Awesome Sonja wanted to know how she could better tune into her body and what it actually wants? Which foods are actually appropriate, which are “healthy” or “unhealthy”? Are some foods just inherently “good” or “bad”, and if not, how can we tell the difference? Is sugar bad for you? What about processed foods? Are vegetables always the answer? How can we stop judging and line up with the body we truly want?
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Caller – I kind of wrote down, quickly as well, a question: How do you best understand and hear your body’s signals, and, sort of, get in tune with your body when you’re trying to start eating intuitively? And also, what’s the best way to move away from judging foods as good and bad because, you know, I’ve already, sort of, come kind of far with like, not judging food. But, I still, sometimes, you know, look at, like processed food, or sugary stuff, and I’m like, “Ok! That’s not as good as vegetables, for example.”
Melody – Ok! So, we want to stop looking at food in a – as a universal, sort of, judgment, or value judgment, kind of way. Like, this food is good, this food is bad, and make it an individual thing. This food is good for me – this food is bad for me.
Caller – Hmmm!
Melody – And you use, not the data that you’ve gathered, or your belief systems about that food so much. Because, those could be completely screwy; you pay attention to how it makes you feel when you consume it.
Caller – Hmmm!
Melody – Now, that includes emotionally, because if you love ice cream, and you’ve decided that ice cream’s not bad for you, but then, you find you feel ashamed and guilty after eating, you’ve got to pay attention to that.
Caller – Ok!
Melody – Because, you don’t feel good about having eaten it. And so, you have to pay attention to that as well. In the beginning your diet might be a little bit restricted as you’re figuring out what you can really feel good about, and then, as that works, you can expand it.
If you’re not able to hear your body’s messages, and most people are not, and the body’s messages might even be screwed up, and then, people might say: “I tried Intuitive eating, but, you know, I just craved pizza all day!” And, it’s like, “Well, I don’t think that my body really needs pizza, so obviously I’m not getting a nice clean message from it.” Well, here’s the thing – here’s how to get a nice clean message from it.
Caller – Hmmm!
Melody – What I recommend doing, and I did this many times, is, you do some kind of a detox.
Caller – Ok!
Melody – Which, really, for the most part, just means you don’t put toxic things in your body anymore. You don’t have to do a hardcore fast; you don’t have to do any of that. I’ve done all of that; and I’ve come to conclusion that we don’t actually have to do that. Our bodies can detox themselves quite well if we stop putting garbage into them. And, I know, that makes it sound like I’m judging the garbage foods; and I kind of am! But I also fully understand that if somebody doesn’t have that reaction to those foods, then they can eat them, no problem.
So, garbage foods, is again, very subjective; depends on what it is for you. So, what I would start off with, what I recommend doing, is: You get rid of all processed and artificial foods. Maybe not forever, just for a little while.
Caller – Ok!
Melody – And, you bring yourself down to a nice medium where you’re eating fresh foods. And, you don’t have to do this all at once; you can do this bit-by-bit. But you’re eating fresh foods; you’re eliminating a lot of things out of your diet, just temporarily, really, just temporarily. And, you need to keep reiterating that to yourself, that it’s just temporarily, because you’re going to start adding things back in.
Caller – Yeah.
Melody – But, if you can do that where you eliminate most of the food, and you just eat very, very naturally for a week or so, and then you start bringing foods back in, but you do it one-by-one. And, you can bring in anything you want. If it’s McDonalds you want, then bring in McDonalds, see what happens. But you do it one-by-one, because you want to pay attention to how that makes you feel. This is accurate feedback.
Caller – Ok!
Melody – This is communication from your body. “I ate that, and I felt super tired afterwards. I ate that, and I got massive gas. I ate that, and I couldn’t sleep for heartburn. I ate that, and I had a ton of energy. I ate that, and I felt really, really good. I ate that, and I didn’t get hungry for 6 hours.”
Caller – Ok! So, it should be like, really like, introducing one at a time, sort of?
Melody – Yeah! So you can know what it was. If you eat 5 new foods in a meal, and then you get indigestion how do you know which one of those that was?
