Ok, the day has finally come. I’ve made a weight loss video. Although I’m not technically “done” with my journey, it’s become far too obvious now not to notice, and you’ve asked me to share what I can about what I’ve learned about effortless, torture-free, deprivation-free weight loss. Which is what I’m doing at the moment.
I’m not sure how much I’ve lost (I stopped weighing myself recently, but it’s over 70 pounds now), but it’s clearly significant. And I’ve done without dieting, exercising or any torture whatsoever. No potions, no pills, no food groups, no “Oh, it’s not hard, I just can’t eat this and this and this. But I’m pretending that it’s not torture!”. Nope!
And I do know that this sounds like the holy grail. That’s because, for me, it is. Maybe it is for you, as well. And while I don’t yet have all the answers (or the short cut), I’m happy to share with you what I can. But I do know that the shortcut is coming, so stay tuned!
Now, without further ado, here’s what I’ve learned about (effortless!) weight loss.
You asked; I’m answering! You wanted to know how I’m losing weight in an effortless, torture-free way. Well, today I’m going to tell you. Stay tuned!
Hey guys, it’s Melody Fletcher here, and a couple of weeks ago, I mentioned in a video about something else, that yes, in case you’ve noticed – because I know I do my videos from like here up – so it’s not as easy to tell, although, I think now it’s really blatant; I have already lost a ton of weight. I’m continuing to lose weight, and for the first time in my life, in an absolutely torture-free, diet-free, exercise-free, deprivation-free way; which is what I’ve been reaching for all of my life.
My biggest issue
And, this has been my really big issue all my life, so I’m super stoked that this has resolved. And, it does feel like it has resolved for me, and the weight loss is just happening. In fact, another sign that I got just the other day is: I realized that a new big issue has now crystallized out. Because, our big issue, what keeps us motivated, and keeps pushing us forward; it’s not just motivation. But it opens up doors and keeps us going in a direction that we wouldn’t necessarily be willing to go into without that really big incentive, that really big desire. That dare I say, even desperation for something that we want.
So, your big issue might be your weight, it might be that you haven’t had a relationship in your life to speak of, and you can’t seem to get that working; it might be abundance. And, you might have all three of those, but I promise you one of them is the thing that you’d probably give your right leg for.
A magic pill
Even 10, 15 years ago, if you would have asked me, “Hey, Melody! I have this magic pill, and it’s going to make you lose all your weight overnight, and you’ll never be fat again. You will always be thin, you’ll never be fat again, but we’re going to take 10 years off your life.” I would have gobbled up that pill so fast. Oh my God! I would have done anything to be thin. That’s how strong that motivation was. In hindsight, I can see how much growth the motivation to lose weight actually caused in my life. Didn’t see it at the time; even when my guides said it to me a few years ago, because I’m like, “You know; why fat?” And they’re like, “Because, it’s pushing you forward in a way that nothing else would.” I disagreed at the time; but, I agree now
I don’t have the shortcut…yet
So, your weight may be your big issue, and I’ll warn you right now, I don’t have the shortcut yet. I don’t, you know how I like to take things apart and then find the patterns, and then find the shortcut. I don’t have the shortcut for this yet, because I’m still in my journey, and I’m still figuring a few things out. My guides have told me, very clearly, that there’s a lot more clarity coming. Because, I have a very strong desire, a very strong intension (and I always have), to teach this. Part of my motivation was to figure it out so that I could teach it.
And, I know how painful extra weight is. Oh my God, do I!! I have a real strong desire to help alleviate some of that. And so, I know that I will have it, but I don’t have it yet. But, I also know that you guys are in a position where I was for a long time. And, I remember this very viscerally; that if somebody had come along and said, “I’ve done this; I’m doing this.” I would have said, “Tell me how.” And, if they’d said, “Well, I don’t know all of it yet.” I would say, “Well, give me what you can!!” And so, I’m going to give you what I can. Ok!
Body-Led weight loss
Alright, so #1, the big distinction that I’m making between how I have always lost weight, which was diet and exercise, and how I’m losing weight now, is that this is ‘body-led weight loss.’ And, if nobody’s trademarked that yet, it’s mine!! Haha! It’s body-led weight loss, which means that my body is in charge of the weight loss, and I am not. I am not trying to make my body lose weight. I am not brow-beating it into it. I am not trying to mitigate my shitty, destructive, sabotaging body. I am not trying to trick it. I’m not trying to somehow; I’m not doing anything, I’m not doing anything. My body’s doing all the work.
Torture-led weight loss
And, here’s the beautiful thing: My body knows exactly how to lose weight. I don’t!! And so, this is a very, very different way of losing weight than I’ve ever done before, which was always torture-led weight loss. Now it’s body-led weight loss, because it was always me forcing my body by trying to control the calories, by eating differently. By watching what kinds of calories I was eating. Oh, trust me, I did everything! Low-carb, high-carb, low-fat, high-fat, low-protein, high-protein, different combinations. If there was anything I could tweak, I did it. Anything that I could try, I did it.
I worked out 6 days a week, three hours a day. I tortured myself in the gym; it wasn’t fun. But, I felt good afterwards because I had accomplished something. I had managed to torture myself successfully. But, I didn’t feel really, really good; I just felt a sense of accomplishment. But, what I really was doing was just horrific, just horrific to my body. It was like beating up a faithful servant – every day. Every day! With my food, with my exercise, with my attitude, with my words. My body was my greatest enemy. I absolutely hated my body. And, for me to get to the point where I could do body-led weight loss I had to go through a big journey of #1, letting out all of the anger against my body, all of the rage, all of the resentment.
Because, I blamed my body for everything! I was a fat kid; I was a fat teenager. I was bullied; I was teased. And so, I blamed it, not only for all of that, I blamed my weight for all of that. And obviously, my body was keeping me fat. Right? I didn’t know any better. And so, I dieted, and I dieted, and I exercised, and I always saw my body as betraying me, because it wouldn’t keep the weight off.
The myth about fat people
By the way, just to go off on a little tangent here: There’s this myth out there that fat people are lazy, and have low willpower. I can tell you from my own experience, and having talked to enough fat people, and experienced them, that I feel I can have a qualified opinion on this. Fat people are often the least lazy people you’ll ever meet. Because the amount of willpower it takes to be able to keep up a diet for weeks or months, when you’re going against your body, you’re going against your vibration; so it’s just pure determination, torturous determination. The amount of willpower and strength it takes to do that, not only once, but to then have everything go back – to fail. To go through the devastation of regaining all the weight (and probably more); and then get up and do it all again. That takes a tremendous amount of strength. It takes a tremendous amount of willpower and determination, and willingness to suffer.
