Many people, and even spiritual teachers, believe that the purpose of this work is to get to a point where you no longer experience any negative emotions. Disappointment, anger, jealousy and the like are “wrong” and should be avoided at all costs. But is this true? Is this belief helpful? In today’s video I’m going to make the case that you will and what’s more should not ever get rid of your negative emotions. It’s not wrong to have them or to feel them. In fact, it’s the suppression of these emotions that causes all the damage! Watch today’s video below to find out more.
Hello my puppies! Today’s Q&A question focuses on negative emotions and when we might be done with them. This is a question I get a lot, so I’m squishing all the questions together and not just focusing on a single asker here.
The question is: “When am I ever going to get to the point where I’m done with negative emotions and it’s all Nirvana all the time, 24/7, 365 days a year?”
Well, here’s the bad news: You will never, ever get to the point where you don’t experience negative emotion! But before you despair and throw yourself off a cliff, let me explain that.
Are negative emotions a bad thing?
Negative emotions are not a bad thing. They are more “negative” in the way we call minus one a negative number; it’s not a judgement call. Minus one is not worse, somehow, than plus one. A negative emotion is an emotion that feels uncomfortable, and when you are really in tune and you’ve been doing this work for a while, you will get sensitive enough to know how you are feeling, and these emotions don’t have to feel so volatile.
You don’t have to be super angry or full of rage or full of despair. It (the difference between how you experience negative emotions now and how you CAN experience them) is more like the difference between having pain where you need morphine, and “pain” from noticing a pebble in your shoe. It can get to the point where it’s more annoying than anything else.
Negative emotions and resistance
You are always going to have negative emotions, because they are messengers that are letting you know that you have some resistance.
Resistance is something that is interfering with the energy of what you want. You are focusing on something in a way that is interfering with what you want. And, don’t you want to know that? Don’t you want to keep on knowing that?
As you go out into the world, and as you explore new things and have new adventures, (which you’ll always want to have or you will get super bored), you are always going to be fine tuning how you’re focusing, because it’s new and you’re not yet sure how to do it. As you are doing that, of course you’ll want something to tell you when you’re not quite focusing the way you want.
It’s like turning off all your pain receptors, then going into a new environment, and you don’t know if you’ve just bumped into something that is super hot or super sharp. You want to know that you’ve done that. Again, before you despair about this, remember, as you get more sensitivity and as you release a lot of those volatile beliefs, the discomfort of negative emotion is going to get less and less, and you’ll notice it much earlier on in the progression. (My book and this blog post explain how a manifestation progresses from focus up to physical manifestation in more detail).
I’m referring to the progression of how a physical manifestation actually comes to be and how an experience actually grows into being. If you can catch that (the negative emotion) earlier on in the progression so it doesn’t have to be a huge manifestation, then you’ll never have to experience a great deal of discomfort. But the negative emotion in and of itself is always going to be around.
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I will see you next time!