Caller – Hmmm!
Melody – Right? But, if you just add one thing in at a time, and you can notice, “Ok, this made me feel good, this made me feel bad.” And then, the things that make you feel bad, those are the ones you don’t eat right now.
Now, it’s still right now, because that could change again in the future. As your energy shifts that food could become totally compatible again. But that’s your body saying, “Right now that’s not good for me.”
Now, that’s not too hard because once you recognize that something makes you feel like shit, it doesn’t take a lot of willpower to not eat that thing anymore. It doesn’t feel like you’re depriving yourself of it. And, you might be surprised, even foods that you’ve decided are healthy could cause a bad reaction, and foods you decided are unhealthy, could have no reaction.
Caller – Ok!
Melody – So, it’s not about this is this food, this is that food, this is good, this is bad. It’s, is it fat, is it protein, is it…. I would go by how my body feels.
Caller – Yeah!
Melody- Now, by doing that, I have discovered that there’s a lot of foods that my body doesn’t like. I don’t want those foods, if I’m honest, but there’s a lot of foods that my body doesn’t like. For me, anything artificial and processed is a no-no. I get indigestion immediately; my body has a very strong reaction to it. For the last 6 months I’ve been violently lactose intolerant. I cannot have any dairy. Now, I never really liked dairy to begin with, so it’s not a big hardship for me, but I can’t have any dairy. But, even if it was, after going through that much pain after having a little bit of dairy, there’s no way I’m eating dairy.
Caller – No!
Melody – Now, that could change. In 6 months I could be like, “Oh, cheese!” But, right now, don’t want it. I feel better if I don’t eat wheat, for example. I don’t need a lot of meat, but I do need meat. So, I tried to be raw vegan; and I was raw vegan for quite some time, and then I was vegan. For much longer I was vegetarian, and at some point, I always, twice a year, I needed beef. I just needed it, there was nothing else I could do that would give me that level of satisfaction; my body needed it for some reason.
And so, I’m not big about creating rules around food, I think it’s an individual journey of discovering what works for you. And, if you’re not able to hear your body’s messages yet, which you probably aren’t, you can hear your body’s messages through how things make you feel.
Caller – Yeah!
Melody – And then, trust that the things that make you feel good, are good for you. That’s your body saying, “Yes, this is good.” And then, the things that are not so good for you are the things that make you feel bad. And then, pay attention to that, test it out. Sometimes, you’re not sure. I went to a restaurant, I had a meal; I’m not sure what made me feel bad. But I had two things that I don’t normally eat very much. So, maybe I want to test them, or maybe I don’t want to chance ever eating them again. I don’t really care.”
But, it’s sort of discovering what works for you. And then, also, not just the foods that make you feel bad, but also the foods that make you feel really good. Because, that’s the flipside of it; you don’t think that you can find foods that are going to taste really, really good. We always think we have to get rid of all the good feeling foods because that’s what dieting is. Right? The good tasting foods we’ve got to get rid of, and the foods that are good for us are bad tasting. So, it’s a really great education for you to start looking for foods that agree with you, that you can feel good about, but that are also super tasty. So that you can have the wonderful experience of enjoying your food guilt free.
Caller – Yep! Yeah! And so then, sort of, after having listened to, like getting signals after I ate something, I will, sort of, get more signals from my body before I eat something, like. Right?
Melody – Yes! The more you pay attention to how stuff makes you feel, and you validate that, and you listen to that, the easier it will be for you to pick up a food and go, “Oh no! Oh, I don’t want this. This doesn’t look good to me at all.”
Caller – Ok!
Melody – And, that is – that is really the communication that you’re after; that you can know before. So that when you look at something, you can go, “Nah, for some reason that doesn’t….”