So, people who are like, “Oh, well, you’re just not willing to suffer; you’re just lazy. You’re just not willing to go on a diet. You’re not willing to eat a little bit less.”
“Oh; go fuck yourself!! Seriously, you’ve no idea what you’re talking about.”
I’ve always wanted to say that!! Haha. Ok – (“Go fuck yourself!!”)
Anyway! Because I’m always so nice in person!! I’m like, “You know what? This is what I really think of your comment!!”
Because, here’s the thing – as a fat girl, you don’t get to say that, because then, you’re just lazy, and you’re just delusional. Right?
Learn to listen and trust your body
And, that’s what really kept me stuck for so long. Because, there’s some really big beliefs that I had to let go of. But first, I had to learn to listen to my body; I had to learn to trust my body. And that took years. And, part of why it took years is: I had no role-models, and I had no examples. And, I kept getting the other message, that the way to lose weight is to diet and exercise. And if you’re not losing weight it’s because you’re doing it wrong, and it’s your own damn fault. There’s all this shame, and there’s all this guilt with it.
And so, of course, that made me even feel worse about my body whom I was blaming for all of this. I had to let go of a lot of anger, a lot of resentment through emotional releases, through anger releases. And then, I did things like writing letters to my body. At first, they were super angry. They were like, “You fuckwad! You have been sabotaging me all my life. And, nothing has worked out, because….” I mean, totally melodramatic. It doesn’t matter; you’re letting it out. Right? And then, I started to realize that, once I sort of let that out, that my body had faithfully, and very kindly, been with me all my life, and had put up with all this torture. And, once I started learning more about energy, I realized that there was something in my energy field that would not allow me to lose weight; that was keeping the weight on me. And, my body could not help but comply with that.
And so, I was creating an energy field that was keeping all this weight on me. And then I was beating the crap out of my body, trying to force it to lose weight. No wonder it didn’t go well! I actually made myself sick a couple of times. Which, I didn’t care; I didn’t care, I was going to get the weight off. I care a lot more about my body now.
And so, then of course, once I realized that my body was like this faithful servant that I was just beating the crap out of every day through dieting, through exercising, torturing myself with my words, with my attitude, with my perspective of my body. Then, a bunch of guilt and shame had to come out. I felt so ashamed and so guilty about doing this to my lovely body. And then, once I let go of that, I was able to start loving my body, which did not mean that I trusted my body fully. Because I loved my body, but when my body’s like, “Hey, do this.” I’m like, “Yeah, that didn’t work out in the past though.” My body’s like, “Yeah, but that’s because you just decided to do that; I wasn’t asking for it. There’s a big difference.”
And so, it took some time, working with my body, learning how to eat intuitively – which I did a couple of blog posts on, years and years ago – so that’s how long I’ve been doing that. And, I thought at the time, I had it. (I didn’t have it.) But the intuitive eating piece was kind of a big one, which meant that, instead of trying to determine what I should eat, I just started eating what my body asked me to.
One of the things that really helped me to learn how to do that was going through some detoxing. Now, I’m not saying that you have to detox; I’m telling you my journey. But, I used to be heavily into detoxing, I think it still a really good thing. Although, I was really hard-core about it. I wouldn’t recommend being so hard-core about it; there’s an easier way to do it. But, I’ve gone 35 days without food while working in the corporate environment. So, you want to tell me how fat people are weak again?! Haha!
So, I did some detoxing. What the detoxing does, the fasting does, it helps to reset you. And then, as you add food back in one at a time, you begin to really notice how that food affects you, how it makes you feel. And how certain foods, that you never noticed, make you feel like crap, or really tired; give you massive indigestion, or gas, or bloating, or pain.
And so, when something makes me feel like crap, and I notice that it makes me feel like crap, I have no problem staying away from it. So, that’s how my body was communicating with me at first. Just telling me, through sensations, through how it made me feel, and me starting to pay attention to how food made me feel. And going, “Well, that makes me feel like shit.” And so, I really got away from anything artificial, from anything – and I’m not saying those are bad foods, you have to listen to how it makes your body feel. If you can eat that, and there’s no detriment to you – fine. But, if you do feel like crap after you eat something, don’t just put up with that. So many people do! And, you’re like, “Oh, I always feel like crap after lunch.” Maybe, eat something different; maybe try something different. See if it’s, maybe that your body does not like that particular food. It’s a very, very personal connection.
So, there is no label that you can put on foods and say this is a good food, this is a bad food. It is all what works for you. It is about creating more and more awareness, and actually listening to your body.
The download on body-led weight loss
So, what does body-led weight loss look like?? Well, body-led weight loss looks like this: (because, I’ve lost weight many times in my life, but never like this). So, first of all; well, it’s easy. My body tells me what to eat; it tells me what it needs. Right now, it’s asking for as little food as possible, because it’s burning as much fat as possible. So, it’s kind of saying, don’t give us fuel, we’re getting the fuel from here.
I was a little bit worried at first about getting enough micronutrients, because I was only eating once a day – I still am. Sometimes, I don’t eat at all. I forgot to eat the other day, completely. I wasn’t hungry! And, at the end of the day, I went, “Did I eat today? I didn’t eat today. Mmm!” Didn’t need to, and I asked my body if it needed anything; it said no.
But, here’s the beauty of it, it’s easy. I eat when I’m hungry. And, I eat what I feel like eating. I realized that I didn’t even need to worry about the micronutrients, because my body would tell me if it needed something, and the only thing that it has asked for is magnesium. And, not even every day; it tells me when to take some, and how much to take. So, I’m able to just relax about it. I’m not exercising right now, because I’m not at all inspired to – so, fuck that! I eat when I’m hungry, and I eat what I want to eat.
