So there you are, ready to manifest your dreams. You’re in a relationship, but your significant other is not playing ball. They don’t seem to be as committed to this manifesting process as you would like them to be, or they’re doing something else that seems to be interfering with your manifestation. You are finding yourself getting a little bit resentful because you think they might be slowing down your manifestation and the receiving of what it is you want. If this sounds familiar, watch today’s video and find out what you can do about it.
Today’s Law of Attraction question comes to us from Awesome Charee, who wants to know: “What about if it is in the case of my husband and I? We have so many plans, but he won’t jump in and help, and I feel like I’m doing it by myself. I find myself saying if he doesn’t want I’m not going to either, which I think may be slowing creation at bit. What should I do?”
Well Awesome Charee, thank you so much for asking this question, because I think it’s something so many of us struggle with. Most of us find it much easier, when we are by ourselves, to hold the vibration of something that we want. It’s easy to see the good feeling place, to notice how we are feeling, to allow the negative emotion, to do the work and then to step into the belief that what we want is actually on its way. But enter another human being or even just watching television, and we might find it a little bit more complicated.
You might be feeling really good all day and your significant other comes home and starts bitching, moaning and complaining about the horrible day they’ve had, and you’re now finding it really difficult to stay in your happy, shiny place. You find yourself getting very resentful, because they’re harshing your buzz, so to speak; they’re bringing you down. Or, you might have some common goals, something that you’re working on manifesting together – maybe a new house, or a vacation or something, and they don’t seem to be pulling their weight; and it causes you to doubt that you’re going to get what you want, because this is a co-creation, a joint creation, a joint manifestation, and you become resentful. In either case, the cause is exactly the same. It’s a lack of “vibrational stability”.
What is vibrational stability?
Vibrational stability is your ability to hold the vibration of your choosing no matter what environmental or external factors may be present. When somebody more negative comes into your reality and they start pulling you down, or they don’t seem to be pulling their weight, you’ll start to doubt that you’re going to get what you want. In both of those cases, you’re allowing somebody else to affect your vibration. This doesn’t feel good; you have some negative emotion going on and now you’re blaming them for the fact that you don’t feel good. You’re not taking responsibility for your own vibration. This is vibrational stability (or instability) and it happens to everybody. Before we get into how to increase your vibrational stability, I want to make one thing really, really clear and that is: Do not ever beat up on yourself for your lack of stability. Don’t ever judge yourself for it. It doesn’t mean that you’re doing something wrong and it doesn’t mean that you have somehow backslid into a former vibration (which you can’t do by the way). It doesn’t mean that you have backtracked or you’re not making the progress that you thought you were making. In many cases, it’s exactly the opposite. Here’s an analogy to help make my point:
Let’s say that you want to learn how to surf. When you first learn to surf, the instructor will put you on a board whilst you’re still on the beach. The board is lying on the sand and as you start practicing getting up from a lying down position and then standing up on the board, it’s going to take you a few tries to get that. You’re going to be a bit wobbly; maybe you’ll even fall off the board. Although the board is still on the beach, you are going to lose your balance. After a few times on the board and with some practice, maybe a few weeks depending on how challenged you are in the balance department (I’m very challenged in the balanced department), you’ll be able to get up on the board. Every time you go to stand up, you’ll feel more comfortable doing that.
The instructor will then take you into the ocean and they’ll get you to do this on the water. They’re going to up the challenge; they’re going to up the difficultly level. Of course, on the beach you were able to do it, but the first time on the water, in you go! You’re going to fall right off that board. The second time, you’ll probably fall right off again, and the third time (depending on how challenged you are in the balance department), you’re going to get it. So, at some point you are going to be able to get up. The instructor will start you surfing the smaller waves. So you’ll paddle out, catch a few smaller waves and when the bigger waves come to you, for now, you’ll skip them. You’ll try the little smaller waves at first, but you’ll get better and better as time goes on. When you’ve mastered one level of waves, what happens next is, you’re going to get bored unless you level up to the next wave. You’re going to want to go up to a bigger wave. Every time you level up to a bigger wave, you’re probably going to have a few times where you fall off the board. You’re not going to be an expert at it right away. You’re going to be a little bit shaky or a little bit unstable. I hope you are starting to see where this is going…
Every time you level up your vibration, every time you step into a new territory that’s outside of your comfort zone, you’re going to hit a period of vibrational instability. That means that other people are going to seemingly have the power (but not really) to get to you. Stuff is going to bother you a little bit more; you’re not going to be able to hold your Zen as easily. This is just a temporary period you’ll experience every time you level up; so please don’t judge yourself if you hit a period like this. It’s for your own good. It is you stabilizing at this new level so that this level becomes comfortable. When that gets boring, you’ll level up again. It’s human nature; it’s what we do.
So there you are, you’ve caught yourself in a moment of vibrational instability; first of all, once again, don’t judge yourself. Secondly, treat it like any other manifestation, like any other manifestation of resistance, because that’s exactly what it is. You see, your husband cannot cooperate with you if your vibration won’t allow it.
Are you fully aligned with your manifestation?
What is he showing you in that moment? In his moment of uncooperativeness, he’s showing you that you’re not yet fully aligned with your manifestation. You haven’t completely done the work. Perhaps you’re going for a bigger manifestation than you ever have before and now you’ve stepped outside of your comfort zone. Something you were quite comfortable doing before is now a little bit wobbly. Again, that’s ok; it’s for you to figure out why it’s bothering you.
What I’m feeling in your question is that you, or you guys, have become too action oriented. You’re trying to take action when it’s not yet time, and he’s not playing along. Now you’re thinking that you’re not going to make it happen and you’re resenting him for that. What’s gone wrong is that you’re not waiting for the action to be inspired; you’re rushing the process; you’re not fully aligned. All that is, is a lack of trust that what you want is actually going to come. That’s always what it is when you’re trying to make something happen.
The other example I used – when you’ve been in a higher vibration all day and somebody else comes in and harshes your buzz or takes you down a notch, again that is showing you that you’re not yet vibrationally stable. You want to take a look at what it was they said and why it bothered you. Go past the resentment and take a look at what it is you’re actually feeling. In general terms, you’re always going to get that (feel resentful) when you don’t trust that what you want is going to come in. That is what you want to work on because remember, nobody else can manifest in your reality, not in a good or bad way, unless you decide that they can. If you have decided that somebody else’s uncooperativeness or negativity has the ability to mess with your manifestations, well, then they do. But if you haven’t decided that, then they can’t.
This is what I mean when I say, “take your power back”, which means stop giving people the power to manifest in your reality! Take responsibility for your own vibration; take a look at what it is that’s going on with you and how you’re feeling, what’s really bothering you and how you’re not in full integrity or in full belief that you’re going to get everything that you want. It really does not matter what somebody else is doing or not doing in your reality. They don’t have the power to mess with your manifestations, unless you give it to them.
I hope I’ve answered your question to your satisfaction Awesome Charee. If you guys would like to ask your own question, or you’d like to join the conversation, please do so below. I really look forward to hearing from you guys! I do actually read all the comments and try to answer them as often as I can.
Thank you for bringing your light to world and I will see you next time.