My body has a really strong reaction to something that isn’t going to be good for me. So, for example, I tried to make these fat bombs with Stevia, which is supposed to be all natural. But my body doesn’t think it is. And, I don’t want to take anything away from anybody, eat what you want, but it does not agree with me at all. And so, I made this whole thing of fat bombs, because I realized I needed a little bit more fat. And sometimes I’m busy, and so, I like to have those in my freezer, just in case. But I had to throw that entire batch out because the second I touched my tongue to it, my tongue started tingling, and that’s usually a reaction I get to chemicals. It tasted awful. I mean, I put the tiniest amount in the entire batch; it didn’t matter, my body was like: “NO!! No!!” I did not want it; it was awful. The whole experience was awful; the taste of it, the feel of it, the reaction to it. And so then, I just chucked all that out and did it again, with Agave this time.
Caller – What was it you made?
Melody – Fat bombs.
Caller – Ok!
Melody – They’re like pralines; they’re made of fat and coco and, usually, an artificial sweetener. I can’t do that, so, I use Agave because I asked my body what to use and it said Agave. And, I’m still losing weight, so, woohoo! And so, that’s just because my body sent me the insight that I needed to eat a little bit more fat; I wasn’t getting enough fat. I don’t eat very much, because I don’t want to; I’m not hungry. So, I went online and I looked at how you supplement fat. What are the Keto people, the Paleo people doing, because I know they have that same issue, and I came across this thing called fat bombs, which are these little chocolaty pieces of heaven, quite frankly, when they’re done right. And, you can look them up; there’s tons of recipes; if you need to.
But that was my body telling me it needed more fat. Me, being inspired to find a way to add fat in a really delicious way, but then, having to find the way that really worked for me, the way that tasted well. So, you can get to the point where your body – like, I didn’t know it until I made it though. I didn’t know it – I had to taste it – and then, my whole body went: “No!” And, I went, “Ok! That’s a big no-no!” Like, I would have had to force myself; it would have been torture for me to eat those.
So, it’s often a process of discovery. I’ll order something in a restaurant, and I’ll take one bite, and I’ll be like, “No-no! I can’t eat this. Like, it just tastes awful to me.” There’s something in it, and it’s not even necessarily something bad, it’s just something that my body doesn’t agree with in that moment. I get told that if I overrode that, I would get indigestion, and gas; and have diarrhea, or something. My body would try to get rid of it. And even then, it’s not like my body can’t handle it, but do I want to go through life like that? No! I don’t want to go through life with gas and indigestion and pain and diarrhea. I want to feel good.
And so, I think, that’s a great way to get your foot in the door. If you’re not eating a really clean diet right now, maybe clean up your diet a little bit, based on your beliefs, what you clearly think is good food and bad food, and eat a little bit cleaner. But then, start adding foods back in, one-by-one. Doesn’t have to be one a week, you could do one a day, or one every two days, whatever. But you add them back in one-by-one, so that you can isolate the data that you get from that. And, if it makes you feel good, if it makes you feel not good, and then, you pay attention to that, and you start catering to that. Because, that’s also an act of self-love; to feed yourself that, which makes you feel good, and not feed yourself that, which makes you feel bad.
Caller – Yeah!
Melody – And, that’s how you build up a communication with your body because it takes a while for you to get to trust your body. And, when you eat something, and you’re like, Oh, I guess my body doesn’t want it.” And then, two weeks later you decide, “Oh, I’m just going to eat it again.” And, it gives you the same reaction, and you’re like, “Ok, that really wasn’t good. You’re right; that wasn’t good. That wasn’t good.” You start to trust the feedback because this feedback is easy to trust, because it’s physical. It’s a lot harder when you’re looking at something, and your body’s like, “Yes, eat that.” And, you’re like, “That’s a chocolate donut!” And, my body’s like, “Yes, eat that!” And then, you’ve got to trust that. Right? It hasn’t happened with a chocolate donut, but it’s happen with fries – French fries! My body’s like, “You need to go and eat some fries!” And, I’m like, “Fries? Seriously!!” – “Yeah, fries!” And, I’m like, “Ok!” So, I go get the best fries, and I enjoy the shit out of them – So tasty!
Caller – Yeah!