My skin hasn’t suffered at all
My body’s losing weight everywhere at once. It has never done that, EVER. Always thighs last – thighs last – every time! Not this time!! Everywhere at once. There’s no creping of the skin; there’s no sagginess. Although, I can’t say that my body is completely perfect everywhere, but I can see how it’s very different from how it used to be. Even the sagginess that was there before, because I’ve always been quite firm everywhere, it’s even healing that. The last time that I lost a really significant amount of weight, I ended up with this really crepey skin on my stomach. Never like a big apron of skin, but everything was kind of squishy, and kind of crepey, and I had a lot of cellulite on my thighs. They just did not look right at all. This time that is not happening at all. At all! My skin is in amazing condition. I’m barely eating, and if a doctor was to look at this they’d be like, “Oh! You’re not eating enough calories. You’re not eating enough nutrition; you’re going to hurt yourself. My body knows what it’s doing. I’m not losing my hair; I haven’t experienced any hair loss. And, my body has absolutely guaranteed me that it won’t happen, because that was one of things that I was concerned about. “I’m not eating, am I going to lose my hair?” That’s not happening!!
That’s the beauty of it; I feel really good. I don’t have highs and lows in my energy from food. I do from energy work; that’s another layer in there that applies to me. But the beauty of it is, again, the weight is coming off everywhere, all at once; it’s coming off really well. My body knows how to burn this fat, it knows where to take it from. And, when you get really saggy skin, when you get that apron of skin – what that is from, is that there’s still a layer of fat that is attached underneath the skin, that has been detached from everything else. So basically, lost weight weird. The body took some weight from here, but didn’t take it by the skin, and then you’d have that saggy detached skin. Right? But, when the body is leading the weight loss, why would it do that?
The body’s also not going to lose weight in a way it’s going to make itself sick. Body-led weight loss, which is body wisdom! Right? It knows exactly how to do this, it knows what it needs; it knows what it doesn’t need from you. It’s so much more loving, and so much easier. There’s no forcing yourself to do anything. And so, that was a really big thing; that was probably the biggest thing.
How much you weigh has nothing to do with your food
The #2 thing, the second biggest thing, which was huge, and again, took me years to overcome. Because I was SO stubborn, so stubborn about this. Right? Was that: It has absolutely nothing to do with your food.
How much you weigh has nothing to do with your food.
Now, I’m not saying that calories don’t play a part, but far less than you think. And, that belief took me SO long to let go of. Even when I had it intellectually, I didn’t fully have it-have it. And, one of the things that really taught me (this is really horrible actually), but it really taught me this lesson, was: I was raw vegan – I was raw vegan for a long time, and I was vegan for a long time, and then I was vegetarian for a long time. But, part of that time I was raw vegan. Not because I was trying to lose weight, or anything, just because, I really felt like I wanted to be. Not out of principles, or anything, just my body was asking for that. And when my body started asking for something else, I got something else. But, I know now, it was a healing period I was going through. Because I’d done some real damage to my body, dieting. Like, real damage, and I was healing all of that. The raw vegan was a way for me to do that, so my body was telling me do this. And, I did.
But, while I was eating raw vegan, I was never eating more than 800-900 calories a day, because you just can’t. I actually measured it, because I wanted to know, because this happened: Over the course of two months, I gained 40 lbs. Like that! It just came on. Two months – 40 lbs. Now, given what I was eating, that shouldn’t have happened. It shouldn’t have been able to happen. And no, I did not have a thyroid condition, and no, nothing like that. There was no scientific explanation for this having happened, it shouldn’t have happened; but it did. So, now what? Right? Of course, I threw a huge tantrum, but that’s where I really started to get the idea that this had nothing to do with food. And, here’s the dirty little secret that nobody tells you.
Why skinny people don’t get fat
I was talking to a friend of mine the other day, who is a lovely, lovely gentleman named Mike. He has never had a weight problem; he’s been skinny all his life. Never had a problem with putting on excess weight. But, he used to overeat, like gangbusters. And, he said, “Oh my God! I would scarf food in, and it was way too much, and I was bloated and feeling bad. It just never turned into extra weight. But, here’s the thing: Skinny people overeat ALL THE TIME. It just doesn’t show up as weight, so they don’t get shamed for it. All this shame that fat people have around food, it is because society has decided that what you eat, determines your weight. And, you know what? It fucking doesn’t!! IT DOES NOT. Because -that is one tiny bit of a much larger equation.
Overeating isn’t healthy for skinny people either. They’re just not carrying it around on the outside. But, it’s not good for their bodies either, as my friend discovered. He started eating a lot less, now he’s actually listening to his body and healing himself on many levels. But, it just never showed up as excess weight. Showed up as indigestion, showed up as crappy energy, but never showed up as weight; so, he wasn’t shamed by society.
You see a skinny person, sitting there, scarfing three cheeseburgers; you’re probably going to be like, “Good for her! Look at her eat. You go girl.” We’re going to live vicariously through her. You see a fat woman, eating one cheeseburger – “That’s why she’s fat!” It’s the shame around food and exercise, and the idea that fat people have no willpower, and are weak. When they’re usually the strongest people that you know. Again, it takes a lot of strength to keep getting up, when you keep getting bowled over, and you have no support around you because everyone’s just like, “It’s your own damn fault that you’re fat.” Right?
Fat and overeating are a symptom not a cause
Fat is a symptom. Overeating is a symptom. Just because there’s a correlation, doesn’t mean that there’s a causation. And, just because you can torture some weight off of a person by depriving them of calories, does not mean they’ve actually lost weight. It means that they’re going to regain it. The second you take your eye off that ball, you’re going to regain that weight. And, you cannot bring up lifelong willpower. You cannot ever, not take your eye off of that. The second anything happens in your life, the second something happens to distract you – somebody in your family dies, some crisis comes up, the water heater breaks, a child needs braces, and now, you’ve you got to take a second job – you’re fucked; the weight’s back on. Because you can’t bring up that kind of strength; and you don’t have to. You don’t have to. It isn’t about the food.
Now, that doesn’t mean that food’s not important. Because, again, if you’re eating a bunch of stuff that is harming your body, you’re not doing yourself any favors. And you’re not leaving it a lot of energy to actually heal anything with it, because now, it’s got to deal with all that crap. So, it isn’t that food doesn’t play any role at all, but it isn’t about calories-in, calories-out. That has actually been scientifically proven now. So, anybody that still believes that, please educate yourself. This is such a hard belief to shift. It really is; it certainly was for me. But, I think that by putting out a video like this, maybe I can give some people out there, a little bit of hope that what they feel inside, the voice that’s inside of them saying that it isn’t about the food, it’s got to be about something else. Maybe I’ve been trying to do this for decades; maybe it’s about something else. Hopefully, that will give you a little bit of validation.
That’s one of the big things I had to let go of: shame around food, shame around exercise; just shame, shame about being fat.
