be possible for everyone, and I can hear you all scoffing right now; yes I do know what I just said!!
The next thing to remember is that your family, when they push your buttons, when they trigger you, when they say something that feels like you’ve just got punched in the gut and you want to rip somebody’s face off, in that moment they’ve mirrored back some of your own resistance to you. Remember, you are in a hologram and everything is just mirroring back your vibration. When they trigger you, the way that you feel – that’s your shit! You have to take care of that. The reason that they did that, that’s their shit and they have to take care of that. You don’t need to worry about that, you are not there for them; you are there for you.
How your family can help in raising your vibration
The holidays or anytime the family get together is a wonderful time to do a vibrational check-up, because your family is going to show you where you’re still at, what’s still bothering you, and what you’re still holding onto. The time to work on that is not when Aunt Mabel says some passive aggressive thing at the dinner table, and you just want to rip her face off; so you do! That’s a destructive anger release, but you also don’t just want to sit there and bite your tongue the entire time because you want to keep the peace. That is harming to you and that is going to lead to some kind of Aneurysm, so don’t do that.
What you want to do is to put a pin in it and as soon as you can, remove yourself from the situation, go off by yourself somewhere, for example when you go to bed at night, then think about what this person said to you and why it bothered you. What is it that really bothers you about that? Because if you didn’t care about what they said, it would not have bothered you at all.
If somebody came up to you in the street and said, “I hate your purple hair”, and your hair is not purple, you would think that person is crazy and you wouldn’t take it personally. But if your friend came up to you and said, “OMG, you look fat in that dress!”, you might have a really different reaction. If you are insecure about your weight, or your looks, or what people think about you, that is going to get triggered by that response. Anytime somebody comes up to you and triggers you, that’s an opportunity for you to release something. There is no better time to do that than the holidays. This is what you have been preparing for all year, this is what you have been shifting your energy for, to go in there and see what else is left. This is like going to the Olympic Games or the World Cup!
Consider this and prepare yourself before you go and don’t take it too personally; don’t beat up on yourself if you experience negative emotion. Remember negative emotion is nothing but a messenger.
I hope I’ve given you some really good tips and a good game plan. Consider maybe, once you get home from the holidays, going on a vacation. Also consider that if you are anticipating it being really negative, you don’t have to spend time with your family at all over the holidays; you get to do whatever you want. If going to the Bahamas by yourself or with your boyfriend or husband feels better than going home for the holidays, then do that. You have my full permission!
Again, I hope I’ve given you a good game plan. Please consider sharing this video with your peeps on social media, or anybody who you think might need some help surviving the holidays this year, and if you want to share a comment or add to the discussion please do so below.
I wish you all the best and I will see you next week!