Melody – I don’t know why my body needed that. Suddenly, it needs watermelon, suddenly it needs pineapple. Suddenly I have to eat an apple, for some weird reason. I don’t know what’s in it that my body needs. Because there’re so many things in those kinds of foods, in real foods; there’re so many compounds, enzymes, things in there. But I don’t know precisely what it needed, but it needed it.
Caller – Hmmm!
Melody – And then, I feel incredibly satisfied after eating something that my body has asked for; incredibly satisfied. I also now have the ability to just talk to my body and receive answers; but, I didn’t always. So, this is a great way to start off. Does that make sense?
Caller – Yeah! Yeah. Thank you so much, it was a great answer.
Melody – Good. Good, good, good. Alright, thank you for playing sweetie. I appreciate it. Fantastic question!
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Another great and interesting question and video. It seems like this is all great IF no deeper issues are driving what we eat but the whole thing seems to get complicated for me when – even if i know something isn’t good for me i somehow still go ahead and eat it because something else is driving the urge or the sabotage.
I listen to this advise and it all sounds amazing until somehow i still go and eat the cake even though I know it makes me feel shit and my body is telling me this loud and clear but i can’t find the willpower to not eat it or remove it from my diet.
It is much easier to withdraw a food when there is a real clear negative reaction like stomach cramps or diahorrea but sometimes there seem to be hidden agendas in what drives us to eat stuff and it doesn’t feel as simple as making an easy clean choice to eat or not eat something. I guess in these moments the issue isn’t about the ‘food’.xxxx
…I just want to say how beautiful the Universe is working and always softly guiding. Being a serial dieter myself, this blog post has been exceptionally inspiring … again. So, when I opened my emails right after reading the blog, the first entry was from an online store I sometimes use and the mail subject was; The Restorative Power of a Detox. Now how unbelievably cool is that! I also realized that somehow my fear of poverty (and therefore always having been a hoarder) has something to do with me hanging on to weight as well. But then I realized how abundant I am. Thank you SO much Melody for being a co-creator of my abundance. The abundance of FREE advice ALWAYS, and at ANY time available on your website, is just mind-boggling. I go back time and time again to older posts, just entering in the search engine the thing that is bothering me. And 10 minutes later I feel relieved and have a way to cope. And having a device to read the advice on, internet, etc is all such immense abundance! Thank you!
Nice video 👍🏽. Loved it .. how do you differentiate between a craving and true intention of your body to want that food ? So it’s basically how do you understand that your body is craving let’s say for pasta because it wants to satisfy and emotional need or it’s craving it because it truly wants it? I have been a stress and binge eater for a long time .whenever things aren’t going my way (which many times is ) or that there’s work and deadline , I try to enter the escape mode by eating sweets and greasy food that kinda numbs my brain and helps to me escape the anxiety associated with that work or deadline . By eating sweets I initially do feel high but that’s hardly for a few mins post which the emotional train derails and I fall into a big hole taking a great while to come back. I even fantasise excesssively in such stressful environments as truly acknowledging how u feel feels scary as the emotions are too volatile . I did lose weight a few years back and had started listening to my body , but the onset of a break up make me feel that there’s none to like u and so there’s no point trying so hard to maintain your body for pleasing a man . That made me gain back my weight. Now that I do try to walk everyday , but this eating for escapism syndrome is still there as it makes me feel good though I know it’s temporary . How can I escape the binge eating for escaping my feelings syndrome? Basically how can I approach my scary feelings in times of stress so that I’m not drawn to eating sweet or greasy food that numbs my brain to escape the pain ?
This! EXACTLY THIS! I have been losing weight like crazy and feeling GREAT, eating the NO-NO foods if that’s what I want to eat; I eat everything with enjoyment and no guilt afterwards, no matter what it is. Unless a food is something that is known to give you a purging symptom that is unwanted, eat it, enjoy it, appreciate it and it can also be used as a manifestation tool, as in you get an idea of a good that you REALLY WANT, you get it, see it, smell it, feel it, taste it and then say or write about another thing that you want to manifest; use the vibration of your more easily manifested things to help you get into the flow of the other things that you want.