Make peace with your body and change your beliefs
I know, this has been a really long video, but I’m trying to do my best to give you guys as much as I can here. So, again, you know, bottom-line is: This is body-led weight loss, which means that you have to make peace with your body, you have to make friends with your body; you have to learn to trust your body – that’s a process. You have to let go of all the beliefs you have around food and exercise, and about how weight loss actually happens. That was a big one for me.
And then of course, any beliefs that you have that make it important for you to be fat. Your fat might be about protecting you. It might be about making yourself less visible, because you’re hiding behind your fat. Which doesn’t make logical sense, but that’s the paradox. Right? It might be just – and it’s really, inherently – all fat is a stored energy. It’s physically stored energy; it’s also energetically stored energy, and for some reason you’re storing energy. Part of it can be that you’re just protecting yourself. Again, creating a layer, that you have some fears; that the fat is making you feel safer in some way. For example, if you’re a woman, you might have fears around men finding you attractive; that might be dangerous. But, if you’re fat, you won’t be found as attractive, according to your belief system. And, therefore, it makes you safer.
But also, backed-up energy can be about: I’m not allowing myself to step to the next level. I’m bringing in more energy than I’m pushing out. Or, I’m pushing out more energy than I’m bringing in. For those of you who are givers, who love to sacrifice yourself for others; a lot of you are going to have a weight problem, because you’re giving out more than you’re getting. You are creating an energy imbalance, and that can cause a storage of energy.
You have to do the energy work
There can be all kinds of reasons, and I can’t go into all of those beliefs here today, because they’re as varied as humans are. But, what it comes down to, is doing the energy work. And, you know what? It might seem slower in the get-go, because you don’t instantly start losing weight, although, you do, pretty much, start feeling better right away. But, it isn’t any slower, because the other way is: You lose a bit of weight; you regain it, plus some. You lose a bit of weight; you regain it, plus some. You lose a little bit of weight; you regain it, plus some. And so, how is that faster?? How is that faster? You’ve got to stop looking for the magic pill, and you’ve got to start doing the work. And, the real work is working on yourself. Facing the things in your life, setting boundaries, facing what you don’t like. Facing how you’ve been sacrificing yourself in ways that you don’t want to. Facing how you’ve been treating yourself.
I wasn’t treating myself very well at all. I was very, very willing, like I said; If you’d come to me and said, “We’re going to take ten years off your life, but you’ll be thin forever.” I would have taken that deal. I would have taken that deal. I did not care about myself enough to say, “No; we’re not doing that.” I didn’t care enough about myself to say, “I’m not going to damage myself, physically. I’m not going to damage my health in order to – fuck that!! Fuck, damage me; just make me lose weight.” I didn’t care.
That was a big part of the journey as well. Learning to care enough about myself to say: “Not at any cost! Not at any cost.” And, you might already be there, which means, that you’re well ahead of where I was when I really started, even consciously, started down this journey. But, it is about learning to trust your body. Learning to trust yourself; learning to treat yourself well, and to honor yourself. And, the more you do that, the more your body is going to be able to just release that weight; and do it without you even having to try.
I get emails all the time from people saying, “Oh my God! We had a coaching session, and in the last month, I dropped 20 lbs. Just like that; I didn’t even do anything.” And, I’m like, “Hmm; hmm.” And, then of course, I’d be like, “My clients are losing weight, why am I not losing weight?” And then, it just, sort of, happened.
Why I no longer weigh myself
I don’t know exactly how much weight I’ve lost now, because I had a little manifestation. I had a little inkling that, maybe I should stop weighing myself. Because, I found that I had just this tiny, little bit of trepidation before stepping on the scale, it gets real subtle. But, it was just this very subtle trepidation before getting on the scale, and I recognized it as this little, tiny lack of trust, and I thought, “Nah, it’s so tiny, and I want to know!!” So, I overrode it, and the next week, my scale broke. Just stopped working! It’s a digital scale; it just stopped working, and I got the message. I’m not going to fix it; I’m not going to repair it. So, unfortunately, I won’t be able to post, like, “I’ve lost this much weight now!” But, I want to say: “I don’t care! I don’t care.”
Oh, that’s another thing; I’m actually heavier than I look. I’ve been this weight before, and I was a lot bigger at this weight. I asked my body, I said, “What gives? Like, why am I heavier?” And, the body just chuckles at me and says, “What do you care what you weight?” And, I’m like, “I know, I know. I don’t care.” (I do a little bit still – I’m working on it; I’m working on it.) But, I’m like, “Yeah, I don’t really, but, you know, I still want to understand, like, why am I heavier?” And, my body says, “Because, we’re not getting rid of muscle mass or bone density.” And, I’m like, “Oh!” And he goes, “Normally, when you diet you’re getting rid of a lot of muscle mass and bone density, because you’re not losing weight in concurrence with the body, so it’s going to come from wherever. Right?” And, they said, “Do you know how much muscle it takes to carry around a body that size?” And, I’m like, “A lot?” And, it’s like, “Hmm; hmm! And, your bones are denser than they’ve ever been, and because of that, you are heavier at a smaller size, because we’re not getting rid of any of that.”
Oh, by the way, losing pure fat, I can see every 2 to 3 lbs; I can see them in the mirror. And, at my height, usually I could lose 10 lbs and not see it in the mirror. But, that’s because it wasn’t 10 lbs of fat. It was 10 lbs of all kinds of other crap, and some fat.
So, body-led weight loss is the way to go. I promise I will publish more information as I get more insights. And then, I can also build off of this video, since it’s already super-long. But this is the information that I could give you here today. Hopefully, it’s been helpful; let me know what you think down in the comments.
This was my really, really big one, and I’m ecstatic, but not quite ready to teach it at this moment. But hopefully soon, because it’s a big intention for me.
So, until next time, I’m going to send you big smooshy, smooshy, happy shiny puppy hugs. Bye.
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Thank you for this video! I would love more particulars about listening to what your body wants. Are you meaning to notice how your body reacts to a particular food? Are you meaning taking a moment to discern what you really want vs. what cues around you are signalling you to desire?
