A student had been inspired to do Meditation and Yoga when she was in a low place, but now that she’s feeling better, she doesn’t seem to want to practice anymore. But wouldn’t Meditation and/or Yoga still be beneficial for her? Why did she stop? What do these practices even do for us?

Find out in today’s video why Yoga and Meditation can be so helpful, but why you should never force yourself to do them.

Transcript

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Caller – My issue is that recently I have been trying to do a couple of things, like getting into meditation and trying out a yoga class. And, I think both of them have worked out really well for me. But the thing is, like, after a month or so, I have just road-blocked. Like, I find, as if, I’m in a limbo because I’m not able to get further ahead with that, or even practice it on a daily basis. Suddenly it seems like I’ve lost all the enthusiasm, although I do want to find the reasons. So, and, I feel that whatever I have studied for this, it’s like, very decent, and there are two reasons that I want through meditation/yoga. Currently, I seem to be too lazy maybe, to even practice. So, I just thought if you could throw some light on that.

Melody – Ok! So, what I hear you saying is that you get inspired to do meditation and yoga. You do it for a little while, and then you don’t want to do it anymore.

Caller – Yeah, that’s right.

Melody – But, at first, it feels good. Right?

Caller – Yeah, that’s right. I do see the benefits of it. Like 5-6 months back I wasn’t in the best shape of mind, so doing meditation actually helped me pull out of it, and actually give me glimpses of happiness. So, right now, I’m not in the depressed stage, but I’m not like very happy either. I’m more content and I know that if I keep practicing meditation, I can actually be happy. But, somewhere it’s like…

Melody – Yeah! I’ll tell you exactly what you’re doing. I’ll tell you exactly what you’re doing.

Caller – Hmmm!

Melody – You’re shitting all over it!! You are making it into work. You start off playing with it, and then you make it into work, and then you don’t want to do it anymore. As well you shouldn’t, when it feels like that. And then you think you have to make yourself do it, because you’re going to get benefit from it, and then you shit all over it like that. You want to be a lot more lighthearted and playful about it. You don’t need to mediate every day religiously. You don’t need to make into routine. Do it when you feel like doing it.

That doesn’t mean that some people don’t benefit from having a regular meditation practice, but not when it feels like that. So, do yoga when you feel like doing yoga. Do meditation when you feel like doing meditation, and if you do not feel like doing it, don’t do it that day. Otherwise you’re going to ruin it for yourself. You can ruin something that is fun for you really quickly, by forcing yourself to do it. And then, you’re not also getting the benefit from it. If you’re forcing yourself to do yoga, or forcing yourself to meditate you’re not getting benefit from it that day. You want to do it when it feels light, and good, and playful. And then, the more you engage with it like that, the more likely you are to do it regularly, because it’s fun.

If I said to you: Hey, do you have to force yourself to eat ice-cream? You’re like: “No, I don’t have to force myself; I have to force myself not too.” Like, if you won’t go ahead and eat ice-cream every day, you know, and you’re like, “Yay! I’m going to eat ice-cream every day.” Or whatever the equivalent for you is, that would be a delicious food in your life. If ice-cream’s not it, maybe it’s something else. But, would you have to force yourself to do that? No, because it’s fun; because it feels good, because it’s tasty. Right?

So, when it’s positive we don’t have to force ourselves to do it. It happens to a lot of people. You start off with the best of intentions and then you just overthink it too much. You get a little too strict, a little too regimented about it. And, it makes it not fun anymore. And then you don’t want to do it, and then you push harder because you think you should. And then, it really ruins it.

You want to stay with that light-hearted thing of: “Do I want to do this today? Do I want to do something else?” Maybe, it isn’t meditating; maybe it isn’t yoga, maybe it’s something else. Instead of being too rigid about it. Which is so, so common in my audience because we’re all overthinkers. Make sense?

Caller – Yes. I have a follow-up question, if you don’t mind? My mind says that I don’t have it all. Basically because I think, like, probably if I look back at my life, there have been times growing up I did not have financial stability, but I had a very happy, loving family with me. So, I think, like, right now I have that financial stability, but then, 6 months back, something happened and there was like a lot of emotional trauma around it. So, I think, that right now I can see all the benefits happening. I can see the perfect stage that I want to be, where I want to be, and I know the methods to get there. But I think, like, probably, there is a method also in me that if I achieve all that, then probably something bad might again happen. So, probably, just aim for mediocrity, or average, or above average, but not, like, get everything, because there is this instinct that I can’t have everything. Like, inner happiness, beautiful body, great career, happy family.

Melody – Yeah! You know what? I’m going to stop you there because you’ve given me the gist of your question. And, if you want to always downgrade your desire a little bit because if you went for the whole thing – well, you can’t have it all. So, you can have a watered-down version of it but not the real thing. Right?

And so, I want to challenge that in you, and ask you, well, why not? We’re not just going to accept this belief that says I can’t have it all. Why not? Why can’t you have it all? Let’s challenge that, let’s see if your brain can come up with any reason. It probably can’t, but let’s try.

Caller – I think, I probably – my brain is kind of like, finding factors in my historical history because growing up I never had much of money, but a lot of family happiness. And, I think, like last year was some kind of, like I thought I had it all, financially I had become very stable, and relationship-wise it was great as well. So, I think, like, that was one of the happiest moments, but somewhere, just like that, in 2018, beginning, there was a huge mess, both on the career side as well as the emotional relationship side. My brain’s trying to internalize that….

Melody – Ok, this is what I’m telling you to do. You challenge it. And see, you didn’t challenge it now; you just started talking.

Caller – Ok!

Melody – You’ve got to challenge it, which means, you’ve got to feel, not think. You’ve got to actually sit with the discomfort that the idea brings up that you can’t have it all. And, let yourself sit with that, and feel that, and get more data from that because what you’re doing is, you’re actually having a conversation with your mind. Your mind’s like, “You can’t have it all.” You’re like, “Why not?” And, your mind’s like, “Arrrh!” – “No, tell me, tell me! Go-ahead! Give me the answer. What is it? What is it?”

And, there’s a discomfort in that because you don’t have a real answer. And, any answer your brain comes up is not going to make any sense. You’re like, “Well, that’s not true. That’s not true! That’s not true!!” But the thing is, there is no real answer because it’s not true. So, there is no real answer. But as long as you just accept the answer, you never have to figure out that it isn’t true. When you go through the discomfort of facing it, then you find out it’s not true. Because there’s no real answers no real justification.

And then, on the flip-side you challenge yourself to actually go bigger, to go for what you really want. What you really want – what you really want – even if it’s scary, even if it feels weird at first. If you stick with it for a few minutes, it will get more comfortable. You’ve got to go through/over that hump of discomfort as you’re making a change. There’s always a little bit of discomfort, a little bit of reluctance as you’re making a change. And, that’s the hump, not pain, not torture. Just a bit of discomfort as you go over that hump. And, it comes up as reluctance. It comes up as you distracting yourself with something else, going off on some tangent, talking about it instead of doing it. And so, you want to challenge yourself to actually think and dream big, but also challenge the ideas that come up that you can’t do that.

Your resistance is not that big; this will be enough for you.

Caller – Thank you, and that’s very helpful. I think, I have been trying to rationalize instead of questioning, you know, what all my brain throws at me. So, thanks a lot. This provides me lots of clarity. Thank you.

Melody – Good! You’re welcome. Thank you so much Vidhya.

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