Yes, to both of those. It starts with paying attention to how certain foods and actions (like exercise) make you feel. Instead of assuming it’s good or bad for you, actually looking for the feedback. As you get better at listening to your body, you can begin to discern what things WILL feel like before you actually do them or eat the foods. So, you sit with a food for a few seconds and you can get feedback on whether or not it’s going to agree with you and serve you. Then, you get begin to get messages about what your body wants – so you don’t have to sit with the food, you just get the message to eat something or do something. It’s a progression and it all depends on your ability to receive that information, as well as the resistance you have to that information. For example, if your body wants chocolate, you may negate that if you believe chocolate is fattening or whatever.
Does that answer your question? <3
Congrats Melody! Everything you said in the video is so inspiring. It has helped me for sure to intuitively trust and go with what my body wants. Thanks
I enjoyed this, thank you, I read the transcript and watched the video. Acting in a body-led way would be great for non-weight reasons too, and I really like the idea of asking my body what it wants.
One thing stood out for me though, and I hope this won’t come across as too annoying haha! You spoke a few times about people/society thinking that overweight people are lazy, weak, shouldn’t be eating cheese burgers, etc. I’ve never thought or come across anyone saying these (ignorant and unkind!) things. One thing I’ve learned from you and Abraham-Hicks is that what you experience (including what you hear others say) is about your own point of attraction. So, I wonder if you still have some limiting beliefs about what others/society think.
Thanks again, I’ll be listening to body more today 🙂
You look fantastic Melody! Thank you so much for sharing this part of your journey, you’ve given me so much to think about. i think that my body has been trying to gently lead me in a new dietary direction but I haven’t been listening. This video has really inspired me to start listening and to start loving! Thank so much.
Wow, through all the comments I realised just how much out of touch with my body I have always been – and understanding that and realizing that, looking forward so much to changing it. I realised I am always in the process of either losing or gaining weight. I have no idea what my body needs and how much of it etc. I want to start listening to it. I think we are trained out of it as children by the “you must eat three meals a day thing” . Parents worry when their children wont eat and then sort of force them to…Children sometimes eat nothing and then sometimes scoff down body builder sized plates of food. And then grown ups try to change all that and force them to eat a certain amount at certain times. While all the while the children are just trying to do what their bodies ask of them.
thank you so much for this video!
You confirm what I have been feeling for the past year ( And guess what? I’ve lost about 20 kg this way!).
Thank you for making me feel much stronger in my belief in myself and my body.
I wish I could hug you.
Awesome Melody! I’m sooo happy for you! You found the Grail!
I’m on a Grail quest myself (to loose weight) and it’s so important to have a fellow seeker busting some disempowering myths! It was high time to call the BS Fairy on this!
What resonated the most with me was the contrast between a slender image versus a number on some scale. This is so true and it’s incredible how we are willing to trust the scale rather than our own eyes and inner wisdom!
The analogy with the faithful servant really hit home for me.
There is a message we are sending to the body in order to keep that weight on. We may not be aware of that but there usually is a deep rooted fear we have to uncover.
As an idea for a next video, could you tell us how you navigated from being AWARE of your fears to NOT ACTING through your fears anymore? Is it a leap of faith?
Oh My God, look at you !!! You’ve really lost weight.. every word what you have said in the video is true with me.. now I’ve come to the conclusion that I’ll talk to my body and eat and do what it wants.. while I was thinking that, I happen to see this video, and bingo you are saying the same… That means my body manifested this to tell me !!!! Thank you sooo much…
Congrats on your weight loss and actually understanding it on a deeper sense. Whereas I’m skinny and have never really had an issue with my weight, I have been learning more about how food affects me, hence why I eat more vegetables and fruits more so than meat. Not because it healthier or whatever, but because it’s what I’m drawn to eat at that time. I guess it’s a form of intuitive eating. I do understand overeating (yes us skinny people CAN overeat) but again, I’ve never really had that issue because my body simply lets me know “hey we’re not hungry anymore. We don’t really want that last bite”. Now from this, yes I don’t have a huge issue with my body, but I DO understand going through your big wants in life. Yours is weight loss and understanding your body more. Mine is money and relationships, more so money. So I definitely gain some inspiration in seeing your journey with one of your big life goals or wants. Thanks so much for sharing your journey so far!
There are just too many amazing things about this video, I don’t know where to start! First of all, this is very likely the best video you have ever done. The flow is beautiful to watch, you’re just so radiant and at ease. Second, you did it, yay!! Even though my holy grail is different from yours, watching this gave me, and everyone else I’m sure, such a boost in continuing the journey. Losing weight doesn’t have to be hard, you don’t have to sell your soul to the devil and suffer and beat yourself up for the rest of your life just because you want to be thinner. Same goes for being rich. Or finding a partner. Or being successful in doing what you love. Or anything else you want. You’ve proved it now, it can be done. Go you!
Thanks for sharing, Melody. Very inspiring. 🙂 Congratulations on the effortless weight loss! I’ve never liked the “fat people” stereotypes either!! My weight has been up and down. I’ve lost weight in the past few years but feel like I still have shame for having been bigger, and about putting any on again. This article about radical permission reminds me of what you mention in the video: https://stronginsideout.com/radical-permission-food-obsession/
My “big thing” (or one of them) is a romantic relationship. It does seem like lots of us have something that seems like the hardest thing to manifest. But videos like yours are encouraging. 🙂
Loved the whole video as usual, but from 7:10 to 7:40 in video is the BEST!! You are so genuine, honest and down to earth, I love it!! Couldn’t have said it better myself! LMFAO!
Melody! You look amazing! You are pretty and beautiful at any weight! I just hope you are feeling healthier and happier and are where you want to be. Thanks for sharing!
Thank you for speaking about this, Melody. I’ve had experiences quite akin to yours and it’s always good and validating to hear accounts like these. The video really brought me back to the times my body and I felt the most connected or when it came through for me when I needed it, provided that I stopped getting in its way. I’m kind of a baby and I had a good cry about it. Especially thinking about how we inflict such stress and abuse upon our bodies and they still listen and try their best to function despite the conditions we put them in. 🙂 I’ve always had an affinity for human bodies so to be able to work with it so closely (that sounds odd, but I’m not sure how else to put it) has been super interesting and rewarding. I like how honest you were about the fact that you still have some trust issues with your body, too. When you’ve spent so long punishing and blaming your body for everything, that inkling of distrust can linger around for some time even after you’ve seen how capable it is. I definitely have a bit more of an inkling of distrust left but I hope to soften the grip on that and allow its release in time. 😀 Congrats on your WL and your energy release.
I love how your videos have been syncing up with me lately. My weight had been a big issue for me all my life and I actually started fasting a few days ago so I could know when I was actually hungry, because I just felt empty all the time and I could never get full.
I’m so proud of you and look forward to our weight loss journeys together!
Very interesting video, Melody! While listening I was thinking about the title of your next book and then read through the comments and saw that Peg Haust-Arliss had come up with the same (pretty obvious, I guess) idea that I had. (One suggestion: trademark “Body-Led Weight Loss”! ) I was really glad that you talked a little about non-saggy skin because you had mentioned that in passing during Reality Academy but never elaborated regarding the why of it. Or else I totally missed it when you did elaborate because my brain was going “OMG – I never thought of that before when I saw pictures of starving children.” I had lost about 10 pounds over a year ago without planning to and, although it felt great, I didn’t like the way it looked because of the wrinkly skin. So I gained some weight back and would like to lose it again but had that image of my skin that was keeping me from doing it. So thanks very much for that understanding!
and …..for me a stumbling point on the body led thing ………. which i guess must still be driven by a desire to punish the body in someway …… is that here is still that weird place where even though we know that eating something will make us feel rubbish and even though the body might tell us this ………….we still can stop ourselves from eating it anyway !!. It really must all fall into place once the ‘body love’ kicks in and then there is no way we would want to eat something that would harm it anymore than we might want to stick a knife in ourselves. !!
Melody, this video was direct confirmation and validation that I’m on the right path and listening to my body as well.T Thank you so much for sharing your “play-in-progress “ with us and I look forward to continuing with the LOA Academy group.
Loved this video, Melody! Thank you for sharing what you have learned so far and I’m so excited to hear more in the future. I felt such relief when you expressed your anger at some of the wrong beliefs out there–must be that I have some anger over those ridiculous shaming beliefs, too! Love this video and am so happy for you. You truly do look like you are beaming with happiness from within.
Hi Melody – you look so fab – whats shows is the glow of self love.
That thing people have when they are truly comfy in their own skin.
I SO resonated with your video. I haven’t been greatly overweight but for years had anorexia. I felt so huge that it didn’t matter what my shape was to the outside. I don’t know how it is to have been very overweight and for those who are overweight they don’t know how it is to be starving yourself to death and feeling obese. I can guess that it is equally lonely and it seems to equally disturb other people. It is really lonely inside when you feel hugely fat but your body isn’t visibly looking that way to others – you feel huge and others are freaking out that you are a skeleton. It’s a head fuck.
Once you master it and get back to looking a bit more normal the mindset is still there but people tell you “what are you moaning about and that you should feel lucky” and yet inside it feels as shameful and horrible as you describe. The same extreme body hate, the same lack of body trust, the same feeling of living embedded in flesh that is betraying you and that you would do anything to escape from. The same wish that you could rip parts of your body off physically to feel lighter. Self punishing routines of excercise and detoxing – anything to get ‘control’ over the body. It is so painful to write this and see how cruel i was to my body …….. and to see how after years of trying to stand by me and deal with the onslaught of ‘attack’ from my mind, starvation, pushing it to a limit … it couldn’t cope and keep up with me anymore. My thryoid packed up and auto-immune (self attack) stuff set in.
All that time my loyal un-judging body was trying to stand by me and be my companion and I all i did was blame it and punish it for the feelings I had inside that I thought were related to it and my physical shape.
When my thyroid went and suddenly my weight did start to creep up it was so traumatic – I had to seriously look at holding myself gently with kindness as my body tried to cope and i tried to cope with it and with its new unpredictable ways. I became so scared that the ‘ controlling food dictating body punishing dragon monster’ would re-emerge from my younger years that I became scared to do any exercise or control food or diet in any way. Here i was manifesting weight gain after years of ‘feeling too fat when i was a skeleton’ and too terrified to know how to risk making any change to ‘cure’ it… and no-one even to talk to due to an attitude of “well that serves you right after thinking you were fat when you were emaciated”.
Even worse, I became jealous and threatened by anyone who seemed to be able to be a ‘master of their body shape’ because I was so confused by mine and how to trust my mind or my body.
I really really understand the pain of the body image hate mindset and of feeling stuck in a body that feels repulsive and you want to destroy. I know how cruel that inner hateful talk can be. I know some folk will think ” well it cant have felt that bad if you weren’t overweight ” ……. to me it felt as if I was. Some people even wish they could be anorexic instead as if it is a ‘better option’. It is the same pain inside … the actual body is almost irrelevant… because the inner pain and repulsion is so similar.
I too would have taken that pill. There is even still apart of me that still would… even though i try to hold and love and respect my body in the way you describe … there is still apart which can’t totally. I wonder if the rejection and repulsion of the body is sometimes the soul never making peace with be enclosed in that way ??
It is inspiring to see your video because i resonated with what you are saying .. once we are eating from a body led place of self love then we are free.
I am so releaved that I am not is such a body hate place as I was but I still have a ways to go and can’t look at my full body in the mirror. My body that has never done anything other than love me all my life.
In Anita Moorijani’s book i recall her saying – we can eat the healthiest of foods but if we are eating them through a fear of ill health or from a place of body hate they will do us less good that eating ‘unhealthy’ foods from a place of love. That more important than what foods we eat is the attitude we eat our food with. Checkout the love / hate rice experiment on youtube – this is what we put into our body.
I too am interested in how it works with the body led food in reality … it is so easy (until you get to that true place of eating from love) to still turn it into a format of “what should I eat and when, etc” and so hard to get out of that mindset. I can imagine it is hard to describe it because it is a transformation that just needs to occur inside each of us and can’t be forced.
I crave sugary things and so I could say my body is leading me to that and trust it or I could think .. it is filling a gap or emotional eating or another body punishing action …… but i guess the point is – whatever the reason – to eat that sugar from a place of as much love as possible and not add more negativity to it through self-talk and eventually through that self love attitude the types of food and when we eat them will naturally come into harmony so that we are only eating what is good for us energetically (which might still be a big chunk of happy self love cake).
My feeling is that for those of us that are still in the process of coming into body led alignment (as you have done) that as much as possible we should forget the ‘food details’ and the search for the ‘rigid technique of when and how’ and try to eat everything we do eat with as much kindness to ourselves as we can ……… although I know from where I stand right now that even that can feel like an alien concept and not so easy to do it and have it feel ‘true’.
Sorry that this was a long sharing.
Thank you for being inspiring and for giving hope.
I have to say maybe something is in the air regarding loosing weight. I recently lost 20 lbs. same way as you. It just came off. I did ask the Universe, I told it where I wanted to loose and it just fell off. The thing is I also walked everywhere while I was on vacation in Spain for seven weeks and that was it. I ate as much as I wanted to. The food was healthy though. When I got home I found out that my ex also lost a lot of weight as well. He said he just put it out there to the Universe and he lost like 15 lbs. No dieting, like you, we just followed what our bodies said. Ate what we wanted( but no junk) directed by Source. No skinny face, old age look. etc. I actually feel glam. So I am with you. Keep up the good work. Feels great does it not? I am healthier than ever and look younger.
I am glad I am on the page as you! Love you girl.
Great video. Thanks for sharing your journey. I’ve read books about intuitive eating. The one crucial thing that they and you have in common is being able to communicate with the body’s wisdom. You repeatedly mention how you listen to your body’s messages. What I want to know is how to establish that communication channel. Try as I might, I’ve never been able to get clear messages from my body. I hope as you flesh out your teachings it will include how to develop this capacity. Looking forward to hearing more about your journey.
If I may, I faced the same confusion about how exactly do we listen to our bodies. The starting point for me was anything which put my body at ease. The clear distinction here being the ease felt by and driven by my body and not mind. Sometimes, quieting the chaos in our minds may enable us to hear what our body needs. It’s very subtle and you may have to be a certain degree of calm to hear it. I started with meditation and plenty of sleep. Also, remembering energy resides in our bodies and not the conscious, ego driven mind. So if you ask a question, an answer may not become immediately apparent to the mind. I started therefore with feeling comfortable within my body. Hope this helps. Hugs 🙂
Been waiting for this one! You’re always such a helpful inspiration. Been resonating with your teachings and your style for years. I actually had a hang up around my own weight for a while that said “If Melody is still working through this, how the hell am I going to do it?” (as if we didn’t each have our own things to gain from the experience separately). Anyway, you poked a big hole in THAT belief today with being so transparent about your own experience and with the revelation that you really were still getting so much from the manifestation and it wasn’t just “stuck” so to speak, like I sometimes think mine is and will be forever. So thank you thank you thank you for that. <3 Big smushy hugs right back to you.
Smooshy hugs!! This is so fabulous and you look amazing. Just gorgeous!
Fascinating video, I’m delighted for you and I’m sure this will be helpful for many. Smooshy hugs to all!
Very cool video!
Two days ago I started a 4 week caffein detox. It feels good energetically, but it’s definitely a physical challenge. It’s hard for me to imagine myself ever not loving coffee, but I think I will learn things from this detox, I hope at least!
Omg! This video was the best I’ve ever seen (for me of course) You look great btw! Makes total sense, your insights and all natural delivery really spoke to me! I’m so excited to dig into the beliefs this has brought to the surface. Hopfully one day very soon this work will lead me to body lead weight loss too!
Thank you Thank you Thank you! Did mention how great you look?! 😉
This was such a fun video! Congrats on your success, Melody. When you have more you want to share about the topic, I hope you’ll explain intuitive eating a little more. I read your blog posts and a couple books about it, but I can’t seem to get to the point where my body asks for healthy things. One book said you might eat only brownies for a week or two but then you’ll get tired of it and crave something else….Well, that just doesn’t happen for me. I’ve also read that you should kick all the really unhealthy stuff first (like brownies), eat only healthy things for a while, and then start trusting your cravings–but my cravings just stay on the junk nonstop, even after weeks or months of cleansing and eating the good stuff. Anyway, I’m sure more details will work their way forward for us overanalyzing peeps! Thanks for sharing your shiny happy puppy energy with us all. 🙂
Body-led weight loss.
Money-led wealth gain. Money-led abundance gain, if you prefer.
I’m going to start talking directly to that part of me now, and letting it guide me.
Nice work, that’s a huge accomplishment! My question is, HOW does your body communicate to you what it wants you to eat? I’ve understood your theory from Abraham teachings but haven’t been able to get the communication part. I know when my body wasn’t happy with what I ate but what it wants is hard for me. I am a picky eater and like very few vegetables. And I believe you’re not suppose to force yourself to like something. So how do I learn what my body wants?
Yes that was my question also! I get listening to your body in simple terms. I’ve been doing Weight Watchers for a long time and been pretty successful until I quit smoking this December. Now my body won’t lose. I try to shake it up by taking a break and eat crap, and then I feel like crap. But then I start eating well again and even though I feel better, no losses. I often thought maybe I am blocking it by thinking “I can’t lose now because I quit smoking”. Because everyone knows that changes your metabolism (limiting belief). So I try to stop making that connection but still no loss.
Body led weight loss. Yes! Finally weight loss that makes some frickin sense. This is what I know matters, but it is so counteractive (is that a word?) in our society. Thank you so much for sharing and getting the word out.
That is an amazing transformation and sooooooooooo happy to enjoy not only your joy in the process, but your learnings as well! Amazing self-love right there! I think we all have body image issues (at least to a degree) so, it’s VERY useful to learn what we can do to shift that into loving our body and honoring who we are and what works for us. 🙂 I went through surgery for scoliosis when I was a teenager and a big desire I have is to be able to correct my natural spinal column curves and posture naturally, so now I’m paying close attention to my body and how it feels when I stand, sit or lie down, and I’m noticing what minute corrections make my body feel more relaxed and happy. It’s a beautiful healing journey to love and self-connection, and I’m very happy to have your guidance and learnings to inspire and help me listen to myself deeper too.
I’m glad someone finally said what came to me a long time ago. Diet and exercise is not it. What came to me, is that food had no power. It never did!! Those were beliefs, not power. I am INFINITE INTELLIGENCE. The INTELLIGENCE (CONSCIOUSNESS) that created the body is the INTELLIGENCE (CONSCIOUSNESS) that sustains it, if allowed to. INFINITE INTELLIGENCE IS THE BODY, IT IS THE FOOD, IT IS EVERYTHING! INTELLIGENCE is the sugar, the butter the carrot, the kale. INTELLIGENCE IS. I am that I am, and I am that I be. What we shed are those limiting beliefs. Thanks Melody, much love, Carla
Thank you.. I have somehow always ‘known’ this.. From own experience. But this is not what we are told… So glad to hear to hear you talk about it. Keep going.. Deeply inspirational…
Melody, I LOVE LOVE LOVE your raw honesty in this video. I relate to almost everything you’ve stated (except the 35 day fast). Weight has been a lifelong struggle for me too, and I also would have gobbled up that weight-loss-for-ten-years-life pill. Of course my big question is how do you get to the point where you can listen to your body’s true signals and not head hunger, food cravings, etc. Right now I couldn’t imagine eating only once a day or forgetting to eat altogether. I’m looking forward to more videos from you on this topic. Keep up the great work!
I received a very similar message of clarity after sleeping for a month (not planned) and then doing a 7 day fast. I was also led to a person who filled in the missing pieces for me to finally understand once and for all. Bottom line, its all in trusting the divine wisdom of our bodies. I mean, look, mine knows how to replace half a million cells every day without me telling it, it breathes in and out by itself (no blonde jokes here), it grows hair, eliminates toxins, gives me things like hearing and vision and being able to taste pizza. It knows how to heal. I just had to learn how to trust.
Dear Melody, you look amazing !
Could you make a video about relationships too please ? That ‘s my big issue, and as a fellow Lightworker I have a problem attracting the One. I know this used to be a problem for you as well, and it’s not a problem anymore, because you mentioned it in one of your latest videos. Or do you think I should just let my Soul take over, like you let your body take over ?
Anybody who is reading this and has manifested his/ her ideal partner I’m looking forward to hear how you did it, if you feel like sharing.
As alwasy Melody this was very helpful, though I never had weight problems, but it was very inspirational and interesting anyway.
Thank you very much, I ‘m sending you lots of LOVE.
That’s one of my big issues too! Would also like to see a relationship video. 🙂
You look amazing, beautiful, and happy and your words are so clearly heartfelt. Love this video, possibly one of my favourite ones. XX
Yay!!🤗. That was a great super duper inspirational video for me who has been yo yoing on diets since my 6th grade . I was underweight when I started school and I started picking up weight after the 3rd grade . I remember on one of my diets I was following it diligently but I was in fact increasing weight . My body craved for a chocolate bar and I kind of listened to it and had it . The next day surprisingly I had lost weight . Although my nutrionist failed to believe, that was when I realised that my body was holding on to the weight due to chocolate 😋. About the lazy and willpower thing I absolutely agree . As a fat person im constantly told by my family that you won’t find a nice handsome groom if you stay far and oh yes and the baby problems too. Like you won’t be able to bear a child and you won’t be able to have a successful career . I have seen my cousins who were sports persons Having problems giving birth , even my mother not buying certain Dresses for me but for my cousin coz she’s thin and hence it looks good on her but not you . And yes, that feeds the body shame and makes you stress eat and over eat like a freight train without a driver . No controls and can collide anytime . I have had people whom I just met once telling me to have green tea and giving me contacts of weight loss doctors even without asking for it and they consider it as helping. 😒. The funniest part is I always end up loosing weight when I travel inspite of eating everything . On our Indian culture to top it up , skinny girls are accepted in all aspects while fat girls , there’s always the being fat point that people use to score upon . Thanks for the wonderful video and I hope you turn this into a weight loss series and probably an energy based body transformation movement later when you figure it out for yourself ? That would be fun 😃
Your comment stood out as I was rereading this article. I totally relate to your experiences. Most of my family is thin and I’m the only one who’s not (I’m not fat-fat, I’m of normal to fat body-size, hence to them, I’m like super fat). This causes my mom to obsess and worry over my body, telling me to diet and exercise and technically making me FEEL as if I’m obese, which I am not, which growing up, makes me fatter. Ironically, she’s thin and yet she’s also obsessing and worrying over her own weight. She tells me she’s concerned about my health, that because I’m overweight, I’m more prone to sicknesses and such. Truth is, I’m not! I’m super healthy and I don’t get sick! My brothers who are really thin get all sorts of sicknesses so I don’t believe one bit that thin=super healthy. Also, I also feel lighter (I can’t tell if I lost weight because I don’t weigh myself) when I travel even if I eat a lot too.
Hey Tiffany . I knew that’ thin people are conscious of their weight but haven’t come across anyone who obsesses over it unless he or she used to be fat and has really struggled to loose that weight and is trying hard to keep it off for good or those who have health problems especially of the spine whose weight gain triggers pain . But even then I have seen many thin people eating like a hog and still being skinny . But yes, the overall health and well being of your body doesn’t just tie down to your body weight but to your bone structure , density and your overall stamina and strength and flexibility too . I have heard many fat girls doing yoga effortlessly . But yes I Also know ladies who have done bizarre things to keep off the gain and then their bodies have lashed back at them in insidious ways . I guess when we travel atleast I’m on the move , I’m active and to be Honest off the judgement mark so I can do , walk , eat and speak the way I can as I’m interacting with u known people who donot have and about whom I donot have preconceived notions and I guess that’s what makes it easy . Since they don’t know u they won’t judge u by ur habits or past or how you are In your normal home environment. Off late however I realised my body felt much at ease and lighter when I left meat, chicken and fish and ate only vegetarian meals . My mind became alert , and overall my body felt nice and yes I became more aware too of what’s going on in my life .
Melody, you look and sound wonderful! It’s delightful to hear you talk unbridled. I have been reading your blog long enough to remember your posts on detox..and thought at the time that you were being too hard on yourself. Now, you seem truly at peace with the fact that we absolutely don’t need to torture ourselves to loose weight. Though I have to say, you were equally lovely then as you’re now..I never noticed the weight. Also, wonderful insights..calorie counting is passe. The body shamers can go you know where 😉 Loved this post..you go girl! Smooshy hugs 🙂
lol, was that the Apple Juice and Olive Oil Detox? Man that was a bad experience, never again! 🙂
I used to do that too. The mind shuddereth 😉 It works if it is organic..nothing forced.
Congratulations Melody, you look fantastic, not just with the weight loss but with the glow of happiness.
Thank you for sharing this.
You look awesome Melody <3
Just loved this so much. This has been a long-running issue for me, too. I’ve put it in the background for a while now, because I just didn’t know what to do about it and it just made me feel horrible to think about. My “big issue” has been money, but now that is probably 95% resolved, so I think soon I’ll be looking at the weight thing.
I hate exercise, like absolutely hate it, so I loved hearing that you aren’t putting yourself through that either. I’ve tried calorie counting repeatedly, and have had some success, but as you said at some point it just becomes impossible to keep up.
I’ve long believed that there must be another way, but just have never found it. So thanks for this video.